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How to Change Your Reality

How to change your reality

How to Change Your Reality

This subject is totally fascinating, you change your reality by the process of filtering:

  • your emotions,
  • your experiences
  • your memories
  • your values and beliefs
  • and your language

We also use something called meta programmes in NLP.

By doing this filtering we create a reality and that reality doesn’t always work for us.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I share with you an NLP process that can change your reality from something that is an  ‘unwanted reality’ to a ‘wanted reality’.  Listen to the video and get in touch if you need some help with this.

I always remember, a few years ago I did this process with someone who hated doing their admin – she was neglecting doing her book keeping, and not following up on leads or organising her client information. Although she was very good at her job she hated doing the admin work.

On the flip side she actually loved dancing so we used this to help her.

Firstly we identify ‘unwanted behaviour’ and elicited what we see, hear and feel.  Then, we identify the ‘wanted behaviour’ and elicited what we see, hear and feel.  You will find that the components of each are completely different but by using NLP techniques you can change the list. So, you can make  the ‘unwanted behaviour’ have the same components as the ‘wanted behaviour’.  You can switch the visuals, auditories and the kinesthetics so that the unwanted behaviour looks and feels like the wanted one

After undertaking this process with my client she went home and actually tidied up her home, did all her admin and paid her tax bill within 24 hours and it just felt like dancing.

I’ve also worked with another couple  of people recently who were not being who they wanted to be or had been in the past.  So together we elicited the ‘unwanted behaviour’ the ‘unwanted personality’  then we elicited what they ‘used to be’  what they ‘wanted to be’ and we just swapped it over so that person just became what they always were in the past. And it was really effective for them.

It’s quite a quick process and takes approximately half an hour. So, if there is something that you want to change that’s fairly simple then get in touch as I do a free half an hour call to start with to see what we need to do then we can actually do that process.

We also cover these processes on our NLP Courses so if you’d like to learn them then click here to find out more.

Until next week,

Dr Bridget – being exactly who I want to be.

The Focusing Questions

The focusing questionsThe Focusing Questions!

The secret of getting ahead is to get started!

The secret of getting started is to break the large amount of tasks that you have down into discrete parts.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I talk about two focusing questions that you can ask yourself to enable you to identify what you want and how to get ahead.  Watch the video and ask yourself the questions below.

There are 2 levels of question that you can ask:

Firstly – what is it that you want? What is the one thing that you want – whether that’s happiness, wealth, success – what is it?

Secondly –  what is the one thing that you can do right now that will get you that one thing that you really what you want?

It’s as simple as that. So, scroll around amongst your tasks and think what is the one thing that will really make that difference to get that one thing which is your overall goal?

If you don’t know or you can’t do it then just get in touch  and we can talk that through because I do a free session to help you get started and get ahead.

So to get started, just ask yourself the 2 focusing questions and then you can get ahead

See you next week

Dr Bridget – focused on getting ahead!

 

A Choice of What to Do

A choice of what to doA Choice of What to Do

It would be great if we always had a choice of what to do.  However, sometimes we get a little programmed and things happen to us and we decide we can’t do things.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I talk about the choices we have  available to us and how we can be more decisive in our choices so that we do the things we want to do and be the way we want to be. Watch the video and try out the task below.

I was speaking to someone recently, who used to be very outgoing, confident, chatty and decisive.  Then they went through some difficult experiences and they decided that all they could do was have a low mood, be less outgoing, confident, chatty and decisive.

This is what I think –

If you have decided to be in a low mood, be less outgoing, confident, chatty and decisive then you can also decide to revert that and to change it to do what you used to do.

Sometimes it’s as simple as making that decision.

If this is you then you can just float down into your body to that place when you were outgoing, confident, chatty and decisive, or whatever scenario you choose, and just decide that you actually take that on and be that person again and do those things.

If you can’t do this then just get in touch because that’s what I help people to do.

I help people to recreate what they used to have and what they want now but can’t seem to get it because of the negative chatter going on in their head.

So just make a decision and go with it

See you next week

Dr Bridget – enjoying being decisive!

 

How to get Happiness

How to get happinessHow to create Happiness

I think of happiness is an emotional state created by how we process information. Also I think it can be created by changing our physiology and the things we do.

I can help you change the way that you process information in order to get a reality that’s different for you to get a better emotional state. But in the meantime, I think a lot of happiness is about being present and just noticing those small things.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I share with you my tips on how to be present and enjoy those small things in life. Watch the video and try out the tips below for yourself.

My Happiness Jar

Over the last few months I’ve been creating a happiness jar.  I’ve put in it things that are personal to me and make me happy for example I have a small notebook that my mum wrote in about various milestones when I was a child, a note about walking at the beach,  or spending time with grandchildren and pets.

My Joy Album

I’ve also got a joy album on my phone where I put some photographs that make me happy for example photos of pets, scenery or special cards I’ve received.

You may have some things going on in life or in the past but if you can concentrate on being present, capturing joy and happiness and then have something you can go to when things are not as good as they could be, then that can be really helpful.

However if it’s gone further than that and you really need some help then get in touch because I can definitely help you with that.

So enjoy your joy and I’ll see you next week

Dr Bridget – enjoying being happy!

 

How to Cultivate Vitality

How to cultivate vitalityHow to Cultivate Vitality

Vitality has been proven to be a great way to get resilience in light of all the stresses and strain we may have on a daily basis.

As an example – Recently I was planning to meet a friend in England and at the same time my mum fell and broke her hip and ended up in hospital and then the dog was sick. Sometimes we get days like this when things happen one after the other. However if you have vitality then you become more resilient. It’s really about the decision to be vital.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I talk about how we can cultivate vitality and become more resilient watch the video and consider what you are cultivating.

In research, people label people as like ‘velcro’ or ‘teflon’ in terms of vitality.

In the ‘velcro’ group people were stuck, they had conflict, they had lost their confidence and had spiralled down into negativity. This resulted in them eating things that they shouldn’t, watching endless television and just doing things that were not helpful to them.

In the ‘teflon’ group people made plans but were flexible with their plans and they also supported others.

The difference between the two – the ‘velcro’ and the ‘teflon’ is really about being proactive. So, if you want to be a ‘teflon’ person them make plans, go out and do things, socialise and get on with life. Otherwise you will tend to be a ‘velcro’ person.

Ask yourself whether you are a ‘velcro’ or ‘teflon’ person? Have you tried these things in order to become more resilient and have vitality?

If you have tried it and it’s not going very well then get in touch because there will be some root causes that make it difficult for you to do the upward spiral rather than the downward spiral and I can help you with this really quickly.

So that’s me – I think I’m pretty ‘teflon’ at the moment and I know what to do to not be ‘velcro’.

See you next week,

Dr Bridget

 

Focus on What You Can Change

Do You Focus on what  you CAN change or what you CAN’T change?

Focus on what you can change

Hello

I’m interested in what you concentrate or focus on? Often my clients will have noticed that they are concentrating on  the things that they can’t change , and often can’t get them out of their head. And as you know, what you focus on is what you get, so I’m all about changing that pattern of thinking. If you’d like to do that as well, watch the video, have a think about whether this applies to someone you  know or even yourself and get in touch:

Often this pattern of negative thinking, or concentrating on what you can’t change, will last for days, weeks, months or often years and will eventually start  to affect the results in  your life and the people around you.

I’m OK with saying that it happens to me sometimes, and to clients that I’ve worked with, but it doesn’t last very long as our unconscious mind kicks in with the positive learnings. I’m generally a positive person who focuses on the future and positives and solutions.

I think this is why NLP – Neuro Linguistic Programming- appeals to  me.

It helps us to find habitual patterns that don’t serve us and  remove them, leaving us free to concentrate on things we CAN change rather than things we can’t. And it’s not about what’s happened- it’s about what patterns need changing, and then changing them really quickly.

The difference between the change that counselling, or other talking therapies, give people and what NLP gives you is simple:

  • It’s quick and effective
  • You will be working with the part of your mind that is responsible for change –  your unconscious mind
  • It’s comfortable as it doesn’t focus on the story,  just the patterns

The way I help people to do this is either to come on an NLP course, where you learn new skills as well as change your habitual way of thinking and feeling, or to work with me on a 1:1 basis

Either way, everyone that works with me changes the patterns that are not helping them to get the future they want and deserve.

If you’d like to change the patterns that you are running in your head or your behaviour, then get in touch and let’s start that change process.

See you next week,

Dr Bridget – Focusing on positives.

 

Concentrate on What You Can Change

Do You Concentrate  on what  you CAN change or what you CAN’T change?

Change

What CAN you change?

Hello

I’m interested in which you concentrate or focus on? Often my clients will have noticed that they are concentrating on  the things that they can’t change , and often can’t get them out of their head. And as you know, what you focus on is what you get, so I’m all about changing that pattern of thinking. If you’d like to do that as well, watch the video, have a think about whether this applies to someone you  know or even yourself and get in touch:

Often this pattern of negative thinking, or concentrating on what you can’t change, will last for days, weeks, months or often years and will eventually start  to affect the results in  your life and the people around you.

I’m OK with saying that it happens to me sometimes, and to clients that I’ve worked with, but it doesn’t last very long as our unconscious mind kicks in with the positive learnings. I’m generally a positive person who focuses on the future and positives and solutions.

I think this is why NLP – Neuro Linguistic Programming- appeals to  me.

It helps us to find habitual patterns that don’t serve us and  remove them, leaving us free to concentrate on things we CAN change rather than things we can’t. And it’s not about what’s happened- it’s about what patterns need changing, and then changing them really quickly.

The difference between the change that counselling, or other talking therapies, give people and what NLP gives you is simple:

  • It’s quick and effective
  • You will be working with the part of your mind that is responsible for change –  your unconscious mind
  • It’s comfortable as it doesn’t focus on the story,  just the patterns

The way I help people to do this is either to come on an NLP course, where you learn new skills as well as change your habitual way of thinking and feeling, or to work with me on a 1:1 basis

Either way, everyone that works with me changes the patterns that are not helping them to get the future they want and deserve.

If you’d like to change the patterns that you are running in your head or your behaviour, then get in touch and let’s start that change process.

See you next week,

Dr Bridget – Focusing on positives.