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How to do a Vision Board and Why

How to do a Vision Board

Vision Board

Dr B’s Board

I’m guessing that most of you have done a vision board at some stage in your life- whether that was a scrap book when you were young or in a workshop or just for fun! and doing one is extremely powerful! The action of doing a vision board means that you have committed to looking at your life in all aspects and also that you want to get motivated and celebrate. I often run sessions with my mastermind group and recently joined in and did one myself – you can see it in the picture above. It has given me focus and daily reminders of what I am doing in my business and also why – very important.

Watch the video below and then find out how to do one.

What you can do a vision board about:

  • Who you are
  • Where you want to travel to
  • Memories of previous events
  • Your life or business goals
  • Anything really
Vision Board

Vision Board

How do you do one:

  • Get a canvas board or similar
  • Maybe find other people that want to do one
  • Get a wide variety of pens, paint and other stationary (love stationary shopping!) – I have also used pasta in one of mine
  • Buy or borrow magazines – a wide variety of subjects and find some scissors and glue
  • Remind yourself of your goals
  • Work out what motivates you – your values and what you believe- empowering beliefs

And then just start and see what happens- make it fun!

Let me know when you have done a vision board and what you discovered about yourself by doing it- its usually loads

Then make sure you have it somewhere where it inspires you every day!

Examples of other boards done by my mastermind group:

Go for it and let me know how you get on!

If you’d like to join a mastermind group and develop yourself to develop your business, contact me here

Dr Bridget

 

 

What happens When You Don’t Take Time Out

Taking time out

Taking time out became the topic for this video as I talked to my videographer – Chris Davies from Colour Black Productions – during our most recent filming session of my Prescriptions for Success videos.

We’d both become very busy as a result of raising our profile and the conversation was about how, or should, we be taking time off to reflect. We realised that taking time out, allows you to plan, reflect, congratulate yourself and keep an eye on your journey towards your goals. If you don’t take the time, you can become a victim of “busyness” and lose sight of where you are heading and forget how far you have come.

One of the main reasons for people seeking coaching and mastermind group support is to be able to take that time out and regain focus of their path to success and their goals. The results of doing this are absolutely enormous! The focus and consistency it provides become what you do! And that is what gets you the results.

Watch the video below within which I discuss this further. If you would like to escape the “busyness” and re-focus on your gals, you can click here to fill in a form for a FREE consultation.

If you are looking for an easy and quick fix, I would suggest committing to taking half an hour a day to plan or reflect on your day and what the next one will bring – it can be very empowering (and also calming).

Make sure that your plans line up to what you want in your life and let me know the effects the time-out has and if it empowers you.

If you are struggling with this concept and don’t know what to do, call me on 07973 635102 or 01656 347027 and we can chat it through and work out a path for you.

Until next week, enjoy your time-out,

Dr. Bridget

Comparing Your Brain to a Car Engine – A Useful Metaphor?

Comparing Your Brain to a Car Engine

Complicated Brain?

Complicated wiring?

Do you ever get frustrated with yourself? Or the way you use your brain to think and get the results you want?

Do you ever get frustrated with your car? – I’ve had my car for over a year and it’s far more complicated than my previous one and I’m not really using it to its full potential!

In fact, I’ve only just found out how to use the Sat Nav, up until recently I continued to use my old one above the built in system. Which has resulted in people thinking I’m weird! Being considered weird doesn’t really bother me because I like to be different but it’s a bit frustrating to own a car I don’t really know how to use!

So, like the car, are we not using our minds to our full potential because we don’t 100% know how to use them. Watch my video below where I discuss this metaphor in more detail.

If you would like help understanding more clearly how yours works (your brain not your car!) when it is being used to process information and obtain results, just click here and fill out a form for a FREE consultation. You too can become a brain mechanic and reach your full potential!

Here’s the key message (no pun intended) – if you don’t master your brain and the way you think, you’ll get results that aren’t what you want!

If you want to make a difference to your life, your business or your career, you need to stream line your thinking to help you avoid brain breakdowns.

If you agree and need support to do just this, give me a call on 01656 347027 or 07973635102 to start simplifying your life and using your brain to its full potential!

See you next week,

Dr. Bridget

Do You Have Internal Conflict? This is one of the causes

One of the most common causes for internal conflict is something called PARTS ( in NLP terminology)

Mental Conflict

Internal Conflict

Just like you, I have faced internal battles. I remember sitting in front of my computer with this battle in my head going “part of me wants to be successful but part of me wants to do nothing at all”. I’d just started my NLP coaching business and I was struggling. Luckily, I was able to resolve this issue with my coach quite quickly.

Now, it is my role to help people with this internal struggle, and I want to share the cause for this common problem with you and raise awareness of this solvable problem.

In NLP, this conflict is known as “Parts”, because it is as if we have two parts to ourselves, which want different things. It usually arises from a significant negative emotional event which is either one big event or several small ones fairly close together.

For example, a recent client found herself in this battle after having just been made redundant following a complaint, losing her dad about the same time and having one of her children spend a week in hospital with a serious illness. All these negative events had caused part of her to steer away from her want to be successful in her new business, and focus on the want of some peace in her life. That is when she came to me for help.

I helped her put the conflict to rest and focus on what she really wanted.

“Parts” have their own personality and are generally formed to help protect you, but in doing so, they can cause conflicts with other parts of your brain – a sort of Mental Tug of War.

In this week’s Prescription for Success video below, I discuss ‘parts’ and the effects internal conflict can have.

If you want to talk about any type of internal conflict that may be stopping you from gaining success in your life or your business, then give me a call on 07973 635102 or 01656 347027. Or click here to fill out a form and I’ll be in touch very quickly.

If you are interested in this topic and NLP, I run NLP Practitioner courses, where you can learn how to not only resolve this issue for yourself, but for others too. Click here for more info on my NLP Practitioner courses.

Part of me would like to keep writing the blog and part of me wants to get some lunch so, until next time, go for what you want in life!

Dr. Bridget

Don’t stress it!

stress-blogStress is extremely common. It can have physical and psychological effects which generally ‘bring you down’.

Life can be stressful. Whether it’s work, family or money worries, we all have a lot going on in our lives, so it’s no surprise we feel burnt out from time to time. But stress is not good for our emotional state.

Generally, people don’t take measures to reduce stress.  And whilst you can’t stop stress completely, you can learn how to notice the signs and help yourself overcome it. Here are my top tips:

  1. Deep breaths

If you are feeling completely overwhelmed, being able to take your mind out of the situation even for a few minutes can help you relax and gain clarity. When we are anxious or stressed our breathing becomes quick and shallow. Give your breathing your full attention, concentrating on each breath in and out. Take your time to breath in deeply for a count of 7, hold and breath out for a count of 11. Repeat this process until you feel more calm.

  1. Be kind to yourself

Sometimes we are our own worst enemy. Our inner voices can be mean and hurtful. It’s important to recognise this and ensure you are positively reinforcing yourself and how you feel. Treat yourself with kindness, negative thoughts are extremely unhelpful and can do more damage. Tell yourself you’re in control and you’re able to deal with the situation!

  1. Don’t allow yourself to become a victim

Things happen that are out of our control, but by asking “why me?” or “what have I done to deserve this?” only places yourself as a victim. This increases stress and suggests you are unable to change the situation. Instead, recognise this negative thing has happened but tell yourself you are able to turn it around and change it.

  1. Say ‘No’

Not wanting to say no to people is very common. A lot of people have a problem with it as they don’t want to upset someone or let them down. But sometimes you have to put yourself before others. It is impossible to please everyone and trying to do so is a fast track to stress. By saying ‘no’ you are not being selfish, you are just looking after yourself and your mental health. Be honest with people and they will understand.

If you are struggling with stress and feeling unhappy, contact me and I’ll help you overcome your anxiety and emotional state, allowing you to find happiness and at peace with yourself. Click here to book a FREE consultation or call me on: 07973 635102

Why do we lose our motivation? And what can we do to recover it?

Why do we lose our motivation?

Motivation and values

Find your motivation!

Not feeling motivated? This post is for you.

I recently realised that I was struggling with my motivation, particularly regarding my business and health, and this caused a bit of what I call “flip-flopping”! So, this week I have decided to focus on motivation and help you make sure that you are fully motivated in all areas of your life and in particular, the ones that are most important to you.

What is motivation?

Motivation is driven by our values, which we hold on an unconscious level. And our values can be affected by our beliefs. This means that as we grow and experience situations, positive and negative, it can change our values, which isn’t always useful.

My business values used to be Intrigue, Interest, Fun and Purpose. Although they felt OK, there wasn’t much movement in them to make me want to take action. Whilst I do have a successful business, there is also room for it to grow and allowing me to reach many more people!

I realized I needed to do something about this and set about changing my values. To do this I had to start with the limiting beliefs that were supporting my values. Once I changed those beliefs, with the help of my coach, my values changed and felt so much more suited to my businesses and me. And most importantly, my motivation is back and I am taking more action!

My business’ values are now Determination, Fun, Achievement and Purpose. Because I’ve got something as strong as determination at the top of my motivators, I’ve stopped doing the “flip-flopping” and am very determined!

Watch the video below where I discuss my motivation. If you are feeling demotivated, then get in touch today – just click here.

Are you fully focused and motivated? If not, what is that be costing you, emotionally and financially?

Give me a ring on 01656 347027 or 07973 635102 to book a FREE consultation with Dr. Bridget and start your journey of discovery and success.

Until next time, keep that motivation up!

Dr. Bridget

Do you deserve to earn money? Do you have enough?

Do you deserve to earn money?

Money, beliefs

Money Beliefs

You may,  or may not have recognised that we develop beliefs about whether or not we deserve money, whether we can handle it, or even want it from a very early age.

Most of these beliefs are unconscious and we are just aware of the behaviours that come from them. Have you ever heard anyone say, I can’t go for that salary, or It’s greedy to want that much, perhaps,  I’m alright as I am, or a variation on these themes?

Watch the video below where I talk about Tim and how he developed a belief about money when he was just five years old, and the situation from which it came about.

I’ve also written a short guide discussing  the core beliefs that people have about money which you can read by clicking here.

If you think that your beliefs about money may be holding you back, give me a call on 07973 635102.  Alternatively you can fill in a form via this link http://bit.ly/talktoDrB. You will be amazed at the changes that you can make, very quickly!

Until next week

Dr Bridget

 

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Letting go of the past and moving forward: Dr. Bridget’s top tips

Let go and move on

Let go and move on

If we are being honest, we would admit that from time to time we all get hung up on the past. And that’s fine, after all, we are humans with emotions. Whether we are clinging on to something that once was, or allowing failures and negative events in the past to hold us back, letting go and moving forward is an important skill to have.

If we don’t let go and continue to cling to the past, it affects our future. We create an unhealthy relationship with past anchors that hold us down, and cause us to become stuck. These anchors stop us from moving forward and reaching our full potential, happiness and the success we all deserve.

Whether you have experienced a break up, a tragic death, a streak of bad luck, disappointment or many other negative situations, here are my top tips to help you let go and move on.

  1. It’s your choice

Realise that the reason these events are holding you back, is because you are letting them! You need to make a conscious choice to let go and move on, and commit to it. These feelings and emotions won’t go away on their own. Acknowledging you can choose to let them affect you or not, is always the first step.

  1. Dwell

This one may seem a bit odd – but actually reliving the event and giving yourself time to dwell on the past can help you along the process. Set aside half hour a day/week to dwell, then challenge yourself not to think about this event before/after the set time. This can act as a great limit and your whole day or life will not be effected.

  1. Question yourself

If you are spending an unhealthy amount of time thinking about the past, take some time out to ask yourself open ended questions:

  • Does this memory matter to me?
  • Does it serve me to restrict certain opportunities because they remind me of this memory?
  • What’s the worst that can happen if I’m faced with a brutal reminder of this memory?
  • What can I do to live with this memory, accept it, and move forward?7

Finding answers to these questions can help you rationalise the event and what you feel.

  1. Live the now

Keep yourself busy – go out and throw yourself into life and the experiences it has to offer. Join a club, meet like-minded people – everyday offers new memories to replace negative past ones.

Your past events do not own you, they cannot control you and restrict you from living the life you want. They don’t have to hold you back. If you choose to let go, they can become just minor blips in a bigger picture.

If you need help reaching your full potential and letting go of the past, contact Dr. Bridget on 07973 635102 or click here to book in a FREE consultation.

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Are you in charge of your life? Find out here

Are you in charge of your life?

Where are you on the scale? A 1 or a 10?

Charge

Are you in charge

One question that tends to makes people stop and think is; “Are you at cause or are you at effect?”.

Being at cause means that you are in charge of your life. You have control and whether you end up with good results or bed results, you are the one responsible for the outcome. It is your life.

Being at effect means that other things, people or events are in charge of you. This means that you are constantly being dragged away from your own goals and taken off on tangents by other forces. In the end, it makes it not possible to achieve your goals efficiently and can result in unhappiness and an unfulfilled life. Whether it’s a partner, the kids or the government, who is taking control of your life, are they to blame or you to blame for letting them?

In this week’s video I go into cause vs effect in more detail and provide a way to help you fully understand where you fall on the scale.

What was your score? My gut instinct is that if you are below an 8, you are close to your life being ruled by others and you may want to consider what you can do to improve it and become more at cause. Click here to get more information about being at cause or effect and my tips on what you could do to be more at cause.

If you would like a quick fix on taking control and finding success, you can talk to me on 01656 347027 or click here to fill in a form and arrange a FREE consultation.

Until next time, here’s to taking responsibility and control!

Dr. Bridget

Are you focusing on the wrong things? Find out here

What are you focussing on?

The right things or the wrong things?

Broody hen with no focus

Focus

When something grabs our attention, we focus on it and pour our energy into it. But sometimes these activities are not helpful, and could actually be stopping us from reaching our life goal, happiness and/or success.

Focusing on the wrong tasks can actually derail us from our path to success and result in a detour. It can leave us feeling tired and stuck, and unhappy when we don’t see any progress in our lives but yet we are still using a lot of our energy.

In this week’s prescription for success video I have the help of broody Barbara (as pictured!) to help me demonstrate what the negative effect of having a particular focus can have on your life.

If you would like to find out if your focus is benefiting you or holding you back, then click here to download a helpful table. This table will be able to help you decide whether you need to change your focus or not.

If you change your focus, you WILL change your results.

If you do fill out the table, I would love to know what you found out. Is your focus on the right or wrong things and are you therefore getting the results you want? Or don’t want? And are you going to make a change? Let me know in the comments!

If you need help in changing your focus and reaching succeed, give me a ring on 07973 635102 or click here to fill in a form and claim a FREE consultation.

Until next time, happy brooding!!

Dr. Bridget

3 Reasons to Be Authentic and What Happens if you are not

What are 3 reasons to be authentic?

And what is the impact of not being authentic?

ARe you being who you want to be?

Authentic

Most of my blogs are inspired by clients, and this week I took inspiration from a client who felt that the image that they portrayed to others wasn’t really who they were. So, they decided to do something about it!

They felt that when they weren’t being authentic, they weren’t at ease, they felt out of place and therefore this was rubbing off on their business and their success levels.

If you are not feeling at ease with yourself internally and what you are portraying to the outside world, then this attitude will be projected. The dis-ease will affect other people and they will be less attracted to you and working/interacting with you. This rejection can then lead to self-doubt and confusion, which is never good, therefore it needs a fix as soon as possible. And the only fix is being authentic and true to yourself!

The 3 main reasons to be authentic are:

  • Feeling at ease and happy with yourself
  • Feeling more confident
  • This happiness and positivity will be projected and you will see more success in your life, business or career

For me personally, it has taken a while to figure out who I think I am and be that person, and I certainly feel uncomfortable if I’m not living in line with my core values and beliefs, and if I allow my boundaries to be crossed.

In this week’s video, which you can find just below, I discuss one of my clients who is whole heartedly himself and doesn’t fit into the stereotype his job sometimes has or how other people expect him to be. He decided that to be authentic and jump out of a plane for charity, from which he rediscovered the buzz that had been missing from his life.

I would like to thank my client, Martin, for agreeing to share his experience – and I’m sure you agree, that he is being himself and is proud of it.

If you think that you are being who other people want you to be rather than who you want to be, make a decision to find out exactly who you are and what is important to you.

It is ok to be yourself and you will lead a much happier life if you do just that.

If you are struggling to find you, or if you know who you are but struggling to portray it and would like some help becoming authentic, give me a ring on 01656 347027 or 07973 635102.

You can also click here to fill in a form and we can arrange a FREE consultation.

If you are feeling stuck – check out the rest of my website to find out how I can help.

Until next time, just be you!

Dr. Bridget

 

Letting go of guilt

letting_go_of_guiltGuilt can come in many different shapes and forms, it can be rational and irrational, it can come from something you have physically done or even because you feel a certain way. But ultimately guilt is driven from self-hatred.

We do something we regret, we say something that hurts or offends someone, we make a mistake. Then we get lost in the should-haves, could-haves and self-judgement.

To a certain extent we get addicted to the guilt, thinking that constantly beating ourselves up over the mistake will somehow absolve us of that negative experience – but instead we are just torturing ourselves.

Many of us feel guilt from things we did or didn’t do for ourselves – “I didn’t get enough work done” or “I shouldn’t have eaten that” – and our minds trick us into thinking that anger and guilt is a good motivator. But none of these everyday outcomes deserve our own self-judgement and guilt.

Guilt can become all-consuming and hold you back from reaching your full potential, it acts as an anchor to the past, telling you, you don’t deserve to be happy. But everyone deserves to be happy. Learning how to let go of guilt and forgive yourself can be fantastically freeing. It teaches you to choose self-love over self-hate and be more compassionate towards yourself.

Change is never easy but I can help and support you through the process. If you are ready to let go of the guilt holding you back, click here to book a FREE consultation or call Dr. Bridget on 07973 635102