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What Makes You Fascinating?

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What makes you fascinating?

In a recent networking event, I was chatting with someone new and at the end of the 10 minute conversation he said to me, “That was the most fascinating conversation I’ve had for some time.”

I thought WOW! That’s amazing. I find my world fascinating and other people fascinating. I was happy with this statement as I thought I was showing my passion for what I do.

In this week’s prescription for success I discuss what makes us fascinating and how this can benefit us. Watch the video and ask yourself the questions below.

Why is it useful for people to find you fascinating?

It may result in people wanting to engage more, work with you more and connect with you more. On the other hand, maybe they won’t want to be with you and really that’s fine because you are being yourself and you are fascinated with yourself.  You’ll find that people will either say “Who do you think you are?” or they will want to know more.

Some people may feel that ‘being fascinating,’ might set up a lot of negative chatter in their head such as

  • I don’t think I’m good enough to be fascinating.
  • Who am I to think I’m fascinating?
  • No one else thinks I’m fascinating.

During the conversation in the networking event, we discussed why I left being a GP and how I felt that I was just scratching the surface in terms of mental health and helping people. I also found that I had lots of idea that others didn’t agree with. So I left and now I’m doing my NLP work and I’m in charge of my life.

We also talked about people on the autistic spectrum and having the skills to help with communication and also remove trauma.

We then moved on to eye patterns and how you access information in your brain, which I’m going to talk about in next week’s blog.

I was just being myself and being passionate about what I do and he said that he’d never discussed these things before and was fascinated.

Here is the question:

Is it ok for you to think you are fascinating? 

Because you are, everyone is!

You can use this to show others your passion and then if they want to connect with you they will and it may lead to more clients.

If you have any problems about thinking that you are ‘fascinating’ maybe you don’t believe in yourself or feel it’s not ok to show that part of yourself the just get in touch with me  because it may be holding you back in life and business.

I do a free 30 minute session and also teach people on courses helping them to be the person they want to be.

So that’s me

Dr Bridget – I’m fascinated with you and I’d love to have a chat with you!

P.S. I’m running an NLP course in November from the 5-8th plus 26-29th – a great way to get to know yourself and increase your confidence in working with others. Here’s a link to the course information where you can also download a brochure for dates and prices.

 

 

 

 

 

How to get rid of Negativity

How to get rid of negativity

What can you do to remove your negativity?

In this week’s blog I’m going to talk about one way to get rid of your negativity at a conscious level.

Now this is unusual for me because behaviour is generally generated at an unconscious level and from an NLP perspective, to remove unwanted negative behaviour you need to do some work at an unconscious level.   However, recently when working with a client I recognised that minor negativity can sometimes be dealt with at a conscious level.

Listen to this week’s video and try out the technique I’ve suggested to get rid of minor negativity.

I was recently working with a client and she was frustrated. It was a minor frustration she had with her partner who was doing the washing and leaving things on the side rather than folding them away. This meant that she ended up dealing with the consequences and having to tidy up.

We did a NLP technic called “Collapsed Anchors,” where you take a negative and you stack up some positives then you bring them together and the negative disappears. But I think we can do this at a conscious level too.

If you have something like frustration or a minor negative emotion that you want to get rid of, try this.  Hold the minor negative on one hand and then think of what would counteract that minor negative. In my situation, where I was feeling impatient, I was thinking maybe some love, some curiosity – how or why does that person do what they do , or some other positive emotion?  Or perhaps some focus on myself and my business, some excitement and determination. All of a sudden you’ve got all this that you are feeling instead of the negative emotion.  If you can put enough positive emotions into your thoughts you will override the negative at a conscious level.

It may take a bit longer than doing it from an NLP technic perspective `(at an unconscious level) but it’s certainly worth giving it a go.

So have a think what frustrations, impatience, anxieties and minor negative things you have and what positives you can counteract these emotions with. Stack up the positive feelings in your thoughts and you will find that negative will disappear.

If it’s not working at a conscious level for you and you’d like some help then get in touch book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access that free half hour with me or you can book it here https://book-an-appointment-with-Dr-Bridget.as.me/

Enjoy the experimenting and see you next week.

Dr Bridget – clearing your negatives

If you’d like to learn techniques to remove negative thinking at an unconscious level and also sort out your own thinking, I have a couple of  spaces left on my next NLP Practitioner course which runs over two lots of 4 days. 30/7/21-2/8/21 plus 20-23/8/21 – click here for further information

 

Allowing Yourself to be Supported

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Allowing yourself to be supported

Do you allow yourself to be supported?

Do you allow yourself to be supported by yourself or by others?

It’s been a tricky year with COVID and I think people’s mental health hasn’t perhaps been as good as it was before. Sometimes I hear people say “there is no one around to talk to anymore”.

Things happen around us and we start to get some negative chatter in our head. We feel that we need support but, here’s the thing,  could we take care of ourselves?

How about supporting ourselves first?

When I’ve asked for help from others sometimes they are busy, or sometimes they just give advice and it doesn’t necessarily help. So, I think the important thing is to care of yourself and be ok with being on your own, be ok with just being yourself.

Watch this week’s video and then complete the tasks below

  • Take a look at your strengths
    • What are your strengths?
    • Make a list of your strengths.
  • Look at the people in your life
    • Are they the right people?
    • Do they listen to you or not?
    • Are they enabling you or just thinking about themselves?
  • Recognise any patterns of internal chatter that’s going on in your head
    • Write your negative chatter thoughts down
    • Then be aware that you are actually worth a lot more than you think.

These actions will  allow you to support yourself and what usually happens is that other people then turn up to help you as well.  When you think about it, what you put out there is what you get back- It’s called Perception is Projection in NLP.  So, if you’ve got doubts and negative emotions then you get doubt and negative emotions back.  Alternatively if you’re ok with yourself people will be around for you.

If you are struggling with any of this, if you don’t think you are worthy or you’ve got a lot of negative chatter that stops you supporting yourself, or you think that you are just a victim with others being responsible for your emotions,  then get in touch  this can all be sorted out in just a few hours. Then you can truly live the life you want.

I hope you do that – look after yourself and support yourself in the best way that you can.

Until next week

Dr Bridget- helping  you to lead a life where you support yourself.

P.S I’m booking people into my next Certified NLP Practitioner  course in July/August.

Click here to find out more and download a brochure