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Why do we lose our motivation? And what can we do to recover it?

Why do we lose our motivation?

Motivation and values

Find your motivation!

Not feeling motivated? This post is for you.

I recently realised that I was struggling with my motivation, particularly regarding my business and health, and this caused a bit of what I call “flip-flopping”! So, this week I have decided to focus on motivation and help you make sure that you are fully motivated in all areas of your life and in particular, the ones that are most important to you.

What is motivation?

Motivation is driven by our values, which we hold on an unconscious level. And our values can be affected by our beliefs. This means that as we grow and experience situations, positive and negative, it can change our values, which isn’t always useful.

My business values used to be Intrigue, Interest, Fun and Purpose. Although they felt OK, there wasn’t much movement in them to make me want to take action. Whilst I do have a successful business, there is also room for it to grow and allowing me to reach many more people!

I realized I needed to do something about this and set about changing my values. To do this I had to start with the limiting beliefs that were supporting my values. Once I changed those beliefs, with the help of my coach, my values changed and felt so much more suited to my businesses and me. And most importantly, my motivation is back and I am taking more action!

My business’ values are now Determination, Fun, Achievement and Purpose. Because I’ve got something as strong as determination at the top of my motivators, I’ve stopped doing the “flip-flopping” and am very determined!

Watch the video below where I discuss my motivation. If you are feeling demotivated, then get in touch today – just click here.

Are you fully focused and motivated? If not, what is that be costing you, emotionally and financially?

Give me a ring on 01656 347027 or 07973 635102 to book a FREE consultation with Dr. Bridget and start your journey of discovery and success.

Until next time, keep that motivation up!

Dr. Bridget

Are you focusing on the wrong things? Find out here

What are you focussing on?

The right things or the wrong things?

Broody hen with no focus

Focus

When something grabs our attention, we focus on it and pour our energy into it. But sometimes these activities are not helpful, and could actually be stopping us from reaching our life goal, happiness and/or success.

Focusing on the wrong tasks can actually derail us from our path to success and result in a detour. It can leave us feeling tired and stuck, and unhappy when we don’t see any progress in our lives but yet we are still using a lot of our energy.

In this week’s prescription for success video I have the help of broody Barbara (as pictured!) to help me demonstrate what the negative effect of having a particular focus can have on your life.

If you would like to find out if your focus is benefiting you or holding you back, then click here to download a helpful table. This table will be able to help you decide whether you need to change your focus or not.

If you change your focus, you WILL change your results.

If you do fill out the table, I would love to know what you found out. Is your focus on the right or wrong things and are you therefore getting the results you want? Or don’t want? And are you going to make a change? Let me know in the comments!

If you need help in changing your focus and reaching succeed, give me a ring on 07973 635102 or click here to fill in a form and claim a FREE consultation.

Until next time, happy brooding!!

Dr. Bridget

3 Reasons to Be Authentic and What Happens if you are not

What are 3 reasons to be authentic?

And what is the impact of not being authentic?

ARe you being who you want to be?

Authentic

Most of my blogs are inspired by clients, and this week I took inspiration from a client who felt that the image that they portrayed to others wasn’t really who they were. So, they decided to do something about it!

They felt that when they weren’t being authentic, they weren’t at ease, they felt out of place and therefore this was rubbing off on their business and their success levels.

If you are not feeling at ease with yourself internally and what you are portraying to the outside world, then this attitude will be projected. The dis-ease will affect other people and they will be less attracted to you and working/interacting with you. This rejection can then lead to self-doubt and confusion, which is never good, therefore it needs a fix as soon as possible. And the only fix is being authentic and true to yourself!

The 3 main reasons to be authentic are:

  • Feeling at ease and happy with yourself
  • Feeling more confident
  • This happiness and positivity will be projected and you will see more success in your life, business or career

For me personally, it has taken a while to figure out who I think I am and be that person, and I certainly feel uncomfortable if I’m not living in line with my core values and beliefs, and if I allow my boundaries to be crossed.

In this week’s video, which you can find just below, I discuss one of my clients who is whole heartedly himself and doesn’t fit into the stereotype his job sometimes has or how other people expect him to be. He decided that to be authentic and jump out of a plane for charity, from which he rediscovered the buzz that had been missing from his life.

I would like to thank my client, Martin, for agreeing to share his experience – and I’m sure you agree, that he is being himself and is proud of it.

If you think that you are being who other people want you to be rather than who you want to be, make a decision to find out exactly who you are and what is important to you.

It is ok to be yourself and you will lead a much happier life if you do just that.

If you are struggling to find you, or if you know who you are but struggling to portray it and would like some help becoming authentic, give me a ring on 01656 347027 or 07973 635102.

You can also click here to fill in a form and we can arrange a FREE consultation.

If you are feeling stuck – check out the rest of my website to find out how I can help.

Until next time, just be you!

Dr. Bridget

 

Letting go of guilt

letting_go_of_guiltGuilt can come in many different shapes and forms, it can be rational and irrational, it can come from something you have physically done or even because you feel a certain way. But ultimately guilt is driven from self-hatred.

We do something we regret, we say something that hurts or offends someone, we make a mistake. Then we get lost in the should-haves, could-haves and self-judgement.

To a certain extent we get addicted to the guilt, thinking that constantly beating ourselves up over the mistake will somehow absolve us of that negative experience – but instead we are just torturing ourselves.

Many of us feel guilt from things we did or didn’t do for ourselves – “I didn’t get enough work done” or “I shouldn’t have eaten that” – and our minds trick us into thinking that anger and guilt is a good motivator. But none of these everyday outcomes deserve our own self-judgement and guilt.

Guilt can become all-consuming and hold you back from reaching your full potential, it acts as an anchor to the past, telling you, you don’t deserve to be happy. But everyone deserves to be happy. Learning how to let go of guilt and forgive yourself can be fantastically freeing. It teaches you to choose self-love over self-hate and be more compassionate towards yourself.

Change is never easy but I can help and support you through the process. If you are ready to let go of the guilt holding you back, click here to book a FREE consultation or call Dr. Bridget on 07973 635102

Is guilt holding you back?

Is guilt holding you back?

Guilt - usful or not?

Is guilt holding you back?

I’ve helped quite a few people recently who were allowing guilt to hold them back.

Until they came to see me, they felt stuck and unable to break free and it was affecting their happiness and confidence.

If this is something that you, or someone you know is suffering from, then please point them in my direction – in this blog I am going to discuss how to move forward.

It may be a controversial view but, to me, guilt is more about other people than about you. If you have been doing the best that you can and you have been using the resources that you have available to you, then its more about other people’s model of the world, or society’s model of the world, and their projection of that onto you.

Perhaps you’ve behaved in a way that other people haven’t liked or didn’t expect, as long as you weren’t aiming to upset people, you have done nothing wrong. Everyone has a different view and model of the world because they have been brought up differently and we have different values and beliefs. This can, let’s face it, make people judgmental of other people’s views if they don’t align with their own. But what is important to remember here is, that other people may not like what you do or who you are, BUT that’s ok!

Perhaps, you could apologise for upsetting them and explain that wasn’t your intention, but then you need to move on! And let go! Don’t carry the guilt passed on by them with you.

For a more in-depth look into the issue of guilt watch the video below where Dr Bridget discusses this:

If you need help moving on from negative events in the past that have caused you to feel stuck, give me a ring on 01656 347027 or click here to fill in a contact form. We can arrange a FREE consultation to discuss your issues and find a way for you to move forward and reach your full potential.

Sometimes our unconscious mind needs help to move on.

Honestly, life is for living, not for being stuck in negative emotions such as guilt!

Until next time,

Dr. Bridget

 

Is anyone on your side? – Who do you get support from?

Who do you get support from?

Support i important

Get support

As you go through life, things happen around you that can make you feel really emotional. Sometimes, I find it difficult to show my emotions – after all, a coach “should” be in a great place all of the time. But, being authentic and honest, I admit that I do get upset from time to time.

And, as mentioned being “the coach”, I have struggled to find people who I can openly bare my feelings to but I’ve recently found a small group of people who I can talk to. Not only has it allowed me to gain greater perspective and feel supported, but it has also helped me become stronger for my clients and be of better support to them, my family and friends.

This week in my Prescriptions for Success’ vlog I discuss this, my own struggle to find support and the importance of getting the right support from the people around you. If you are struggling to find the right kind of support, click here to download a pdf copy of my book where there is a tool called ABCD in chapter 2.

This tool allows you to work through your contact list and sort them into categories – with the people placed in the “A” category being those you can rely on and those who will positively support you.

If after watching the video, you find yourself thinking that you need more support, then you can always ring me on 01656 347027 and I will get straight back to you. We can have a chat and I will be there to support you through your journey.

Until next time,

Dr. Bridget – part of your A Team!

Your Purpose- Why not knowing it is costly!

Your Purpose

Purpose for living

Find your purpose!

I regularly talk to my clients about their purpose and during a session recently I realised that I hadn’t got mine quite right – it was a bit of a light bulb moment for me!

Here’s the thing – if you don’t know your purpose and don’t have a clear image of what it is, then what you do may not feel quite right and it can result in you feeling dissatisfied and out of line. This feeling can then lead to frustration and less success than you want. 

In the video below I discuss my purpose and how you can find out what your purpose is. You can also download my book which discusses finding your purpose in more detail – click here to download a FREE copy of my book.

 

Her are my steps on how to find your purpose:

  1. Brainstorm ideas: on a piece of paper or via a discussion with a trusted colleague, come up with some ideas or metaphors or symbols that you believe represent you.
  2. Ask yourself which one seems right, feels right or resonates with you the most.
  3. Live with this thought for a while and continually think about whether it is the reason that you exist and tweak it if needed, once you begin to investigate it more.

I would love to know what you find, let me know in the comments. If you are having trouble with this task and need help to go through it, why not book in for a FREE consultation with me and we can discuss it together.

After you find your purpose you need to ask yourself, are you living in line with that purpose? If you are in business, does your business line up with your purpose? If not, how can you adapt your business so that you feel more aligned?

Again – if you are struggling with this concept I can always help you work through it!

By the way, my purpose, which you can read about in my book is to help people reach their full potential, in the past session I discovers it is more specifically: to be amazed – my purpose it to be around and see things that WOW me! And helping people reach their full potential is something that supplies me with this feeling. The picture I like that expresses that is below.

My purpose

If you would like to learn more about purpose, come along to my Business Mastermind classes or I can coach you privately,  call me on 01656 347027 to discuss either.

Until next time,

Dr. Bridget

Where do you do your best creative thinking? Are you finding the right space?

this oneAre You Finding The Right Space?

I recently bought a time travelling space orbit for my garden (see picture), it allows me a space that is just mine, in a peaceful area and since I’ve done that, I’ve firmed up, created my future and feel very focused and constructive. So I have a question for you:

Where do you most of your creative thinking? Mine is out my garden in my little seated area (see picture). Is yours where you have calm or do you try and do it in a space that has distractions and can lead to lots of intrusive thoughts?

If you are yet to find the perfect space that allows you to get your creative juices flowing, it could be impacting negatively on your growth, perspective and even your sanity! If you don’t have an area to reflect and be at ease, how are you living to your full potential?

 Watch my video below and then ask yourself the question that follow. 

To ensure that you are working to the best of your ability you need to work out these few things:

  1. What do you think is right for you? Quiet? Stationary to make notes? A physical space? A walk?
  2. Work out how often you need to do to be able to retreat to your perfect space, it could be every day or every week – it could be at a specific time or when ever you feel it is called for. There is no right or wrong, but having that space has great positive impacts. 

I personally like to have paper, pens, sometimes glitter or glue and magazines, this allows me to note down what I think of and create. But sometimes I also enjoy just me and space. It is important to make a commitment to finding your perfect creative space and taking the time to go there.

Let me know what your perfect space is in the comments! I would love to hear about everyone’s different spaces.

If you are struggling to find that space and don’t feel like you are reaching your full potential, give me a call on 01656 347027 or click here to book a free consultation. 

Until next week, keep creative!

Dr. Bridget

NLP tips to maintain your motivation

Motivation is a very personal thing. What motivates you, whether money, a deadline, penalty or reward may not motivate another person.

Motivation can also vary from day-to-day. One day you can feel highly motivated to do something and next day, before you know it, that motivation has vanished. Read more

Distraction – Why You Do It and What To Do About It

Why You Get Distracted And What To Do About It

Stop doing distraction

Distraction Prevents Results

Your unconscious mind is responsible for numerous things and one of them is distracting you! It sometimes runs internal strategies that don’t work for you in terms of getting things done and therefore you don’t achieve what you want to.

It’s quite funny because as I’m sitting here about to write this blog, an enormous yellow helicopter started swirling around my office with the big letters saying ELECTRICITY on it and I became distracted!

Just look at the distractions I have already gone through whilst sat here:

  • The dog barked and I had to reassure her
  • I had to check my electricity and Wi Fi connections (thanks helicopter!)
  • I had to take a photo for my blog – and yes – that is the photo above!

Distractions, Distractions, Distractions!

The reason I decided to write this blog is because I know distraction can be an obstacle for a lot of people – and I would like to be able to help you overcome it and help you become more efficient.

So we have goals and we know what we need to do to reach these goals, right? Then suddenly we notice that we’ve got distracted at some point and are off on another track. This wastes so much time and means we are not moving towards our goals efficiently.

Distraction starts with a trigger – something we see, something we hear or something we say to our self internally.

My usual distraction is something I see – in this case it was a big yellow helicopter or it can be a message on my phone or an e-mail or even a large pile of ironing, although that’s not very common I must say!

The key is to become more aware of your internal strategy and change it!

So, how can you become more aware and change your internal strategy? You probably know by now that it is all down to you and no-one else!

Watch the video for my tips and then read the questions to ask yourself below.

Find your trigger! Ask yourself “How do I know I’m getting distracted?” and “Is it something I see, something I hear or something I say to myself?”

Then plan to interrupt that cycle by adding something else in as an action when you notice the trigger. For example, when I see a message come through on my phone instead of picking it up, I say to myself, I’ll read that when I’ve finished this task and then continue the task. I set myself mini goals, within my larger goal time frame.

Tackle one distraction at a time and notice how much more you get done!

I cover distraction and ways to combat it in more detail on my NLP Practitioner courses – click here for more information and dates of upcoming courses.

If you are struggling with distraction and need some help, click here to send me a message and we can talk it through.

Until next time, keep focused,

Dr Bridget

Why Personal Breakthrough Therapy? What Could It Do for You?

Do you ever feel like you’re being held back from reaching your goals or your full potential?

Do you feel like you’re stuck and not progressing forward in life or business?

Our daily lives are constantly piling new frustrations upon us that can mentally and emotionally restrict us. This can happen because of the state of our relationships, lack of belief in ourselves or even as a result of what is happening in the world around us. This pain and upset can mean you miss out on your dreams and goals in life and business.

Personal Breakthrough Therapy is a great way to tackle the mental obstacles and emotional baggage holding you back. Think of it as a spring-cleaning of the mind It allows you to gain a higher level of peace in your mind, stops the negative chatter and therefore allows you to experience more joy and fulfilment in all areas of life.

Transformation and healing is more achievable than most people believe. By working through your emotional stress and connecting more fully with who you are, , you can live a more inspired and proactive life where you are in charge of the results that you want.

It doesn’t matter who you are, or what you feel is holding you back, Personal Breakthrough Therapy can work for you! It can:

  • Change how you handle stress
  • Help prevent against burn out or aid recovery
  • Help with difficult life changes and transformations
  • Build self-confidence and help you overcome fears and anxiety
  • Rid you of self-doubt, lack of motivation, internal conflicts and limiting beliefs
  • Help you reach your highest performance level, be that in business, sport or life

Personal Breakthrough Therapy is a highly effective and fast, using a range of coaching and therapy techniques. It’s designed to make a shift in your life and quickly! Unlike other therapies its approach allows it to be quite fun and relaxed whilst working on your unconscious processes that are the root of most issues.

Become the ‘real you’ and reach your full potential – invest in yourself and reap the benefits for a life time. If you would like to discuss becoming unstuck, contact Dr. Bridget or book a FREE session and begin the change process.

Significant changes happen in just a few hours and Dr Bridget provides a guarantee. There are very few coaches who have Dr Bridget’s medical experience and coaching skills and give that guarantee.

Dr Bridget is passionate about supporting people and, as an ex GP and Neuro Linguistic Programming Coach and Trainer, is uniquely situated to provide a quick prescription to help you get to your full potential.

Until next time – take control of your future,

Dr. Bridget

Locking things away – Are You Doing It?

Locking Things Away – Do you do it?

I’m talking about this today because a lot of people are doing it and either are aware they are doing it or are not aware. And I’ve made a video about it below because it’s this thing that leads to a fear of failure or success and cause self sabotage, confusion and frustration! I’ve been running an NLP Practitioner course over the last few days and also working intensively with people in business and I often hear people say “I’m locking things away in a box, I’ve put it to the back of my mind or I’ve closed it off! And they often gesture to the place where it is.

The client that I’ve been working with recently has given me permission to share her box with you. The Closed Pandora's Boxbox  has been closed for many years and has recently started to open. The unconscious mind works really hard to protect us and this is why we lock “stuff” away. Then, when it becomes too uncomfortable or we become aware of the consequences, the unconscious mind throws it into our consciousness to resolve the issues. In this case, there were many things, some of them painful, that were in her box, and the reason she is now working with me is her certainty that the box is open, painful and needs to be sorted. She now realises what the consequences are of an open box and is doing something about it. The consequences are many thousands of pounds and much stress and sleepless nights. This is her open  box Open Pandora's Boxand I expect some of you have similar things in your box. This is going to be sorted out in the next two days, so get in touch if you have a box – this is a link for a free session http://bit.ly/talktoDrB

 

Till next time

Dr Bridget