Does making judgements help us?
This blog came about because I noticed that I was surrounded by people, whether on Social Media or in everyday life, who were judging other people. Now I’m asking myself as well, am I judging those who are judging others. So I have considered that as well, as I recognise that what we perceive as coming back to us is actually what we are putting out.
I recently noticed that lots of people were actually using their energy in a negative way to judge others when they could have been using their energy more positively. So, are you using your energy to judge others or are you simply interested in people and enjoying seeing how everyone is different? Indeed, the latter position is the stance I prefer to take.
Watch this week’s video and have a think about your stance on this.
Now, in terms of the Neuro Linguistic Programming’s Communication Model, to be able to use the amazing amount of information surrounding us, we need to generalise and label things and that can turn into judgements.
Moreover, the presuppositions of NLP, which are the assumptions that we use in everyday life, which apply to this scenario are:
- People aren’t their behaviour so the identity of a person is not what they are doing as a behaviour.
- People are doing the best they can with all their available resources
- Everyone has a different model of the world
We can adopt these presuppositions and get really interested in people and also get rid of any negative anchors we have from the past. Those anchors may have been triggers for us to get emotionally involved and make judgements and if we get rid of them, we can then use our energy in a more positive way.
So if you find yourself doing a lot of judgement then get in touch. We can use a tool called Time Line Therapy which gets rid of all the negative emotions which are anger, sadness, fear, hurt or guilt and any limiting decisions that you have about yourself or other people. Then life gets really interesting. You can have your own opinions and beliefs and just get on with your life to get your goals instead of worrying about about other people are doing.
So are judgements useful? We need some but what do you think?
Until next week
Dr Bridget- helping you to lead a peaceful life.