Being a Fly On The Wall
I expect, as someone who likes mindset and growth, you’ve heard of this technique, so I thought I’d give you some more reasons to give it a go. It sounds a bit weird – the being a fly thing – but it’s really useful. A lot of people use it as a protection from being really stuck in negative feelings that may be uncomfortable and that’s not always helpful in the long term. However, that implies that you can be more objective when doing it and that’s really what I am proposing you use it for.
Have a watch of the video where I talk about what it is and how to use it.
The reason for this blog came from a client who has been doing really well in their business. However, he had allowed a negative perception of someone else’s behaviour to anger him. And it was having a negative effect on his business, his relationships and his life. He was sabotaging his success and blaming it on someone else.
We talked it through and I asked him to observe himself, sitting with me, being really angry. It changed his perception within 5 minutes and he realised what he was doing. And decided to keep his boundaries and take different action. Sometimes it doesn’t take very long to realise, once you have some help to realise what you are doing.
It’s a technique called Perceptual Positions in NLP and I teach it on my courses.
Here’s what to do.
Pretend that you are a fly on the wall looking at yourself doing what you are doing. Ask yourself “What is there to learn from what I can see of my interactions and behaviours? Could I do things in a different way to get different results?”
Until next week
Dr Bridget – giving you the ability to fly!