Being Curious About the Words People Use
I’m fascinated by language. Language- verbal and non-verbal creates out reality and we use language to label things. We also use language and access our neurology in a visual, auditory or feeling way.
I was running my STRETCH Mastermind group, which is a group where we discuss interesting topics, and someone came along to talk about clean language. Let me know if you’d like to find out more.
In this week’s Prescription for Success I discuss clean language and words and metaphors people use. Watch the video and let me know what you think it really is fascinating.
What is Clean Language?
Clean language is about the metaphors that you use to describe your model of the world. If you know about those things then you know what your processes are for doing things – it was absolutely fascinating.
In terms of what I teach in relation to language, the words which we have at a deep level are not the ones that we speak at a superficial level. The reason for this is that the deep level words get generalised, distorted and deleted so we actually say something different. This has as affect on other people and a creates a result for us and sometimes it’s one that we want and sometimes it’s a result that we don’t want.
So I’d like to think about the metaphors that we and others use. I’ve thought of 3 metaphors I’ve heard recently.
- I heard someone say “I’m dragging my feet over that.” – A very kinaesthetic, feeling, sort of metaphor.
- Someone I met recently said, “My life is quite small.” He followed it up by showing, using his hands, the size of his life. So I asked him what’s outside of that and he said, “Nothing it’s empty.” That’s an interesting metaphor. It was a bit of a light bulb moment for him.
- The weather forecaster on TV recently said, “Let’s go for a round up of the day.” I thought what does that mean? Does everyone do a round up of the day? What is it? Is it pulling things together into a circle so it is balanced? What if you had a square up of the day? It’s all a metaphor and the question is “what does it all mean”?
One of the questions we ask in clean language is – What sort of x is that x?
So when we think about ‘Dragging feet,” The question would be – “What sort of dragging is that dragging?”
Thus, we would develop that metaphor so that we could work out what was really meant.
Further questions we might ask to gain clarity are:
- What happened before x ?
- What happened afterx?
So when you hear people talking, listen carefully, watch their gestures and physiology and just ask some questions and see what happens.
So that’s me just being interested and curious about the words that people use. If you want to learn more about the words people use and how they influence people, then an NLP course will help with that. Check out my NLP Practitioner Course here.
If you would like a chat about language and how I can help you then get in touch with me here I do a free 30 min chat to find out how I can help you.
See you next week
Dr Bridget, being curious about how your language gets you results.