Is Your Head in the Shed?
I said to someone the other day “My head’s in the shed!”
I don’t know if this is a UK expression but we certainly hear a lot of this statement in Wales.
When we say, “My head is in the shed,” what do we mean?
It’s an interesting metaphor and in this week’s Prescription for Success I discuss what we mean by this statement and how we can help ourselves. Watch the video and let me know what you think.
“My head is in the shed!” – What do we mean by this statement?
Do we mean that we are confused, that we are stressed, disorientated or overwhelmed? There is no real answer because when we say it we have our own reasons for saying it.
If your head is in the shed then it’s separate from the rest of you and you feel that you need to look for it as it’s important to you.
You may consider the reasons why your head is in the shed.
For me, I think it was because I was a little overwhelmed and had a lot going on for me. So I went to stopped and considered what the problem was and what I needed to do to deal with the overwhelm and gave someone a ring for some help.
If your ‘head is in the shed’ then look for the reasons and ask for help if you are not able to get your head out of the shed because being in the shed isn’t the best place, is it?
If you need some help with this then get in touch with me because we can get this sorted easily so that you can move forward with you head in the right place
Dr Bridget – with my head in the right place.
P.S. I’m running an NLP course in February/March 2022 – a great way to get to know yourself and increase your confidence in working with others. Here’s a link to the course information where you can also download a brochure for dates and prices.
Understanding your emotions
There are several models in psychology and NLP about understanding your emotions but the one I want us to focus on this week is a two dimensional model. This model is really useful because if you can understand and grade your emotions, you’ll then realise what you need to do to change your emotions and this really is empowering.
In this week’s Prescription for Success I’m going to unpack this two-dimensional model for you and explain how being aware of your emotions can benefit you. Watch the video and work through the different examples below as this is an interesting way of looking at it and awareness is key.
The two dimensional model takes account of:
- Valence – which is attractiveness, whether something is good or bad, positive or negative, it’s the subjective attractiveness of the emotion.
- Arousal – which refers to whether you are energetic or lethargic, wakeful or sleepy
Valence, is that subjective feeling. For example just because something is good or bad it doesn’t mean it is good or bad for you or for someone else.
Similarly, with arousal if you have negative feelings such as fear or anger they may appear negative but they actually could be really motivating for you. Alternatively, you may have what are considered as positive feelings like relaxed or calm but these might potentially be preventing you from taking action.
So let’s consider this in a little more detail looking at the different combinations of Arousal and Valence
High Valence and High Arousal Examples are Astonished, Excited, Delighted, Happy, Pleased
High Valence and Low Arousal Examples are Content, Serene, Calm, Relaxed
Low Valence and High Arousal Examples are Annoyed, Afraid, Angry, Frustrated
Low Valence and Low Arousal Examples are Miserable, Depressed, Bored, Tired
Maybe if you knew which you were doing at any one time, you could choose to do a different combination?
If you find that you are not managing your emotions then please get in touch here or give me a call on 07973 635102 – I’m a “chief unsticker” and sometimes these negatives get in our way, I can help you to manage your emotions, no matter where they have come from so that you can live the life you want and have the business you want.
Until next week
Dr Bridget – On an emotional roll!