What Do you Need to Let Go of?

What do You Need to Let Go Of

Let go

Let Go

There I was – again- looking at the mess of papers from my admin session and shutting the door and walking away. The next morning I know I would regret that recurring habit. So I know I needed to let go of doing that. And we can let go of un-useful thoughts, emotions and behaviours if we just become aware of them and make that decision. Have a look at the video below and then have a think about want you want to let go of.

Have a think about what habit is stopping you getting what you want, either emotionally or practically? And just Let Go of it. Become aware of behaviours and thoughts that are holding you back and just make a decision to  let go of them. It then leaves space for the more empowering thoughts and behaviours in your life

Examples of thoughts that might be helpful to let go of are:

  • I’m not good enough
  • It will never happen
  • Its too much bother – that’s mine
  • I’ve go to keep everyone happy

Examples of behaviours to stop – and there a re many more

  • Not finishing things
  • Starting things that aren’t helpful
  • Saying yes when you mean no

Let me know what you are going to give up this week in the comments below – click here for a chat if you are not sure how – and I will see you next week.

Dr Bridget

 

 

How to say NO to people and why

How to say No to people and why

Just say No

Say No

This is an important topic because if you do say no, you will get:

  • Head space for what really want to do and will be completely in charge of your life

• Real fulfilment and enjoyment of your life with none of these ups and down moments

And if you don’t say no. you will become overwhelmed, have low mood and be kicking yourself when  you wake up in the night with everything going round and round in your head and lose any time you have to look after yourself.

 

What can you say No to? Watch the video below and have a think about what you can take action on.

Say No to

  • Other peoples baggage – moaning, negativity, reasons and excuses
  • Things that make you angry
  • Work that you hate
  • Business processes or relationships that you hate
  • Toxic relationships – here’s a link to a video about my ABCD tool. Mood hoovers are the Ds – They have a different model of the world and that is fine but if its having a negative affect on your health or your emotions, get rid of them or neutralise them- Just say NO
  • Hanging onto the past – Things have happened and you have put things into your head. The past is gone, the present is the present and the future hasn’t happened yet so let go and notice the things that are around you and be present.

Is there anything that I have forgotten? Let me know and also let me know what you plan to do to start saying NO. If you need any help, just go here and book a free session with me to start that journey.

 

See you next week with another prescription for success.

Dr Bridget

How Do You Get to Know Your Strengths?

Strengths – they are worth knowing

Know Your Strengths

Know Your Strengths

Knowing my strengths is another piece of information to add to my knowledge about myself.  To be honest, I thought I knew my strengths but I found doing the exercise very interesting and I had a lot of light bulb moments!  The web site to find them out is www.gallupstrengthcentre.com so you can go on there and get your strengths. It’s really really interesting!

If you know your strengths you can actually work with them. You can understand yourself and acknowledge who you are and take any action that you need to, or not. You can use it to take action yourself or you can use it to take action with your team, to share with your team, your partner, your boss or whoever.

Watch the video below and listen to what I found out and how I am going to use them.

My strengths are:

  • Individualisation
  • Maximiser
  • Ideation
  • Futuristic
  • Self-assurance

Individualisation means that I’m able to spot people’s differences to get them to work effectively with themselves and with others.That’s what I do, so it’s great that it’s my top strength!

A Maximiser wants everything to be as good as it can be, so it’s not a perfectionist- just pushing to get better quality and make it as good as I can. So hopefully these blogs and videos are demonstrating that or maybe not?

Ideation means that I’ve got a lot more ideas than most people which can be really useful and can be a little bit of a drawback – I’m always off here there and everywhere doing this and that. I probably need someone to bring me back and say well this is actually what we agreed to do and let’s just park those ideas.

Futuristic is great for a coach and  trainer, because I look forward into the future all the time.

Self-assurance – I feel quite self-assured and that’s how I need to come over for my clients and you.

I’m about to share my strengths with my husband and my team and we will all wait and see what they say about mine, and I’d like them to do theirs.

Leave me some comments, let me know what your strengths are and any thoughts that you have as a a result of finding out.  If you need any help with going through your strengths, then I do a free surgery session, so give me a shout on 01656 347027 or 07973 635102 or go to my website and fill in the form to have a free chat with me.

Let’s get going, let’s use our strengths, and really go for it. I’m certainly going to do that!!

Until next week – happy strength hunting!

Dr Bridget

GETTING WELL-FORMED OUTCOMES IS REAL GOAL-SETTING, SAYS DR BRIDGET

GLOBAL superstar Usain Bolt triumphed at the World Athletics Championships this month.

Yet their medal glories from that tournament in London showed precisely why goal-setting is crucial to everyone whether in personal life or business.

An intriguing documentary this month gave an insight into the trials and tribulations of multiple sprinting superstar Bolt, the injuries, the hours of intense training and the cheeky personality which turned him into the most loved sporting icon since boxing star Muhammed Ali was in his prime.

Bolt retired from athletics last weekend, having reached his goal, but too many people, whether in business or personal life, do not even set targets to aim for due to a variety of reasons, let alone go for them

But, says Dr Bridget Kirsop, one of Wales leading Certified NLP Trainers and a Master Coach, goals and the timeline of how and when to reach them are fundamental to everyone’s lives.

A study by top Ivy League institution Harvard Business School said: “Think about an athlete who practices every day for his big competition … setting goals drives him through to his desired accomplishment.

“It is worth reminding ourselves that goal-setting costs little or nothing and can aid successful results in our lives.”

As many business owners return to work from their summer holidays this month, Dr Bridget believes they should take some time to sit down and reassess their goals and targets for the coming months.

Through her Neuro Linguistic Programming courses and training, Dr Bridget, who is based in South Wales, has helped hundreds of people set their goals and ambitions for a brighter future in personal and business life.

Dr Bridget, who has herself reviewed her business targets recently and is working intensely towards her defined outcomes, said: “If you want to be successful, it is really important to find out what you want to achieve. If you haven’t got a really compelling idea of what you want to achieve, it can be very difficult to take focused and consistent action

“Once you have developed the skills of making the outcomes to your goals compelling, it becomes much easier to take the action and to achieve what you want.”

Dr Bridget reasons that these ‘outcomes’ must be well formed so that they are ‘represented in your mind in a way that makes it easy to achieve’.

Her six-point plan of making these outcomes well formed, which include ensuring they are viewed as positive and under your own control instead of in the control of others can be worked through with Dr Bridget by booking an appointment with her.

Talk to Dr Bridget about goal setting and NLP by book your free session.

Capture and Share- How Doing a Weekly Review Helps You to Grow

Collect and Share

Capture and share

Capturing and sharing information helps you to reflect and grow. In this video, I explain the sort of things that I collect, capture and share and make a commitment to do more sharing with you – find out in what way I’ll do that by watching the video. at the bottom of this post. I’ve attached a sharing tool for you to share your weekly experiences here.– Capturing and Sharing

I find that I gather so much information throughout the week and those are things that either help me or challenge me. I feel that these things, if shared, are likely to be useful to other people who may be going through the same or similar experiences. In general, I tend to keep things to myself-I’m not sure why-however I know that they crowd my thinking and sit in my head for quite a time sometimes. It can be uncomfortable.

Maybe you are like this as well? Things that contribute to this way of thinking may be:-

  • There’s no-one to share with
  • People won’t understand me – I’ve tried often enough
  • I’m the only one experiencing this
  • Its weak to be open
  • I’ll be taken advantage of if I share
  • Lots of reasons and excuses

What if you did share?

  • People would be attracted to you – or if not, you can ditch them!
  • People would understand me – how can they if you don’t share?
  • You’d find other people are experiencing the same sort of things – good and less good
  • You would be strong and value yourself for your experiences and opinions
  • You’d get a grip on your boundaries so that people don’t take advantage of you
  • You’d grow and learn ad take responsibility for your life

Watch the video here and let me know what you think of my idea please

 

If you captured your daily insights and thoughts that are important, would that help if you shared them with someone? Have a look at the tool I’ve designed and let me know what you think.     Capturing and Sharing

If you want to get in touch, you can do that by clicking here

Until next time, happy capturing and sharing!

Dr Bridget