4 Steps to Increase Your Consciousness

Increase your consciousness

How to Increase Your Consciousness

This is something that I’ve becoming increasingly aware of especially during the pandemic where I’ve had time to become more aware of my thought processes and what’s going on around me.

It really does feel good to have an increased consciousness – in this week’s Prescription for Success I give you 4 steps to increase your consciousness –  watch the video and try the steps for yourself.

 

A definition of consciousness is an individual’s state of awareness of their environment, their thoughts, their feelings or their sensations.  This is a bit of a broad statement but there are people who are not aware of this. They just do what they do on a day to day basis and they don’t think about what’s going on in their head or their body. However, if you have a high state of consciousness then you can start to change your reality and the world.

4 steps to increase your consciousness

  1. Awaken – which is about pausing, being quiet and noticing what’s going on in your surroundings and in your body.
  2. Mindfully – to live mindfully which is about paying attention to things that happen. It’s about having a purpose for noticing things, being present having no judgements and taking no action.
  3. Intention – so set an intention of who you want to be rather than what you are going to do.
  4. Acting Consciously – when you act consciously you have that intention to make a positive impact and do your best for the world rather than just yourself.

So if you want to increase your consciousness try these four steps.

If you find anything that is getting in the way and is stopping you taking these steps or you have  beliefs or values that make this quite difficult then get in touch with me  and we can sort this out so that you can make more difference to the world and yourself.

So that’s me – living consciously

Dr Bridget

P.S. I’m running an NLP course in November from the 5-8th plus 26-29th – a great way to get to know yourself and increase your confidence in working with others. Here’s a link to the course information where you can also download a brochure for dates and prices.

 

 

 

 

 

Eye Patterns

eye patterns

What are Eye Accessing Cues or Eye Patterns?

The technique of Eye Accessing Cues, often called Eye Patterns, is about how people access information within their neurology and representational systems.

This may be in terms of:

  • visual,
  •  auditory,
  • kinaesthetic – feelings
  • or auditory digital which is about sorting, filing and processes

In this week’s video I talk about the basics of eye patterns which is really useful because if we can informally elicit what people are doing in their thinking. This gives us so much more information about them. This can be really helpful in areas such as sales, understanding people and also helpful when working with clients. Watch the video and try it out for yourself

What are eye accessing patterns?

Eye accessing patterns are how you move your eyes as you access the systems that you think with.

We talk about six eye accessing cues and in this blog, I’m going to talk about someone who is “normally organised”. Indeed most people in the UK are what is know as “normally organised” in terms of their eye accessing cues.  If you fall into the group known as “reverse organised” then it is just the reverse of what I’m going to share with you.

As you look at the person- important

  1. If people are visually recalling (VR) something that has happened in the past they will move their eyes upwards to the right.
  2. If people are auditory recalling (AR) something that has happened in the past they will move their eyes sideways and to the right.
  3.  If people are thinking about a question they have just been asked or they are doing a comparison or list or thinking about some other criteria, then they will look down to the right which is known as Auditory Digital (Ad).
  4. If people are visually creating an image in their mind (VC) then they will will look up and to the left.
  5. If people are creating how something may sound (AC) then they will look to the left.
  6. If people are feeling something, either emotionally or  externally, then this is known as Kinaesthetic (K) and they will look down to the left.

A good way to practice using eye accessing cues is to just watch people on the tv and see if you can work out their eye patterns.  Then look at the people around you and who you are talking to and see if you can tell how they are thinking – whether they are

  • visually recalling,
  • auditory recalling,
  • processing information,
  • visually creating an image
  • auditory creating how something will sound
  • or feeling something

This is just the basics of eye accessing cues, if you are interested in this and want to have more information then why not come on one of my courses where you can develop this skill further and use it whether it is in sales, relationships or understanding people.

I’m running an NLP course in November from the 5-8th plus 26-29th – a great way to learn and develop NLP techniques and increase your confidence in working with others. Here’s a link to the course information where you can also download a brochure for future dates and prices.

I also do a free 30 minute session. If you would like to have a chat with me about getting “unstuck” and developing your mindset for success using NLP techniques get in touch here.

So that’s me – keeping my eye on you!

Dr Bridget 

 

 

 

 

 

What Makes You Fascinating?

fascinating

What makes you fascinating?

In a recent networking event, I was chatting with someone new and at the end of the 10 minute conversation he said to me, “That was the most fascinating conversation I’ve had for some time.”

I thought WOW! That’s amazing. I find my world fascinating and other people fascinating. I was happy with this statement as I thought I was showing my passion for what I do.

In this week’s prescription for success I discuss what makes us fascinating and how this can benefit us. Watch the video and ask yourself the questions below.

Why is it useful for people to find you fascinating?

It may result in people wanting to engage more, work with you more and connect with you more. On the other hand, maybe they won’t want to be with you and really that’s fine because you are being yourself and you are fascinated with yourself.  You’ll find that people will either say “Who do you think you are?” or they will want to know more.

Some people may feel that ‘being fascinating,’ might set up a lot of negative chatter in their head such as

  • I don’t think I’m good enough to be fascinating.
  • Who am I to think I’m fascinating?
  • No one else thinks I’m fascinating.

During the conversation in the networking event, we discussed why I left being a GP and how I felt that I was just scratching the surface in terms of mental health and helping people. I also found that I had lots of idea that others didn’t agree with. So I left and now I’m doing my NLP work and I’m in charge of my life.

We also talked about people on the autistic spectrum and having the skills to help with communication and also remove trauma.

We then moved on to eye patterns and how you access information in your brain, which I’m going to talk about in next week’s blog.

I was just being myself and being passionate about what I do and he said that he’d never discussed these things before and was fascinated.

Here is the question:

Is it ok for you to think you are fascinating? 

Because you are, everyone is!

You can use this to show others your passion and then if they want to connect with you they will and it may lead to more clients.

If you have any problems about thinking that you are ‘fascinating’ maybe you don’t believe in yourself or feel it’s not ok to show that part of yourself the just get in touch with me  because it may be holding you back in life and business.

I do a free 30 minute session and also teach people on courses helping them to be the person they want to be.

So that’s me

Dr Bridget – I’m fascinated with you and I’d love to have a chat with you!

P.S. I’m running an NLP course in November from the 5-8th plus 26-29th – a great way to get to know yourself and increase your confidence in working with others. Here’s a link to the course information where you can also download a brochure for dates and prices.

 

 

 

 

 

Reasons for Being Authentic in Business and life

being authentic

Reasons for being authentic in business and life

Showing up as you, showing your journey, who you are and where you want to go is really important in life and in business.

In this week’s prescription for success I look at the reasons for and the importance of being authentic whether that’s in life, business or relationships.

When we are authentic and people around us learn about our life, business and even relationships this  will either resonate with them or put them off.   Here’s the thing – if people are put off – you wouldn’t want to be anything other than yourself would you?

So if those around you want to interact with you in whatever way, and you are authentic and vulnerable then actually that is quite attractive to a lot of people. And if it’s not then they are just not the right people for you.

Furthermore, if you are authentic and being yourself then you will stand out and people will be attracted to you which has got to be good for business- do you think?

Both in life and business being authentic also allows you to share your experience. You’ll be able to tell people you’ve been there and you’ve overcome things can be really helpful for others.  It’s not useful to fake it because firstly it will be evident, and secondly you’re not helping anyone by putting on a front.

So if you have limiting beliefs such as:

  • “I can’t be myself,”
  • “I’m not good enough,”
  • “I’m a bit of an imposter?”

OR

If you can’t show up as yourself, you can’t be successful and there are things holding you back or you worry about what other people think then get in touch with me as we can sort this out very quickly.

So enjoy being you and I’ll see you next week

Dr Bridget – Just being myself!

Why cutting out the garbage is useful

Cut out the garbage

Why cutting out the garbage is useful

This week is a bit of a personal one, I’m not very good at tidying and currently I’m about to get help from Katie Killoran to deal with this.

If everything is piled up together then you can’t distinguish between what is needed and what isn’t.  You find that you don’t have any focus, you can’t make a plan and it’s much more difficult to make decisions. Moreover, if your garbage is mixed up with all the important things you need, then life is definitely more challenging.

In this week’s prescription for success I look at how cutting out the garbage in our lives can be useful. Watch the video and follow the tips below.

The definition of garbage is basically rubbish or waste. So then, garbage could be paperwork, things around the home, people or even advice. Indeed there are all sorts of things that can we label as either waste or resources.

The things that need tidying we generally place into piles whether that is a physical pile or a mental pile. We often need help to sort these out and identify what parts are waste and what are needed and then throw the garbage away and keep what is useful.

It’s really good to have a system that:

  1. Identifies what is garbage and then avoids it.  For example you may have people around you that drain your energy or you may have lots of advice from other people that isn’t particularly helpful.
  2.  Identifies what is useful which you need to keep. You will have a gut feeling for what is useful or not. For example only keep the paper you need and find a place to keep it, also for the people around you that are not helpful remove them and get people who have your values and support you.

Cutting out the garbage is a bit of a metaphor for life. If you can’t get rid of your rubbish or are having difficulty sorting out the rubbish and what is useful resources then get in touch. I do a free half hour session so that you can get to know me and we can discuss your needs.

I also run NLP courses (click on the link) that can give you the skills to sort the garbage and cut out what’s not needed.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – Helping you tidy up your life!

Why hope matters

Hope matters

Why does hope matter?

When I first came across this concept about ‘Why hope matters’ in an article I was reading, I was a little unsure about it.  The reason for my uncertainty was that I think that using words like ‘try’, ‘maybe’, ‘wish’ or ‘hope’,  isn’t very positive or effective. This is because our unconscious mind thinks ‘it might not happen’ or ‘it doesn’t really matter’.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I share with you some really interesting insights into ‘why hope matters’  when it comes to creating your future reality.  Watch the video and consider below your attitude and stance when it comes to ‘hope’.

Someone who is hopeful is someone who is radically realistic.

I can never decide whether I’m a ‘glass half empty’ or a ‘glass half full’ type of person. I think of myself as being really positive but I do also consider what the obstacles might be and then mitigate against them.  In the article it  actually stated that someone who is hopeful looks at obstacles and makes plans to get around them. Whew – that’s a relief!

It’s also reassuring that leaders inspire hope in both themselves and others and it gives them their purpose.

Ask yourself:

Are you a ‘High Hoper’?

‘High hopers’ take action, they withstand discomfort or pain, they are equipped for diversity. Hope gives us drive and is goal directed.

There are three things that ‘High Hopers’ have:

  1. Destination – they have highly developed goals.
  2. Route – they know how they are going to get to their goals.
  3. Means of Transport – they know how they are going to do it,  how they are going achieve their goals.

Whereas “Low Hopers’ tend to generalise about their destination so they may know where they are going but are unclear about it . They may have an idea about how they are going to get there but are vague about their actions.

So I want to ask you which would you rather be – a ‘High Hoper’ – ‘Low Hoper’ or maybe somewhere in the middle.

Think about whether you are:

  • clear about your destination;
  • clear about your route;
  • and clear about the means of transport.

If you are not clear about any of these and your really want to be a ‘High Hoper’ and a high achiever then get in touch or give me a call on  07973 635102 as there are lots of things that can get in your way and I’m really skilled in getting rid of those for you.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – Hoping you get in touch!

What are your expectations?

Expectations

The Power of Expectation

I’m not sure if you are aware of  your expectations or not? We have them all the time and they have a huge effect on our results in life, business, relationships and our work. Let me tell you why!

An expectation is a strong belief that something will happen and it can be a negative expectation or  a positive one.

Here’s a negative one – we go to a networking or social event  and think that it’s all going to go wrong and that no-one will be interested in us. I also occasionally do some negative expectations that my dog will run away when I take him for a walk – and guess what happens…….

Positive expectations are things such as – People will be pleased to see me or my dog will be really well behaved.

Some people have no expectations and therefore things happen to them rather than them being in charge of their results.

Watch the video and then keep reading to find out more and consider whether it would be useful to change your expectations to get the results that you want.

 

There are a few things to be aware of :

  • What ever you do, you will probably be aware that what you are focused on is where your energy will go. So if you focus on negatives your energy will be negative.
  • The other thing to consider is the NLP theme which is called Perception is Projection. This means that what you unconsciously project to people is what you get back. So if you have internal doubt, people will give you back doubt. If you project positivity, then you will get that back.
  • Also the brain oversimplifies our experience –  it symbolises things. So if you see someone turn away from you, then the  brain will take that as a symbol that is “bad”  and create doubt in your  mind. If you decide that the person who turned away has a positive reason for doing that, then the brain will symbolise that as positive.

Would it be a good thing for you to expect positives?

So here’s a process for creating positive expectations?

  1. Notice what you are expecting
  2. Decide if it is useful or not
  3. If  it is a negative expectation, ask where it has come from – family, friends, experiences, society or the media?
  4. Reframe the expectation – People turning away from you – this could mean they are getting a coffee and coming to see you. Dogs running away – make yourself really exciting so that they run towards you.
  5. Consider if you always have negative expectations and decide on whether you should simply avoid that experience – put some boundaries around it.

Here’s the thing – it you have positive expectations then you will create positive realities which will get you positive results.

If you are having challenges with positivity then let me know by contacting  me. People who work with me expect the best and usually get it.

I’m creating the positive expectation that you are going to comment on this post to help others so I’m looking forward to that.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – Symbolising positivity for you!

 

 

 

Are You Thinking Like a Sat Nav?

sat navAre You Thinking Like a Sat Nav?

I expect you’ve noticed that when you follow the directions on a Sat Nav you don’t always arrive where you wanted to arrive. You may end up turning down narrow lanes or even going around in circles however sometimes you may go straight to your desired destination. Having nearly driven into in a river 2 days ago in Somerset, I can really resonate with this!

In this week’s Prescription for Success we’re going to explore the metaphor – Are You Thinking Like a Sat Nav?

Narrow Lanes – Dead Ends – Going around in circles – We’ve all been there!

The Sat Nav can take us down those narrow lanes, down dead ends or even around in circles but why does this happen?

It may be that you haven’t been specific enough with the detail you’ve put into the Sat Nav. You may not have chosen the most appropriate options, for example, the fastest route or the most direct route or even the route that avoids traffic.

Another scenario could be that you become distracted, decide to take a detour and perhaps stop for lunch without saving your destination information into the Sat Nav.

Alternatively you may not really know where you are going.

I know some people like to think about the detail first whereas others may want to know their destination and the big picture first.  If you’ve got no idea where you are going then maybe that’s the reason, but does that work for you? Do you really need to know your destination, the postcode etc. How much detail do you need? How are you going to deal with distractions that keep you from your destination?

It’s just a short metaphor to have a think about and have some fun.

If you are having difficulty knowing what you want in life, where your destination is and you’re feeling a bit stuck or distracted then give me a call and we can get this sorted for you in no time.  You can book an appointment here   or my phone number is 07973 635102.

See you next week

Dr Bridget – setting you back on the right path for you!

I’m now booking for my NLP practitioner starting in November – If you’d like to learn more about this fascinating subject and get skills for life, here’s a link.

Why We Lose Our Motivation?

You've Got This What can you do to increase your motivation?

Do you need to change your emotional state? Maybe, for some reason, you have lost your motivation and are simply not sure of the reason?

Maybe you need to change your environment and the people you are with, or  work out what’s important to you-  your values.

You can look at it two ways.

  1. You can look at the situation from a conscious level and ask yourself “Why am I not motivated?
  2. Alternatively, you could work on the unconscious mind – your values, your beliefs and whether those are aligned with what you want to do and with  your goals.

In this week’s video we consider these questions from an NLP perspective both at a conscious and unconscious level. Watch the video and think about what you can do to feel motivated.

In NLP, one of the filters that our mind uses at an really unconscious level are our meta-programmes. One of these is a meta-programme is called a “sameness/difference” one. It is about whether you like to do things the same way all of the time, or whether you like to do things differently all the time. This is a spectrum so – my preference is to do things mainly the same – so NLP Coaching and Training, and within that to have differences. I think during the Lockdown we all had that feeling of everything being the same over all the time. This resulted in me feeling quite unmotivated but, when I started thinking about my new goals, I felt really motivated. I wanted to take action and thought “I’m going to get this done” and it felt really empowering.

That’s a little personal experience of mine about what makes me feel unmotivated and what gets me motivated.

However I want to ask you the question – Are you motivated at the moment? 

If not, what would motivate you?

At a conscious level, it’s about personal awareness.  Take note of what you are doing and whether it motivates you or not. If it does motivate you,  do more of it.. If it reduces your motivation, either stop or do less of it.

Often, if you are struggling with motivation it’s usually something that is going on at a unconscious level.  This then results in you not getting your goals,  and maybe you are not enjoying your life to the full.

If this is you and you’d like some help with this then I discuss what is happening with you in a free 1/2 hour session. You can book an appointment here   or my phone number is 07973 635102. Give me a call and we can see what’s going on for you and start that process of getting you motivated again.

See you next week

Dr Bridget – re-energising you so that you make the most of life

I’m now booking for my NLP practitioner starting in November – If you’d like to learn more about this fascinating subject and get skills for life, here’s a link.

Do you say to yourself – I’m too busy?

too busy

Do you say to yourself – I’m too busy?

“I’m too busy!” Do you say that to yourself?

How do you manage your time? Are you managing it in line with your purpose?

In this week’s video we consider these questions. Watch the video and think about what beliefs you have about time and whether these beliefs aligned to your purpose.

I was recently in a business meeting and someone was giving a talk on how we manage time, who we are and how that relates to it.

He had had a stroke when he was younger and he remembered lying in his hospital bed looking at a painting of three sheep on top of a mountain.  He thought to himself, “Before I had this stroke I would have said I’ve got no time to paint that picture but now I’ve had the stroke I’ve plenty for time and yet I can’t do it.”

He is fully recovered now, but he was saying that time and life are a little like art. Sometimes your perceptions about time are hardwired into your thoughts. For example, when we were young, how did our parents and teachers manage time?  These perceptions are hardwired into our thoughts and we have these beliefs such as “I’m too busy,” or maybe “I’ve got to use my time effectively,”

I’ve done lots of things in the last 48 hours.  I’ve finished a Master Practitioner Course, I’ve written five blogs, I’ve had several meetings. I could probably say “I’m too busy.” or someone may say it to me. However I think I’m managing my time according to my purpose.  If you are managing your time according to your purpose and you are enjoying what you do then you can feel quite time rich and that you have lots of time.

It’s just a little prescription for you to think about how you manage time and whether you managing it in line with your purpose or not.

If you think you’ve got some issues with time and need some help to go forward and be the person you want to be then book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access a free half hour with me or you can book it on the above link.

See you next week

Dr Bridget – helping you realise that time is simply your perception

 

Is your gut feeling useful or not?

Gut Feeling

Is your gut feeling useful or not?

A lot of people talk about their gut feeling and how useful it is. We’ve all had experiences where we feel, “Yes, I’m going to that,” or “No, I’m not going to do that,” and it’s turned out to be right.

My perspective on this is that it’s not always aright.

Your gut feeling is about what lies outside your conscious awareness. Your brain is constantly sensing, hearing, observing along with running your body, storing your memories etc. It is constantly taking things in, at any given moment.

In this week’s video I discuss how you get that gut feeling, what influences it and whether it’s likely to be accurate or not.  Watch the video and think about what influences your gut feeling and whether it’s useful or not.

There are some key influences on our “gut feeling.”

  1. Firstly, our neurons that are involved with taking action light up whether you are taking the action or someone else. It’s called a mirror system and that forms part of the intuition. So if someone does something it’s almost like we are doing it and that helps with that gut feeling.
  2. Another influence is our past experience.  If you have relevant experience and you get that gut feeling and you make that decision quickly, in the spur of the moment, then that is likely to be quite accurate. However, if you haven’t got relevant experience, you’ll take longer to think about something and work out what you feel about it  and that’s less likely to be accurate.
  3. Thirdly, if you’ve had past experiences that haven’t been particularly pleasant and you are getting dragged back to those experiences regularly then when you come to make a quick decision you might rely on that past experience and that may not be helpful.

Have a little think about when you use your  feeling and work out what influences it and whether it’s useful or not to you in a particular situation.

If you’d like to find out a little more about how your unconscious mind influences you, and use it to go forward and be the person you want to be then book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access a free half hour with me or you can book it on the above link.

See you next week

Dr Bridget – helping you to refine your gut instinct

 

Who am I?

Who am I?

Who am I?

I wonder how many times you’ve asked yourself the question, “Who am I?”

When you think about it why do you need to know?

Is it because you’re feeling a bit confused?  Or have you lost your direction?

Or do people treat you in different ways at different times.

It is actually a basic need that we have to know who we are.

In this week’s video a dig a bit deeper into this question “Who am I?”  Watch the video and ask yourself the questions below:

Our roles are not our identity

When we think about our identity we often think of simply our roles. For example, I’m a mother, I’m a gran, I’m just a housewife or I’m a business owner.   However, if you think about it you are actually a lot more than your role and it’s really important to know who you are.

Here is an example of some questions you could ask yourself once you’ve stated your role

For example – I’m a business owner

  • Who am I that is more than that?
  • Who am I that’s not a business owner?

I think I’m a coach, I’m a mum, I’m a helper, I’m a fixer, I’m a supporter and actually if you take it to it’s limit then I’m someone who enjoys every minute of my life.

Our identity is a whole system of our ideas and our experiences.

I was recently reading a book called Atomic Habits by James Clear and one of the take aways I got from that book was – what we do actually creates who we are.

So, if we are doing habits that create who we are is that who we actually want to be?  Moreover, if we are not who we want to be because we’ve got these habits that are creating that person, then let’s create the person we want to be and match the habit to go with that.

If you’d like to find out a little more about who you are and use it to go forward and be the person you want to be then book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access a free half hour with me or you can book it on the above link.

See you next week

Dr Bridget – Enjoying helping people understand themselves

If you’d like to learn more techniques to empty your head or get clear about what’s in  you head, I have a couple of  spaces left on my next NLP Practitioner course which runs over two lots of 4 days. 30/7/21-2/8/21 plus 20-23/8/21 – click here for further information