Vulnerability – Be Brave
I’ve been reading some books by Brenee Brown recently – her writing is very powerful with her main book being called Daring Greatly. The main message is that it’s OK to be vulnerable and in fact that is a strength. If you show up to other people, warts and all, then you will be being yourself. And it needs us to be brave!
Often we haven’t been used to doing this and spend quite a bit of time hiding the thoughts and feelings we think other people will judge us for. We then start to doubt ourself and think that these things are wrong whereas it is just part of us being who we are. I’ve asked myself how much I show up my self to other people on a scale of 0-10 and my mind came up with an 8 1/2.
Have a watch of the video below and then ask yourself what number you would give yourself 0-10?
I recently went to a conference in London and was talking to a person during an exercise about a recent wobble that I had had. It was a cumulation of many things including being with people who have a different model of the world to me, having to deal with some trauma and then some client challenges, challenges with an organisation that I volunteer with, and then running late for an important meeting with my master trainer mentor.
I ended up getting quite upset on the call.
She was very helpful and I am working out what I need to change in my life as a result. However, I could have hidden all of that – well possibly – and not showed up my vulnerability with what I was feeling at the time. Brenee Brown would have called that brave and courageous and I need to do more of that – how about you?
So, ask yourself where you are on a scale of 0-10 where 10 is fully showing up and 0 is not showing up at all and then have a think about what you need to do to be a 10 (including is it ok to be a 10?)
- Maybe you need to change your friends or people you interact with?
- Maybe you need to change your level of self belief?
- Maybe you need to put yourself 1st so that you can interact with other people in a way thats ok with you? Note:- if you like to help people, you can help more by making sure you are ok!
Whatever it is that you need to work on, give me a call on 07973 635102 or book an appointment on my contact page.
Life is short and I want to help you live it to the full!
Until next week
Dr Bridget – helping you to be you
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