How useful is flexibility?
In NLP we teach the key presupposition that the person with the most flexibility is in charge of the system. So, how useful is it to us to be flexible?
In this week’s Prescription for Success I talk about how being flexible can help you get the outcomes you desire. Listen to the video and have a think about how flexible you are and is it working for you.
I’ve recently been really interested in myself because there is something that I would really like to happen which involves another person and they’ve got a different model of the world.
I really wanted it and I was doing everything I could to get what I wanted but it wasn’t working.
I thought, I’m an NLP Master Trainer and I teach that the person with the most flexibility is in charge of the system and I was aware that I wasn’t being particularly flexible. So, I took a step back and thought about the results that I really wanted, I then thought about how I could change my communication, my beliefs and maybe my environment so that I could actually influence that result and get the outcome I wanted.
If you are struggling with getting an outcome, ask yourself:
- What is the outcome I want?
- Is my behaviour and what I am doing getting me the outcome?
- Are my beliefs helping me get the outcome?
If you are not getting the outcome, then think about what you can do differently in order to get that outcome.
I would also say take that positive intention that this is going to happen.
If you are interested in finding out more about this my NLP courses cover all of these things , the flexibility, being in charge of the system is a key presupposition in NLP and it makes life very interesting.
Get in touch if you’d like to have a chat about courses or you need some help with being flexible.
Until Next Week
Dr Bridget – being flexible