The Meaning of your Communication.
Here is an interesting statement “The meaning of your communication is the result that you get.”
Most people think that you communicate something and people should then react in a certain way.
In this week’s Prescription for Success we consider how we communicate and how we can get the results that we desire. Watch the video and have a think about how this can work for you.
How would it be if you could be sure that your communication produced the response that you want?
How would it be if you understood when it doesn’t produce the response that you want and adapt it?
That statement, “The meaning of your communication is a result that you get,” is one of the presuppositions of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP). If we look at this in more detail, your language is formed from your beliefs, your values, your meta-programmes, and all the filters that you use to filter the information that comes into your senses. This means that what comes out of your mouth has been filtered from the vast amounts of information and you then say it.
The person listening to you has their own beliefs, values, and meta-programmes, and because of that what you say is interpreted by them with their filters so they create their reality from what you say.
If you don’t get the response that you want then maybe you need to have a think about your filters and what you’ve said, and also about their filters and what they’ve said. Then you can adapt it and retry. “The meaning of your communication being the response that you get,” is actually what you want to have to happen. Indeed this links with another presupposition “The person with the most flexibility is in charge of the system.”
So, if you can communicate and be flexible about your communication so that you get the response that you want, then hey, happy days for everyone isn’t it?
If you’re interested in learning more about communication or you think that your communication could do with improving, have a think about coming on an NLP practitioner course. Communication is a key part of the practitioner course and we learn how to change our communication in order to get the response that we want and to understand everyone’s model of the world (including our own).
So I’ll put a link to the course here- the next one’s coming up soon and we’ve got a few spaces left. I’d love to see you there and in the meantime enjoy communicating and getting the response that you want.
Until Next Week
Dr Bridget – being flexible in communicating