Boundaries are important for success
Hello – today I’m going to talk about boundaries.
They are the things that either keep you small, that keep you where you are, or enable you to become empowered and leading the life that you want. Many people that I talk to are clients that have made some big leaps towards their goals and are feeling happy and are doing the actions needed to stay fulfilled and living their life to the full. However, if they don’t sort out and keep their boundaries following the work that we do, then they can stop progressing and even go backwards.
And people who are stuck or feeling as though they are getting in their own way have often got people, their environment or even the media affecting their thinking and creating blocks to progress.
The sort of boundary that I’m talking about is something that, if crossed, lowers your emotional state, stops you from taking action towards what you want and can create conflict in your mind. It’s something (virtual) that you put around you to prevent these things from happening. Have a watch of the video below and then reflect on your own boundaries
The questions that I have for you are:
- Do you feel as though you are moving towards what you want in your life?
- If not, are there people or things that are stopping you from doing that?
- Do you know what these things are?
- What actions do you need to take to keep these boundaries?
Here are some thoughts about actions that you can take:
Positive people – make sure that you either don’t interact with negative people or give them some feedback so that they change their behaviour. Sometimes we don’t tell people how we feel and therefore they have no idea that we are upset or in doubt. Find some really awesome support.
Positive environment – If your environment is not positive- your office, your home, your other environments that you regularly use- then make some changes and see how that affects your behaviours. You’ll know if that is the case.
Positive beliefs and values – If you have negative beliefs, then they will cause you to feel low and not take action. If you can’t get rid of these, let me know and I can help you change them to empowering beliefs.
Positive mindset – This consists of useful values, empowering beliefs, having positive memories, having great strategies and behaviours and , of course, keeping your boundaries.
You can work with me to get that positive mindset by contacting me and having an initial free chat where we can discuss where you want to be and what might be stopping you. I will then tell you how I can help you.
Also NLP Practitioner training is a great way of learning those skills to keep great boundaries and you will have lots of supportive people to work with as well. Click here to find out about our next course.
Till next week
Dr Bridget- keeping you moving