Is it good to be stuck in our ‘Comfort Zones?’
It’s common to hear in the business world, “I really need to get out of my comfort zone, I’m aspiring towards my goals and to get there I need to get out of my comfort zone.”
Recently I was way out of mine and I noticed something very interesting.
I had employed someone to set up some systems and admin for me and then out of the blue that person left and handed all the work back to me. At the time I thought, “I could learn to do this, maybe I could manage this by myself.” In all honesty I probably could have done it but I didn’t consider the extra work from a time perspective. Suddenly, my work balance went completely Kaput!
People have different ‘brick walls’ where you can see the end result and you just can’t get there. I found that I couldn’t cope and I became uncomfortable, I was completely out of my comfort zone. So what I did was I returned to where I felt comfortable, and I thought “phew, blimey that’s better.”
Watch this week’s video to find more about the benefits of being in your comfort zones.
It’s hard for people to see at times that being in your comfort zone is not a bad thing. It is okay to be comfortable. When you’re in your comfort zone you are more self aware and it’s easier to know what’s going on inside your head. You know what to expect and you can recognise your capabilities in a stress free environment.
I’m all for people reaching their full potential and expanding and growing, but if you want success you don’t have to throw yourself completely out of your comfort zone.
You can do it gradually, increase the difficulty slowly and when it becomes too much too soon, just slowly take a step back, do things differently or even repeat things. Find out what works for you at your own pace it’s a gradual process there is no need to rush.
Sometimes you can have goals and aspirations that are reachable, but if you rush in you can get stuck. Take your time on your journey, plan your route to suit you!
If you are currently stuck get in touch and you can talk to me about comfort zones and how past decisions have helped form your comfort zone. I can also help you to gradually leave your zone at your own pace.
Until next week
Dr Bridget- helping you to lead a life where you grow at the pace that suits you and that you are happy with.
P.S I’m booking people into my next Certified NLP Practitioner course in July/August.
How do You Maintain Your Boundaries?
Hi – This prescription is something that I talk to my 1:1 clients about and those on my courses. This is because you can be in a really positive place and then something will lower your mood and undo all of the personal development that you have undertaken. And it’s important for you to consider boundaries as well!
First you need to know what a boundary is. A boundary is something that stops you from feeling positive and stops you from going where you are going. It can either be a person or an environment or something that you see on social media or the news. Maybe watching politics or disasters on the news or going to a networking event where you feel uncomfortable could be a boundary. I also know that there are people who suck my energy out of me- I call them mood hoovers- and they are boundaries for me.
Watch the video and then read under the video to decide what your boundaries are and how to keep them.
- What are your boundaries?
- If you don’t know, make a list
- Notice when you feel glum or your mood lowers
- Let people know what your boundaries are.
- Let go of the fear about telling people and if you can’t maybe they are a boundary.
Let me know if you can’t put a boundary in or can’t tell people about them as there is a liklehood that they will stop you achieving what you want to achieve. And at some stage in the future you will wish you had been firmer and put thoat boundary in.
Until next week,
Dr Bridget – helping you to get where you want.
P.S We are now booking for the next NLP courses whcih are in 3 months time