Recognising the Causes of Conflict

What Causes Conflict?

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Get Rid of Conflict

Hello – Are you experiencing any conflicts in your thinking, where you find it difficult to make decisions, affecting your emotional state and leading to behaviour that’s not you?

Or maybe you have colleagues and friends who have been wondering why they are feeling confused and can’t do what they want to do.

Covid and many other traumatic events have led to trauma, loneliness, isolation and these things can create conflict in our thinking – in our neurology.

Watch the video to find out the causes and get in touch if you are experiencing conflict as it is easy to help you re program your thinking  to resolve this. NLP is a content free way of resolving patterns of thinking  so that you can feel completely clear about your life.

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Here’s a summary:

Whether due to Covid  or other events in your life, significant emotional events lead to conflict which has the ability to create changes in our neurology and programming.

  • Parts – where part of us believes one thing and part of us believes another. Or sometimes we believe one thing and sometimes we believe another. Its exhausting and affects our ability to make decisions.
  • Values changes – maybe things such as security and health have become more important and these conflict with values that you used to have
  • Beliefs – maybe we have adopted beliefs that limit us or maybe empower us? How resilient are you?

The techniques in NLP can remove conflict really easily, realigning your memories, values and beliefs with your goals so there is NO CONFLICT. And in a very comfortable way.

The ways that I help people to resolve these challenges are by 1:1 coaching, Breakthrough Coaching and NLP Training, where you also learn how to use these skills yourself.

Get in touch to find out how you can resolve conflict right now.

Until next week,

Dr Bridget – making you whole again.

 

 

How do you Maintain your Boundaries?

How do You Maintain Your Boundaries?

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How do you keep your boundaries?

Hi – This prescription is something that I talk to my 1:1 clients about and those on my courses. This is because you can be in a really positive place and then something will lower your mood and undo all of the personal development that you have undertaken. And it’s important for you to consider boundaries as well!

First you need to know what a boundary is. A boundary is something that stops you from feeling positive and stops you from going where you are going. It can either be a person or an environment or something that you see on social media or the news. Maybe watching politics or disasters on the news or going to a networking event where you feel uncomfortable could be a boundary. I also know that there are people who suck my energy out of me- I call them mood hoovers- and they are boundaries for me.

Watch the video and then read under the video to decide what  your boundaries are and how to keep them.

Ask yourself:

  • What are your boundaries?
  • If you don’t know, make a list
  • Notice when you feel glum or your mood lowers
  • Let people know what your boundaries are.
  • Let go of the fear about telling people and if you can’t maybe they are a boundary.

Let me know if you can’t put a boundary in or can’t tell people about them as there is a liklehood that they will stop  you achieving what you want to achieve. And at some stage in the future you will wish  you had been firmer and put thoat boundary in.

Until next week,

Dr Bridget – helping you to get where you want.

P.S We are now booking for the next NLP courses whcih are in 3 months time

 

 

How to Develop your Recovery Strategy

Recovery Strategy

Recovery

Recovery Strategy

Hello!

It’s important to have a recovery strategy so that when life gets in the way and you feel negative emotions or eally low, you can recover from that quickly. I’ve had a lot of conversations with people recently, including during a supervision session of one of my NLP graduates. They were feeling low and full of self doubt because of something that had happened. I helped them develop a recovery strategy so that if it happened again, they would recover a great state of mind really quickly.

Have a look at the video and answer the questions below

So, I’m assuming you have goals and plans and know what’s important to you and have some boundaries? If not, have a look at some of my other videos or let me know you’d like a chat. Even when we have these, life happens around us and we can have a wobble or crisis. (I’ve been there). If you’ve worked with me, you will have unconscious strategies that will help and sometimes we need to make them conscious. Some people are reflectors and will go away and perhaps write things down and reflect and that will help. Other people will take action straight away – maybe reinforce boundaries, talk to people about how they feel, get rid of anything or anyone that is adding to the negativity. I do a mixture. When I think about it my strategy goes like this

Feel low  —   Acknowledge it — Think about the trigger — think about what has worked in the past —tell someone how I feel —- take action  —- feel empowered

So my questions for you are:

  1. Make sure you have compeeling goals and plans to get there
  2. Think about the reason or the trigger for feeling down
  3. Think about how you recover from that down
  4. Write it down
  5. Use it when needed – Rinse and repeat

If you need help, get in touch – contact form

If you’d like to learn new skills, get in touch- NLP courses

If you are stuck and can’t do this on your own, get in touch – Breakthrough therapy