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What to do about Overthinking

Overthinking – How to change the channel

Overthinking

Overthinking is very common and can be an issue which causes mental health challenges, lack of sleep and it also stops us from solving problems. I always  remember the time, a couple of years ago, when I was standing in the kitchen with so many things going on in my head and it kept me rooted to the ground and stuck! That was a physical manifestation of over thinking. It lead to procrastination and stopped me from sleeping.

Have a watch of the video below, and then read about the ways to stop the overthinking and change the channel, to one of a peaceful and focused mind


These are the main ways that I use and teach my clients to use:

  1. Notice all of the chatter- rather than just keeping overthinking. Become aware of it when it happens.
  2. Focus on solving the problem – use time management and productivity tools like the pomodora technique. Plan your month, week, day and hours. Write lists and prioritise. Journaling helps.
  3. Challenge the beliefs  you have that may not be true. If you think “I’m not good enough” or “I’ll never be able to do that”, you may be wrong and it may be a result of past programming and protecting yourself from past hurts.
  4. Schedule time for reflection. So journaling, meditation, mindfulness are very useful.
  5. Time Line Therapy (R) is an American Board of NLP technique which is extremely effective and removes major negative emotions and any limiting beliefs from your thinking. It’s amazing how effective this is and how the overthinking simply stops leaving you room to live your life to your full potential, Ask me for more information.

If you are struggling, let me know. You can fill in the contact form here, or book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access that free half hour with me

See you next week

Dr Bridget – clearing your thinking

 

Understanding People Pleasing

People Pleasing

People pleasing doesnt work

Be yourself

This is a really important symptom that I come across regularly on courses and with my one to one clients. They come to me because they realise that that they are not being themselves and that has lots of consequences for them as you will find out when you watch  the video below:

Let’s face it – it is nice to be liked and to be kind and nice to people, isn’t it? However, if it stops you getting your goals and feeling as though you can’t be yourself, then that is a problem. It usually comes from a desire to be liked and included which is often very strong. People want to be in a community and to be respected and liked. They want to belong.

I often find that there are root causes in people’s past that cause people to overdo people pleasing – Do any of the below apply to you or someone you know?

  • Not being listened to when you were growing up
  • Having to hide due to circumstances around you
  • Being bullied
  • A feeling of having to keep the peace when growing up – perhaps your parents arguing or drinking
  • A feeling of guilt if  your parents marriages folded – did I do enough- was it my fault- I didn’t try hard enough
  • Being criticised or not praised during your life
  • And many other events

All the negative emotions that come from incidents above have an impact. As we know, our unconscious mind is there to protect us and we carry on people pleasing as a result. It leads to a feeling of worthlessness, confusion and hurt and these feelings stop us from reaching our full potential, being who we want to be, doing what we want to do and having what we want to have.

It can be a difficult habit to break unless you get help from someone like myself. The wiring that causes us to people please, to our detriment, can be reversed very quickly with Time Line therapy (R)

What can we do about this?

  1. Put your own oxygen mask on – you can’t help others unless you help yourself!
  2. Notice when you are people pleasing and the impact that it has on you and your feelings, actions and your goals
  3. Remind yourself that there are root causes for this – you may know what they are or you may not but there will always be one- a decision that you made at some stage in your life that you have to keep people happy.
  4. Decide to be happy and to be yourself
  5. Surround yourself with people who will support you

If you find  you can’t resolve this and you want to resolve this, then get in touch with me to take advantage of a free call.

My NLP Training courses and my one to one coaching will solve this problem and others like it for you and you can then live the life that you want to live – after all, we only have one life.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – Helping you put your own oxygen mask on

 

Be happy, be yourself, If not give me a call

Self Belief – Where Does it Come From?

Self Belief – It’s SO Important

Hello!

Self Belief is SO Important – for your life, your Business, your Career!

Self Belief

Self belief

Here’s the thing – If you don’t believe in yourself, then life is uncomfortable, you feel frustrated with yourself and always feel as though there is something more that’s stopping you feeling fulfilled. In short-you probably feel stuck!

Self Belief is an internal feeling that you can do whatever you want and, in this blog, I talk about 4 of the ways that you can increase your self belief. This means that you will be totally comfortable, calm and certain in your direction.

Watch the video below and then take the action needed. Book a free session if you need help

The 4 things that will help (and there are many others) are:

  1. Understand where a lack of self belief has come from. Think about your upbringing. Were you encouraged or not? Were you expected to get 100% in everything (but only achieved 95%)? Did you get laughed at or bullied? Remember that you may have put self doubt in your thinking during your life and that is IN THE PAST. You can simply decide you do believe in yourself and move forward. Again, this something that you’ve wired into your thinking and if you can’t remove it, I specialise in unsticking you so get in touch.
  2. Develop Resilience. Realise that you are in charge and that you can start over, change direction and have positive people around you. Start to re-frame your thoughts – if you think that  you aren’t good enough, look for examples where you are – for instance in your relationships or your hobbies and say to yourself ” I am good enough in lots of areas and I just need to make some changes in this one area”- That statement has a different feel to it doesn’t it?
  3. Start writing about your thoughts and feelings -be grateful for what you have achieved and reward yourself for your successes. It raises your awareness and you can start to decide different things and test them out. This is journaling and it isn’t difficult – just very helpful
  4. Get some positive people around you. Those that will support you no matter what. Find someone that you can ring if you have doubts- they may not be someone that you already know or they may be people that you do know – just test them out and develop a mutually supportive relationship. You’ll know when  you have one.

I have written a low cost e-book Re-writing your story which you can find here and don’t forget that you can get in touch for some support
My FB group -One Step Closer is somewhere where you can get further tips and support -I’d love to see you there.

Until next week, remember that I believe in you and you can as well!

Dr Bridget

How to get Positive People into Your Life

Positive People

Hi everyone – let me ask you some questions:

  • Are you sitting there thinking that you are too busy to meet up with positive people who would support you in your life, business or career?
  • Do you have people surrounding you that are mood hoovers and drag your mood down?
  • Are you making excuses to avoid going out  and getting that support which would help you to be positive, motivated and full of energy?

This is what I think –  I could be sitting doing my business, writing blogs, seeing clients or people that are interested in me supporting them and, as a result, forget to interact with positive people.  I don’t in general have people who lower my mood around me as I have taken action to either change them to positive support or removed them from my life – sounds a bit harsh doesn’t it – but its part of keeping myself in a good space. Here’s a link to my ABCD tool coaching video which helps you to “sort” the people around you.

Watch this video and then take any action that you need to to.

So what is your gut feeling about your positive support? Do you need more or do you have the right people around you?

If you need more, who would they be? Get a piece of paper and start to make a list. Watch the ABCD coaching video on my Mindset for Success course. You can test people out to see if they are truly supportive or not.

Make a list of what you want to talk to people about and run past them and also what you can do for them.

If you need any positive support and would like to interact with me on a regular basis book an appointment to talk to me and also join my closed FB group called One Step Closer by clicking here.

It makes all the difference!

Until next week, go find and find those people and let me know how you are doing.

And if you want more tools to support you to get success, then find out more about my Mindset for Success course which gives you so much more and is till at an introductory price.

Dr Bridget

Getting Out There!

Get Out There - I am Bold NeonIt took me a while-to have the courage to stand up and say what I do. And as I stood in a business show recently, I thought back to the time when standing up and talking was scary and my legs were very wobbly-a lot of the time!

And it was because I was running a story in my head and that negative chatter was telling me
I’m not good enough
What will people think?
I can’t do a video

But gradually, I realised that I had a BIG WHY for doing it – to help as many people as possible to be who they wanted to be, do what they want to do and have what they want to have. So I took a big breath and got out there and put myself out of my comfort zone.
Watch the video below and then ask yourself the question below

I’m wondering-

Is there somewhere in your life where you are not getting out there? Is your story stopping you from doing it?

If you did (get out there) what would happen? What would be different?

And if you didn’t (get out there) what would happen?

Let me know via my contact page if you want to and don’t feel that you can. It’s easily sorted and will make an huge difference to you.

Or you can keep turning the pages of the same old story.

Until next week-have a good one!
Dr Bridget

Are you a Leader? Would you like to be one?

Do you think of yourself as a leader?

Leader

Are you a Leader

I was recently asked to sponsor “The Inspiring Leadership” award at a local networking event (Zokit)and found myself thinking about what an  inspiring leader is. All of the people who applied were great leaders in my mind and I soon started to think about what they all had in common. I narrowed it down to 3 things.

Watch the video and then see if you agree.

Then ask yourself whether

You are a leader?

Whether you want to be one?

Do you need any help?


So the 3 things that these people had in common were:

  1. They were passionate about their Values – whether that was freedom of thought or being a great mum or allowing their staff to be leaders themselves. There was one lady who was leading a movement to get news seen in a different way.
  2. They had worked on their limitations on their journey to get to where they were and were therefore calm and consistent  despite all obstacles
  3. They were a Role Model – whether that was for their staff or clients or their children and family- they were respected and people were inspired by them

In fact the person that I chose was nominated by  their staff and had no idea that they had been nominated until I spoke to them.

If you’d like to be a leader, then leading starts with yourself. If you want to be Passionate, Calm and seen as a Role Model, then it starts with your mindset.

If you feel as though you have some work to do then please get in touch as people that work with me very quickly develop that mindset.

Coming on a Certified NLP Practitioner course will change your life and that of others and you will be an inspiration to others. Get in touch and look at the testimonials here

Also doing some 1:1 coaching with me so that you have a completely clear head and can achieve whatever you want to achieve is life-changing.

I’m here, to support you to become the person that you want to be and I look forward to your comments on whether you are a leader for yourself or others and how I can help.

Until next week – take care

Dr Bridget

 

The Perils of Saying Yes All the Time

If you mean to Say NO and Say YES, then there may be consequences for you!

Say NO

Say No when you mean it

One of the main reasons that people come and see me for coaching is when they find they say yes when they want to say no. Its really interesting to think about why we do this (and I think most of us do to some extent)

  • Maybe we are people pleasers?
  • Maybe we want to be liked?
  • Could we be afraid  of the consequences?
  • Most likely, we are mind-reading what people would say or do?
  • Maybe things have happened to us in the past which makes us worry about the consequences of saying no?

And what are the consequence when we don’t say no?

  • Generally we feel uncomfortable
  • Anxiety kicks in when we are not being true to what we want
  • Then we can lose confidence, end up in a vicious circle and then start saying yes even more!

Watch the short video below and then read the tips underneath that will make you think and perhaps do things differently.

If any of this sounds familiar to you and you want to start to say no, here are some things that you could do:

  • Stop and think about when you do it
  • Say to the person, let me have a think about it
  • Take a step back and think about why you are doing it and whether it’s in line with your values and being yourself
  • Ask yourself what’s important to you about being you
  • Say no if that’s what you’ve decided, explain the reasons and how saying yes is making you feel. You can always find a great way of saying it!
  • Move on

If the person is unhappy, then maybe you need to move on from them???? – Just saying -and I know it depends who they are. – I’m an expert in mending relationships if you still want to keep them.

You could also take some responsibility for having said yes in the past – maybe the person is confused?

How about saying something like this – “I’ve always wanted to have a great relationship with you and I haven’t always been totally honest with myself and have said yes when instinctively I have wanted to say no. I’ve realised now what I’m doing and I apologise for any confusion I’m causing. I hope you understand and that we can still have a good relationship”

Enjoy reflecting on this week’s blog! If you want some support to make changes, give me a ring on 07973 635102 or get in touch here 

See you next week!

Dr Bridget

What happens if you say YES when you mean to say NO?

If you mean to Say NO and Say YES, then there may be consequences for you!

Say NO

Say No when you mean it

Its really interesting to think about why we do this (and I think most of us do to some extent)

  • Maybe we are people pleasers?
  • Maybe we want to be liked?
  • Could we be afraid  of the consequences?
  • Most likely, we are mind-reading what people would say or do?

And what are the consequence when we don’t say no?

  • Maybe we feel uncomfortable
  • Anxiety kicks in when we are not being ourself – has this happened to you?
  • Then we can lose confidence, end up in a vicious circle and then start saying yes even more!

Watch the short video below and then read the tips underneath that will make you think and perhaps do things differently.

If any of this sounds familiar to you and you want to start to say no, here are some things that you could do:

  • Stop and think about when you do it
  • Say to the person, let me have a think about it
  • Take a step back and think about why you are doing it and whether it’s in line with your values and being yourself
  • Ask yourself what’s important to you about being you
  • Say no if that’s what you’ve decided, explain the reasons and how saying yes is making you feel. You can always find a great way of saying it!
  • Move on

If the person is unhappy, then maybe you need to move on from them???? – Just saying -and I know it depends who they are.

You could also take some responsibility for having said yes in the past and the person may well be confused.

How about saying something like this – “I’ve always wanted to have a great relationship with you and I haven’t always been totally honest with myself and have said yes when instinctively I have wanted to say no. I’ve realised now what I’m doing and I apologise for any confusion I’m causing. I hope you understand and that we can still have a good relationship”

Enjoy reflecting on this week’s blog! If you want some support to make changes, give me a ring on 07973 635102 or get in touch here http://bit.ly/talktoDrB

See you next week!

Dr Bridget

Expectation – Good or bad?

expectations become reality

Expectations become Reality

Expectation – good or bad?

I’m going to be controversial.

We want results in life – right?

And is it ok to have what we want – right?

Great Relationships, Wealth, Health, Business or career success, Fun, Happiness, Anything else that we want

Some people believe that expectation leads to sadness and disappointment and I sort of get that, but if you are just leaving things to chance in case you get disappointed, then you are not in charge of your life- after all, your thoughts become your reality so let’s expect good things to happen!!!

Some Questions

Q.Have you ever noticed that the results that you get are directly related to your expectation of what is going to happen?

Q.Have you ever heard that “what you get is what you focus on”?

Q.And could you change your thoughts so that you are fully focused, have amazing goals and take the action needed?

I’ve been thinking about what we need to do to get what we want and have come up with these for you which are for your consideration ?

  • Develop a great emotional state
  • Have an expectation of getting what you want
  • Create goals that are specific and in your mind all of the time
  • Have empowering beliefs in yourself and  your ability to create the life that you want
  • And then take action!

Watch the video where I am at a business show and have an expectation of interacting with people to get a number of new clients that I can help to get success and fulfillment. And then have a think about what might be stopping you from doing this to get something that you want. And leave comments below or get in touch with me

What might be stopping you?

  • A lack of goals?
  • A lack of self belief?
  • A belief that you are not in charge of your life?
  • A negative emotional state?

All of these things that stop you or could be improved can be actioned by accessing a free consultation with me as a starting point.

The real questions are – do you want it enough? Are you worth it?

Until next week, set an expectation and let me know how it goes.

Dr Bridget

Are you focusing on the wrong things? Find out here

What are you focussing on?

The right things or the wrong things?

Broody hen with no focus

Focus

When something grabs our attention, we focus on it and pour our energy into it. But sometimes these activities are not helpful, and could actually be stopping us from reaching our life goal, happiness and/or success.

Focusing on the wrong tasks can actually derail us from our path to success and result in a detour. It can leave us feeling tired and stuck, and unhappy when we don’t see any progress in our lives but yet we are still using a lot of our energy.

In this week’s prescription for success video I have the help of broody Barbara (as pictured!) to help me demonstrate what the negative effect of having a particular focus can have on your life.

If you would like to find out if your focus is benefiting you or holding you back, then click here to download a helpful table. This table will be able to help you decide whether you need to change your focus or not.

If you change your focus, you WILL change your results.

If you do fill out the table, I would love to know what you found out. Is your focus on the right or wrong things and are you therefore getting the results you want? Or don’t want? And are you going to make a change? Let me know in the comments!

If you need help in changing your focus and reaching succeed, give me a ring on 07973 635102 or click here to fill in a form and claim a FREE consultation.

Until next time, happy brooding!!

Dr. Bridget

3 Reasons to Be Authentic and What Happens if you are not

What are 3 reasons to be authentic?

And what is the impact of not being authentic?

ARe you being who you want to be?

Authentic

Most of my blogs are inspired by clients, and this week I took inspiration from a client who felt that the image that they portrayed to others wasn’t really who they were. So, they decided to do something about it!

They felt that when they weren’t being authentic, they weren’t at ease, they felt out of place and therefore this was rubbing off on their business and their success levels.

If you are not feeling at ease with yourself internally and what you are portraying to the outside world, then this attitude will be projected. The dis-ease will affect other people and they will be less attracted to you and working/interacting with you. This rejection can then lead to self-doubt and confusion, which is never good, therefore it needs a fix as soon as possible. And the only fix is being authentic and true to yourself!

The 3 main reasons to be authentic are:

  • Feeling at ease and happy with yourself
  • Feeling more confident
  • This happiness and positivity will be projected and you will see more success in your life, business or career

For me personally, it has taken a while to figure out who I think I am and be that person, and I certainly feel uncomfortable if I’m not living in line with my core values and beliefs, and if I allow my boundaries to be crossed.

In this week’s video, which you can find just below, I discuss one of my clients who is whole heartedly himself and doesn’t fit into the stereotype his job sometimes has or how other people expect him to be. He decided that to be authentic and jump out of a plane for charity, from which he rediscovered the buzz that had been missing from his life.

I would like to thank my client, Martin, for agreeing to share his experience – and I’m sure you agree, that he is being himself and is proud of it.

If you think that you are being who other people want you to be rather than who you want to be, make a decision to find out exactly who you are and what is important to you.

It is ok to be yourself and you will lead a much happier life if you do just that.

If you are struggling to find you, or if you know who you are but struggling to portray it and would like some help becoming authentic, give me a ring on 01656 347027 or 07973 635102.

You can also click here to fill in a form and we can arrange a FREE consultation.

If you are feeling stuck – check out the rest of my website to find out how I can help.

Until next time, just be you!

Dr. Bridget

 

Why Personal Breakthrough Therapy? What Could It Do for You?

Do you ever feel like you’re being held back from reaching your goals or your full potential?

Do you feel like you’re stuck and not progressing forward in life or business?

Our daily lives are constantly piling new frustrations upon us that can mentally and emotionally restrict us. This can happen because of the state of our relationships, lack of belief in ourselves or even as a result of what is happening in the world around us. This pain and upset can mean you miss out on your dreams and goals in life and business.

Personal Breakthrough Therapy is a great way to tackle the mental obstacles and emotional baggage holding you back. Think of it as a spring-cleaning of the mind It allows you to gain a higher level of peace in your mind, stops the negative chatter and therefore allows you to experience more joy and fulfilment in all areas of life.

Transformation and healing is more achievable than most people believe. By working through your emotional stress and connecting more fully with who you are, , you can live a more inspired and proactive life where you are in charge of the results that you want.

It doesn’t matter who you are, or what you feel is holding you back, Personal Breakthrough Therapy can work for you! It can:

  • Change how you handle stress
  • Help prevent against burn out or aid recovery
  • Help with difficult life changes and transformations
  • Build self-confidence and help you overcome fears and anxiety
  • Rid you of self-doubt, lack of motivation, internal conflicts and limiting beliefs
  • Help you reach your highest performance level, be that in business, sport or life

Personal Breakthrough Therapy is a highly effective and fast, using a range of coaching and therapy techniques. It’s designed to make a shift in your life and quickly! Unlike other therapies its approach allows it to be quite fun and relaxed whilst working on your unconscious processes that are the root of most issues.

Become the ‘real you’ and reach your full potential – invest in yourself and reap the benefits for a life time. If you would like to discuss becoming unstuck, contact Dr. Bridget or book a FREE session and begin the change process.

Significant changes happen in just a few hours and Dr Bridget provides a guarantee. There are very few coaches who have Dr Bridget’s medical experience and coaching skills and give that guarantee.

Dr Bridget is passionate about supporting people and, as an ex GP and Neuro Linguistic Programming Coach and Trainer, is uniquely situated to provide a quick prescription to help you get to your full potential.

Until next time – take control of your future,

Dr. Bridget