NLP Techniques No.1 – Association and Dissociation

The Emotional Causes of Tiredness

TirednessThe Emotional Causes of Tiredness

– How it affects your business and life

If you are feeling tired and you think that there is something physically wrong then go and see your GP.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I discuss emotional tiredness. That time when you get up in the morning and you’re still tired.  You know you’ve slept but you haven’t slept well.  You’re falling asleep during the day, there’s nothing wrong on a physical level and you know it’s a mindset issue.

A lot of people suffer with tiredness and it can affect your business and life goals. Watch the video and get in touch if you need some help.

Maybe it’s caused by your emotional state. 

You might feel anxious and  you’ve got a lot of things buzzing around in your head or you might feel sad and really low and lacking energy. Or there may be a lot of conflict going on in your mind or a lot of overwhelm. It could even be related to any other emotions like anger, fear, hurt or guilt.

If these things are going on in your mind then it will have an affect on your physiology and your cells and it will create a physiological state of tiredness.

The emotional state is driven by your reality. Your reality can be caused by negative emotions or memories from the past, negative beliefs and conflicts in your beliefs.

The symptoms that you can get from this include:

  • not being present,
  • not being motivated,
  • putting things off,
  • a reluctance to engage,
  • overeating or binge eating,
  • or drinking alcohol

If you’ve got these symptoms and this tiredness, then it’s really difficult to get your goals. So if you are not getting your goals or you are doing behaviours that you don’t want and you are experiencing this emotional tiredness then give me a shout.   I do a free half hour call where we can discuss where the tiredness has come from.

Until Next Week

Dr Bridget – Getting some rest to recharge my batteries

 

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Is Your Head in the Shed?

head in the shed

Is Your Head in the Shed?

I said to someone the other day “My head’s in the shed!”

I don’t know if this is a UK expression but we certainly hear a lot of this statement in Wales.

When we say, “My head is in the shed,” what do we mean?

It’s an interesting metaphor and in this week’s Prescription for Success I discuss what we mean by this statement and how we can help ourselves. Watch the video and let me know what you think.

“My head is in the shed!” – What do we mean by this statement?

Do we mean that we are confused, that we are stressed, disorientated or overwhelmed?  There is no real answer because when we say it we have our own reasons for saying it.

If your head is in the shed then it’s separate from the rest of you and you feel that you need to look for it as it’s important to you.

You may consider the reasons why your head is in the shed.

For me, I think it was because I was a little overwhelmed and had a lot going on for me.  So I went to stopped and considered what the problem was and what I needed to do to deal with the overwhelm and gave someone a ring for some help.

If your ‘head is in the shed’ then look for the reasons and ask for help if you are not able to get your head out of the shed because being in the shed isn’t the best place, is it?

If you need some help with this then get in touch with me because we can get this sorted easily so that you can move forward with you head in the right place

Dr Bridget – with my head in the right place.

P.S. I’m running an NLP course in February/March 2022 – a great way to get to know yourself and increase your confidence in working with others. Here’s a link to the course information where you can also download a brochure for dates and prices.

How to Understand Your Emotions

Emotional state

Understanding your emotions

There are several models in psychology and NLP about understanding your emotions but the one I want us to focus on this week is a two dimensional model. This model is really useful because if you can understand and grade your emotions, you’ll then realise what you need to do to change your emotions and this really is empowering.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I’m going to unpack this two-dimensional model for you and explain how being aware of your emotions can benefit you. Watch the video and work through the different examples below as this is an interesting way of looking at it and awareness is key.

 

The two dimensional model takes account of:

  1. Valence – which is attractiveness, whether something is good or bad, positive or negative, it’s the subjective attractiveness of the emotion.
  2. Arousal – which refers to whether you are energetic or lethargic, wakeful or sleepy

Valence, is that subjective feeling. For example just because something is good or bad it doesn’t mean it is good or bad for you or for someone else.

Similarly, with arousal if you have negative feelings such as fear or anger they may appear negative but they actually could be really motivating for you.  Alternatively, you may have what are considered as positive feelings like relaxed or calm but these might potentially be preventing you from taking action.

So let’s consider this in a little more detail looking at the different combinations of Arousal and Valence

High Valence and High Arousal    Examples are Astonished, Excited, Delighted, Happy, Pleased

High Valence and Low Arousal     Examples are Content, Serene, Calm, Relaxed

Low Valence and High Arousal    Examples are Annoyed, Afraid, Angry, Frustrated

Low Valence and Low Arousal     Examples are Miserable, Depressed, Bored, Tired

Two dimensional Model of Emotion

Maybe if you knew which  you were doing at any one time, you could choose to do a different combination?

If you find that you are not managing your emotions then please get in touch here or give me a call on 07973 635102   –  I’m a “chief unsticker” and sometimes these negatives get in our way,  I can help you to manage your emotions, no matter where they have come from  so that you can live the life you want and have the business you want.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – On an emotional roll!