Role Model

Role Models – A Different Perspective

Role Models – A Different Perspective

Role Model

Role Model

I was recently running an NLP Master Practitioner course and we were talking about modelling – this is where NLP has come from – Modelling excellence. Its a key part of the course. Click here for more information about NLP courses

We do a project on my Master Practitioner course  where we model a skill that someone has, by eliciting that person’s values, beliefs and strategies and then installing these in ourself – a much quicker way of effecting change than being taught.

Unusually, people on the course were struggling with who to have as a Role Model and I had to agree – I don’t  really have one myself (apart from Princess Di). I spent some time wondering who I respected enough to want to change to become like them.

And then I had a light bulb moment – I thought that perhaps I could become my own Role Model and become one for other people. It led to a consideration of what qualities I would like to have that other people and myself might respect- have a watch of the video and then answer the questions below it for yourself.

The qualities that I’d like to improve or develop in myself are:

  • Having an interest in people and things- doing pretty well with this
  • Making a difference to people- definitely something that’s key for me and I am doing that
  • Being myself, which includes making sure I “tick” my values, keep my boundaries, as and the same time, be flexible to enable other people’s models of the world- I’m mainly doing this
  • Taking action and being determined- doing this most of the time
  • Self care – important in my journey through this life and something that I’ve been working on this year

Next year, I want to improve my capability to ask for help – I think this is part of self-care and not something that comes easily to me. It would make a huge difference to my life and a behaviour that I encourage in my clients – so I’m committing to do that. It will make me a better Role Model

Questions for you:

  • What qualities would you look for in yourself, to be your own and others’ Role Model?
  • What would you change to get these (if anything) ?
  • Is it OK to be a Role Model for yourself and others?

Once you have decided whether you need to change anything, post in the comments, and as always, let me know here if you need to talk through anything.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – being the best Role Model I can be.

 

Important

How Important do you Think You Are?

How Important are you?

Important

Important

Sometimes I come across people who inspire me to write a blog and there have been two people in the last month who have had challenges that I want to share with you for your reflection.

The first person was extremely busy growing a business and didn’t really have time to do the things that he needed to do to get a balance and really get what he wanted in his life. The second was a person who worked for a large corporate company who wanted to do something different and was not sure if she wanted to take a risk and go for it or not.

The thing that was common in both cases was a belief that they weren’t important and didn’t matter- this led to them not making the changes that they needed to  make to make them happy and give them what they wanted in life. In other words they were stuck.

This feeling of not mattering can come from the past, from your values or from your beliefs. It can also come from the people that you surround yourself with.

Watch the video below and then ask yourself the questions below and get in touch it you want to talk it through with me.

So its not about me saying  you are important- its about you knowing that you are and making changes in your life to show this and therefore do the following 3 things:

  • Be who you want to be
  • Do what you want to do
  • Have what you want to have

Ask yourself

Do you think that you are important throughout all areas of your life?

Are you standing up for yourself ?

Does your behaviour reflect that you are important to you?

If you are struggling with this then give me a call on 07973 635102 or book a appointment to have a free half hour with me because you are worth it!

Until next week, take care of yourself!

Dr Bridget