Other People’s Stuff
I was in a networking group the other day and a former client, who is in a really good head space, was talking about how she needed to expand her business. People gave their views and advice and – possibly a mind read – this left the person feeling a bit bemused and I don’t think it really fitted with what she felt she needed. It didn’t fit with her Model of the World.
This person was an example of being in a place where they were happy and content and had plans which they know they were are going to achieve, and were then being gifted other people’s beliefs and priorities – their stuff. I didn’t talk to her about it but did say generally that sometimes we need to make our own decisions about what works best for us. Watch the video below and reflect on what I am saying:
People want to help and that’s brilliant. They have their own rules, judgements and values and think of it as a gift and, here’s the thing – you can either accept the gift but you don’t have to accept it.
Everyone has a different model of the world – here’s an interesting video of how that happens – and sometimes we just need to stick to what is working for us. Our emotional energy can be lowered by what other people say and if that happens a lot, then it would be good to put some boundaries in. I call these people mood hoovers – you know who they are.
REMEMBER – if your Model of the World, your behaviours and the results that you get, work for you, then carry on and enjoy the results!
If you are having wobbles as a result of other people’s perspectives and you want to instead be in charge of your own life and your results let me know. Often people feel that they can’t get there on their own – I’m known as the Chief Unsticker, and I can help.
Book an appointment with me for a free chat or fill in the form on my web site and lets have a chat about it – I probably have the answer for you.
People become in charge of their life by working with me in a variety of ways so have a look at my web site and discover the possibilities. I’ve listed them below:
- Breakthrough 1:1 Coaching
- NLP training courses
- My Mastermind group called STRETCH
- My One Step Closer face Book Group
Until next week,
Dr Bridget – supporting you to be in charge of your life