If we are being honest, we would admit that from time to time we all get hung up on the past. And that’s fine, after all, we are humans with emotions. Whether we are clinging on to something that once was, or allowing failures and negative events in the past to hold us back, letting go and moving forward is an important skill to have.
If we don’t let go and continue to cling to the past, it affects our future. We create an unhealthy relationship with past anchors that hold us down, and cause us to become stuck. These anchors stop us from moving forward and reaching our full potential, happiness and the success we all deserve.
Whether you have experienced a break up, a tragic death, a streak of bad luck, disappointment or many other negative situations, here are my top tips to help you let go and move on.
- It’s your choice
Realise that the reason these events are holding you back, is because you are letting them! You need to make a conscious choice to let go and move on, and commit to it. These feelings and emotions won’t go away on their own. Acknowledging you can choose to let them affect you or not, is always the first step.
This one may seem a bit odd – but actually reliving the event and giving yourself time to dwell on the past can help you along the process. Set aside half hour a day/week to dwell, then challenge yourself not to think about this event before/after the set time. This can act as a great limit and your whole day or life will not be effected.
- Question yourself
If you are spending an unhealthy amount of time thinking about the past, take some time out to ask yourself open ended questions:
- Does this memory matter to me?
- Does it serve me to restrict certain opportunities because they remind me of this memory?
- What’s the worst that can happen if I’m faced with a brutal reminder of this memory?
- What can I do to live with this memory, accept it, and move forward?7
Finding answers to these questions can help you rationalise the event and what you feel.
- Live the now
Keep yourself busy – go out and throw yourself into life and the experiences it has to offer. Join a club, meet like-minded people – everyday offers new memories to replace negative past ones.
Your past events do not own you, they cannot control you and restrict you from living the life you want. They don’t have to hold you back. If you choose to let go, they can become just minor blips in a bigger picture.
If you need help reaching your full potential and letting go of the past, contact Dr. Bridget on 07973 635102 or click here to book in a FREE consultation.