What Distractions are Stopping You?

Distractions

Distractions

I’m curious – do you have any distractions that are stopping you doing what you want to do – that are stopping you living your life, from running your business or your furthering your career?

I was reading a Daniel Pink article about mobile phones recently – he recommended  using it as a tool only  and also – here’s a good tip-  leaving your phone with your keys so that its not always with you and only used when really  needed. And it started me thinking about what else could be distracting us?

Watch the video below and then read the sorts of things that may be distracting you underneath the video

Is there anything in  your environment that distracts you? – mess ( hold my hands up to this one) , phones, people, reminders, dogs?

How about your behaviour? – I think we can all start doing things that we know are a distraction but we just enjoy doing them. An example for me would be to look down by the river and see the sun and go and sit down there on the bench – I think I put it down to  looking after myself, but if I was honest, it’s probably also because there’s things to do that I don’t want to do at the time.

Being aware of your behaviour and other’s behaviours is very important. I always remember a friend who’s partner drove her to distraction – he would make a point of coming into the room when she was writing and no amount of locks or instructions on paper stuck on the door would stop him. And she made choices and he’s now gone.

Sometimes I talk to people that think they don’t have the skills they need, so they concentrate on that rather than the ones that they do have. We often have been on courses or have books or simply have told ourselves we don’t have the skills we need- when we really do. And things don’t need to be perfect!

Beliefs can be distracting and give us loads of negative chatter – I’m not good enough, I’ve got to keep others happy, If its not perfect I can’t use it, I’m not worthy and so on……….

Once we know what’s important to us – our values – living in line with them is important because when we aren’t then we don’t feel happy and  get distracted.

Not being who we want to be at an identity level is very distracting as we tend to feel rubbish a lot of the time.

How about doing a task together?

Notice one thing that you REALLY want to do. Then decide if you have any distractions that are stopping you from doing it and do something about the distractions.

Let me know how that goes in the comments.

If you can’t do something about it, let me know, as un-useful habits and thinking are easily sorted on either courses of which there are 4 a year

or also by working one to one with me.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – keeping those distractions away

Skills

What Skills are you Lacking?

What Skills are you Lacking?

Skills

There are many sorts of skills that we think we need, which include practical, thinking and communication skills. Of course,within the NLP presuppositions, there is also an assumption that we already have all of the skills that we need within us. We may of course have forgotten about them or disregarded them or not believe that we have them. And also people feel as though they have not enough of them leading to imposter syndrome, or that they aren’t good enough or they are not perfect enough, or it’s not the right time.

Watch the video and  read about how to get the skills below:

  • Practical skills have often been learned and forgotten and may be sitting in a folder or book or manual on the shelf where you have forgotten about them. Perhaps you could go through your shelf and resurrect them?
  • Thinking – people often have limiting beliefs that they think are true and limit their results in business, life and relationships. These are easily sorted – just get in touch. Our thoughts usually work really effectively for us if we face the future. What I mean by this is to go for what you want rather than moving away from what we don’t want. An example of this would be wanting success rather than not wanting failure. The ability to create positive states and bring them up when needed is also huge – this is called anchoring and is taught on my NLP Practitioner course. this means that you can bring up confidence, determination, strength and many other emotions just when you need them – so useful!
  • Communication. The meaning of your communication is the result that you get. So if you are not getting the resuts that you want and are not getting into rapport with others, you need to develop flexibility. This is gained by truly understanding how we communicate and how to increase flexibility in how we use language. Also noticing the communication that you get from others and being able to analyse and work with that communication is a key skill.

So you have your goals, what else do you need?

Let me know if you need help to get these skills, particularly those which are emotional or thinking or related to communication. It’s what I’m all about.

Until next week – keep on learning!

See you then.

Dr Bridget, giving you skills for life

 

Stuff

So You Think You Know Something and then Stuff Happens

Stuff Happens

Stuff

Stuff

Hi. I was watching Andrew Marr the other day – a political show on BBC 1 on a Sunday- and he stood up and said “You think you know something and then stuff happens!”  I thought  “That’s deep” and then thought “That applies to our lives as well!” Sometimes our train track in life changes and we think “Wooh – how did that happen?”

So I thought I’d ask you a few  questions:

  • Are you on the right train track or has someone changed the points to put you on a different track?
  • Also – if that has happened, is that ok?
  • Did you have any responsibility at all for the change of track?
  • In fact, how is your track at the moment?

And what do you do when someone changes the points to put you on a different track?

Watch the video and then think about the points below:


The thing is – stuff happens to test us and our resolve and we can have wobbles as a result!

The important things to remember are:

Once you have discovered these things and are certain about them, then whatever track you are on, you will be fine. And if others are on a different track, give them a wave and wish them well. It’s your track and the most important thing is to be happy with it.

If you have any problems discovering these things, or are on a track that doesn’t make you happy, then let me know and book an appointment to talk it through – it’s free.

Until next time,

Dr Bridget – helping you find  your track

P.S  There is still time to book on the next NLP Practitioner course – Click here

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Modeling

How to get Confidence, Self Belief and Determination by Modelling

Modelling Self Belief, Confidence, and Determination

Modeling

Modelling

If you want to be confident, believe in your self and be really determined, then there are many ways to do this. Using NLP is an excellent way  and the whole of NLP is based on modelling experts who were already getting results with clients and patients

One of the quickest ways to get these states or behaviours is to model someone that does this really well. This means finding an expert in those behaviours and then unpicking how they do it at an unconscious level. Have a watch of the video to find out more and then to see how people have modelled the confidence, self belief and determination to break a board in about 1/2 hour.

In order to model someone, you need to be able to elicit their beliefs, values and behaviours at an unconscious level and then instal them in your self so that you can precisely copy what they do.

The Master Practitioner course in NLP has a modelling section within it where people model things such as Playing the Cello, Knitting, French Plaiting and also Playing Golf. The participants are then able to model the Breaking of a Board in about 1/2 hour – you  can see them do that on the video – it’s very impressive and they are very proud! (as are we!)

If you want to know more about modelling, then let me know. If it is a particular issue with confidence, self-belief or determination, then you can either come and work 1:1 with me or can come on an NLP course -either will help sort that out.

Once you have mastered the skills of modelling, simply being taught will know longer be an option!

Until next week,

Dr Bridget, enabling people to break through limitations

Fly on the wall

How Being a Fly on the Wall Can be Really Helpful

Being a Fly On The Wall

Fly on the wall

Fly on the wall

I expect, as someone who likes mindset and growth, you’ve heard of this technique, so I thought I’d give you some more reasons to give it a go.  It sounds a bit weird – the being a fly thing – but it’s really useful. A lot of people use it as a protection from being really stuck in negative feelings that may be uncomfortable and that’s not always  helpful in the long term. However, that implies that you can be more objective when doing it and that’s really what I am proposing you use it for.

Have a watch of the video where I talk about what it is and how to use it.

The reason for this blog came from a client who has been doing really well in their business. However, he had allowed a negative perception of someone else’s behaviour to anger him. And it was having a negative effect on his business, his relationships and his life. He was sabotaging his success and blaming it on someone else.

We talked it through and I asked him to observe himself, sitting with me, being really angry. It changed his perception within 5 minutes and he realised what he was doing. And decided to keep his boundaries and take different action. Sometimes it doesn’t take very long to realise, once you have some help to realise what you are doing.

It’s a technique called Perceptual Positions in NLP and I teach it on my courses.

Here’s what to do.

Pretend that you are a fly on the wall looking at yourself doing what you are doing. Ask yourself “What is there to learn from what I can see of my interactions and behaviours? Could I do things in a different way to get different results?”

Click here to find out more about my courses. Of course, working one to one with me also allows you to realise and move towards your full potential. Get in touch if you want to find out more.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – giving you the ability to fly!