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How people around you have helped create your story

Story

Generations

Recently I’ve written for Psychologies Magazine about  a theme that’s close to my heart – “Rewriting your Story”. It was in the June 2018 issue in the dossier section if you want to find it. I’ve also been doing some Face Book lives for them which has been welcomed by readers and watchers.

Rewriting your story is about  how your values and beliefs create your story- that chatter that you have in your head that leads to your behaviour and your actions. And then starting to rewrite it, if it is not working for you.

People also have an influence on this and this can be from generations ago. If you think about it, maybe your Gran or Grandad and the story they had, may have an impact on you. Sometimes they are involved directly in bringing you up  or have influenced your parents. I have a lot of clients who’s parents have adopted behaviours and attitudes from their parents – remember the “Children should be seen and not heard”  beliefs from a couple of generations ago. Also, your parents may have had a challenging upbringing which has directly affected the way they brought you up.

Or maybe you have had generations of love and support and then find yourself in a relationship where people put less value on family and support?

Of course, other people around you today contribute to you story- your peers, colleagues, friends, clients.

Watch the video below and then ask yourself the questions below it:

Ask yourself these questions:

  • Are you happy with your “story”?
  • Who has influenced who you are today?
  • Are you happy with that story?
  • If not, can you move on?

Get in touch with me here or give me a ring on 07973 635102 if not.

You can also book an appointment here. 

If you have a story that doesn’t help you, there are plenty of ways that I can help and that will start with a  session to talk about what is going on for you and how I can help.

Until next week, happy re-writing!

Dr Bridget

 

How to Resist Temptation – Raising your Awareness

Can you resist temptation?

Resisting Temptation

How to resist temptation

Our behaviour is generally driven by our unconscious mind and the strategies it has in place which are set off by different triggers. Sometimes these triggers can be something we see, hear or say to ourselves.

One of my vices is biscuits – I usually feel a strong temptation to eat them after seeing a biscuit. It can be at home or in a shop or in someone else’s hand, even on TV! Another is wine – this is usually triggered by looking at a clock, as in my unconscious mind it is connected to relaxing at the end of the day.

Whilst the odd glass of wine or biscuit isn’t going to kill me – if it gets to a point where I can’t resist the temptation, it could become dangerous to my health and wellbeing. To avoid this it is important to work out what triggers the temptations, unless we work this out, we will keep doing it.

It is also important to make a note of the path temptation takes. The feeling of wanting something starts off at a low intensity after it is first triggered, and it then builds up to high. It is at this point that we most desire the thing we want, and it is at this point we need to remind ourselves to resist, as after a few minutes the intensity of our temptation will begin to die down again. Temptation is a bit like a bell curve, it goes up, but will come back down.

Knowing this shape will help you be able to consciously change your behaviour and take control. Knowing your trigger gives you the ability to notice the urge before it is at it’s most intense, allowing you to prepare to resist long enough until the urge disappears. Watch the video below and practice resisting an urge until it disappears.

If you want to know more about formal techniques for changing yours or other people’s unconscious strategies – click here to look at my NLP courses – we work on a variety of ways to interrupt patterns and change behaviour, which are very useful.

If you are practising this technique, let me know if you are having problems and we can talk about it – 01656 347 027 or 07973 635102 or click here to book a FREE consultation.

Until next week- happy resisting!

Dr. Bridget

What happens When You Don’t Take Time Out

Taking time out

Taking time out became the topic for this video as I talked to my videographer – Chris Davies from Colour Black Productions – during our most recent filming session of my Prescriptions for Success videos.

We’d both become very busy as a result of raising our profile and the conversation was about how, or should, we be taking time off to reflect. We realised that taking time out, allows you to plan, reflect, congratulate yourself and keep an eye on your journey towards your goals. If you don’t take the time, you can become a victim of “busyness” and lose sight of where you are heading and forget how far you have come.

One of the main reasons for people seeking coaching and mastermind group support is to be able to take that time out and regain focus of their path to success and their goals. The results of doing this are absolutely enormous! The focus and consistency it provides become what you do! And that is what gets you the results.

Watch the video below within which I discuss this further. If you would like to escape the “busyness” and re-focus on your gals, you can click here to fill in a form for a FREE consultation.

If you are looking for an easy and quick fix, I would suggest committing to taking half an hour a day to plan or reflect on your day and what the next one will bring – it can be very empowering (and also calming).

Make sure that your plans line up to what you want in your life and let me know the effects the time-out has and if it empowers you.

If you are struggling with this concept and don’t know what to do, call me on 07973 635102 or 01656 347027 and we can chat it through and work out a path for you.

Until next week, enjoy your time-out,

Dr. Bridget

Comparing Your Brain to a Car Engine – A Useful Metaphor?

Comparing Your Brain to a Car Engine

Complicated Brain?

Complicated wiring?

Do you ever get frustrated with yourself? Or the way you use your brain to think and get the results you want?

Do you ever get frustrated with your car? – I’ve had my car for over a year and it’s far more complicated than my previous one and I’m not really using it to its full potential!

In fact, I’ve only just found out how to use the Sat Nav, up until recently I continued to use my old one above the built in system. Which has resulted in people thinking I’m weird! Being considered weird doesn’t really bother me because I like to be different but it’s a bit frustrating to own a car I don’t really know how to use!

So, like the car, are we not using our minds to our full potential because we don’t 100% know how to use them. Watch my video below where I discuss this metaphor in more detail.

If you would like help understanding more clearly how yours works (your brain not your car!) when it is being used to process information and obtain results, just click here and fill out a form for a FREE consultation. You too can become a brain mechanic and reach your full potential!

Here’s the key message (no pun intended) – if you don’t master your brain and the way you think, you’ll get results that aren’t what you want!

If you want to make a difference to your life, your business or your career, you need to stream line your thinking to help you avoid brain breakdowns.

If you agree and need support to do just this, give me a call on 01656 347027 or 07973635102 to start simplifying your life and using your brain to its full potential!

See you next week,

Dr. Bridget

Do You Have Internal Conflict? This is one of the causes

One of the most common causes for internal conflict is something called PARTS ( in NLP terminology)

Mental Conflict

Internal Conflict

Just like you, I have faced internal battles. I remember sitting in front of my computer with this battle in my head going “part of me wants to be successful but part of me wants to do nothing at all”. I’d just started my NLP coaching business and I was struggling. Luckily, I was able to resolve this issue with my coach quite quickly.

Now, it is my role to help people with this internal struggle, and I want to share the cause for this common problem with you and raise awareness of this solvable problem.

In NLP, this conflict is known as “Parts”, because it is as if we have two parts to ourselves, which want different things. It usually arises from a significant negative emotional event which is either one big event or several small ones fairly close together.

For example, a recent client found herself in this battle after having just been made redundant following a complaint, losing her dad about the same time and having one of her children spend a week in hospital with a serious illness. All these negative events had caused part of her to steer away from her want to be successful in her new business, and focus on the want of some peace in her life. That is when she came to me for help.

I helped her put the conflict to rest and focus on what she really wanted.

“Parts” have their own personality and are generally formed to help protect you, but in doing so, they can cause conflicts with other parts of your brain – a sort of Mental Tug of War.

In this week’s Prescription for Success video below, I discuss ‘parts’ and the effects internal conflict can have.

If you want to talk about any type of internal conflict that may be stopping you from gaining success in your life or your business, then give me a call on 07973 635102 or 01656 347027. Or click here to fill out a form and I’ll be in touch very quickly.

If you are interested in this topic and NLP, I run NLP Practitioner courses, where you can learn how to not only resolve this issue for yourself, but for others too. Click here for more info on my NLP Practitioner courses.

Part of me would like to keep writing the blog and part of me wants to get some lunch so, until next time, go for what you want in life!

Dr. Bridget