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How to Start with the End in Mind

Starting with the End in Mind

End in Mind

End in Mind

You’ve now got the three things that you want to achieve in 2021, having read the blog last week or  found some other way of doing this. So now it’s important to reach your goals. Many people start where they are and head off in a direction that they think will get them there. However, the most effective way is to take your goals and work backwards from them. This engages your unconscious mind and has the effect of putting the goal on automatic pilot. Watch the video, grab some post it notes, take one of your goals and put the actions in order starting at the goal. Then  you will know what to do at the beginning.

Starting with the end in mind will help you with:

  • Self Control
  • Planning effectively
  • Motivation
  • A higher expectancy of getting your goals

The basic premise is that if you start with your goals – THERE- you will know where to START to get THERE.

I did this very task to reach our goals of going away every month in our camper van. The starting point that I’ve worked out is to tax the van. I now have a planned and scheduled list of things to do to be able to take the van away once we can. And it feels easy.

If you need some help to start with the end in mind, contact me for a free thirty minute talk.

I worked with a client a couple of weeks ago who was stuck and they didn’t feel as though they were good enough to even set goals, let alone take action. We sorted that out over a few hours and they are now fully focused on their goal- which is strong in their mind. They can now find out where to start.

If you feel stuck, here’s a link to my personal breakthrough coaching page where you can find information and testimonials about this. I work with people who are stuck on a regular basis and have 2 opportunities every month for people to access this.

Until next week, Dr Bridget – helping you get THERE.

Why should we set goals? Here’s why, how and a worksheet to help.

Why should we set goals?

Setting Goals

Setting Goals

One of the things I do early on in my NLP Certified Practitioner training is to have everyone set their goal and understand some of the things that are essential for creating a compelling goal.  People who have completed the course often feedback that setting their goal is one of their favourite parts of the early training as it really gives them a sense of where they are going.

It’s about making sure that you have all your brain focused on the positives that you really want, this is much more effective than simply setting the old fashioned SMART goals. And the truth is, you can use these things and set goals every month, every week and every day and hour if you want to.

Watch the video below and start to set goals using the three things I discuss – I’ve also attached a pdf below the video which you can use to set your goals.

Here are the top 3 tips with a bit more of an explanation and the pdf with examples and space to write your own.

FREE PDF: 3 Must Do’s for Compelling goal setting

1.  Make sure that you write down what you want, rather than what you don’t want. Remember that what you focus on is what you get, so if you focus on what you don’t want, that’s what you will get. Also, make it about your whole life and make sure that you can act as if you already have it. If you can’t do this, then go back over your goals and ask yourself why not. Maybe you have some doubts?

2. Write down your sensory evidence for getting the goal. What will you see around you, hear and feel when you have this outcome

3. Write down when you want it, where you want it, how you are going to get it and who you want it with. Remember that all goals that are for you need to be under your control and you can get them without relying on someone else.

If you have any doubts or have set goals and never achieved them, give me a call apply for a free consultation and get some pointers. You can also fill in a form here and I will get in touch as soon as I can.

Remember, if you set compelling goals, you are likely to achieve them and if you don’t you probably won’t. If you’d like to learn more about setting goals and want to develop yourself personally and get great skills to use with teams, clients (and family) then you can become an NLP Practitioner.

If you want more help with your goals please check out How to make sure you get your goals – Part 1 to get started.

Till next time, happy goal setting

Dr Bridget

How To Make Sure You Get Your Goal – Part 2

Making Sure You Get Your Goal

Get Your Goal

Get Your Goal

Last weeks video was all about how to make your goal really compelling and then putting it into your unconscious  mind. Today is about how to get your goal. Here’s a link to last week’s blog if you missed it. 

You now need to take appropriate and consistent action  to get your goal, and that is not sitting there and waiting for it to happen. After all, if we want a pizza, we don’t sit there and visualize it and expect it to turn up. We ring the pizza restaurant and it arrives. I think I’m right in saying that?

Having said that, we need to keep that picture of our goal in our mind, consciously and unconsciously. One of my NLP course attendees has a manifestation wall where she puts all of the pictures of her goal. I think I’m going to do that. A vision board or a screensaver works just as well.

So have a look at the video and then take the action listed below it.

Here’s what to do in my view.

  1. Create that picture in your head by following the last video’s instructions.
  2. Tell 10 people that you are going to do this – on Social Media, friends, family, colleagues
  3. Make a plan – start with the end in mind. So I want to set up a Community Interest Company (CIC) in South Wales to help people who are stuck and have had trauma of some sort in their life. So working backwards, I’ll need clients, somewhere to see them, a structure to work from, planning to put a structure up, research into funding,  setting up the CIC, research into how to set a CIC up and then to start with, getting some help to do that. I’ve now got the help which was the 1st thing and will be setting it up soon.
  4. Organise your time and tasks. I work in 90 day sections and also use the power of 3. 3 things I’ll be achieving in the next 90 days. 3 things I’ll be achieving in the next month. 3 things I’ll be achieving in the next week. 3 things I’ll be achieving in the next day. Even the next hour.
  5.  Keep checking in with your goal – are  you on track? or have you wandered off track?
  6. Make sure that you have got rid of any limiting beliefs that are getting in your way – ask me for help with these.

Basically it comes down to:

  • Set your Goals
  • Visualize your Goals
  • Take consistent and focused actions
  • Believe in  yourself.

If you need help, just ask or send me a message here 

Until next week

Dr Bridget – helping you to get your goals.

The Importance of Uni-Tasking

The Importance of Uni-tasking

Uni-taskingHere are my thoughts on multi-tasking versus uni-tasking for your reflection. I work with a lot of people in business who think that multi-tasking is a skill and I am going to disagree as you will find out.

This morning, I had many things to do:

I did little bits of many things and  got overwhelmed and stuck – literally. “That’s no good for a Chief Unsticker” I thought, so I took a step back, got my planner out and made a list. Watch the video to find out what else I did.


Having decided what I needed to do and checked that all of my actions were getting me towards my goals, I started with a technique called the Pomodora  Technique. It’s come from cooking Italian tomatoes and the main points about it are that:

  • You do one thing at a time
  • Turn off distractions and set a timer
  • You do it for 20 minutes and then have a 2 minute break
  • You repeat this for 3 cycles and then have a longer break – say 1/2 hour

Then you repeat it.

I get loads done while I’m doing this – in fact I’m using it to write this blog!

Give it a go and if you find yourself becoming Overwhelmed and Stuck get in touch to have a chat with me – I do a free session for half an hour to find out what the problem is and work out what help you need.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – turning off overwhelm

P.S if you’d like to join my STRETCH mastermind group, let me know – my next intake is in March for 5 people only