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Are You Thinking Like a Sat Nav?

sat navAre You Thinking Like a Sat Nav?

I expect you’ve noticed that when you follow the directions on a Sat Nav you don’t always arrive where you wanted to arrive. You may end up turning down narrow lanes or even going around in circles however sometimes you may go straight to your desired destination. Having nearly driven into in a river 2 days ago in Somerset, I can really resonate with this!

In this week’s Prescription for Success we’re going to explore the metaphor – Are You Thinking Like a Sat Nav?

Narrow Lanes – Dead Ends – Going around in circles – We’ve all been there!

The Sat Nav can take us down those narrow lanes, down dead ends or even around in circles but why does this happen?

It may be that you haven’t been specific enough with the detail you’ve put into the Sat Nav. You may not have chosen the most appropriate options, for example, the fastest route or the most direct route or even the route that avoids traffic.

Another scenario could be that you become distracted, decide to take a detour and perhaps stop for lunch without saving your destination information into the Sat Nav.

Alternatively you may not really know where you are going.

I know some people like to think about the detail first whereas others may want to know their destination and the big picture first.  If you’ve got no idea where you are going then maybe that’s the reason, but does that work for you? Do you really need to know your destination, the postcode etc. How much detail do you need? How are you going to deal with distractions that keep you from your destination?

It’s just a short metaphor to have a think about and have some fun.

If you are having difficulty knowing what you want in life, where your destination is and you’re feeling a bit stuck or distracted then give me a call and we can get this sorted for you in no time.  You can book an appointment here   or my phone number is 07973 635102.

See you next week

Dr Bridget – setting you back on the right path for you!

I’m now booking for my NLP practitioner starting in November – If you’d like to learn more about this fascinating subject and get skills for life, here’s a link.

Why We Lose Our Motivation?

You've Got This What can you do to increase your motivation?

Do you need to change your emotional state? Maybe, for some reason, you have lost your motivation and are simply not sure of the reason?

Maybe you need to change your environment and the people you are with, or  work out what’s important to you-  your values.

You can look at it two ways.

  1. You can look at the situation from a conscious level and ask yourself “Why am I not motivated?
  2. Alternatively, you could work on the unconscious mind – your values, your beliefs and whether those are aligned with what you want to do and with  your goals.

In this week’s video we consider these questions from an NLP perspective both at a conscious and unconscious level. Watch the video and think about what you can do to feel motivated.

In NLP, one of the filters that our mind uses at an really unconscious level are our meta-programmes. One of these is a meta-programme is called a “sameness/difference” one. It is about whether you like to do things the same way all of the time, or whether you like to do things differently all the time. This is a spectrum so – my preference is to do things mainly the same – so NLP Coaching and Training, and within that to have differences. I think during the Lockdown we all had that feeling of everything being the same over all the time. This resulted in me feeling quite unmotivated but, when I started thinking about my new goals, I felt really motivated. I wanted to take action and thought “I’m going to get this done” and it felt really empowering.

That’s a little personal experience of mine about what makes me feel unmotivated and what gets me motivated.

However I want to ask you the question – Are you motivated at the moment? 

If not, what would motivate you?

At a conscious level, it’s about personal awareness.  Take note of what you are doing and whether it motivates you or not. If it does motivate you,  do more of it.. If it reduces your motivation, either stop or do less of it.

Often, if you are struggling with motivation it’s usually something that is going on at a unconscious level.  This then results in you not getting your goals,  and maybe you are not enjoying your life to the full.

If this is you and you’d like some help with this then I discuss what is happening with you in a free 1/2 hour session. You can book an appointment here   or my phone number is 07973 635102. Give me a call and we can see what’s going on for you and start that process of getting you motivated again.

See you next week

Dr Bridget – re-energising you so that you make the most of life

I’m now booking for my NLP practitioner starting in November – If you’d like to learn more about this fascinating subject and get skills for life, here’s a link.

Do you say to yourself – I’m too busy?

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Do you say to yourself – I’m too busy?

“I’m too busy!” Do you say that to yourself?

How do you manage your time? Are you managing it in line with your purpose?

In this week’s video we consider these questions. Watch the video and think about what beliefs you have about time and whether these beliefs aligned to your purpose.

I was recently in a business meeting and someone was giving a talk on how we manage time, who we are and how that relates to it.

He had had a stroke when he was younger and he remembered lying in his hospital bed looking at a painting of three sheep on top of a mountain.  He thought to himself, “Before I had this stroke I would have said I’ve got no time to paint that picture but now I’ve had the stroke I’ve plenty for time and yet I can’t do it.”

He is fully recovered now, but he was saying that time and life are a little like art. Sometimes your perceptions about time are hardwired into your thoughts. For example, when we were young, how did our parents and teachers manage time?  These perceptions are hardwired into our thoughts and we have these beliefs such as “I’m too busy,” or maybe “I’ve got to use my time effectively,”

I’ve done lots of things in the last 48 hours.  I’ve finished a Master Practitioner Course, I’ve written five blogs, I’ve had several meetings. I could probably say “I’m too busy.” or someone may say it to me. However I think I’m managing my time according to my purpose.  If you are managing your time according to your purpose and you are enjoying what you do then you can feel quite time rich and that you have lots of time.

It’s just a little prescription for you to think about how you manage time and whether you managing it in line with your purpose or not.

If you think you’ve got some issues with time and need some help to go forward and be the person you want to be then book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access a free half hour with me or you can book it on the above link.

See you next week

Dr Bridget – helping you realise that time is simply your perception

 

Is your gut feeling useful or not?

Gut Feeling

Is your gut feeling useful or not?

A lot of people talk about their gut feeling and how useful it is. We’ve all had experiences where we feel, “Yes, I’m going to that,” or “No, I’m not going to do that,” and it’s turned out to be right.

My perspective on this is that it’s not always aright.

Your gut feeling is about what lies outside your conscious awareness. Your brain is constantly sensing, hearing, observing along with running your body, storing your memories etc. It is constantly taking things in, at any given moment.

In this week’s video I discuss how you get that gut feeling, what influences it and whether it’s likely to be accurate or not.  Watch the video and think about what influences your gut feeling and whether it’s useful or not.

There are some key influences on our “gut feeling.”

  1. Firstly, our neurons that are involved with taking action light up whether you are taking the action or someone else. It’s called a mirror system and that forms part of the intuition. So if someone does something it’s almost like we are doing it and that helps with that gut feeling.
  2. Another influence is our past experience.  If you have relevant experience and you get that gut feeling and you make that decision quickly, in the spur of the moment, then that is likely to be quite accurate. However, if you haven’t got relevant experience, you’ll take longer to think about something and work out what you feel about it  and that’s less likely to be accurate.
  3. Thirdly, if you’ve had past experiences that haven’t been particularly pleasant and you are getting dragged back to those experiences regularly then when you come to make a quick decision you might rely on that past experience and that may not be helpful.

Have a little think about when you use your  feeling and work out what influences it and whether it’s useful or not to you in a particular situation.

If you’d like to find out a little more about how your unconscious mind influences you, and use it to go forward and be the person you want to be then book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access a free half hour with me or you can book it on the above link.

See you next week

Dr Bridget – helping you to refine your gut instinct

 

Who am I?

Who am I?

Who am I?

I wonder how many times you’ve asked yourself the question, “Who am I?”

When you think about it why do you need to know?

Is it because you’re feeling a bit confused?  Or have you lost your direction?

Or do people treat you in different ways at different times.

It is actually a basic need that we have to know who we are.

In this week’s video a dig a bit deeper into this question “Who am I?”  Watch the video and ask yourself the questions below:

Our roles are not our identity

When we think about our identity we often think of simply our roles. For example, I’m a mother, I’m a gran, I’m just a housewife or I’m a business owner.   However, if you think about it you are actually a lot more than your role and it’s really important to know who you are.

Here is an example of some questions you could ask yourself once you’ve stated your role

For example – I’m a business owner

  • Who am I that is more than that?
  • Who am I that’s not a business owner?

I think I’m a coach, I’m a mum, I’m a helper, I’m a fixer, I’m a supporter and actually if you take it to it’s limit then I’m someone who enjoys every minute of my life.

Our identity is a whole system of our ideas and our experiences.

I was recently reading a book called Atomic Habits by James Clear and one of the take aways I got from that book was – what we do actually creates who we are.

So, if we are doing habits that create who we are is that who we actually want to be?  Moreover, if we are not who we want to be because we’ve got these habits that are creating that person, then let’s create the person we want to be and match the habit to go with that.

If you’d like to find out a little more about who you are and use it to go forward and be the person you want to be then book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access a free half hour with me or you can book it on the above link.

See you next week

Dr Bridget – Enjoying helping people understand themselves

If you’d like to learn more techniques to empty your head or get clear about what’s in  you head, I have a couple of  spaces left on my next NLP Practitioner course which runs over two lots of 4 days. 30/7/21-2/8/21 plus 20-23/8/21 – click here for further information

 

Why do I sometimes feel like my head is empty?

head empty

“I feel like my head is empty.”

I was running a Master Practitioner course recently and someone on the course said, “I don’t know why, but I feel as though my head is empty, I go to think about something and I feel like there is nothing there.”

I understood what she meant as I have had this feeling. It is when you feel like you are scrabbling around in your head and you can’t access things, it appears a little foggy and you can’t find any words.

Maybe this is a challenge and maybe it’s a good thing.

In this week’s video I consider the pros and cons of having an empty head. Watch the video and try out the memory strategies below.

Alphabetical Recall

I was recently trying to remember someone’s name – I could see the person but I just couldn’t remember her name. So, I went through the alphabet and when I got to ‘N’ my unconscious mind identified that, that was it. However, I still couldn’t remember the name so I put ‘N’ into my phone and the name came up.  It’s a good thing to do if you can’t recall something.

The Memory Palace

Another strategy is the “Memory Palace”.  If I want to remember something like a name, or a blog title then I can connect these things to spaces for example in my sitting room.  So I would think of the name and I would see the person sitting on my sofa.  I tried this for this blog and I though of my sofa with an empty skull, with ABC next to it and then the person’s name. It helped me recall the main points.

Sometimes our brain tries to protect us and that’s why we get an empty head and there are several reasons why we feel like this:

  • Maybe there is so much going on that you cannot access information. I call this a fog where everything is going around in your head and it feels really full.
  • Maybe you’ve experienced occasions where your mind is wandering and you are not fully focussed on your goals or haven’t got any.
  • It may even be that you have a belief that you can’t remember things – a belief that creates that reality.

All these problems can be sorted out with NLP techniques.

However, I was also thinking that sometimes it’s good to have an empty head.  I sometimes have an empty head because I’ve done some internal tidying up of my thoughts and there isn’t any negative chatter. I’m also very much a big picture person so I don’t think about a lot of detail which means there isn’t a lot going on in my head.

Moreover if you are doing mindfulness or meditation it really is helpful to have not much going on in your head so you can notice thoughts come in and out.

I hope these tips help your head, whether it is full or empty.

If you are struggling with this and would like some help then book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access that free half hour with me or you can book it on the above link.

See you next week

Dr Bridget –

If you’d like to learn more techniques to empty your head or get clear about what’s in  you head, I have a couple of  spaces left on my next NLP Practitioner course which runs over two lots of 4 days. 30/7/21-2/8/21 plus 20-23/8/21 – click here for further information

 

A strategy to Tackle Any Problem

strategy

Would you be interested in a strategy to tackle any problem?

Sometimes when we have a problem to solve, we succumb to fear, we start second guessing ourselves, we procrastinate and spend a lot of time really struggling and not knowing what to do to solve the problem .

I was in a recent networking/business  growth event and we were working together to tackle each others problems. I highly recommend Zokit – the business  growth organisation. One person in my group was really busy and we suggested that he made himself  less busy by delegating and getting people on board, however what he was really struggling with was being decisive about the more detailed areas of his business.

It reminded me of an article I’d recently read called “Strategy to tackle any problem.”

It’s quite simple to use, watch the video and try out the steps below to tackle any problem.

A strategy to tackle any problem!

  1. The first step is to take some decisive action. Once you’ve taken this action-it doesn’t matter what the action is, the universe conspires to help you to get it.
  2. Now, flood yourself with certainty-  know that you’ve made the right decision. Remove all doubt. You are going to carry out the tasks related to that decisive action.
  3. Thirdly, take some massive action. When you take this action you will know whether it is right or not and you can adjust it if required. Moreover if you are not heading towards your goals with that decisive action then you can stop and take another decisive action.

This can apply to all areas of our lives. We often spend a lot of time being indecisive where:

  • Part of us wants to do one thing and part wants to do another.
  • We question – Shall I do this? or Shall I do that?
  • We think – I can’t do this, or I should/must do that

All this goes around in our head and it takes us away from really concentrating on what is important for our business, our life, our relationships or even our career.

So this week, follow the 3 steps above and take some decisive action.

If you are struggling to take some action and would like some help with this then book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access that free half hour with me or you can book it on the above link.

Enjoy seeing how you can empty any negative thoughts and emotions with this simple and decisive  three step strategy and see you next week.

Dr Bridget – let’s step it up together.

If you’d like to learn more techniques to get rid of limiting decisions and  and negative emotions  I have a couple of  spaces left on my next NLP Practitioner course which runs over two lots of 4 days. 30/7/21-2/8/21 plus 20-23/8/21 – click here for further information

Also, the person who was helped with  this decision owns this company that I would highly recommend for printe management – I wish I’d met him earlier.

How do I allow myself to be happy?

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How do I allow myself to be happy?

It’s a question a lot of people often ask themselves. It sort of implies that they not allowing themselves to be happy.  It’s a really interesting question as it’s almost like there is a decision that they’ve made, or other people have made that they can’t allow themselves to be happy.

In this week’s video I share with you the story of a client whose main problem was that they couldn’t allow themselves to be happy, be spontaneous and have fun.   Listen to the video about their story and how we worked together to help them overcome this problem.

“How can I allow myself to be happy, spontaneous and have fun? “

This was the question my client asked.

There was something stopping them all the time and when we went back to the root cause, it was from their unconscious mind. When they were a teenager they were surrounded by people who didn’t listen to them and, as a direct result, they didn’t say what they thought, in order not to upset people. It was an impossibility for them to tell people how hurt they felt about what was going on and they said they  bottled up their feelings.

When I asked my client – what does that mean? What sort of bottle is that and where is it?  They said it was a sort of grey bottle in their chest which was full of hurt, confusion and sadness.  Of course,  that has a consequence for yourself, your physiology, for your future and just being happy and was a problem that needed to be dealt with.

We did some Time Line Therapy which get’s rid of limiting decisions like

  • ‘It’s not ok for me to be myself’,’
  • ‘It’s not ok for me to say how feel,’ or
  • ‘I’ve got to keep the peace.’

It also helps get rid of negative emotions like anger, sadness, fear, hurt and guilt.   All this was going on in their unconscious mind and, following Time Line Therapy, all this was gone. The bottle had gone and they couldn’t find the feelings anymore.

That’s brilliant and it’s the reason I do what I do. It could take years of counselling to get to this point but with Time Line Therapy the thoughts and emotions that are limiting you, go really quickly.

So, I’d like to ask  you

  • Do you have any feelings that you bottle up and where have they come from?
  • Can you picture that bottle inside you and what are the feelings that are inside it?
  • What affect is that having on you?

Some of the learnings that my client had was to surround themselves with people who actually listen to them and to have self belief and self worth. It didn’t take very long to do that – less than two hours.

So maybe you’ve got some feelings that you are bottling up and you can’t let those feelings out?  If you haven’t got the people around you that you can talk to, the bottle may stay full and then it is going to have consequences.

If that’s going on for you, I’d really like you to give me a shout so that we can get rid of that bottle and negative emotions and beliefs. Then you will be safer, happier and you can allow yourself to do whatever you want to do.

If you’d like some help with this then book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access that free half hour with me or you can book it on the above link.

Enjoy seeing how you can empty any negative thoughts and emotions in your bottle, and see you next week.

Dr Bridget – emptying people’s bottles

If you’d like to learn more techniques to get rid of limiting decisions and  and negative emotions  I have a couple of  spaces left on my next NLP Practitioner course which runs over two lots of 4 days. 30/7/21-2/8/21 plus 20-23/8/21 – click here for further information

 

Using Your Spaces Effectively

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How to use your spaces effectively

This blog has come about because I set my alarm for 6:15 this morning knowing that Chris my camera man was coming to film a new blog. As usual, I was not very organised and I was drawing a complete blank on what I was going to talk about. I was wracking my brain trying to come up with something new and different to talk about – I’ve been doing blogs for so long that I didn’t want to end up repeating myself.

So I got up and I sat at my kitchen table, I had my morning cup of tea and stared out at my garden and you know what I came up with four different blog ideas in fifteen minutes! It was like those blogs and that activity had become anchored to that space, so as soon as I sat down I was in the zone and the work flowed.

I’m one of those people who like to collect mugs with little catchphrases on them, I’ve got about 7 mugs that I use for different activities. I’m anchored to my mugs and you can be anchored to spaces and objects too.

That raises the question how do you become anchored to a space?  Listen to this week’s video and try out the tasks below to get them most out of your spaces and be more productive.

 

How do you become anchored to a space?

Well if you’re running a business ask yourself;

  • Where do you do your accounts?
  • Where do you speak to clients?
  • Where do you do you do your planning?

List your essential activities, think about where you do them best and maybe use that space to anchor those activities.

I’ve done quite a few blogs on anchoring recently, I’ve talked about anchoring positive emotions and anchoring to get rid of negative emotions. This is another blog in the anchoring theme.

If you’d like some help with this then get in touch book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access that free half hour with me or you can book it on the above link.

Enjoy the experimenting and see you next week.

Dr Bridget – clearing your negatives

If you’d like to learn more techniques to anchor positive emotions and get rid of negative emotions  I have a couple of  spaces left on my next NLP Practitioner course which runs over two lots of 4 days. 30/7/21-2/8/21 plus 20-23/8/21 – click here for further information

 

Anchoring Positive Emotions

Anchoring Positive Emotions

How to anchor positive emotions

Anchoring is when we apply a stimulus at the height of an emotion so that the two things become neurologically linked.  We can use this to anchor positive emotions or to get rid of negative emotions.

If you think about it, if we’ve got positive emotions and we can use them at will, then life becomes very interesting and we can use these emotions to move forward and stay positive.   On the flip side if you’ve anchored to negative emotions such as distress, sadness or disappointment from your past then you’re not going to be able to move forward.

There’s lots of reasons for getting positive emotions anchored and I teach how to do this on my NLP Practitioner course, and you can do it yourself.

In this week’s video I teach you the NLP technique to anchor positive emotions. Watch the video and try it for yourself.

Firstly you’ll need to decide on positive emotion you would like to anchor.

As an example, I’ve just been on a business retreat and I could do with some calm. So I thought I might anchor some calm on my knuckles. Follow the process in the video and use the script below to try it for yourself.

Firstly we say to ourselves..

Can you remember a time when you were totally calm?”   (Substitute calm with the positive emotion you want to anchor)

As you remember that time

go back to that time now…..go right back, float down into your body and see what you saw, hear what you heard and really feel those feelings of being totally calm   (As soon as you feel the positive emotion put your finger on your knuckle and as soon as it starts to disappear again take your finger off.)

I then repeat the process several times thinking of different times when I felt totally calm.

When I think about wanting to be calm I can then press the same knuckle and that calmness washes over me because it’s been neurologically linked to the stimulus of pressing my knuckle. This means that anytime I need some calm I just press my knuckle and the calmness comes over me.

So have a think what emotion you would like to have, maybe it’s excitement, determination or focus and use the highlighted script above and have a go.

If you’d like some help with this then get in touch book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access that free half hour with me or you can book it on the above link.

Enjoy the experimenting and see you next week.

Dr Bridget – clearing your negatives

If you’d like to learn more techniques to anchor positive emotions and get rid of negative emotions  I have a couple of  spaces left on my next NLP Practitioner course which runs over two lots of 4 days. 30/7/21-2/8/21 plus 20-23/8/21 – click here for further information

 

How to get rid of Negativity

How to get rid of negativity

What can you do to remove your negativity?

In this week’s blog I’m going to talk about one way to get rid of your negativity at a conscious level.

Now this is unusual for me because behaviour is generally generated at an unconscious level and from an NLP perspective, to remove unwanted negative behaviour you need to do some work at an unconscious level.   However, recently when working with a client I recognised that minor negativity can sometimes be dealt with at a conscious level.

Listen to this week’s video and try out the technique I’ve suggested to get rid of minor negativity.

I was recently working with a client and she was frustrated. It was a minor frustration she had with her partner who was doing the washing and leaving things on the side rather than folding them away. This meant that she ended up dealing with the consequences and having to tidy up.

We did a NLP technic called “Collapsed Anchors,” where you take a negative and you stack up some positives then you bring them together and the negative disappears. But I think we can do this at a conscious level too.

If you have something like frustration or a minor negative emotion that you want to get rid of, try this.  Hold the minor negative on one hand and then think of what would counteract that minor negative. In my situation, where I was feeling impatient, I was thinking maybe some love, some curiosity – how or why does that person do what they do , or some other positive emotion?  Or perhaps some focus on myself and my business, some excitement and determination. All of a sudden you’ve got all this that you are feeling instead of the negative emotion.  If you can put enough positive emotions into your thoughts you will override the negative at a conscious level.

It may take a bit longer than doing it from an NLP technic perspective `(at an unconscious level) but it’s certainly worth giving it a go.

So have a think what frustrations, impatience, anxieties and minor negative things you have and what positives you can counteract these emotions with. Stack up the positive feelings in your thoughts and you will find that negative will disappear.

If it’s not working at a conscious level for you and you’d like some help then get in touch book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access that free half hour with me or you can book it here https://book-an-appointment-with-Dr-Bridget.as.me/

Enjoy the experimenting and see you next week.

Dr Bridget – clearing your negatives

If you’d like to learn techniques to remove negative thinking at an unconscious level and also sort out your own thinking, I have a couple of  spaces left on my next NLP Practitioner course which runs over two lots of 4 days. 30/7/21-2/8/21 plus 20-23/8/21 – click here for further information

 

Can we be too busy?

are we too busy?Is it ok to be too busy?

The answer to this depends on the consequences of your busy life style. What I found during COVID is that I became too busy, this is because I changed my model of working to fit around the restrictions.

My husband told me just yesterday, “You’ve been really busy lately, I’ve hardly seen you.” That made me stop and think about whether I was okay about that, and whether I was happy missing out on everyday things that make life worth living.

I took some time to think, am I living my life how I want to live it? Am I taking time to reflect and grow? Am I too busy to stop and smell the roses?

Listen to this week’s video and reflect upon whether you are too busy and missing out on some things.

 

What I found during the pandemic is that I really missed out on the time I spent travelling to different networking events. I missed driving to my destinations, where I could forget about work and focus on the road. I found that because I was home all the time my day wasn’t being broken up and time was passing super quickly, the day passed in the blink of an eye and this was because I was too busy with work.

What I want to ask you is, what are the non-negotiables in your life that you can measure against to see if you are “too busy”.

Everyone has different priorities in their life, so have a think, what are your non-negotiables and what do you feel you are missing?

It could be anything from reading a book, going for a walk, whatever it is you feel you have been too busy to do. Make a list of everything you regard as your non-negotiables. Then, create a time audit of everything you do in a typical day of your life, and then work out do you have time for these non-negotiables?  So if you can’t fit your non-negotiables in then make some changes.

If you are struggling to make the changes and would like some help with this? let me know. You can fill in the contact form here, or book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access that free half hour with me

See you next week

Dr Bridget – clearing your thinking