What you Need to know about your Values?

Your Values – knowing about them is important!

ValuesI was recently asked to give a talk to  a group of women who want to be more successful and I chose the subject of values. This is because they are so important in driving your success in life or even driving you down a road that you don’t want to go down.  I’ve given you access to a values elicitation tool here so that you can find out yours.

Values are your motivators, your drivers. They are usually in place by the age of 7 and can then get changed as life happens and we change our beliefs. watch the video below and then read the rest of the reasons for the importance of  knowing your values below the video. Remember to download your Values tool.

If you know what your values are you can really use them in the following ways:

  • Tick them – so use them in your life, business, career or relationships. Mine for my business are Determination, Fun, Clarity and Making a difference and I make sure that I “tick”those every day and then feel happy with  my progress.
  • Live by them. So I measure my decisions in terms of whether they are ticking my values – It’s so much easier to make those decisions then.
  • Explain to others what they are. When I do this they understand me and “get” me which I find really helpful.
  • Be able to find out what other’s values are. This means that you can tick theirs in your interactions with them, which makes life so much more interesting and relationships are stronger.
  • Know whether yours are useful for you – sometimes people have values which have “no movement” such as honesty, ethics, creativity and freedom. Lovely and if you think about it, not very useful to push a business or career forward. Maybe having something such as Purpose or Determination may move people more – what do you think? I put determination at the top of mine, which is easy to do with NLP

It’s what we teach people to be able to do in our NLP trainings or on a one to one coaching basis – just contact me on my contact page

Here’s the link for the Values tool – let me know what  your results are.

Have a great week and see you next week

Dr Bridget

How people around you have helped create your story

Story

Generations

Recently I’ve written for Psychologies Magazine about  a theme that’s close to my heart – “Rewriting your Story”. It was in the June 2018 issue in the dossier section if you want to find it. I’ve also been doing some Face Book lives for them which has been welcomed by readers and watchers.

Rewriting your story is about  how your values and beliefs create your story- that chatter that you have in your head that leads to your behaviour and your actions. And then starting to rewrite it, if it is not working for you.

People also have an influence on this and this can be from generations ago. If you think about it, maybe your Gran or Grandad and the story they had, may have an impact on you. Sometimes they are involved directly in bringing you up  or have influenced your parents. I have a lot of clients who’s parents have adopted behaviours and attitudes from their parents – remember the “Children should be seen and not heard”  beliefs from a couple of generations ago. Also, your parents may have had a challenging upbringing which has directly affected the way they brought you up.

Or maybe you have had generations of love and support and then find yourself in a relationship where people put less value on family and support?

Of course, other people around you today contribute to you story- your peers, colleagues, friends, clients.

Watch the video below and then ask yourself the questions below it:

Ask yourself these questions:

  • Are you happy with your “story”?
  • Who has influenced who you are today?
  • Are you happy with that story?
  • If not, can you move on?

Get in touch with me here or give me a ring on 07973 635102 if not.

You can also book an appointment here. 

If you have a story that doesn’t help you, there are plenty of ways that I can help and that will start with a  session to talk about what is going on for you and how I can help.

Until next week, happy re-writing!

Dr Bridget