How do I allow myself to be happy?

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How do I allow myself to be happy?

It’s a question a lot of people often ask themselves. It sort of implies that they not allowing themselves to be happy.  It’s a really interesting question as it’s almost like there is a decision that they’ve made, or other people have made that they can’t allow themselves to be happy.

In this week’s video I share with you the story of a client whose main problem was that they couldn’t allow themselves to be happy, be spontaneous and have fun.   Listen to the video about their story and how we worked together to help them overcome this problem.

“How can I allow myself to be happy, spontaneous and have fun? “

This was the question my client asked.

There was something stopping them all the time and when we went back to the root cause, it was from their unconscious mind. When they were a teenager they were surrounded by people who didn’t listen to them and, as a direct result, they didn’t say what they thought, in order not to upset people. It was an impossibility for them to tell people how hurt they felt about what was going on and they said they  bottled up their feelings.

When I asked my client – what does that mean? What sort of bottle is that and where is it?  They said it was a sort of grey bottle in their chest which was full of hurt, confusion and sadness.  Of course,  that has a consequence for yourself, your physiology, for your future and just being happy and was a problem that needed to be dealt with.

We did some Time Line Therapy which get’s rid of limiting decisions like

  • ‘It’s not ok for me to be myself’,’
  • ‘It’s not ok for me to say how feel,’ or
  • ‘I’ve got to keep the peace.’

It also helps get rid of negative emotions like anger, sadness, fear, hurt and guilt.   All this was going on in their unconscious mind and, following Time Line Therapy, all this was gone. The bottle had gone and they couldn’t find the feelings anymore.

That’s brilliant and it’s the reason I do what I do. It could take years of counselling to get to this point but with Time Line Therapy the thoughts and emotions that are limiting you, go really quickly.

So, I’d like to ask  you

  • Do you have any feelings that you bottle up and where have they come from?
  • Can you picture that bottle inside you and what are the feelings that are inside it?
  • What affect is that having on you?

Some of the learnings that my client had was to surround themselves with people who actually listen to them and to have self belief and self worth. It didn’t take very long to do that – less than two hours.

So maybe you’ve got some feelings that you are bottling up and you can’t let those feelings out?  If you haven’t got the people around you that you can talk to, the bottle may stay full and then it is going to have consequences.

If that’s going on for you, I’d really like you to give me a shout so that we can get rid of that bottle and negative emotions and beliefs. Then you will be safer, happier and you can allow yourself to do whatever you want to do.

If you’d like some help with this then book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access that free half hour with me or you can book it on the above link.

Enjoy seeing how you can empty any negative thoughts and emotions in your bottle, and see you next week.

Dr Bridget – emptying people’s bottles

If you’d like to learn more techniques to get rid of limiting decisions and  and negative emotions  I have a couple of  spaces left on my next NLP Practitioner course which runs over two lots of 4 days. 30/7/21-2/8/21 plus 20-23/8/21 – click here for further information

 

How to get rid of Negativity

How to get rid of negativity

What can you do to remove your negativity?

In this week’s blog I’m going to talk about one way to get rid of your negativity at a conscious level.

Now this is unusual for me because behaviour is generally generated at an unconscious level and from an NLP perspective, to remove unwanted negative behaviour you need to do some work at an unconscious level.   However, recently when working with a client I recognised that minor negativity can sometimes be dealt with at a conscious level.

Listen to this week’s video and try out the technique I’ve suggested to get rid of minor negativity.

I was recently working with a client and she was frustrated. It was a minor frustration she had with her partner who was doing the washing and leaving things on the side rather than folding them away. This meant that she ended up dealing with the consequences and having to tidy up.

We did a NLP technic called “Collapsed Anchors,” where you take a negative and you stack up some positives then you bring them together and the negative disappears. But I think we can do this at a conscious level too.

If you have something like frustration or a minor negative emotion that you want to get rid of, try this.  Hold the minor negative on one hand and then think of what would counteract that minor negative. In my situation, where I was feeling impatient, I was thinking maybe some love, some curiosity – how or why does that person do what they do , or some other positive emotion?  Or perhaps some focus on myself and my business, some excitement and determination. All of a sudden you’ve got all this that you are feeling instead of the negative emotion.  If you can put enough positive emotions into your thoughts you will override the negative at a conscious level.

It may take a bit longer than doing it from an NLP technic perspective `(at an unconscious level) but it’s certainly worth giving it a go.

So have a think what frustrations, impatience, anxieties and minor negative things you have and what positives you can counteract these emotions with. Stack up the positive feelings in your thoughts and you will find that negative will disappear.

If it’s not working at a conscious level for you and you’d like some help then get in touch book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access that free half hour with me or you can book it here https://book-an-appointment-with-Dr-Bridget.as.me/

Enjoy the experimenting and see you next week.

Dr Bridget – clearing your negatives

If you’d like to learn techniques to remove negative thinking at an unconscious level and also sort out your own thinking, I have a couple of  spaces left on my next NLP Practitioner course which runs over two lots of 4 days. 30/7/21-2/8/21 plus 20-23/8/21 – click here for further information