Is Painting by Numbers useful?

Painting by Numbers – Is there a plan like this?

Painting by NumbersDid you used to make models or do painting by numbers when  you were little – or may be you still do? I’ve just noticed that you can get painting by numbers for adults!!! EXCITING

NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) is based on modeling. It has come from unpicking the values, beliefs and strategies that excellent therapists have and installing it in ourselves to create tools and attitudes that work.

I was working with a breakthrough client who was getting in his own way and wanted a million pound business to sell on. He told me that “There is no such thing as a painting by numbers plan”. So I thought about it and we both felt that that was a limiting belief which we then removed. But it started me thinking- which is always interesting!

Watch the video and have a think about the questions below it.

If you think about a painting by numbers kit, there is a picture of the final result on the outside, there is a key – or a set of instructions – that tell us what to do and in what order and a set of brushes to do it with – right? And if we follow it then we will get the same picture that is on the outside

I think that some of us are guilty of knowing what works and then doing something else, so what if we simply followed the plan that worked before and expected to get the same result?

That would be fab wouldn’t it?

So have a think – Is there something that you have done in the past that has worked really well? And could you follow the same steps in the same order again to get the same result?

Create a Painting by Numbers plan?

Let me know and have fun thinking – it’s probably right there in front of you!

Let me know if you need to breakthrough your limitations so that you can do painting by numbers plans! Here’s my contact me page and here’s my breakthrough coaching information page

Until next week,

Dr Bridget – helping you to get results quickly

 

 

 

remembering

How to Improve Remembering – top tips

Top Tips for Remembering

rememberingWe are learning every hour, every day, every conversation and I suspect that we don’t practice remembering the things that are useful to remember.

Life goes on and there are so many opportunities to learn. Sometimes we read things on-line, hard copy books, kindle books and we also listen to audios and watch things on social media. And we have many conversations. And we all learn in different ways. Watch the video below and then decide if you are going to follow my tip to remember effectively.

Ebbinghaus in 1885 published his forgetting curve hypothesis. He said that memory is not durable and that we forget things we learn in as little as an hour and, certainly by a day we’ve lost over 50% of these things. He also talks about how to keep your memory strong so that we can retain it for longer. I was running a mastermind group on this very topic last week and we concluded that learning material is so readily available to us on-line that maybe we make less effort to retain what we read or listen to.

We all committed to writing down the main 3 things that we learn every time we read or listen to something or have a conversation with someone.

If we did that then, we would increase the amount of time that we remembered things.

TIP – Write down 3 important things that you have learned after every reading, listening or conversation.  Go back over what you have learned, that is important to you to retain, at the end of every day, or whatever time scale is practical to you.

Dr Bridget- remembering myself to you!

See you next week

P.S you can access a free session with me to have a conversation and find out how I can help you

 

Behaviour

Behaviour – The Purpose of It

What is the purpose of our behaviour?

Behaviour

Behaviour

Have you ever thought about the positive reasons for your behaviour or another person’s behaviour? If you do, and fully understand that it has a positive intention for you or that person, then life becomes very interesting. In fact fascinating!

In our NLP courses, Presuppositions – assumptions that are really useful to achieve our full potential, are taught at the very beginning. One of these is “Behaviour always has a positive intention”

So whatever behaviour you see in people or notice in yourself, there will always be a good reason for doing it.

Watch the video and then think about  your own behaviour and ask the questions:

I was talking to a client recently who kept getting dragged back to  negative events and emotions in the past – so I asked them what was the purpose of thinking those thoughts and doing that behaviour. Once they had analysed the question – because it’s not a normal question that we get asked- they said that they didn’t want to repeat the experience again. The purpose of not wanting to repeat that again was to get peace, which in turn would get them motivation and then success.

So the purpose of reliving that negative experience, in the end, was to get success. So I asked them if there was another way for them to get success and they realised that they could let go of the negative experiences and take positive action instead – a light bulb moment!

There are a lot of other examples that you see around you. Kids tantrums are a great example- frustration getting them attention  possibly?

Any of the  negative emotions such as anger, sadness, fear,  hurt and guilt will be things that we do for a reason. Once we realise what the intention is for a behaviour that we don’t want, we can always find other ways to satisfy that intention.

I was lazing around at the weekend – I felt I deserved it  and that if I rested and recharged, the week would be more productive.  And I started work on Monday and it was pandemonium! If I’d thought about it in a different way and  had done some work or admin instead, the week would also have gone better.

So. I’m going to ask  you – “Have you got something going on which you don’t want to do but has a positive intention?” If you find that intention, you may be able to tick it in a different way  than doing that behaviour. If you are thinking, I don’t know what she’s on about or want to chat your intentions of behaviours through, then let me know via my contact page or give me a  ring on 07973 635102.

If you want to learn some more NLP, here’s a link for my courses.

See you next  week –

Dr Bridget – helping you analyse your behaviour

How to Increase the Flexibility of your Language

Increasing the Flexibility of your Language

language

Words

The meaning of our language is the response that we get – an interesting concept which is key to how we communicate.

Maybe you have regular conversations with people and feel as though you are on a “different page” with them or always get the same response during a conversation-not the one you want.

Maybe you are either a big picture person or a detailed person and find it difficult talking to the opposite. I’m a big picture person who tends to be a bit vague with my language. I find that talking to people who are more detailed tends to hurt my head and create brain fog. I expect people who are detailed have the same reaction to my language as well. So its  important that we can change our language for this reason.

Using your language at a big picture level is useful in terms of being abe to gain agreement and negotiate with people.  For instance we can all agree that its important to be happy.

Getting more detailed with your language enables you to recover information and solve problems by knowing precisely what is happening.

The questions to use to get increasing detail or vague language  are below the video.

Lets take a statement such as “I want more clients”

This is a middling chunk size statement – so neither vague or detailed- and it also has a deletion in it as we don’t know what more means.

Let’s chunk up from the statement to get a big picture/ambiguous response. The questions would be

  • What is the purpose for getting more clients?
  • What will more clients give you?

Perhaps the answer would be to give motivation, success, and confidence. Asking the same questions again – these will enable you to support your family, go on holiday and asking again, these will enable you to reach your full potential and have your rightful place in life. So we’ve gone from wanting more clients to reaching your full potential.

Let’s chunk down from the statement to get more detail or to solve a problem

The questions would be:

  • How many specifically
  • Who specifically
  • What sort of client

They give more detail and clarity which  you need when setting goals

You may find out you need 10 clients a month, that they are business owners who feel stuck, and that they live within 10 miles of you. All useful things to think about.

Give it a go and if you have any questions – let me know

We teach communication skills on  my NLP courses – click here for more details

See you next week.

Dr Bridget – creating your flexibility.

 

 

 

Overthinking – How to Change the Channel

What to do about Overthinking

Overthinking

Overthinking is very common and can be an issue which causes mental health challenges, lack of sleep and it also stops us from solving problems. I always  remember the time, a couple of years ago, when I was standing in the kitchen with so many things going on in my head and it kept me rooted to the ground and stuck! That was a physical manisfestation of over thinking. It lead to procrastination and stopped me from sleeping.

Have a watch of the video below, and then read about the ways to stop the overthinking and change the channel, to one of a peaceful and focused mind


These are the main ways that I use and teach my clients to use:

  1. Notice all of the chatter- rather than just keeping overthinking. Become aware of it when it happens.
  2. Focus on solving the problem – use time management and productivity tools like the pomodora technique. Plan your month, week, day and hours. Write lists and prioritise. Journaling helps.
  3. Challenge the beliefs  you have that may not be true. If you think “I’m not good enough” or “I’ll never be able to do that”, you may be wrong and it may be a result of past programming and protecting yourself from past hurts.
  4. Schedule time for reflection. So journaling, meditation, mindfulness are very useful.
  5. Time Line Therapy (R) is an American Board of NLP technique which is extremely effective and removes major negative emotions and any limiting beliefs from your thinking. It’s amazing how effective this is and how the overthinking simply stops leaving you room to live your life to your full potential, Ask me for more information.

If you are struggling, let me know. You can fill in the contact form here, or book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access that free half hour with me

See you next week

Dr Bridget – clearing your thinking