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What does personal growth mean?
I’m really passionate about personal growth and I’m always really curious about what enables people to grow, and what enables me to grow (as I’m always growing).
So I thought that in this week’s Prescription for Success I’d talk about what personal growth means and consider some key components of personal growth. Watch the video and have a think about your own personal growth.
I think it’s about your knowledge, your skills and competency in a particular area of your life. Maybe in an area where you want to be able to think and feel and grow to be really excellent to get the results that you want in your life.
There are certain components to this. In my view there’s:
- Self-awareness – is about being aware of your own qualities and other people’s qualities so that you are in control.
- Self-confidence -is being aware of your strengths and weaknesses so you can do whatever you want to do and reach your goals.
- Self-love – is your ability to take care of yourself and to love yourself which gives you a feeling of self-worth.
- Self-acceptance is about accepting yourself on the journey as you are now. I always think of personal growth as a journey and whether you think you’ve got there or you are on the way, you can accept yourself for where you are and take some lessons as things happen.
- Self-compassion – is when you take care of yourself no matter what happens – so be compassionate if you make a mistake or other people think you make a mistake and just say to yourself “that’s fine”. Say “I’m on the journey of personal growth and I’ll learn from that”
- Self-reliance – That’s being able to rely on yourself and not be dependent on other people and be at cause (in charge of your feelings and decisions).
So that to me is what personal growth is.
If you are struggling with this then get in touch because I do a free half-hour where we can have a chat about any of those things that you want to improve. In particular, my NLP course is all about gaining excellence and being the person you want to be so be sure to get in touch.
Until next week,
Dr Bridget – growing each day and loving it.
How to maintain your focus
Your emotional state affects your focus.
You can call your emotional focus an emotional state and even a behaviour as it is something you do.
What happens is that what you see, hear, feel and say to yourself is filtered and becomes your reality. That then creates an emotional state which then creates your behaviour.
In this week’s Prescription for Success I discuss how to maintain your focus and consider how your emotional state affects your behaviour and hence impacts on your focus. Watch the video and let me know what you think.
If you want a focused behaviour then you need a good emotional state, you need positivity rather than negativity. In a previous blog we talked about how to get rid of your negative feelings and experiences, limiting beliefs and behaviours so that you can become positive.
I was talking with someone recently, who has done a significant amount of work with me, and because he didn’t have much sleep the night before he was in a physiological state that also created an emotional state that was a bit negative. So, he was feeling a bit stuck, had some doubts and he wasn’t taking all the action that he needed to.
After talking it through he realised that he was taking a huge amount of action to get a significant goal however he just needed a few systems around it. As we talked, his emotional state changed to positive so we anchored that emotional state and he can now go through the day feeling positive.
In order to maintain your focus you need a positive emotional state. It comes from your physiology, your reality and from removing all the things in the past that we discussed in the previous blog.
So if you are having trouble maintaining your emotional state to be positive then get in touch it’s quite easy to sort out using Time Line Therapy and some other NLP techniques
If you are a coach or someone who wants to learn these techniques then I do four NLP practitioner courses a year and I also train up to ‘Trainers training’ so that you can train other people to do these things.
If you are interested just book an appointment and we can have a chat about how I can help whether its for you personally or for you to work with other people.
Until next week,
How your motivation helps you focus
In order to focus, you need some sort of motivation.
Our motivations are either ‘towards’ what we want or they are ‘away’ from what we don’t want.
In this week’s Prescription for Success I explain how ‘away’ and ‘towards’ motivations influence us and help us to focus. Are your motivations ‘away from’ or ‘towards’? Watch the video and let me know what you think.
If you’ve had some things happen to you in the past that are particularly upsetting or have given you negative emotions – anger, sadness, fear, hurt or guilt, or you’ve developed some really powerful negative beliefs, these can stop you from focusing on your motivations.
What happens is you become attracted to these negatives and you get stuck in the past so you’re motivated by the things you don’t want to happen. Your past is driving you to the future but it’s s still there.
Alternatively, when you’re focused on your future and what you really want in your future then it’s really easy to move forward.
‘Away’ and ‘towards’ motivations are really key to focus.
You can get rid of the ‘away’ from motivations by doing something like Timeline Therapy or any other NLP techniques that deal with emotions and values. Then your values will become clean, and uncluttered by the past and you’ll be able to move forward into the future. You will be totally focused then on your future and enjoying the present taking the action you need. That’s what I do in Breakthrough Therapy and also what I teach on NLP courses.
So if you’re interested in this or if you feel like you’re not really heading towards the motivations you want and you’re stuck in the past and finding it difficult to focus then get in touch as I can sort that out for you really quickly.
Until next week,
Where to put your focus
I recently worked with quite a few clients who were putting their focus in a place where they didn’t want to. They wanted to put their focus in the ‘now’ or in the future rather than in the past however, they were focusing on the past.
Quite often these people have a really nice life and they are doing really well but they have just created a story for themselves about how much better their life would be if their past was different.
In the week’s Prescription for Success I share with you how you can change your focus from the past to the future so that you can live the life you want and enjoy the now. Watch the video and let me know what you think.
I tidy up the past because the programming from the past puts beliefs, decisions and negative emotions, that might be limiting, into your head. To go for the future and what you really want then you’ve got to tidy up the past. So in order to tidy up the past so that you can create a future and do what you really want to do or even just be in the now, I use a process called Time Line Therapy. It doesn’t take very long, just a few hours and is done in the context of a consultation in an intensive coaching session over a period of a couple of days.
The past becomes no longer relevant and you can just move on and enjoy the now and go for the joy in life. If that’s what you are looking for and you just want to ‘tidy up’ the past then just get in touch I do a free 30 minute consultation and we can get it sorted for you really quickly.
Until next week,
Dr Bridget – Focusing on the now!
How to Change Your Reality
This subject is totally fascinating, you change your reality by the process of filtering:
- your emotions,
- your experiences
- your memories
- your values and beliefs
- and your language
We also use something called meta programmes in NLP.
By doing this filtering we create a reality and that reality doesn’t always work for us.
In this week’s Prescription for Success I share with you an NLP process that can change your reality from something that is an ‘unwanted reality’ to a ‘wanted reality’. Listen to the video and get in touch if you need some help with this.
I always remember, a few years ago I did this process with someone who hated doing their admin – she was neglecting doing her book keeping, and not following up on leads or organising her client information. Although she was very good at her job she hated doing the admin work.
On the flip side she actually loved dancing so we used this to help her.
Firstly we identify ‘unwanted behaviour’ and elicited what we see, hear and feel. Then, we identify the ‘wanted behaviour’ and elicited what we see, hear and feel. You will find that the components of each are completely different but by using NLP techniques you can change the list. So, you can make the ‘unwanted behaviour’ have the same components as the ‘wanted behaviour’. You can switch the visuals, auditories and the kinesthetics so that the unwanted behaviour looks and feels like the wanted one
After undertaking this process with my client she went home and actually tidied up her home, did all her admin and paid her tax bill within 24 hours and it just felt like dancing.
I’ve also worked with another couple of people recently who were not being who they wanted to be or had been in the past. So together we elicited the ‘unwanted behaviour’ the ‘unwanted personality’ then we elicited what they ‘used to be’ what they ‘wanted to be’ and we just swapped it over so that person just became what they always were in the past. And it was really effective for them.
It’s quite a quick process and takes approximately half an hour. So, if there is something that you want to change that’s fairly simple then get in touch as I do a free half an hour call to start with to see what we need to do then we can actually do that process.
We also cover these processes on our NLP Courses so if you’d like to learn them then click here to find out more.
Until next week,
Dr Bridget – being exactly who I want to be.
Crossroads – how do you evaluate them?
As an unsticker, I often get people coming to me and saying that they are at a crossroads and can’t make the decision which way to go. And I’m guessing that many of us have been there over the last few years and have had to change what we do and how we do it.
When you stand at a crossroads, there are 4 directions – Back, sideways x 2, and a forward. Right?
And how do you make the decision which way to go? A lot of people get stuck at this point.
Have a look at the video and then find out more below.
When you have decided what you would like to have as a magic wand outcome for a years time, then turn and check whether there is anything in the past or to the side of the crossroads that you would like to bring with you.
Then check whether the direction that you are facing is more compelling in your mind than the other directions.
Once you are clear on which way you are going, then you can start and there will no longer be a crossroad there.
If you are stuck and really don’t know what to do, then let me know and I can help you to decide and get rid of anything internally that’s stopping you. I can be your unsticker. Click here to find out how.
The reason that people get stuck are:
- Lack of self belief
- Lack of feeling that you are worth doing what you want to do
- Feeling that it’s easier to stay where you are even though that’s uncomfortable
- Lack of support
- Lack of accountability
I’m wondering if you are thinking any of those things? If so, get in touch
Until next week,
Dr Bridget – getting you moving in the direction you want
What is in YOUR brain filing cabinet? Is it useful or not?
The memories that we have stored in our brain filing cabinet can be things that our unconscious mind is not aware of – for example, your birth or your first steps.
However you also store memories like:
- your first day of school,
- leaving school,
- first relationships,
- new jobs
These are the standard things that most of us think of as being in our filing cabinet.
But, what if you keep negative memories and feelings in your brain filing cabinet? In this week’s video I explain what happens with these negative memories, how they can hold you back and how you can overcome them to live the life you want.
What negative memories do you keep in your brain filing cabinet?
When I speak with many of my clients they notice that up until the age 3-5 there was no doubt. Then something happened and they experienced doubt. Maybe it was the first time they doubted their parents, who up to that point were thought of as the perfect, all knowing people- their role models. Suddenly, something occurs and they are left wondering can they trust their parents.
There are lots of memories like the first time:
- you lost a loved one,
- you felt rejected,
- you felt you “failed,”
- you labeled yourself in any sort of way
If you are carrying these things around in your filing cabinet then what you tend to do is chain them together. So if you are doubting then this can become chained to other feelings like rejection or failure and you continue to do through life.
It would be really useful if you could just cut that feeling of doubt from the other feelings and move on – start again from where you are now. If you don’t do this, then when something happens you will keep getting pulled back, almost like a bungee cord to those first feelings in the filing cabinet. If we can stop this happening then life becomes much easier.
Neuro Linguistic Programming and Time Line Therapy (R) is a great tool to help disconnect that cord enabling you to go forward with a fresh start.
It’s one of the reasons I do what I do, as it is such an effective and quick process.
So if there is anything that you are keeping in your filing cabinet that you can’t get rid of then just give me a call and we can resolve it really quickly for you. You can then live the life you want and run the business or have the career you want.
Keeping the filing cabinet for more useful and positive memories. You can book an appointment here or my phone number is 07973 635102.
See you next week
Dr Bridget – Helping you to remove negative files!
I’m now booking for my NLP practitioner starting in November – If you’d like to learn more about this fascinating subject and get skills for life, here’s a link. The dates are 5-8th November and 26-29th November 2021 – a total of 8 days. In a retreat type of venue with peacocks!!!!
Are You Thinking Like a Sat Nav?
I expect you’ve noticed that when you follow the directions on a Sat Nav you don’t always arrive where you wanted to arrive. You may end up turning down narrow lanes or even going around in circles however sometimes you may go straight to your desired destination. Having nearly driven into in a river 2 days ago in Somerset, I can really resonate with this!
In this week’s Prescription for Success we’re going to explore the metaphor – Are You Thinking Like a Sat Nav?
Narrow Lanes – Dead Ends – Going around in circles – We’ve all been there!
The Sat Nav can take us down those narrow lanes, down dead ends or even around in circles but why does this happen?
It may be that you haven’t been specific enough with the detail you’ve put into the Sat Nav. You may not have chosen the most appropriate options, for example, the fastest route or the most direct route or even the route that avoids traffic.
Another scenario could be that you become distracted, decide to take a detour and perhaps stop for lunch without saving your destination information into the Sat Nav.
Alternatively you may not really know where you are going.
I know some people like to think about the detail first whereas others may want to know their destination and the big picture first. If you’ve got no idea where you are going then maybe that’s the reason, but does that work for you? Do you really need to know your destination, the postcode etc. How much detail do you need? How are you going to deal with distractions that keep you from your destination?
It’s just a short metaphor to have a think about and have some fun.
If you are having difficulty knowing what you want in life, where your destination is and you’re feeling a bit stuck or distracted then give me a call and we can get this sorted for you in no time. You can book an appointment here or my phone number is 07973 635102.
See you next week
Dr Bridget – setting you back on the right path for you!
I’m now booking for my NLP practitioner starting in November – If you’d like to learn more about this fascinating subject and get skills for life, here’s a link.