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How to Understand Your Emotions

Emotional state

Understanding your emotions

There are several models in psychology and NLP about understanding your emotions but the one I want us to focus on this week is a two dimensional model. This model is really useful because if you can understand and grade your emotions, you’ll then realise what you need to do to change your emotions and this really is empowering.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I’m going to unpack this two-dimensional model for you and explain how being aware of your emotions can benefit you. Watch the video and work through the different examples below as this is an interesting way of looking at it and awareness is key.

 

The two dimensional model takes account of:

  1. Valence – which is attractiveness, whether something is good or bad, positive or negative, it’s the subjective attractiveness of the emotion.
  2. Arousal – which refers to whether you are energetic or lethargic, wakeful or sleepy

Valence, is that subjective feeling. For example just because something is good or bad it doesn’t mean it is good or bad for you or for someone else.

Similarly, with arousal if you have negative feelings such as fear or anger they may appear negative but they actually could be really motivating for you.  Alternatively, you may have what are considered as positive feelings like relaxed or calm but these might potentially be preventing you from taking action.

So let’s consider this in a little more detail looking at the different combinations of Arousal and Valence

High Valence and High Arousal    Examples are Astonished, Excited, Delighted, Happy, Pleased

High Valence and Low Arousal     Examples are Content, Serene, Calm, Relaxed

Low Valence and High Arousal    Examples are Annoyed, Afraid, Angry, Frustrated

Low Valence and Low Arousal     Examples are Miserable, Depressed, Bored, Tired

Two dimensional Model of Emotion

Maybe if you knew which  you were doing at any one time, you could choose to do a different combination?

If you find that you are not managing your emotions then please get in touch here or give me a call on 07973 635102   –  I’m a “chief unsticker” and sometimes these negatives get in our way,  I can help you to manage your emotions, no matter where they have come from  so that you can live the life you want and have the business you want.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – On an emotional roll!

What gets you Excited

What Gets You Excited?

Excited

Get Excited

Hello – How often do you get excited and motivated and how often do you feel listless and bored? One of the things that I teach my clients to do is to become aware of their emotions and the triggers for them. After all, if you notice what gets you excited you can do more of it! And if you notice what make syou bored or listless or upset, you can do less of it – right?

I always remember being asked to think of a time when I was totally motivated. It took me straight back to a time when I first started coaching and the amazing results the client achieved. I remember feeling like bouncing around the house.

Watch the video and then do the exercise described below.

I have recently sent off an application to set up a Community Interest Company – It’s going to be called the Trauma Breakthrough Collective -A not for profit organisation.  TBC – life to be continued – after any sort of emotional trauma. This is making me bounce around the house and I was thinking about why that was. Its because I will be working with a team of coaches and making more of a difference and will be a challenge – I enjoy those.

So I noticed that my head was buzzing and I felt really motivated and excited.

So I thought I’d invite you to make a list in the various areas of your life where you get really excited.

  • Relationships
  • Work
  • Business
  • Leisure
  • health
  • Personal development

In each of these areas, and there may be more, think of things that get you excited and motivated, write them  down somewhere that you can see them and tell people that you are close to.

You will be  far more likely to reach your goals in each area of your life and make choices that  help you be happy, fulfilled  and excited.

If you are struggling to get excited and you’d like some help. let me know and we can talk it through in a free chat.

Until next week,

Dr Bridget, getting you motivated