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4 Steps to Increase Your Consciousness

Increase your consciousness

How to Increase Your Consciousness

This is something that I’ve becoming increasingly aware of especially during the pandemic where I’ve had time to become more aware of my thought processes and what’s going on around me.

It really does feel good to have an increased consciousness – in this week’s Prescription for Success I give you 4 steps to increase your consciousness –  watch the video and try the steps for yourself.

 

A definition of consciousness is an individual’s state of awareness of their environment, their thoughts, their feelings or their sensations.  This is a bit of a broad statement but there are people who are not aware of this. They just do what they do on a day to day basis and they don’t think about what’s going on in their head or their body. However, if you have a high state of consciousness then you can start to change your reality and the world.

4 steps to increase your consciousness

  1. Awaken – which is about pausing, being quiet and noticing what’s going on in your surroundings and in your body.
  2. Mindfully – to live mindfully which is about paying attention to things that happen. It’s about having a purpose for noticing things, being present having no judgements and taking no action.
  3. Intention – so set an intention of who you want to be rather than what you are going to do.
  4. Acting Consciously – when you act consciously you have that intention to make a positive impact and do your best for the world rather than just yourself.

So if you want to increase your consciousness try these four steps.

If you find anything that is getting in the way and is stopping you taking these steps or you have  beliefs or values that make this quite difficult then get in touch with me  and we can sort this out so that you can make more difference to the world and yourself.

So that’s me – living consciously

Dr Bridget

P.S. I’m running an NLP course in November from the 5-8th plus 26-29th – a great way to get to know yourself and increase your confidence in working with others. Here’s a link to the course information where you can also download a brochure for dates and prices.

 

 

 

 

 

Eye Patterns

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What are Eye Accessing Cues or Eye Patterns?

The technique of Eye Accessing Cues, often called Eye Patterns, is about how people access information within their neurology and representational systems.

This may be in terms of:

  • visual,
  •  auditory,
  • kinaesthetic – feelings
  • or auditory digital which is about sorting, filing and processes

In this week’s video I talk about the basics of eye patterns which is really useful because if we can informally elicit what people are doing in their thinking. This gives us so much more information about them. This can be really helpful in areas such as sales, understanding people and also helpful when working with clients. Watch the video and try it out for yourself

What are eye accessing patterns?

Eye accessing patterns are how you move your eyes as you access the systems that you think with.

We talk about six eye accessing cues and in this blog, I’m going to talk about someone who is “normally organised”. Indeed most people in the UK are what is know as “normally organised” in terms of their eye accessing cues.  If you fall into the group known as “reverse organised” then it is just the reverse of what I’m going to share with you.

As you look at the person- important

  1. If people are visually recalling (VR) something that has happened in the past they will move their eyes upwards to the right.
  2. If people are auditory recalling (AR) something that has happened in the past they will move their eyes sideways and to the right.
  3.  If people are thinking about a question they have just been asked or they are doing a comparison or list or thinking about some other criteria, then they will look down to the right which is known as Auditory Digital (Ad).
  4. If people are visually creating an image in their mind (VC) then they will will look up and to the left.
  5. If people are creating how something may sound (AC) then they will look to the left.
  6. If people are feeling something, either emotionally or  externally, then this is known as Kinaesthetic (K) and they will look down to the left.

A good way to practice using eye accessing cues is to just watch people on the tv and see if you can work out their eye patterns.  Then look at the people around you and who you are talking to and see if you can tell how they are thinking – whether they are

  • visually recalling,
  • auditory recalling,
  • processing information,
  • visually creating an image
  • auditory creating how something will sound
  • or feeling something

This is just the basics of eye accessing cues, if you are interested in this and want to have more information then why not come on one of my courses where you can develop this skill further and use it whether it is in sales, relationships or understanding people.

I’m running an NLP course in November from the 5-8th plus 26-29th – a great way to learn and develop NLP techniques and increase your confidence in working with others. Here’s a link to the course information where you can also download a brochure for future dates and prices.

I also do a free 30 minute session. If you would like to have a chat with me about getting “unstuck” and developing your mindset for success using NLP techniques get in touch here.

So that’s me – keeping my eye on you!

Dr Bridget 

 

 

 

 

 

What Makes You Fascinating?

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What makes you fascinating?

In a recent networking event, I was chatting with someone new and at the end of the 10 minute conversation he said to me, “That was the most fascinating conversation I’ve had for some time.”

I thought WOW! That’s amazing. I find my world fascinating and other people fascinating. I was happy with this statement as I thought I was showing my passion for what I do.

In this week’s prescription for success I discuss what makes us fascinating and how this can benefit us. Watch the video and ask yourself the questions below.

Why is it useful for people to find you fascinating?

It may result in people wanting to engage more, work with you more and connect with you more. On the other hand, maybe they won’t want to be with you and really that’s fine because you are being yourself and you are fascinated with yourself.  You’ll find that people will either say “Who do you think you are?” or they will want to know more.

Some people may feel that ‘being fascinating,’ might set up a lot of negative chatter in their head such as

  • I don’t think I’m good enough to be fascinating.
  • Who am I to think I’m fascinating?
  • No one else thinks I’m fascinating.

During the conversation in the networking event, we discussed why I left being a GP and how I felt that I was just scratching the surface in terms of mental health and helping people. I also found that I had lots of idea that others didn’t agree with. So I left and now I’m doing my NLP work and I’m in charge of my life.

We also talked about people on the autistic spectrum and having the skills to help with communication and also remove trauma.

We then moved on to eye patterns and how you access information in your brain, which I’m going to talk about in next week’s blog.

I was just being myself and being passionate about what I do and he said that he’d never discussed these things before and was fascinated.

Here is the question:

Is it ok for you to think you are fascinating? 

Because you are, everyone is!

You can use this to show others your passion and then if they want to connect with you they will and it may lead to more clients.

If you have any problems about thinking that you are ‘fascinating’ maybe you don’t believe in yourself or feel it’s not ok to show that part of yourself the just get in touch with me  because it may be holding you back in life and business.

I do a free 30 minute session and also teach people on courses helping them to be the person they want to be.

So that’s me

Dr Bridget – I’m fascinated with you and I’d love to have a chat with you!

P.S. I’m running an NLP course in November from the 5-8th plus 26-29th – a great way to get to know yourself and increase your confidence in working with others. Here’s a link to the course information where you can also download a brochure for dates and prices.

 

 

 

 

 

Reasons for Being Authentic in Business and life

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Reasons for being authentic in business and life

Showing up as you, showing your journey, who you are and where you want to go is really important in life and in business.

In this week’s prescription for success I look at the reasons for and the importance of being authentic whether that’s in life, business or relationships.

When we are authentic and people around us learn about our life, business and even relationships this  will either resonate with them or put them off.   Here’s the thing – if people are put off – you wouldn’t want to be anything other than yourself would you?

So if those around you want to interact with you in whatever way, and you are authentic and vulnerable then actually that is quite attractive to a lot of people. And if it’s not then they are just not the right people for you.

Furthermore, if you are authentic and being yourself then you will stand out and people will be attracted to you which has got to be good for business- do you think?

Both in life and business being authentic also allows you to share your experience. You’ll be able to tell people you’ve been there and you’ve overcome things can be really helpful for others.  It’s not useful to fake it because firstly it will be evident, and secondly you’re not helping anyone by putting on a front.

So if you have limiting beliefs such as:

  • “I can’t be myself,”
  • “I’m not good enough,”
  • “I’m a bit of an imposter?”

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If you can’t show up as yourself, you can’t be successful and there are things holding you back or you worry about what other people think then get in touch with me as we can sort this out very quickly.

So enjoy being you and I’ll see you next week

Dr Bridget – Just being myself!

Why cutting out the garbage is useful

Cut out the garbage

Why cutting out the garbage is useful

This week is a bit of a personal one, I’m not very good at tidying and currently I’m about to get help from Katie Killoran to deal with this.

If everything is piled up together then you can’t distinguish between what is needed and what isn’t.  You find that you don’t have any focus, you can’t make a plan and it’s much more difficult to make decisions. Moreover, if your garbage is mixed up with all the important things you need, then life is definitely more challenging.

In this week’s prescription for success I look at how cutting out the garbage in our lives can be useful. Watch the video and follow the tips below.

The definition of garbage is basically rubbish or waste. So then, garbage could be paperwork, things around the home, people or even advice. Indeed there are all sorts of things that can we label as either waste or resources.

The things that need tidying we generally place into piles whether that is a physical pile or a mental pile. We often need help to sort these out and identify what parts are waste and what are needed and then throw the garbage away and keep what is useful.

It’s really good to have a system that:

  1. Identifies what is garbage and then avoids it.  For example you may have people around you that drain your energy or you may have lots of advice from other people that isn’t particularly helpful.
  2.  Identifies what is useful which you need to keep. You will have a gut feeling for what is useful or not. For example only keep the paper you need and find a place to keep it, also for the people around you that are not helpful remove them and get people who have your values and support you.

Cutting out the garbage is a bit of a metaphor for life. If you can’t get rid of your rubbish or are having difficulty sorting out the rubbish and what is useful resources then get in touch. I do a free half hour session so that you can get to know me and we can discuss your needs.

I also run NLP courses (click on the link) that can give you the skills to sort the garbage and cut out what’s not needed.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – Helping you tidy up your life!

How to Understand Your Emotions

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Understanding your emotions

There are several models in psychology and NLP about understanding your emotions but the one I want us to focus on this week is a two dimensional model. This model is really useful because if you can understand and grade your emotions, you’ll then realise what you need to do to change your emotions and this really is empowering.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I’m going to unpack this two-dimensional model for you and explain how being aware of your emotions can benefit you. Watch the video and work through the different examples below as this is an interesting way of looking at it and awareness is key.

 

The two dimensional model takes account of:

  1. Valence – which is attractiveness, whether something is good or bad, positive or negative, it’s the subjective attractiveness of the emotion.
  2. Arousal – which refers to whether you are energetic or lethargic, wakeful or sleepy

Valence, is that subjective feeling. For example just because something is good or bad it doesn’t mean it is good or bad for you or for someone else.

Similarly, with arousal if you have negative feelings such as fear or anger they may appear negative but they actually could be really motivating for you.  Alternatively, you may have what are considered as positive feelings like relaxed or calm but these might potentially be preventing you from taking action.

So let’s consider this in a little more detail looking at the different combinations of Arousal and Valence

High Valence and High Arousal    Examples are Astonished, Excited, Delighted, Happy, Pleased

High Valence and Low Arousal     Examples are Content, Serene, Calm, Relaxed

Low Valence and High Arousal    Examples are Annoyed, Afraid, Angry, Frustrated

Low Valence and Low Arousal     Examples are Miserable, Depressed, Bored, Tired

Two dimensional Model of Emotion

Maybe if you knew which  you were doing at any one time, you could choose to do a different combination?

If you find that you are not managing your emotions then please get in touch here or give me a call on 07973 635102   –  I’m a “chief unsticker” and sometimes these negatives get in our way,  I can help you to manage your emotions, no matter where they have come from  so that you can live the life you want and have the business you want.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – On an emotional roll!