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How to maintain your focus

MAINTAIN YOUR FOCUSHow to maintain your focus

Your emotional state affects your focus.

You can call your emotional focus an emotional state and even a behaviour as it is something you do.

What happens is that what you see, hear, feel and say to yourself is filtered and becomes your reality. That then creates an emotional state which then creates your behaviour.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I discuss how to maintain your focus and consider how your emotional state affects your behaviour and hence impacts on your focus.  Watch the video and let me know what you think.

If you want a focused behaviour then you need a good emotional state, you need positivity rather than negativity.  In a previous blog  we talked about how to get rid of your negative feelings and experiences, limiting beliefs  and behaviours so that you can become positive.

I was talking with someone recently, who has done a significant amount of work with me, and because he didn’t have much sleep the night before he was in a physiological state that also created an emotional state that was a bit negative.  So, he was feeling a bit stuck, had some doubts and he wasn’t taking all the action that he needed to.

After talking it through he realised that he was taking a huge amount of action to get a significant goal however he just needed a few systems around it. As we talked, his emotional state changed to positive so we anchored that emotional state and he can now go through the day feeling positive.

In order to maintain your focus you need a positive emotional state. It comes from your physiology, your reality and from removing all the things in the past that we discussed in the previous blog.

So if you are having trouble maintaining your emotional state to be positive then get in touch it’s quite easy to sort out using Time Line Therapy and some other NLP techniques

If you are a coach or someone who wants to learn these techniques then I do four NLP practitioner courses a year and I also train up to ‘Trainers training’ so that you can train other people to do these things.

If you are interested just book an appointment and we can have a chat about how I can help whether its for you personally or for you to work with other people.

Until next week,

Dr Bridget

 

How your motivation helps you focus

MotivationHow your motivation helps you focus

In order to focus, you need some sort of motivation.

Our motivations are either ‘towards’ what we want or they are ‘away’ from what we don’t want.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I explain how ‘away’ and ‘towards’ motivations influence us and help us to focus. Are your motivations ‘away from’ or ‘towards’?  Watch the video and let me know what you think.

If you’ve had some things happen to you in the past that are particularly upsetting or have given you negative emotions – anger, sadness, fear, hurt or guilt, or you’ve developed some really powerful negative beliefs, these can stop you from focusing on your motivations.

What happens is you become attracted to these negatives and you get stuck in the past so you’re motivated by the things you don’t want to happen. Your past is driving you to the future but it’s s still there.

Alternatively, when you’re focused on your future and what you really want in your future then it’s really easy to move forward.

‘Away’ and ‘towards’ motivations are really key to focus.

You can get rid of the ‘away’ from motivations by doing something like Timeline Therapy or any other NLP techniques that deal with emotions and values. Then your values will become clean, and uncluttered by the past and you’ll be able to move forward into the future.  You will be totally focused then on your future and enjoying the present taking the action you need. That’s what I do in Breakthrough Therapy and also what I teach on NLP courses.

So if you’re interested in this or if you feel like you’re not really heading towards the motivations you want and you’re stuck in the past and finding it difficult to focus then get in touch as I can sort that out for you really quickly.

Until next week,

Dr Bridget

 

Where to put your focus

focusWhere to put your focus

I recently worked with quite a few clients who were putting their focus in a place where they didn’t want to. They wanted to put their focus in the ‘now’ or in the future rather than in the past however, they were focusing on the past.

Quite often these people have a really nice life and they are doing really well but they have just created a story for themselves about how much better their life would be if their past was different.

In the week’s Prescription for Success I share with you how you can change your focus from the past to the future so that you can live the life you want and enjoy the now. Watch the video and let me know what you think.

I tidy up the past because the programming from the past puts beliefs, decisions and negative emotions, that might be limiting, into your head.  To go for the future and what you really want then you’ve got to tidy up the past. So in order to tidy up the past so that you can create a future and do what you really want to do or even just be in the now, I use a process called  Time Line Therapy. It doesn’t take very long, just a few hours and is done in the context of a consultation in an intensive coaching session over a period of a couple of days.

The past becomes no longer relevant and you can just move on and enjoy the now and go for the joy in life. If that’s what you are looking for and you just want to ‘tidy up’ the past then just get in touch  I do a free 30 minute consultation and we can get it sorted for you really quickly.

Until next week,

Dr Bridget – Focusing on the now!

What Affects Your Decision Making?

Decision Making

What Affects Your Decision Making?

It’s really important to be able to decide how you make your decisions, because your decisions affect your behaviour, which gets you your results.

We make decisions at every stage in our lives. We can make split second decisions or we can take time to deliberate over our decisions.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I’m going to be looking at what affects our decision making, and reflect upon the influence of our upbringing, our values and our internal makeup on our decision making. Listen to the video and let me know what affects your decision making.

I thought it would be good to consider this particularly as I have had a period of indecision over a couple of years and it was uncomfortable.   I was feeling that part of me wanted to do one thing and part of me wanted to do something else. This resulted in a huge amount of conflict going on in my head which was making me unwell. I was eating more. I wasn’t sleeping so well and wasn’t feeling very good.

I think it’s important to be able to make decisions – but what affects our decision making?

Parental Influence

I think that maybe your decision making has been brought about by your parents, maybe they have made split-second decisions and you are modelling them.  Alternatively you may think, I’m fed up of making decisions that quickly and I’m just going to think longer about it before making my decision.

Your parents and how they made decisions is key to how you make decisions.

Your Values

Your motivators are your values which are going on at an unconscious level.  (Click here to download my values workbook to  help you to work out your values.)   If you know what your motivators are it becomes quite easy to make decisions.

My values for my business are about determination, self-care, having fun and make a difference and if something doesn’t tick any of these values then I’m not going to do it. So, knowing your values makes it easier to make decisions.

Your internal make up

If you are having difficulty making decisions, sometimes it can be part of your internal make up. In NLP we teach meta-programmes. One of the 18 meta-programmes is that “when you come into a situation do you act straight away and then think about it or do you reflect and then make a decision”.

In a recent relationship I had,  the other person was a reflector and I was an action-taker and it was quite difficult because I just wanted to take action and then think about it and they wanted to think about it and then take action.  So it does have an affect

So work out your values for whatever part of your life that you are having difficulty making decisions. Just be aware of your conflicts and what your internal negative chatter is saying to you and also be aware of your beliefs about things and  then either:

  • Take a decision and then think about it whether it works,
  • Or don’t make a decision and think about it and see if that works out.

So as Yoda says – “There is no such thing as try – you either do or you don’t.” So take the do or the don’t decision and then go from there.

If you are having a bit of difficulty, if it’s giving you conflict, if it’s giving you sleepless nights, if you are not sure and you just want a chat to someone then get in touch  as I do a free half hour call.

Let me know if you are having difficulty making decisions and I’m just going to make a decision now to finish this blog as I think I’ve waffled on enough.

Until Next Week

Dr Bridget

 

The Focusing Questions

The focusing questionsThe Focusing Questions!

The secret of getting ahead is to get started!

The secret of getting started is to break the large amount of tasks that you have down into discrete parts.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I talk about two focusing questions that you can ask yourself to enable you to identify what you want and how to get ahead.  Watch the video and ask yourself the questions below.

There are 2 levels of question that you can ask:

Firstly – what is it that you want? What is the one thing that you want – whether that’s happiness, wealth, success – what is it?

Secondly –  what is the one thing that you can do right now that will get you that one thing that you really what you want?

It’s as simple as that. So, scroll around amongst your tasks and think what is the one thing that will really make that difference to get that one thing which is your overall goal?

If you don’t know or you can’t do it then just get in touch  and we can talk that through because I do a free session to help you get started and get ahead.

So to get started, just ask yourself the 2 focusing questions and then you can get ahead

See you next week

Dr Bridget – focused on getting ahead!

 

Focus on What You Can Change

Do You Focus on what  you CAN change or what you CAN’T change?

Focus on what you can change

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I’m interested in what you concentrate or focus on? Often my clients will have noticed that they are concentrating on  the things that they can’t change , and often can’t get them out of their head. And as you know, what you focus on is what you get, so I’m all about changing that pattern of thinking. If you’d like to do that as well, watch the video, have a think about whether this applies to someone you  know or even yourself and get in touch:

Often this pattern of negative thinking, or concentrating on what you can’t change, will last for days, weeks, months or often years and will eventually start  to affect the results in  your life and the people around you.

I’m OK with saying that it happens to me sometimes, and to clients that I’ve worked with, but it doesn’t last very long as our unconscious mind kicks in with the positive learnings. I’m generally a positive person who focuses on the future and positives and solutions.

I think this is why NLP – Neuro Linguistic Programming- appeals to  me.

It helps us to find habitual patterns that don’t serve us and  remove them, leaving us free to concentrate on things we CAN change rather than things we can’t. And it’s not about what’s happened- it’s about what patterns need changing, and then changing them really quickly.

The difference between the change that counselling, or other talking therapies, give people and what NLP gives you is simple:

  • It’s quick and effective
  • You will be working with the part of your mind that is responsible for change –  your unconscious mind
  • It’s comfortable as it doesn’t focus on the story,  just the patterns

The way I help people to do this is either to come on an NLP course, where you learn new skills as well as change your habitual way of thinking and feeling, or to work with me on a 1:1 basis

Either way, everyone that works with me changes the patterns that are not helping them to get the future they want and deserve.

If you’d like to change the patterns that you are running in your head or your behaviour, then get in touch and let’s start that change process.

See you next week,

Dr Bridget – Focusing on positives.

 

Taking Control in a Crisis

Taking Control in a Crisis

Introduction to Taking Control in a Crisis

If you understand how you get results and then make changes, adversity becomes an opportunity to get the resuts that you want.


 

Part 1 – Understanding how you get results

 

This video talks about how you get results, whether that is in times of crisis or other times. Its fascinating to understand the process that we all go through to get results.


 

Part 2 – Dealing with Acute Fear

 

In a crisis, people often have acute negative emotions that don’t help. Here are some tips to overcome those emotions during a crisis.


 

Part 3 – Dealing with Uncertainties

 

The changes that happen during an acute crisis create uncertainty and Dr Bridget talks about how to deal with these changes and create certainty within the uncertainty.


 

Part 4 – Taking Control

This video is about taking control. Creating structure and boundaries and having plans will help. We can control a variety of things that are central to us and can’t control things external to us. We can decide what we can start, what we can change and what we can stop.

 


 

Part 5 – I Can’t Focus

 

Many people that I’ve spoken to are suffering from a lack of focus. In a crisis there are many things that distract us. If our unconscious mind doesn’t have clear direction, then anxiety is created. This video also gives some tools to create clarity and focus.


 

Part 6 – Creating a Plan in your Mind

 

There is a NLP structure for creating a plan that you will get because its so compelling. I give you the tools to do this in today’s video.

 


 

Part 7 – Creating a Compelling Outcome or Goal

 

This video builds on the compelling goal that you created yesterday and puts it into your unconsciosu mind so that you will have that to focus on.

 


 

Part 8 – Creating a Great Emotional State

 

In this video I teach you to anchor great emotional states that you can recall at any time. This will drive your physiology and your behaviour which will get us great results.

 


 

If you need some help, schedule a call with me and we can do a free 1/2 hour phone call to find out how I can help you.

If you would lilke to learn more about the fascinating subject of NLP, then here is a link for the courses

The Importance of Uni-Tasking

The Importance of Uni-tasking

Uni-taskingHere are my thoughts on multi-tasking versus uni-tasking for your reflection. I work with a lot of people in business who think that multi-tasking is a skill and I am going to disagree as you will find out.

This morning, I had many things to do:

I did little bits of many things and  got overwhelmed and stuck – literally. “That’s no good for a Chief Unsticker” I thought, so I took a step back, got my planner out and made a list. Watch the video to find out what else I did.


Having decided what I needed to do and checked that all of my actions were getting me towards my goals, I started with a technique called the Pomodora  Technique. It’s come from cooking Italian tomatoes and the main points about it are that:

  • You do one thing at a time
  • Turn off distractions and set a timer
  • You do it for 20 minutes and then have a 2 minute break
  • You repeat this for 3 cycles and then have a longer break – say 1/2 hour

Then you repeat it.

I get loads done while I’m doing this – in fact I’m using it to write this blog!

Give it a go and if you find yourself becoming Overwhelmed and Stuck get in touch to have a chat with me – I do a free session for half an hour to find out what the problem is and work out what help you need.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – turning off overwhelm

P.S if you’d like to join my STRETCH mastermind group, let me know – my next intake is in March for 5 people only

 

 

Are You in the Right or the Wrong Groove?

Which Groove are you in? The right Groove or the wrong one?

Groove

In the Groove

My business adviser has some amazing metaphors in his language and he was talking to me recently about being in the groove. Now, I think he meant one where I was clear on my messaging and therefore clear on my direction and was travelling towards my goals. So I thought about how I could use this metaphor in a blog and get you to think about which groove you are in and whether it’s the right one for you. So have a watch of the video and let me know a couple of things:

  1. Are you in the right or the wrong groove?
  2. Do you have any other ideas for unusual accessories that I can use in my videos?

My view of a great groove is where  you are:

  • Going towards your goals which you have created
  • Clear on who you are and what you want
  • Moving in the direction of your goals without getting knocked off track
  • Fully focused

And a not so great one would be one where:

  • You haven’t got any goals
  • You are confused about who you are and what you want
  • You are spinning aimlessly
  • You can’t focus

If  you are in the wrong groove , then let me know via my contact page. It’s often just a tweak of your thoughts to get the groove right and everything else will fall into place. I also run NLP courses and also create rapid breakthroughs for people on a 1:1 basis so there are plenty of ways to get moving and grooving!

Speak to you next week if not before!

Dr Bridget