Role Model

Role Models – A Different Perspective

Role Models – A Different Perspective

Role Model

Role Model

I was recently running an NLP Master Practitioner course and we were talking about modelling – this is where NLP has come from – Modelling excellence. Its a key part of the course. Click here for more information about NLP courses

We do a project on my Master Practitioner course  where we model a skill that someone has, by eliciting that person’s values, beliefs and strategies and then installing these in ourself – a much quicker way of effecting change than being taught.

Unusually, people on the course were struggling with who to have as a Role Model and I had to agree – I don’t  really have one myself (apart from Princess Di). I spent some time wondering who I respected enough to want to change to become like them.

And then I had a light bulb moment – I thought that perhaps I could become my own Role Model and become one for other people. It led to a consideration of what qualities I would like to have that other people and myself might respect- have a watch of the video and then answer the questions below it for yourself.

The qualities that I’d like to improve or develop in myself are:

  • Having an interest in people and things- doing pretty well with this
  • Making a difference to people- definitely something that’s key for me and I am doing that
  • Being myself, which includes making sure I “tick” my values, keep my boundaries, as and the same time, be flexible to enable other people’s models of the world- I’m mainly doing this
  • Taking action and being determined- doing this most of the time
  • Self care – important in my journey through this life and something that I’ve been working on this year

Next year, I want to improve my capability to ask for help – I think this is part of self-care and not something that comes easily to me. It would make a huge difference to my life and a behaviour that I encourage in my clients – so I’m committing to do that. It will make me a better Role Model

Questions for you:

  • What qualities would you look for in yourself, to be your own and others’ Role Model?
  • What would you change to get these (if anything) ?
  • Is it OK to be a Role Model for yourself and others?

Once you have decided whether you need to change anything, post in the comments, and as always, let me know here if you need to talk through anything.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – being the best Role Model I can be.



The Benefits of Consistency

Consistency Gives You that Slight Edge




I’m sure you have already experienced the benefits of being consistent? And very likely been inconsistent and become frustrated with yourself?
Ive been becoming more consistent this year and this means that I notice when I’m not – things like forgetting to drink water or exercise every day.
And a couple of things have reminded me of the benefits recently:
  1. I started to read “The Slight Edge” by Jeff Olson again. It’s a brilliant book which is about finding the actions that are small but, if applied consistently, will creat you the results that you want. It has an amazing story about 2 frogs – have a watch of the video to find out more
  2. I went to a Client attraction summit and realised that I just needed to do certain things consistently to grow my client base and reach my goals going forward.
And I’ve made some decisions about my health and fitness and also about my business. Both of which will enable me to help more people and have more fun.
Have a watch of the video below:

I therefore wanted to encourage you to become more consistent. Work out what small actions will give you what you want in your life and then do them. You are probably nearly there when you give up, so just keep going and you will get there – much like the frog!
If there’s anything stopping you or getting in your way, let me know and we can have a talk about it and find out what help is needed to achieve your goals and dreams.
Keep on keeping on and see you next week
Dr Bridget -consistently being on your side!
Action Taker

How do you Know if You are an Action Taker?

How do you know if you are an action taker?

Action Taker

Action Taker

Whether you are an action taker or a reflector tends to be determined at an unconscious level and is not something that you think about regularly. However, knowing about it is really important to make the most of the relationships around you and to be able to live in harmony, or at least understanding, with your partners or spouses or people in business or your staff. Imagine if you could predict people’s reactions to what is happening around them or your behaviour and both understand it and work with it. This preference is one of the meta programmes which enables us to filter the vast amount of information coming into our senses so that we manage whats happening and create the reality that we have which may be very different to other peoples’.

Watch the video of me talking about my preference and how that affects my relationships and my income. Also find out what question to ask yourself to find out which you are and what other people are as well.

The question to ask yourself and other people is “When you come into a situation, do you take action after considering  or do you step back and fully consider all the options before taking action, if you ever do?”

You will either be an action taker, like me, or a reflector or somewhere in between.

Once you realise where you are on the scale between reflector and action taker, you will start to understand your actions and also understand the actions of people who are different to you.

If you’d like to know more about differences between people and how you can work with people who are different to  you, contact me to have a conversation. I also run NLP courses which will help you understand how people function and what you can do to make the most of your life and be  happy and fulfilled. Click here to find out more about the courses

Until next week, happy reflecting or action taking, or a bit of each

Dr Bridget