How to deal with overwhelm
Overwhelm is defined as “a very large thing that happens to you” – either positive or negative. Mainly I see a lot of people in business,including myself, who feel as though they are struggling to do everything and therefore get stuck – often physically.
One of my clients saw me the other day – she was looking wobbly! She had done really well and then things started to happen around her that had caused the wobble.
- Relationships had become “tricky”
- Paper work has started to build up
- Work had changed and got more busy and she was having to do more, and was unhappy with this and unable to resolve it.
It really came down to “Not being in control”.
She hadn’t talked to people that she needed to, hadn’t been firm with work and had just got stuck which meant that the paper work had started to build up and was overflowing all around the house.
Watch the video below and then have a think about whether you are in control and whether this leads to overwhelm for you.
When we talked through what she need to do to regain control and stop feeling the way that she did, her father popped into her mind. He had always been controlled by her mother and hadn’t really done what he wanted to do and she felt as though she was doing much the same and had lost control. Sometimes, you get so overwhelmed, it is difficult to see where the solution lies.
When you are overwhelmed , it often appears that you have far too much to do, but when you start to break it down, this is often not the case.
It’s about taking a step back and writing down the things that you need to be done, and then putting them in order of priority and making a list. And then just starting. The list, then, is the way that you can control your life and stop the overwhelm.
So my client decided to talk to the people who she felt were controlling her and also to spend 1/2 hour a day getting rid of the paper work and putting systems in place so that she didnt’ get overwhelmed again. A list emerged! It fel as though a weight had been lifted and she bounced out of my office and started to make some calls on the way home.
If you are feeling overwhelmed, decide how to take control back and make a list. And, if you are still feeling as though you can’t take control for any reason, get in touch and book a free session with me to explore the reasons.
Life is too short to get “stressed”
Until next week,
Dr Bridget – helping you to live your life the way that you want to.