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Why hope matters

Hope matters

Why does hope matter?

When I first came across this concept about ‘Why hope matters’ in an article I was reading, I was a little unsure about it.  The reason for my uncertainty was that I think that using words like ‘try’, ‘maybe’, ‘wish’ or ‘hope’,  isn’t very positive or effective. This is because our unconscious mind thinks ‘it might not happen’ or ‘it doesn’t really matter’.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I share with you some really interesting insights into ‘why hope matters’  when it comes to creating your future reality.  Watch the video and consider below your attitude and stance when it comes to ‘hope’.

Someone who is hopeful is someone who is radically realistic.

I can never decide whether I’m a ‘glass half empty’ or a ‘glass half full’ type of person. I think of myself as being really positive but I do also consider what the obstacles might be and then mitigate against them.  In the article it  actually stated that someone who is hopeful looks at obstacles and makes plans to get around them. Whew – that’s a relief!

It’s also reassuring that leaders inspire hope in both themselves and others and it gives them their purpose.

Ask yourself:

Are you a ‘High Hoper’?

‘High hopers’ take action, they withstand discomfort or pain, they are equipped for diversity. Hope gives us drive and is goal directed.

There are three things that ‘High Hopers’ have:

  1. Destination – they have highly developed goals.
  2. Route – they know how they are going to get to their goals.
  3. Means of Transport – they know how they are going to do it,  how they are going achieve their goals.

Whereas “Low Hopers’ tend to generalise about their destination so they may know where they are going but are unclear about it . They may have an idea about how they are going to get there but are vague about their actions.

So I want to ask you which would you rather be – a ‘High Hoper’ – ‘Low Hoper’ or maybe somewhere in the middle.

Think about whether you are:

  • clear about your destination;
  • clear about your route;
  • and clear about the means of transport.

If you are not clear about any of these and your really want to be a ‘High Hoper’ and a high achiever then get in touch or give me a call on  07973 635102 as there are lots of things that can get in your way and I’m really skilled in getting rid of those for you.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – Hoping you get in touch!

Self Belief – Where Does it Come From?

Self Belief – It’s SO Important

Hello!

Self Belief is SO Important – for your life, your Business, your Career!

Self Belief

Self belief

Here’s the thing – If you don’t believe in yourself, then life is uncomfortable, you feel frustrated with yourself and always feel as though there is something more that’s stopping you feeling fulfilled. In short-you probably feel stuck!

Self Belief is an internal feeling that you can do whatever you want and, in this blog, I talk about 4 of the ways that you can increase your self belief. This means that you will be totally comfortable, calm and certain in your direction.

Watch the video below and then take the action needed. Book a free session if you need help

The 4 things that will help (and there are many others) are:

  1. Understand where a lack of self belief has come from. Think about your upbringing. Were you encouraged or not? Were you expected to get 100% in everything (but only achieved 95%)? Did you get laughed at or bullied? Remember that you may have put self doubt in your thinking during your life and that is IN THE PAST. You can simply decide you do believe in yourself and move forward. Again, this something that you’ve wired into your thinking and if you can’t remove it, I specialise in unsticking you so get in touch.
  2. Develop Resilience. Realise that you are in charge and that you can start over, change direction and have positive people around you. Start to re-frame your thoughts – if you think that  you aren’t good enough, look for examples where you are – for instance in your relationships or your hobbies and say to yourself ” I am good enough in lots of areas and I just need to make some changes in this one area”- That statement has a different feel to it doesn’t it?
  3. Start writing about your thoughts and feelings -be grateful for what you have achieved and reward yourself for your successes. It raises your awareness and you can start to decide different things and test them out. This is journaling and it isn’t difficult – just very helpful
  4. Get some positive people around you. Those that will support you no matter what. Find someone that you can ring if you have doubts- they may not be someone that you already know or they may be people that you do know – just test them out and develop a mutually supportive relationship. You’ll know when  you have one.

I have written a low cost e-book Re-writing your story which you can find here and don’t forget that you can get in touch for some support
My FB group -One Step Closer is somewhere where you can get further tips and support -I’d love to see you there.

Until next week, remember that I believe in you and you can as well!

Dr Bridget

Do You Follow Up? Here’s Why You Should.

Following Up – Just Do It

Why aren't you you following up?

Following up

I meet a lot of people who say that they are going to do something and never get around to it, and I find it really interesting to think about why this could be. I’ve been guilty of this myself in the past but now I make sure that following up is a priority, and it has made a huge difference to my business and my mind-set.

People who don’t follow up on actions can come across as a bit disrespectful and it is damaging to the trust that was originally there at the beginning of relationships. Not following up can be detrimental to your business! By not continuing the contact it could mean that you are missing out on a sale, or a lead to something you want to happen!

There is a theme in Neuro Linguistic Programming which says that there are either:

RESULTS or REASONS AND EXCUSES

And I know which I would rather have! Just think of the amount of time that can go into setting up meetings or getting the initial interaction with, only to not follow up afterwards! What a waste!

I usually find that my clients have 2 main reasons or excuses for not following up.

Watch my video below where I discuss these reasons and the repercussions they can have!

The reasons why people don’t follow up tend to fall into two categories:

  1. Mindreading – this is when you claim to know what is going on in another person’s head. You think that you might contact them at an inconvenient time or that you are bothering them or that they are not interested. But – YOU DON’T REALLY KNOW! You are just assuming. These people are may actually be waiting for you to follow up and feel frustrated and annoyed when you don’t.
  2. A limiting belief – this is where you say to yourself “I’ve not got time” or “I’m not that interesting” or “I’m not good enough” or “they will go with another supplier of the service who is better/cheaper than me”. If you don’t believe you have time, then find a way to manage your time more efficiently – could be as simple as buying a diary. If you feel that you aren’t interesting or good enough, this is a much deeper issue, although the fix can be just as quick and easy. I would love to help you, I offer free consultations and we can start changing that mind set together!

So, stop mind reading, believe in yourself, make time and simply follow up – you never know what is waiting on the other end of the phone call!

If you’d like to know more about the themes of NLP, then click here to find a list of the courses I offer.

Until next time – enjoy the rewards of following up!

Dr. Bridget