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Wobbles

5 Ways to Stop Wobbles

Hands up – Who has Wobbles?

Wobbles

Wobbles

I certainly have them and so do my clients.

In fact, I’d go as far as saying that probably everyone has them!

I’ve started going to the gym recently – a part of my self care – and I overdid the 1st machine and I got off and couldn’t walk – It was actually quite scary. I had this vision of me being carted off to hospital and I felt quite panicky. I think it was because one of my friends had been quite stressed and had retired and had then had a stroke 2 days later – I think I wondered whether the same thing had happened to me.

And  in our life, our relationships, our work or our business, the same sort of feeling can happen and its very uncomfortable.

Listen to the 5 things that you can do when you are having a wobble in the video below:

1. Notice when you have a wobble so that you can start to understand why and to recognise the triggers and patterns that are appearing.

2. Understand your comfort zones –  We all have them. The way that we have been brought up by our parents, teachers and other people who surround us give us that thermostat beyond which we can’t go. Or at least find it uncomfortable to go beyond. The way to overcome the thermostat is to expand our comfort zones so that we feel more comfortable with our thermostat. We are in control of it.

3. Find out and work with your values. For my business, mine are Determination, Self-care, Fun and Making a difference. I have wobbles when I’m not working with these values so I keep them in my conscious mind all the time. Click here to get a values exercise and find out what yours are.

4. Set some compelling goals. Not setting goals means that you are more likely to have wobbles because your U/C  mind doesn’t know what you are doing and you can get anxious as a result.

5. Look at who surrounds you – are they mainly mood hoovers or definite suporters. If you are surrounded by people that drain your energy, you will lose confidence and definitely wobble. Find some true supporters who you can talk to about anything.

If you know where you want to go and what you want to do and your unconscious mind is throwing up all sorts of reasons for not taking the action – usually manifested as negative  internal chatter and the feeling of wobbling, then take some action. If you are still stuck or uncomfortable, then get in touch so that we can sort this out together. Remember that you only have one life and I’d love to help you live it to the full!

Until next week,

Dr Bridget – unwobbling people across the world.

Delegation

Delegation- the Reasons to Do It

Delegation – Reasons to do it

Delegation

Delegation

Delegation is very much about mind set. We often get to the stage where we are overwhelmed because of our success or our “busyness” or because of our worry about giving things to other people:

 

  • Will they do a good job?
  • Will they do it as I want to do it?
  • Will it have an effect on my business in a bad way?
  • What if I don’t reach my target because it all goes wrong?

And here’s the thing – Not delegating can cause us to take our eye of the goals that we want to achieve because we can’t focus and we get ineffective.

And it can stop us living in our zone of genius- a term from the book called “The Big Leap” by Gay Hendricks – a highly recommended read.

I often talk about this in my mastermind groups because as people and businesses grow and life gets really busy, it’s something that can help people to take a step back and think more about their life and business and just create that space to flourish.

Sometimes people have delegated in the past – myself included- and it’s not worked out. And it can put  you off.

Sometimes we delegate the wrong things and don’t realise until it has gone wrong.

Have a watch of the video beow and then use the tool that I have given you below


I have attempted many times to delegate and now delegate my account, some of my Social Media, my videoing, my web tasks – oh and the cooking! It has taken some time and been painful , but I have now grown my business by finding the right people to do these things.

So if you think that you want to do or should delegate, there are 3 things to ask yourself:

  1. What shouldn’t I be doing?
  2. What can’t I do?
  3. What don’t I want to do?

Brainstorm the answers to these three things and then pick one thing to delegate this month and just do it.

If you are struggling to do this becuase your unconscious mind, which is there to keep you safe is bipping away in your ear going “It will all go wrong”, “I can’t trust other people”, or No-one does it as well as me”, then book a free half hour session or send me a message on my contact page and let’s talk about it!

Go from Overwhelm to underwhelm and Freedom

Go from  Lack of focus to being totally Focused

Go from Doubt and stuck to Certainty and Freedom

Go from Not reaching your Goals to Reaching your Goals

Until next week,

Dr Bridget, delegating your success to you!

Consistency

The Benefits of Consistency

Consistency Gives You that Slight Edge

Consistency

Consistency

Hi

I’m sure you have already experienced the benefits of being consistent? And very likely been inconsistent and become frustrated with yourself?
Ive been becoming more consistent this year and this means that I notice when I’m not – things like forgetting to drink water or exercise every day.
And a couple of things have reminded me of the benefits recently:
  1. I started to read “The Slight Edge” by Jeff Olson again. It’s a brilliant book which is about finding the actions that are small but, if applied consistently, will creat you the results that you want. It has an amazing story about 2 frogs – have a watch of the video to find out more
  2. I went to a Client attraction summit and realised that I just needed to do certain things consistently to grow my client base and reach my goals going forward.
And I’ve made some decisions about my health and fitness and also about my business. Both of which will enable me to help more people and have more fun.
Have a watch of the video below:

I therefore wanted to encourage you to become more consistent. Work out what small actions will give you what you want in your life and then do them. You are probably nearly there when you give up, so just keep going and you will get there – much like the frog!
If there’s anything stopping you or getting in your way, let me know and we can have a talk about it and find out what help is needed to achieve your goals and dreams.
Keep on keeping on and see you next week
Dr Bridget -consistently being on your side!
Sysytem

Where are you in the Molehill System?

Have I lost the plot? Mole hills?

Sysytem

Mole hill

OK- so I’m known for being a bit different and even odd (nicely odd) at times! I was filming some prescriptions for success in my garden recently and noticed there were lots of mole hills – which is slightly frustrating as I thought they had moved over to the park on the other side of the river. Anyway, I like to take opportunities to film something a bit different and it got me thinking – “What is the purpose of a mole hill?” So I looked it up and apparently, moles have a system of tunnels, which I guess I already knew, and  the reason for making a  mole hill is that when it rains, all of the moles’ food (worms and such like) goes to the surface and they end up having to also come to the surface in order to survive. Thats really interesting and has made me more tolerant of the mole hills. And I thought – maybe this could be looked at as a metaphor for ourselves.

Maybe, we can bury ourselves underground and feel safe and secure but sometimes we need to poke our head up above  our comfort system in order to survive and thrive. I wonder if moles feel uncomfortable doing this? I have a cat who has bought moles into the house and can be seen sitting by a mole hill listening intently for any movement.

Have a watch of my video below and ask yourself the questions underneath.

Ok – so not my best video but it does raise some questions:

  • Should I stay subscribed to this web site? Thats not a serious question by the way- of course you will – lots of new things coming soon!
  • Where are you at your most comfortable – in your tunnel system or poking your head out of your comfortable place in order to survive?
  • Do you have a system that you function best in or do you need to find one where you can stay comfortable and survive and thrive?

If you would like a chat to me, either to tell me that was a bit weird or to get some help in surviving and thriving, click here

I also have 2 places left on my NLP Practitioner Course in January – find out more here – it gives you a system to grow and become totally excellent rather than getting stuck in tunnels

Until next week, happy digging

Dr Bridget

Beach

Why is it so Hard to Keep Up those Important Habits

Those Important Habits – why are they so difficult to keep up?

HabitsJust for a second, lets be clear what I mean by useful habits – those such as exercise, fluid intake, journaling, following up on contacts made, accounting and so on. I’m sure the list is endless and I’m also sure that some people – maybe not you – do other habits that are harmful in our eyes that may be useful to them as well. (That’s a bit of a big statement which I believe to be true – after all in NLP terms, every behaviour has a positive intention)

The bit of our brain that has been given the function of keeping habits going is the Occipito-frontal  area. This is an important part of the brain that keeps us consistently doing things – good or bad alike. I’ve thought long and hard about this and, as I’ve just bought yet another planner! I’ve come up with 4 ways to help myself and you to nurture “good habits” Have a watch of the video and find out what they are underneath.

  1. Trick your brain by being consistent with good habits – make time each day to do them and become consistent
  2. Change your environment – if you relax in an area of your house, find a different area to do those things that need focus and thought. A coffee shop or a part of the garden or your office may work better for you.
  3. Keep your habits that you are working on to yourself – apparently the brain sees telling people as the habit nearly finished and takes its focus of the habit
  4. Do things in bite sized chunks- the brain releases dopamine, a feel good hormone, when you finish something- so do bits at a time so that you get that feel good factor. I guess it also fits with Starting with the end in mind and the Pomodora technique.

I’m sure we all want to be successful and feel good, so let’s have a think about what we want as a habit and follow the steps above to embed it. Also my NLP Practitioner course has a huge amount of ways that we can use our brain to create and keep habits by getting the unconscious mind on board and changing the pictures in your head so that the habit becomes a new pattern very quickly. I run 4 courses a year so have a look at the details of this life changing course and let me now of you have any questions

As always , if you want to talk about how you can create your present and your future book a free consultation here.

Until next week- leave me some comments and get in touch if you want to chat or change your life.

Dr Bridget