Is Your Head in the Shed?

head in the shed

Is Your Head in the Shed?

I said to someone the other day “My head’s in the shed!”

I don’t know if this is a UK expression but we certainly hear a lot of this statement in Wales.

When we say, “My head is in the shed,” what do we mean?

It’s an interesting metaphor and in this week’s Prescription for Success I discuss what we mean by this statement and how we can help ourselves. Watch the video and let me know what you think.

“My head is in the shed!” – What do we mean by this statement?

Do we mean that we are confused, that we are stressed, disorientated or overwhelmed?  There is no real answer because when we say it we have our own reasons for saying it.

If your head is in the shed then it’s separate from the rest of you and you feel that you need to look for it as it’s important to you.

You may consider the reasons why your head is in the shed.

For me, I think it was because I was a little overwhelmed and had a lot going on for me.  So I went to stopped and considered what the problem was and what I needed to do to deal with the overwhelm and gave someone a ring for some help.

If your ‘head is in the shed’ then look for the reasons and ask for help if you are not able to get your head out of the shed because being in the shed isn’t the best place, is it?

If you need some help with this then get in touch with me because we can get this sorted easily so that you can move forward with you head in the right place

Dr Bridget – with my head in the right place.

P.S. I’m running an NLP course in February/March 2022 – a great way to get to know yourself and increase your confidence in working with others. Here’s a link to the course information where you can also download a brochure for dates and prices.

Why do I sometimes feel like my head is empty?

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“I feel like my head is empty.”

I was running a Master Practitioner course recently and someone on the course said, “I don’t know why, but I feel as though my head is empty, I go to think about something and I feel like there is nothing there.”

I understood what she meant as I have had this feeling. It is when you feel like you are scrabbling around in your head and you can’t access things, it appears a little foggy and you can’t find any words.

Maybe this is a challenge and maybe it’s a good thing.

In this week’s video I consider the pros and cons of having an empty head. Watch the video and try out the memory strategies below.

Alphabetical Recall

I was recently trying to remember someone’s name – I could see the person but I just couldn’t remember her name. So, I went through the alphabet and when I got to ‘N’ my unconscious mind identified that, that was it. However, I still couldn’t remember the name so I put ‘N’ into my phone and the name came up.  It’s a good thing to do if you can’t recall something.

The Memory Palace

Another strategy is the “Memory Palace”.  If I want to remember something like a name, or a blog title then I can connect these things to spaces for example in my sitting room.  So I would think of the name and I would see the person sitting on my sofa.  I tried this for this blog and I though of my sofa with an empty skull, with ABC next to it and then the person’s name. It helped me recall the main points.

Sometimes our brain tries to protect us and that’s why we get an empty head and there are several reasons why we feel like this:

  • Maybe there is so much going on that you cannot access information. I call this a fog where everything is going around in your head and it feels really full.
  • Maybe you’ve experienced occasions where your mind is wandering and you are not fully focussed on your goals or haven’t got any.
  • It may even be that you have a belief that you can’t remember things – a belief that creates that reality.

All these problems can be sorted out with NLP techniques.

However, I was also thinking that sometimes it’s good to have an empty head.  I sometimes have an empty head because I’ve done some internal tidying up of my thoughts and there isn’t any negative chatter. I’m also very much a big picture person so I don’t think about a lot of detail which means there isn’t a lot going on in my head.

Moreover if you are doing mindfulness or meditation it really is helpful to have not much going on in your head so you can notice thoughts come in and out.

I hope these tips help your head, whether it is full or empty.

If you are struggling with this and would like some help then book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access that free half hour with me or you can book it on the above link.

See you next week

Dr Bridget –

If you’d like to learn more techniques to empty your head or get clear about what’s in  you head, I have a couple of  spaces left on my next NLP Practitioner course which runs over two lots of 4 days. 30/7/21-2/8/21 plus 20-23/8/21 – click here for further information

 

How to get rid of Negativity

How to get rid of negativity

What can you do to remove your negativity?

In this week’s blog I’m going to talk about one way to get rid of your negativity at a conscious level.

Now this is unusual for me because behaviour is generally generated at an unconscious level and from an NLP perspective, to remove unwanted negative behaviour you need to do some work at an unconscious level.   However, recently when working with a client I recognised that minor negativity can sometimes be dealt with at a conscious level.

Listen to this week’s video and try out the technique I’ve suggested to get rid of minor negativity.

I was recently working with a client and she was frustrated. It was a minor frustration she had with her partner who was doing the washing and leaving things on the side rather than folding them away. This meant that she ended up dealing with the consequences and having to tidy up.

We did a NLP technic called “Collapsed Anchors,” where you take a negative and you stack up some positives then you bring them together and the negative disappears. But I think we can do this at a conscious level too.

If you have something like frustration or a minor negative emotion that you want to get rid of, try this.  Hold the minor negative on one hand and then think of what would counteract that minor negative. In my situation, where I was feeling impatient, I was thinking maybe some love, some curiosity – how or why does that person do what they do , or some other positive emotion?  Or perhaps some focus on myself and my business, some excitement and determination. All of a sudden you’ve got all this that you are feeling instead of the negative emotion.  If you can put enough positive emotions into your thoughts you will override the negative at a conscious level.

It may take a bit longer than doing it from an NLP technic perspective `(at an unconscious level) but it’s certainly worth giving it a go.

So have a think what frustrations, impatience, anxieties and minor negative things you have and what positives you can counteract these emotions with. Stack up the positive feelings in your thoughts and you will find that negative will disappear.

If it’s not working at a conscious level for you and you’d like some help then get in touch book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access that free half hour with me or you can book it here https://book-an-appointment-with-Dr-Bridget.as.me/

Enjoy the experimenting and see you next week.

Dr Bridget – clearing your negatives

If you’d like to learn techniques to remove negative thinking at an unconscious level and also sort out your own thinking, I have a couple of  spaces left on my next NLP Practitioner course which runs over two lots of 4 days. 30/7/21-2/8/21 plus 20-23/8/21 – click here for further information