Understanding your emotions
There are several models in psychology and NLP about understanding your emotions but the one I want us to focus on this week is a two dimensional model. This model is really useful because if you can understand and grade your emotions, you’ll then realise what you need to do to change your emotions and this really is empowering.
In this week’s Prescription for Success I’m going to unpack this two-dimensional model for you and explain how being aware of your emotions can benefit you. Watch the video and work through the different examples below as this is an interesting way of looking at it and awareness is key.
The two dimensional model takes account of:
- Valence – which is attractiveness, whether something is good or bad, positive or negative, it’s the subjective attractiveness of the emotion.
- Arousal – which refers to whether you are energetic or lethargic, wakeful or sleepy
Valence, is that subjective feeling. For example just because something is good or bad it doesn’t mean it is good or bad for you or for someone else.
Similarly, with arousal if you have negative feelings such as fear or anger they may appear negative but they actually could be really motivating for you. Alternatively, you may have what are considered as positive feelings like relaxed or calm but these might potentially be preventing you from taking action.
So let’s consider this in a little more detail looking at the different combinations of Arousal and Valence
High Valence and High Arousal Examples are Astonished, Excited, Delighted, Happy, Pleased
High Valence and Low Arousal Examples are Content, Serene, Calm, Relaxed
Low Valence and High Arousal Examples are Annoyed, Afraid, Angry, Frustrated
Low Valence and Low Arousal Examples are Miserable, Depressed, Bored, Tired
Maybe if you knew which you were doing at any one time, you could choose to do a different combination?
If you find that you are not managing your emotions then please get in touch here or give me a call on 07973 635102 – I’m a “chief unsticker” and sometimes these negatives get in our way, I can help you to manage your emotions, no matter where they have come from so that you can live the life you want and have the business you want.
Until next week
Dr Bridget – On an emotional roll!