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How to stop those last minute panics

Last Minute Panics

Panics

Last Minute Panics

You know the scenario- you’ve had some time to get a task done and have put it off. It’s nearly the deadline and you haven’t really got time to do the task now and you get anxious.  You realise that you could have taken control over  your thoughts and actions at a much earlier stage. Does that sound familiar? And there are other consequences of not getting things done:-

Missing out on getting clients or achieving targets. Feeling rushed and out of control. Doubt creeps in about your abilities. You feel frustrated. You wonder if its all worth it. You don’t enjoy the rest of your life.

Watch the video  below where I give you a couple of quick tips to change this scenario.

 

  • The first tip is to timetable your task into your diary – Every time you get a task to do, particularly when  you know it’s important and that its the sort of thing you’ve put off in the past, get you diary out and put the task into the diary. If its a big task, chunk it down into individual components and put those into your diary. It’s amazing – you will suddenly realise that there are no longer last minute panics. It’ also another way to make sure that you have the capacity to undertake the task or whether you need to make choices.
  • Tip number two is to notice when you put something off when you know you need to do it there and then. There’s that internal chatter that you could start to notice.  So it will probably go something like this “I need to do this task, I’ve got time to do it later,I don’t really want to do it now- Ive got other things that I want to do.” Then you don’t do the task and at some stage in the future, you regret that decision and start to get those last minute panics.

Did you know that all of your behaviour is driven by strategies in your head? If we notice our internal chatter in our head,  you can change it. So, if you are sitting there, reading this blog and thinking that you could make some changes, book onto my NLP Practitioner course or access a complimentary session to have a chat about any un-useful internal chatter that you have.

Happy and organised thoughts are great! Let’s get some more of them!

Until next week

Dr Bridget

 

 

 

Expectation – Good or bad?

expectations become reality

Expectations become Reality

Expectation – good or bad?

I’m going to be controversial.

We want results in life – right?

And is it ok to have what we want – right?

Great Relationships, Wealth, Health, Business or career success, Fun, Happiness, Anything else that we want

Some people believe that expectation leads to sadness and disappointment and I sort of get that, but if you are just leaving things to chance in case you get disappointed, then you are not in charge of your life- after all, your thoughts become your reality so let’s expect good things to happen!!!

Some Questions

Q.Have you ever noticed that the results that you get are directly related to your expectation of what is going to happen?

Q.Have you ever heard that “what you get is what you focus on”?

Q.And could you change your thoughts so that you are fully focused, have amazing goals and take the action needed?

I’ve been thinking about what we need to do to get what we want and have come up with these for you which are for your consideration ?

  • Develop a great emotional state
  • Have an expectation of getting what you want
  • Create goals that are specific and in your mind all of the time
  • Have empowering beliefs in yourself and  your ability to create the life that you want
  • And then take action!

Watch the video where I am at a business show and have an expectation of interacting with people to get a number of new clients that I can help to get success and fulfillment. And then have a think about what might be stopping you from doing this to get something that you want. And leave comments below or get in touch with me

What might be stopping you?

  • A lack of goals?
  • A lack of self belief?
  • A belief that you are not in charge of your life?
  • A negative emotional state?

All of these things that stop you or could be improved can be actioned by accessing a free consultation with me as a starting point.

The real questions are – do you want it enough? Are you worth it?

Until next week, set an expectation and let me know how it goes.

Dr Bridget

The 3 Things That Can Cause you to Lose your Resilience

Resilience – Never Give Up

How to become Resilient

Are you Resilient?

Resilience is the ability to bounce back from the overwhelming influence of risk factors and obstacles.

Watch the video below to find out the 3 categories of risk factors and obstacles that may cause you to lose your resilience, and get in touch with me if you want to overcome the factors that you feel you are not in control of.

And of course there is a whole chapter about resilience in my book Mindset for Business Success (a useful workbook for anyone in who wants to reach their full potential). The majority of my videos also give you tips to become resilient.


The 3 groups of things that cause us to lose our resilience are:

  • Material things
  • Events and Circumstances
  • Self Induced

Listening to the video will raise your awareness about how our interpretation of the Material obstacles can actually fall into the Self Induced category. They can come from limiting beliefs such as “I can’t be successful in case it affects my health”. “I can’t do x , y or z because I don’t have any money” or “my family wouldn’t approve”.

The ability to deal with Events and Circumstances that happen around us is key.

Recently in the UK we have had Brexit which has made some people quite ill.

They feel as though they have lost control over their future. However, if you are resilient, have self belief, confidence and take action towards what you really want, you will definitely be in control of your future.

I’m wondering if you would be interested in reading my book? it is available here as a free download from my web site or you can buy it on Amazon in hard copy or on kindle. Its a work book with a whole chapter on Resilience and gives you prescriptions for success.

Finally – maybe you have lost your resilience? If this is the case, contact me for a free consultation to start the journey of change. I am on on 01656  347027 or 07973 635102.

Till next week, enjoy the “becoming resilient” journey!

Dr Bridget

 

 

 

Digging Deep gets you Different Results

Do you feel as though you need to start digging deep?

Start digging

Digging deep

As Einstein said: “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing again and again and expecting different results”.

And I’m wondering if that’s what you are doing?

I’ve certainly done it often enough myself!

Sometimes we just need to STOP and ask ourselves whether the way we are behaving is getting us what we want in our life, our business or our career. If not there is often a deep reason for why we are continuing the behaviour and is often something along the lines of:

  • Protecting ourselves unconsciously
  • Keeping other people happy
  • Hiding
  • Not wanting to say we don’t think we are good enough

Watch the video below within which I discuss how to start changing your behaviour and asking yourself the deeper questions that may give you the answers you need. Once you know what the answer is you can start changing the behaviour consciously. If you are struggling, unable to ask the right questions or make the changes why not book a session with me? I can and will help you.

Think about the things that you seem to keep doing that aren’t helpful and ask yourself the question: “What’s the purpose of this behaviour?”. You’ll be surprised at what comes up.

If you are not sure how to use the answer and do something with it, give me a call on 01656 347027 or 07973635102 and access a free complimentary session.

Until next week – keep asking,

Dr. Bridget

What Do You Do When the Going Gets Tough?

What Do You Do When the Going Gets Tough?

Tough decisions

Go for what you want!

It’s a personal story today. A year or so ago I had to very sadly have an 11/12-month-old Bull Terrier puppy called Thud put down. He unfortunately had a kidney disease and in the end just stopped eating and drinking, so it was the only thing we could do for him, and it was a tough time!

It has taken quite a bit of courage for me to even think about getting another one.  I had a lot of worries going around my head, such as; “Is it ok with my husband to get another puppy?”, “Should I get an older dog?”, “What will the cat think?” (although she was always in charge of Thud!) and “Could I cope with another loss if the worst happened again?”

In the end, it got to a point where I was just feeling sad and not getting anything done, so I asked myself: “How important is it to you to have another puppy Bridget?” And the answer was – very important!

It was at this point that I had an inkling to look on Gum Tree to see what puppies were nearby, and guess what! There was a litter of Bull Terrier puppies about 20 miles away. I rang up that day and found out they had 2 left. I went to visit and put a deposit down that day!

Watch the video below and you’ll see the end results of me pushing through this tough time, and memory of the negative past events, and deciding what was important to me. Then answer the question below!

I guess the question that I’d like you to think about today is “What do you do when the going gets tough?”

Do you procrastinate? Ask friends? Have sleepless nights? Or other unhelpful things? Or do you ask yourself “Is this important to me”? And then just push through and get what you want?

Here’s an important thing to remember whenever you are faced with a tough decision –  Often, just before a break through, the going does get tough!

Let me know if you have broken through a major hurdle in the comments below please so that others can get inspired!

If you are struggling to make a decision or can’t find the courage to push through, click here to contact me and we can start the process of getting you what you want – big or small!

As you know, we only have one life!! And I want to help you live it!

Until next week,

Dr Bridget

Crossroads. Don’t be cross, be excited!

forking-road-839830_640A crossroads is about change. It is a time to choose between two different options which seemingly cannot co-exist. Do we want to go one way or the other? Continue down the path we are on or decide on something different? Read more

Is Your Values Level Thinking at the Right Level or Not?

Is Your Values Level Thinking at the Right Level or Not?

Thinking at the right level

Fitting your thinking to your environment

When I begin working with a client I’m always curious to find out what level of thinking they are doing and whether or not that level has the ability to get them to their goals in business, career and/or life.

Values level thinking is about how people think in different environments and how they adapt their thinking to suit their environments. There are numerous levels, click here to access a pdf which summarises them.

One of the main things values level thinking identifies, I whether you are on an even or an odd level. Even numbered levels are analysed as sacrificing yourself. For example, you against what you think/believe to just do what you are told, to follow society rules or for the good of the group. The odd number levels are considered as independent levels where you fight against the competition and want to be the best or you are able to be totally flexible in your behaviour depending on the environment that you find yourself in. And it’s really interesting!

Watch my video below and read the PDF – find out what your main level of thinking is and if you want to change how you think to get success, click here to get in touch and book a FREE consultation.

Is your level of thinking useful for you in terms of achieving your goals? Let me know if you want to discuss it and find out if you need to change. Call me on 07973 635102 or 01656 347027.

If you are wondering what my levels are, when I sat down and thought about it a few months ago I discover I was more in the VL6 than I wanted to be. Since this discovery I have purposely worked on increasing my VL5 and reduce my VL6 and its working really well for my business!

Until next time – keep thinking,

Dr Bridget

What happens When You Don’t Take Time Out

Taking time out

Taking time out became the topic for this video as I talked to my videographer – Chris Davies from Colour Black Productions – during our most recent filming session of my Prescriptions for Success videos.

We’d both become very busy as a result of raising our profile and the conversation was about how, or should, we be taking time off to reflect. We realised that taking time out, allows you to plan, reflect, congratulate yourself and keep an eye on your journey towards your goals. If you don’t take the time, you can become a victim of “busyness” and lose sight of where you are heading and forget how far you have come.

One of the main reasons for people seeking coaching and mastermind group support is to be able to take that time out and regain focus of their path to success and their goals. The results of doing this are absolutely enormous! The focus and consistency it provides become what you do! And that is what gets you the results.

Watch the video below within which I discuss this further. If you would like to escape the “busyness” and re-focus on your gals, you can click here to fill in a form for a FREE consultation.

If you are looking for an easy and quick fix, I would suggest committing to taking half an hour a day to plan or reflect on your day and what the next one will bring – it can be very empowering (and also calming).

Make sure that your plans line up to what you want in your life and let me know the effects the time-out has and if it empowers you.

If you are struggling with this concept and don’t know what to do, call me on 07973 635102 or 01656 347027 and we can chat it through and work out a path for you.

Until next week, enjoy your time-out,

Dr. Bridget

Comparing Your Brain to a Car Engine – A Useful Metaphor?

Comparing Your Brain to a Car Engine

Complicated Brain?

Complicated wiring?

Do you ever get frustrated with yourself? Or the way you use your brain to think and get the results you want?

Do you ever get frustrated with your car? – I’ve had my car for over a year and it’s far more complicated than my previous one and I’m not really using it to its full potential!

In fact, I’ve only just found out how to use the Sat Nav, up until recently I continued to use my old one above the built in system. Which has resulted in people thinking I’m weird! Being considered weird doesn’t really bother me because I like to be different but it’s a bit frustrating to own a car I don’t really know how to use!

So, like the car, are we not using our minds to our full potential because we don’t 100% know how to use them. Watch my video below where I discuss this metaphor in more detail.

If you would like help understanding more clearly how yours works (your brain not your car!) when it is being used to process information and obtain results, just click here and fill out a form for a FREE consultation. You too can become a brain mechanic and reach your full potential!

Here’s the key message (no pun intended) – if you don’t master your brain and the way you think, you’ll get results that aren’t what you want!

If you want to make a difference to your life, your business or your career, you need to stream line your thinking to help you avoid brain breakdowns.

If you agree and need support to do just this, give me a call on 01656 347027 or 07973635102 to start simplifying your life and using your brain to its full potential!

See you next week,

Dr. Bridget

Do You Have Internal Conflict? This is one of the causes

One of the most common causes for internal conflict is something called PARTS ( in NLP terminology)

Mental Conflict

Internal Conflict

Just like you, I have faced internal battles. I remember sitting in front of my computer with this battle in my head going “part of me wants to be successful but part of me wants to do nothing at all”. I’d just started my NLP coaching business and I was struggling. Luckily, I was able to resolve this issue with my coach quite quickly.

Now, it is my role to help people with this internal struggle, and I want to share the cause for this common problem with you and raise awareness of this solvable problem.

In NLP, this conflict is known as “Parts”, because it is as if we have two parts to ourselves, which want different things. It usually arises from a significant negative emotional event which is either one big event or several small ones fairly close together.

For example, a recent client found herself in this battle after having just been made redundant following a complaint, losing her dad about the same time and having one of her children spend a week in hospital with a serious illness. All these negative events had caused part of her to steer away from her want to be successful in her new business, and focus on the want of some peace in her life. That is when she came to me for help.

I helped her put the conflict to rest and focus on what she really wanted.

“Parts” have their own personality and are generally formed to help protect you, but in doing so, they can cause conflicts with other parts of your brain – a sort of Mental Tug of War.

In this week’s Prescription for Success video below, I discuss ‘parts’ and the effects internal conflict can have.

If you want to talk about any type of internal conflict that may be stopping you from gaining success in your life or your business, then give me a call on 07973 635102 or 01656 347027. Or click here to fill out a form and I’ll be in touch very quickly.

If you are interested in this topic and NLP, I run NLP Practitioner courses, where you can learn how to not only resolve this issue for yourself, but for others too. Click here for more info on my NLP Practitioner courses.

Part of me would like to keep writing the blog and part of me wants to get some lunch so, until next time, go for what you want in life!

Dr. Bridget

Don’t stress it!

stress-blogStress is extremely common. It can have physical and psychological effects which generally ‘bring you down’.

Life can be stressful. Whether it’s work, family or money worries, we all have a lot going on in our lives, so it’s no surprise we feel burnt out from time to time. But stress is not good for our emotional state.

Generally, people don’t take measures to reduce stress.  And whilst you can’t stop stress completely, you can learn how to notice the signs and help yourself overcome it. Here are my top tips:

  1. Deep breaths

If you are feeling completely overwhelmed, being able to take your mind out of the situation even for a few minutes can help you relax and gain clarity. When we are anxious or stressed our breathing becomes quick and shallow. Give your breathing your full attention, concentrating on each breath in and out. Take your time to breath in deeply for a count of 7, hold and breath out for a count of 11. Repeat this process until you feel more calm.

  1. Be kind to yourself

Sometimes we are our own worst enemy. Our inner voices can be mean and hurtful. It’s important to recognise this and ensure you are positively reinforcing yourself and how you feel. Treat yourself with kindness, negative thoughts are extremely unhelpful and can do more damage. Tell yourself you’re in control and you’re able to deal with the situation!

  1. Don’t allow yourself to become a victim

Things happen that are out of our control, but by asking “why me?” or “what have I done to deserve this?” only places yourself as a victim. This increases stress and suggests you are unable to change the situation. Instead, recognise this negative thing has happened but tell yourself you are able to turn it around and change it.

  1. Say ‘No’

Not wanting to say no to people is very common. A lot of people have a problem with it as they don’t want to upset someone or let them down. But sometimes you have to put yourself before others. It is impossible to please everyone and trying to do so is a fast track to stress. By saying ‘no’ you are not being selfish, you are just looking after yourself and your mental health. Be honest with people and they will understand.

If you are struggling with stress and feeling unhappy, contact me and I’ll help you overcome your anxiety and emotional state, allowing you to find happiness and at peace with yourself. Click here to book a FREE consultation or call me on: 07973 635102

Why do we lose our motivation? And what can we do to recover it?

Why do we lose our motivation?

Motivation and values

Find your motivation!

Not feeling motivated? This post is for you.

I recently realised that I was struggling with my motivation, particularly regarding my business and health, and this caused a bit of what I call “flip-flopping”! So, this week I have decided to focus on motivation and help you make sure that you are fully motivated in all areas of your life and in particular, the ones that are most important to you.

What is motivation?

Motivation is driven by our values, which we hold on an unconscious level. And our values can be affected by our beliefs. This means that as we grow and experience situations, positive and negative, it can change our values, which isn’t always useful.

My business values used to be Intrigue, Interest, Fun and Purpose. Although they felt OK, there wasn’t much movement in them to make me want to take action. Whilst I do have a successful business, there is also room for it to grow and allowing me to reach many more people!

I realized I needed to do something about this and set about changing my values. To do this I had to start with the limiting beliefs that were supporting my values. Once I changed those beliefs, with the help of my coach, my values changed and felt so much more suited to my businesses and me. And most importantly, my motivation is back and I am taking more action!

My business’ values are now Determination, Fun, Achievement and Purpose. Because I’ve got something as strong as determination at the top of my motivators, I’ve stopped doing the “flip-flopping” and am very determined!

Watch the video below where I discuss my motivation. If you are feeling demotivated, then get in touch today – just click here.

Are you fully focused and motivated? If not, what is that be costing you, emotionally and financially?

Give me a ring on 01656 347027 or 07973 635102 to book a FREE consultation with Dr. Bridget and start your journey of discovery and success.

Until next time, keep that motivation up!

Dr. Bridget