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What gets you Excited

What Gets You Excited?

Excited

Get Excited

Hello – How often do you get excited and motivated and how often do you feel listless and bored? One of the things that I teach my clients to do is to become aware of their emotions and the triggers for them. After all, if you notice what gets you excited you can do more of it! And if you notice what make syou bored or listless or upset, you can do less of it – right?

I always remember being asked to think of a time when I was totally motivated. It took me straight back to a time when I first started coaching and the amazing results the client achieved. I remember feeling like bouncing around the house.

Watch the video and then do the exercise described below.

I have recently sent off an application to set up a Community Interest Company – It’s going to be called the Trauma Breakthrough Collective -A not for profit organisation.  TBC – life to be continued – after any sort of emotional trauma. This is making me bounce around the house and I was thinking about why that was. Its because I will be working with a team of coaches and making more of a difference and will be a challenge – I enjoy those.

So I noticed that my head was buzzing and I felt really motivated and excited.

So I thought I’d invite you to make a list in the various areas of your life where you get really excited.

  • Relationships
  • Work
  • Business
  • Leisure
  • health
  • Personal development

In each of these areas, and there may be more, think of things that get you excited and motivated, write them  down somewhere that you can see them and tell people that you are close to.

You will be  far more likely to reach your goals in each area of your life and make choices that  help you be happy, fulfilled  and excited.

If you are struggling to get excited and you’d like some help. let me know and we can talk it through in a free chat.

Until next week,

Dr Bridget, getting you motivated

 

 

 

Non-negotiables – the Importance of using them

Non-Negotiables

Non-negotiables

Non-negotiables

Hello – As  usual, my blogs come from my clients and  my own experiences and there have been a few recently. Or tests from the universe as I call them.

Non-negotiables are the things you will not negotiate on. They define not only what you will and won’t accept from others but they also align with your values and principles. They are the promises you keep to yourself, your family and your team. Only you can determine what they are and only you can manage them. And life would be a lot simpler if both ourselves and others knew what ours are.

I’m a grey person.  That comes from respecting people’s model of the world and  realising that everyone is doing the best they can, so, pretty tolerant generally. But recently, after several events that have happened, I’ve become a bit more black and white and that tends to be around communication and inclusion – I think my values  are changing

Have a watch of the video and reflect on what your non-negotiables are

Where have  your non-negotiables developed from? As a child we often just soak up things that are around us without really thinking whether they are good for us or not. We then start to experience negative emotions and think to ourself that we don’t want to experience that again or that we do want to experience that again.

If we come up against other peoples non negotiables then we learn and avoid those things or practice them if they are a positive I have non negotiables around behaviour at times. I’ve had a few people stop working with me with no explanation and while I still trust people, if they don’t communicate with me or respect my views, I tend to draw a line under them.

Here’s a task: Have a think about what has happened to you that you feel good or less good about.

My question to you – Do you have any behaviours that you don’t tolerate as a result of what’s happened to  you? Similarly, do you have any behaviours that you must have?

We will all be different  in our non-negotiables and that is fine. If you find yourself stuck and unable to move on and develop these for whatever reason, and we can talk that through in a free 1/2 hour session

Until next week,

Dr Bridget – helping you to be happy and strong.

Freedom versus Processes

Freedom versus Processes

Freedom

Be free

Hello. I’ve been running my business for 10 years and for that length of time I’ve been resisting setting up processes because I wanted freedom. In reality, I think I had spent nearly 30 years, following rules and processes and I’d had enough of it. I now regret this because I’ve realised that it is having the opposite effect.  If we take doing these videos as an example, the process is based around me coming up with some titles the night before. This means that it doesn’t give my team a chance to get them uploaded and titled in an efficient way. Annoying for them, I think.

Have a watch of the video and then reflect on how you manage the freedom versus processes scenario.


However, I’ve now got someone helping me and she is asking me, where is the process for x and y- in reality, they probably don’t exist.

I have an accountant that is asking me for financial processes as well. It’s hard work to put them in place, but it does make life easier and therefore freedom is a lot  more reachable.

I also sleep well and worry less about impending dead lines.

I’d like to ask you whether you have got the processes that you need in life, in your business or your career? What affect would having them have? Would you have freedom?

Here’s the solution:

  • Get some help from an expert
  • Delegate
  • Ask for help
  • Do a bit at a time

These things  give you the freedom to do other things which free up your time and get you success

I thoroughly recommend these solutions. However – if you need any help with your thought processes to enable you to do this, let me know and we can talk about whats getting in your way – it’s usually you- I expect you know that.

See you next week

Dr Bridget – giving you suggestions for freedom