Focus on What You Can Change

Do You Focus on what  you CAN change or what you CAN’T change?

Focus on what you can change

Hello

I’m interested in what you concentrate or focus on? Often my clients will have noticed that they are concentrating on  the things that they can’t change , and often can’t get them out of their head. And as you know, what you focus on is what you get, so I’m all about changing that pattern of thinking. If you’d like to do that as well, watch the video, have a think about whether this applies to someone you  know or even yourself and get in touch:

Often this pattern of negative thinking, or concentrating on what you can’t change, will last for days, weeks, months or often years and will eventually start  to affect the results in  your life and the people around you.

I’m OK with saying that it happens to me sometimes, and to clients that I’ve worked with, but it doesn’t last very long as our unconscious mind kicks in with the positive learnings. I’m generally a positive person who focuses on the future and positives and solutions.

I think this is why NLP – Neuro Linguistic Programming- appeals to  me.

It helps us to find habitual patterns that don’t serve us and  remove them, leaving us free to concentrate on things we CAN change rather than things we can’t. And it’s not about what’s happened- it’s about what patterns need changing, and then changing them really quickly.

The difference between the change that counselling, or other talking therapies, give people and what NLP gives you is simple:

  • It’s quick and effective
  • You will be working with the part of your mind that is responsible for change –  your unconscious mind
  • It’s comfortable as it doesn’t focus on the story,  just the patterns

The way I help people to do this is either to come on an NLP course, where you learn new skills as well as change your habitual way of thinking and feeling, or to work with me on a 1:1 basis

Either way, everyone that works with me changes the patterns that are not helping them to get the future they want and deserve.

If you’d like to change the patterns that you are running in your head or your behaviour, then get in touch and let’s start that change process.

See you next week,

Dr Bridget – Focusing on positives.

 

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4 Steps to Increase Your Consciousness

Increase your consciousness

How to Increase Your Consciousness

This is something that I’ve becoming increasingly aware of especially during the pandemic where I’ve had time to become more aware of my thought processes and what’s going on around me.

It really does feel good to have an increased consciousness – in this week’s Prescription for Success I give you 4 steps to increase your consciousness –  watch the video and try the steps for yourself.

 

A definition of consciousness is an individual’s state of awareness of their environment, their thoughts, their feelings or their sensations.  This is a bit of a broad statement but there are people who are not aware of this. They just do what they do on a day to day basis and they don’t think about what’s going on in their head or their body. However, if you have a high state of consciousness then you can start to change your reality and the world.

4 steps to increase your consciousness

  1. Awaken – which is about pausing, being quiet and noticing what’s going on in your surroundings and in your body.
  2. Mindfully – to live mindfully which is about paying attention to things that happen. It’s about having a purpose for noticing things, being present having no judgements and taking no action.
  3. Intention – so set an intention of who you want to be rather than what you are going to do.
  4. Acting Consciously – when you act consciously you have that intention to make a positive impact and do your best for the world rather than just yourself.

So if you want to increase your consciousness try these four steps.

If you find anything that is getting in the way and is stopping you taking these steps or you have  beliefs or values that make this quite difficult then get in touch with me  and we can sort this out so that you can make more difference to the world and yourself.

So that’s me – living consciously

Dr Bridget

P.S. I’m running an NLP course in November from the 5-8th plus 26-29th – a great way to get to know yourself and increase your confidence in working with others. Here’s a link to the course information where you can also download a brochure for dates and prices.

 

 

 

 

 

Eye Patterns

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What are Eye Accessing Cues or Eye Patterns?

The technique of Eye Accessing Cues, often called Eye Patterns, is about how people access information within their neurology and representational systems.

This may be in terms of:

  • visual,
  •  auditory,
  • kinaesthetic – feelings
  • or auditory digital which is about sorting, filing and processes

In this week’s video I talk about the basics of eye patterns which is really useful because if we can informally elicit what people are doing in their thinking. This gives us so much more information about them. This can be really helpful in areas such as sales, understanding people and also helpful when working with clients. Watch the video and try it out for yourself

What are eye accessing patterns?

Eye accessing patterns are how you move your eyes as you access the systems that you think with.

We talk about six eye accessing cues and in this blog, I’m going to talk about someone who is “normally organised”. Indeed most people in the UK are what is know as “normally organised” in terms of their eye accessing cues.  If you fall into the group known as “reverse organised” then it is just the reverse of what I’m going to share with you.

As you look at the person- important

  1. If people are visually recalling (VR) something that has happened in the past they will move their eyes upwards to the right.
  2. If people are auditory recalling (AR) something that has happened in the past they will move their eyes sideways and to the right.
  3.  If people are thinking about a question they have just been asked or they are doing a comparison or list or thinking about some other criteria, then they will look down to the right which is known as Auditory Digital (Ad).
  4. If people are visually creating an image in their mind (VC) then they will will look up and to the left.
  5. If people are creating how something may sound (AC) then they will look to the left.
  6. If people are feeling something, either emotionally or  externally, then this is known as Kinaesthetic (K) and they will look down to the left.

A good way to practice using eye accessing cues is to just watch people on the tv and see if you can work out their eye patterns.  Then look at the people around you and who you are talking to and see if you can tell how they are thinking – whether they are

  • visually recalling,
  • auditory recalling,
  • processing information,
  • visually creating an image
  • auditory creating how something will sound
  • or feeling something

This is just the basics of eye accessing cues, if you are interested in this and want to have more information then why not come on one of my courses where you can develop this skill further and use it whether it is in sales, relationships or understanding people.

I’m running an NLP course in November from the 5-8th plus 26-29th – a great way to learn and develop NLP techniques and increase your confidence in working with others. Here’s a link to the course information where you can also download a brochure for future dates and prices.

I also do a free 30 minute session. If you would like to have a chat with me about getting “unstuck” and developing your mindset for success using NLP techniques get in touch here.

So that’s me – keeping my eye on you!

Dr Bridget 

 

 

 

 

 

What Makes You Fascinating?

fascinating

What makes you fascinating?

In a recent networking event, I was chatting with someone new and at the end of the 10 minute conversation he said to me, “That was the most fascinating conversation I’ve had for some time.”

I thought WOW! That’s amazing. I find my world fascinating and other people fascinating. I was happy with this statement as I thought I was showing my passion for what I do.

In this week’s prescription for success I discuss what makes us fascinating and how this can benefit us. Watch the video and ask yourself the questions below.

Why is it useful for people to find you fascinating?

It may result in people wanting to engage more, work with you more and connect with you more. On the other hand, maybe they won’t want to be with you and really that’s fine because you are being yourself and you are fascinated with yourself.  You’ll find that people will either say “Who do you think you are?” or they will want to know more.

Some people may feel that ‘being fascinating,’ might set up a lot of negative chatter in their head such as

  • I don’t think I’m good enough to be fascinating.
  • Who am I to think I’m fascinating?
  • No one else thinks I’m fascinating.

During the conversation in the networking event, we discussed why I left being a GP and how I felt that I was just scratching the surface in terms of mental health and helping people. I also found that I had lots of idea that others didn’t agree with. So I left and now I’m doing my NLP work and I’m in charge of my life.

We also talked about people on the autistic spectrum and having the skills to help with communication and also remove trauma.

We then moved on to eye patterns and how you access information in your brain, which I’m going to talk about in next week’s blog.

I was just being myself and being passionate about what I do and he said that he’d never discussed these things before and was fascinated.

Here is the question:

Is it ok for you to think you are fascinating? 

Because you are, everyone is!

You can use this to show others your passion and then if they want to connect with you they will and it may lead to more clients.

If you have any problems about thinking that you are ‘fascinating’ maybe you don’t believe in yourself or feel it’s not ok to show that part of yourself the just get in touch with me  because it may be holding you back in life and business.

I do a free 30 minute session and also teach people on courses helping them to be the person they want to be.

So that’s me

Dr Bridget – I’m fascinated with you and I’d love to have a chat with you!

P.S. I’m running an NLP course in November from the 5-8th plus 26-29th – a great way to get to know yourself and increase your confidence in working with others. Here’s a link to the course information where you can also download a brochure for dates and prices.

 

 

 

 

 

Reasons for Being Authentic in Business and life

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Reasons for being authentic in business and life

Showing up as you, showing your journey, who you are and where you want to go is really important in life and in business.

In this week’s prescription for success I look at the reasons for and the importance of being authentic whether that’s in life, business or relationships.

When we are authentic and people around us learn about our life, business and even relationships this  will either resonate with them or put them off.   Here’s the thing – if people are put off – you wouldn’t want to be anything other than yourself would you?

So if those around you want to interact with you in whatever way, and you are authentic and vulnerable then actually that is quite attractive to a lot of people. And if it’s not then they are just not the right people for you.

Furthermore, if you are authentic and being yourself then you will stand out and people will be attracted to you which has got to be good for business- do you think?

Both in life and business being authentic also allows you to share your experience. You’ll be able to tell people you’ve been there and you’ve overcome things can be really helpful for others.  It’s not useful to fake it because firstly it will be evident, and secondly you’re not helping anyone by putting on a front.

So if you have limiting beliefs such as:

  • “I can’t be myself,”
  • “I’m not good enough,”
  • “I’m a bit of an imposter?”

OR

If you can’t show up as yourself, you can’t be successful and there are things holding you back or you worry about what other people think then get in touch with me as we can sort this out very quickly.

So enjoy being you and I’ll see you next week

Dr Bridget – Just being myself!

Why cutting out the garbage is useful

Cut out the garbage

Why cutting out the garbage is useful

This week is a bit of a personal one, I’m not very good at tidying and currently I’m about to get help from Katie Killoran to deal with this.

If everything is piled up together then you can’t distinguish between what is needed and what isn’t.  You find that you don’t have any focus, you can’t make a plan and it’s much more difficult to make decisions. Moreover, if your garbage is mixed up with all the important things you need, then life is definitely more challenging.

In this week’s prescription for success I look at how cutting out the garbage in our lives can be useful. Watch the video and follow the tips below.

The definition of garbage is basically rubbish or waste. So then, garbage could be paperwork, things around the home, people or even advice. Indeed there are all sorts of things that can we label as either waste or resources.

The things that need tidying we generally place into piles whether that is a physical pile or a mental pile. We often need help to sort these out and identify what parts are waste and what are needed and then throw the garbage away and keep what is useful.

It’s really good to have a system that:

  1. Identifies what is garbage and then avoids it.  For example you may have people around you that drain your energy or you may have lots of advice from other people that isn’t particularly helpful.
  2.  Identifies what is useful which you need to keep. You will have a gut feeling for what is useful or not. For example only keep the paper you need and find a place to keep it, also for the people around you that are not helpful remove them and get people who have your values and support you.

Cutting out the garbage is a bit of a metaphor for life. If you can’t get rid of your rubbish or are having difficulty sorting out the rubbish and what is useful resources then get in touch. I do a free half hour session so that you can get to know me and we can discuss your needs.

I also run NLP courses (click on the link) that can give you the skills to sort the garbage and cut out what’s not needed.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – Helping you tidy up your life!

Why hope matters

Hope matters

Why does hope matter?

When I first came across this concept about ‘Why hope matters’ in an article I was reading, I was a little unsure about it.  The reason for my uncertainty was that I think that using words like ‘try’, ‘maybe’, ‘wish’ or ‘hope’,  isn’t very positive or effective. This is because our unconscious mind thinks ‘it might not happen’ or ‘it doesn’t really matter’.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I share with you some really interesting insights into ‘why hope matters’  when it comes to creating your future reality.  Watch the video and consider below your attitude and stance when it comes to ‘hope’.

Someone who is hopeful is someone who is radically realistic.

I can never decide whether I’m a ‘glass half empty’ or a ‘glass half full’ type of person. I think of myself as being really positive but I do also consider what the obstacles might be and then mitigate against them.  In the article it  actually stated that someone who is hopeful looks at obstacles and makes plans to get around them. Whew – that’s a relief!

It’s also reassuring that leaders inspire hope in both themselves and others and it gives them their purpose.

Ask yourself:

Are you a ‘High Hoper’?

‘High hopers’ take action, they withstand discomfort or pain, they are equipped for diversity. Hope gives us drive and is goal directed.

There are three things that ‘High Hopers’ have:

  1. Destination – they have highly developed goals.
  2. Route – they know how they are going to get to their goals.
  3. Means of Transport – they know how they are going to do it,  how they are going achieve their goals.

Whereas “Low Hopers’ tend to generalise about their destination so they may know where they are going but are unclear about it . They may have an idea about how they are going to get there but are vague about their actions.

So I want to ask you which would you rather be – a ‘High Hoper’ – ‘Low Hoper’ or maybe somewhere in the middle.

Think about whether you are:

  • clear about your destination;
  • clear about your route;
  • and clear about the means of transport.

If you are not clear about any of these and your really want to be a ‘High Hoper’ and a high achiever then get in touch or give me a call on  07973 635102 as there are lots of things that can get in your way and I’m really skilled in getting rid of those for you.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – Hoping you get in touch!