The Emotional Causes of Tiredness

TirednessThe Emotional Causes of Tiredness

– How it affects your business and life

If you are feeling tired and you think that there is something physically wrong then go and see your GP.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I discuss emotional tiredness. That time when you get up in the morning and you’re still tired.  You know you’ve slept but you haven’t slept well.  You’re falling asleep during the day, there’s nothing wrong on a physical level and you know it’s a mindset issue.

A lot of people suffer with tiredness and it can affect your business and life goals. Watch the video and get in touch if you need some help.

Maybe it’s caused by your emotional state. 

You might feel anxious and  you’ve got a lot of things buzzing around in your head or you might feel sad and really low and lacking energy. Or there may be a lot of conflict going on in your mind or a lot of overwhelm. It could even be related to any other emotions like anger, fear, hurt or guilt.

If these things are going on in your mind then it will have an affect on your physiology and your cells and it will create a physiological state of tiredness.

The emotional state is driven by your reality. Your reality can be caused by negative emotions or memories from the past, negative beliefs and conflicts in your beliefs.

The symptoms that you can get from this include:

  • not being present,
  • not being motivated,
  • putting things off,
  • a reluctance to engage,
  • overeating or binge eating,
  • or drinking alcohol

If you’ve got these symptoms and this tiredness, then it’s really difficult to get your goals. So if you are not getting your goals or you are doing behaviours that you don’t want and you are experiencing this emotional tiredness then give me a shout.   I do a free half hour call where we can discuss where the tiredness has come from.

Until Next Week

Dr Bridget – Getting some rest to recharge my batteries

 

Using different spaces for different results

River

Using different spaces for different results

In terms of how we make changes, the environment is really important.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I consider the different spaces we use to undertake different tasks and how we can benefit from choosing the right space for each task. Watch the video and test this out for yourself to see if you are using your spaces effectively.

 

This morning it was pouring with rain and I thought “where do I sit to write some blogs, to do my accounts, to work with clients?”  This just struck me as being really important.

I’ve just finished running the first half of an NLP Practitioner Course and in the next half we are going to be talking about anchoring and you can get really anchored in spaces.

I like to sit outside on the decking and have a coffee and do some meditation. I’ve got chickens so I like to sit with the chickens and think about things. I also like to sit down by the river because the river is rushing and it gives a different energy. I like to work in coffee shops.

I think it’s about different sorts of energy. Do you want energy that is quiet or busy or relatively neutral?

I  sit in my kitchen and look out over the garden and that’s where I tend to write my blogs it’s where I get my ideas because there is a lot of information but it’s also quite peaceful.

What are your spaces?

I’d just like to ask you what are your spaces?

So write a list of your spaces. Then list what sort of emotions you anchor to those spaces and what tasks you can do in those spaces and let me know how you get on.  It is a really useful exercise and can be very helpful.

If you want to talk to me about anything about mindset or you are interested in coming on courses, or you just want to get unstuck, as you know I’m known as the ‘Chief Unsticker’  then get in touch, I do a free half hour call where we can have a chat and find out how I can help you.

Until Next Week

Dr Bridget – choosing my spaces creatively

 

Is Your Head in the Shed?

head in the shed

Is Your Head in the Shed?

I said to someone the other day “My head’s in the shed!”

I don’t know if this is a UK expression but we certainly hear a lot of this statement in Wales.

When we say, “My head is in the shed,” what do we mean?

It’s an interesting metaphor and in this week’s Prescription for Success I discuss what we mean by this statement and how we can help ourselves. Watch the video and let me know what you think.

“My head is in the shed!” – What do we mean by this statement?

Do we mean that we are confused, that we are stressed, disorientated or overwhelmed?  There is no real answer because when we say it we have our own reasons for saying it.

If your head is in the shed then it’s separate from the rest of you and you feel that you need to look for it as it’s important to you.

You may consider the reasons why your head is in the shed.

For me, I think it was because I was a little overwhelmed and had a lot going on for me.  So I went to stopped and considered what the problem was and what I needed to do to deal with the overwhelm and gave someone a ring for some help.

If your ‘head is in the shed’ then look for the reasons and ask for help if you are not able to get your head out of the shed because being in the shed isn’t the best place, is it?

If you need some help with this then get in touch with me because we can get this sorted easily so that you can move forward with you head in the right place

Dr Bridget – with my head in the right place.

P.S. I’m running an NLP course in February/March 2022 – a great way to get to know yourself and increase your confidence in working with others. Here’s a link to the course information where you can also download a brochure for dates and prices.

How to be Successful in Networking

Networking

How to be successful in networking.

This week’s prescription follows on from last week’s where we were discussing consciousness.  If you bring consciousness into your networking then you will be successful.

In this week’s Prescription for Success, I share with you some top tips on how to get the best out of networking and be successful. Watch the video and try the tips for yourself.

The three Cs for Networking

One of the ideas that I use in networking is by using the “3 Cs ”

1. Having Clarity – This is the offering, who you are looking for and what you are going to say.

2. Connections – Being yourself, showing up as yourself and really wanting to get into rapport.

3. Consistency – Showing up at the networking event and then following up.

Being successful at networking events is really about habits. Here are some more tips:

  • Stay visible by engaging and having 1:1s with people.
  • Ensure that whoever refers to you are kept updated on what has happened.
  • Ask for the business – people sometimes stop short at this point, they build up an amazing rapport and don’t follow through and ask for a sale.
  • Be organised.
  • Look out for others and give back.

While this is a more practical Prescription it’s also about being present while you are networking and having that best intention for other people and this will get you success in networking.

I’d like to network with any of you, it’s great to get to know people, so get in touch with me because there is always something good that can happen as the result of a chat.

ooking forward to chatting with you.

Dr Bridget – looking forward to chatting with you.

P.S. I’m running an NLP course in November from the 5-8th plus 26-29th – a great way to get to know yourself and increase your confidence in working with others. Here’s a link to the course information where you can also download a brochure for dates and prices.

When is the Best Time to Work Effectively?

When is the Best Time to Work

Work Efficiently

Work Effectively

You know how it feels, when you don’t have the energy to do the work you really need to do, and think – I wish I’d done that this morning. When you are trying to keep your eyes open in the middle of the afternoon?

Daniel Pink- the American Author and speech writer  for Al Gore, tells us that our brains are fairly hard wired for when we have the energy to do focused work and when it is time to do creative work. Also that, if we understand that, our productivity doubles. Eighty percent of us are larks and work efficiently in the morning, he says – here is the article.

Watch the video and then have a think about how you use your time to do which sort of work:

When do you feel most energised?

My focus and productivity is best in the morning

It’s worse in the evening – get me to six o’clock and I’m nearly asleep.

Daniel Pink says if you you want to do things where its important not to be distracted, do it in the morning – examples are in the video and  include surgical operations.

 To work effectively, easy and creative tasks are best done in the early afternoon. Your brain will fill in the gaps apparently when  you sit there and reflect and become creative.

If you have to focus and take action at a time when you are less focused, stand up and change your physiology – if you remember, changing our physiology changes our emotional state which changes our reality.

Get your peak state at the end of the day – your brain will make sure that you will have a good day the next day.

Have a think and fill  your calendar with things that are  most appropriate for the time of day and try not to do surgical operations  in the early afternoon.

Let me know how your ability to work effectively changes as you fit your diary to the work that you need to do.

Also, if you are struggling with energy and motivation , get in touch. There may be reasons that are causing this , that are not to do with the time of day.

Until next week

Dr Bridget, Doing Work to Inspire  you.

How to Make your Unconscious Behaviours Conscious

Unconscious behaviours

Unconscious behaviours

Hello – I’m wondering if you are aware that most of behaviours are unconscious? Also our emotions are created by our unconscious mind- it’s difficult to be sad just by deciding to be.

Moving on from this we can accept that our unconscious behaviours will either get us the result that we want or one that we don’t want. So if we make our unconscious behaviours conscious, then we can start to notice patterns and change them consciously

Have a watch of the video and then reflect below:

 Behaviours that are often an issue for people include:

  • Procrastination
  • Avoidance
  • Anxiety
  • Doubt
  • Hiding
  • Distracting

And many more

In my book, Mindset for Business Success, one of the techniques I suggest as a time management tool will help to make our behaviours conscious.

  • List everything  (and I mean everything) that you do for a whole day.
  • Go through the list when you have finished and think about your goal. Work out which are helpful and which aren’t helpful.
  • Notice any patterns that are helpful or not helpful
  • Raise your awareness until your unconscious behaviours are conscious
  • Repeat weekly until you are consciously aware of what is happening

If you have anything going on in  your behaviour that is not useful and you can’t resolve it, get in touch! It takes 63 days to resolve a minor habit or pattern consciously but if you work with your unconscious mind, it takes less than an hour. If the pattern is a deep emotional pattern, it is also easy to rewire that thinking, so get in touch. My 1:1 coaching and my NLP training are both very effective.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – helping you work with your unconscious mind

Why is Consistency Important?

Why is Consistency Important?

Hi. I expect you’ve noticed that if you aren’t consistent in your behaviour or what you say, then you get different results. This may well be fine, however- there are certain situations where consistency is important.

I’ve used a dog training example in this video and it equally applies to our business results and results in life and relationships.

For example, if we do social media, then it’s more effective to be consistent with your posts and videos and communication as it gets people to know who you are and expect you to show up on a regular basis.

Watch the video and let me know what you think.

So, I’ve been taught that shouting for my dog by his name and then rewarding him works really well as you’ve seen. I get frustrated by my husband who will the shout “come on” and then may be the name and then whistle and forget to reward him when he works out what’s expected. No consistency!

My question to you, is:

How consistent are you in repeating things that you know works – that’s in your business, in your life, in your career or in a relationship?

Be honest- give yourself a score on the scale of 0-10 where 0 is “I’m a nightmare, I’m not consistent at all to 10, which is, I’m wonderful, I do everything consistently and it works.

How would it be if you could choose one area to improve your consistency in and monitor the results?

Let me know if you need any help – I do a free session to look at what’s happening and what I can help you change to become consistent – There’s usually a root cause!

Until next week

Dr Bridget, putting out a blog every week for your benefit

Internal Conflict- What you Really Need to Know

Internal Conflict

Parts

Battle

I’ve been there and done this – I still remember sitting in my log cabin 9 years ago, wondering whether I was good enough or whether I wasn’t. And sometimes I did and sometimes I didn’t.

Moving from being a respected GP to a Trainer and Coach was something that I thought would be easy – at a conscious level- but my unconscious mind had other ideas – “WHAT DO YOU WANT TO DO? – DON’T BE SILLY!!!!!” was the constant shouty negative chatter.

There was a battle going on in my head!

And it’s something I help people with on a regular basis. Click here if you know this is you and want help.

The thing is, when you have a battle in your head, it means that you can’t focus, you can’t do what you want to do and therefore can’t get the results you want. Congratulations if you have overcome this, and if you haven’t you are not on your own.

Watch the video and then consider whether you have this conflict.

We call this conflict “Parts” in NLP terminology and you will hear people talking about part of me this and part of me that on a regular basis – they are torn.

Parts come from significant emotional events and form a part of your unconscious mind which has its own values, beliefs, opinions and behaviours which seem to conflict with the rest of the unconscious mind- hence causing a battle.

The part has a  boundary and NLP techniques can be used to get rid of this boundary and therefore the part disappears. Cool stuff eh! And it doesn’t take long and you end up with a lovely peaceful head with no battles.

So how would it be if you get rid of the conflict that may be causing issues in your business, your life, your health and your relationships? If that’s of interest to you, let’s have a chat – either 1:1 work or an NLP course will sort it out.

Also, if you are a coach and fancy being able to do this with your clients, you can come and learn these techniques on an NLP Practitioner course. Just let me know.

Until next week,

Dr Bridget – making you whole again.

 

 

Other People’s Stuff – A gift or not?

Other People’s Stuff

Model of the WorldI was in a networking group the other day and a former client, who is in a really good head space, was talking about how she needed to expand her business. People gave their views and advice  and – possibly a mind read – this left the person feeling a bit  bemused and I don’t think it really fitted with what she felt she needed. It didn’t fit with her Model of the World.

This person was an example of being in a place where they were happy and content and had plans  which they know they were are going to achieve, and were then being gifted other people’s beliefs and priorities – their stuff. I didn’t talk to her about it  but did say generally that sometimes we need to make our own decisions about what works best for us. Watch the video below and reflect on what I am saying:

People want to help and that’s brilliant. They have their own rules, judgements and values and think of it as a gift and, here’s the thing – you can either accept the gift but you don’t have to accept it.

Everyone has a different model of the world – here’s an interesting video of how that happens –  and sometimes we just need to stick to what is working for us. Our emotional energy can be lowered by what other people say and if that happens a lot, then it would be good to put some boundaries in. I call these people mood hoovers – you know who they are.

REMEMBER – if your Model of the World, your behaviours and the results that you get, work for you, then carry on and enjoy the results!

If you are having wobbles as a result of other people’s perspectives and you want to instead be in charge of your own life and your results let me know.  Often people feel that they can’t get there on their own –  I’m known as the Chief Unsticker, and I can help.

Book an appointment with me for a  free chat or fill in the form on my web site  and lets have a chat about it –  I probably have the answer for you.

People become in charge of their life by working with me in a variety of ways so have a look at my web site and discover the possibilities. I’ve listed them below:

  • Breakthrough 1:1 Coaching
  • NLP training courses
  • My Mastermind group called STRETCH
  • My One Step Closer face Book Group

Until next week,

Dr Bridget – supporting you to be in charge of your life

Delegation- the Reasons to Do It

Delegation – Reasons to do it

Delegation

Delegation

Delegation is very much about mind set. We often get to the stage where we are overwhelmed because of our success or our “busyness” or because of our worry about giving things to other people:

 

  • Will they do a good job?
  • Will they do it as I want to do it?
  • Will it have an effect on my business in a bad way?
  • What if I don’t reach my target because it all goes wrong?

And here’s the thing – Not delegating can cause us to take our eye of the goals that we want to achieve because we can’t focus and we get ineffective.

And it can stop us living in our zone of genius- a term from the book called “The Big Leap” by Gay Hendricks – a highly recommended read.

I often talk about this in my mastermind groups because as people and businesses grow and life gets really busy, it’s something that can help people to take a step back and think more about their life and business and just create that space to flourish.

Sometimes people have delegated in the past – myself included- and it’s not worked out. And it can put  you off.

Sometimes we delegate the wrong things and don’t realise until it has gone wrong.

Have a watch of the video beow and then use the tool that I have given you below


I have attempted many times to delegate and now delegate my account, some of my Social Media, my videoing, my web tasks – oh and the cooking! It has taken some time and been painful , but I have now grown my business by finding the right people to do these things.

So if you think that you want to do or should delegate, there are 3 things to ask yourself:

  1. What shouldn’t I be doing?
  2. What can’t I do?
  3. What don’t I want to do?

Brainstorm the answers to these three things and then pick one thing to delegate this month and just do it.

If you are struggling to do this becuase your unconscious mind, which is there to keep you safe is bipping away in your ear going “It will all go wrong”, “I can’t trust other people”, or No-one does it as well as me”, then book a free half hour session or send me a message on my contact page and let’s talk about it!

Go from Overwhelm to underwhelm and Freedom

Go from  Lack of focus to being totally Focused

Go from Doubt and stuck to Certainty and Freedom

Go from Not reaching your Goals to Reaching your Goals

Until next week,

Dr Bridget, delegating your success to you!