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What are Eye Accessing Cues or Eye Patterns?

The technique of Eye Accessing Cues, often called Eye Patterns, is about how people access information within their neurology and representational systems.

This may be in terms of:

  • visual,
  •  auditory,
  • kinaesthetic – feelings
  • or auditory digital which is about sorting, filing and processes

In this week’s video I talk about the basics of eye patterns which is really useful because if we can informally elicit what people are doing in their thinking. This gives us so much more information about them. This can be really helpful in areas such as sales, understanding people and also helpful when working with clients. Watch the video and try it out for yourself

What are eye accessing patterns?

Eye accessing patterns are how you move your eyes as you access the systems that you think with.

We talk about six eye accessing cues and in this blog, I’m going to talk about someone who is “normally organised”. Indeed most people in the UK are what is know as “normally organised” in terms of their eye accessing cues.  If you fall into the group known as “reverse organised” then it is just the reverse of what I’m going to share with you.

As you look at the person- important

  1. If people are visually recalling (VR) something that has happened in the past they will move their eyes upwards to the right.
  2. If people are auditory recalling (AR) something that has happened in the past they will move their eyes sideways and to the right.
  3.  If people are thinking about a question they have just been asked or they are doing a comparison or list or thinking about some other criteria, then they will look down to the right which is known as Auditory Digital (Ad).
  4. If people are visually creating an image in their mind (VC) then they will will look up and to the left.
  5. If people are creating how something may sound (AC) then they will look to the left.
  6. If people are feeling something, either emotionally or  externally, then this is known as Kinaesthetic (K) and they will look down to the left.

A good way to practice using eye accessing cues is to just watch people on the tv and see if you can work out their eye patterns.  Then look at the people around you and who you are talking to and see if you can tell how they are thinking – whether they are

  • visually recalling,
  • auditory recalling,
  • processing information,
  • visually creating an image
  • auditory creating how something will sound
  • or feeling something

This is just the basics of eye accessing cues, if you are interested in this and want to have more information then why not come on one of my courses where you can develop this skill further and use it whether it is in sales, relationships or understanding people.

I’m running an NLP course in November from the 5-8th plus 26-29th – a great way to learn and develop NLP techniques and increase your confidence in working with others. Here’s a link to the course information where you can also download a brochure for future dates and prices.

I also do a free 30 minute session. If you would like to have a chat with me about getting “unstuck” and developing your mindset for success using NLP techniques get in touch here.

So that’s me – keeping my eye on you!

Dr Bridget 

 

 

 

 

 

How to Plan Using NLP Techniques

Planning using NLP Techniques

Plan

Plan with NLP

Hello. Last week I did a video talking about your personal exit strategy for Covid, and as I was doing it, I had this thought. “Some of you , including myself in this, may be having challenges planning during this uncertain time.” And the thought started me wondering where planning “sits” within NLP.

Here is a link to a video which explains how we get results and  of course, planning sits everywhere within this Communication Model. It is of course a behaviour, but behaviours come from how we filter the information coming into our head.

Watch the video and then reflect on your planning and learn a new technique:

If we put aside Covid and any other challenges that maybe going on in your  world, and plan for what we really want to happen, things have a way of coming true. It involves getting a great emotional state that is connected to planning. This creates us a reality which creates a behaviour that is about great planning.

of course, exercising, eating a healthy diet and keeping hydrated also help. As does having great support around you.

This technique, called Anchoring, involves thinking about a time when we planned really well and taking ourselves back to that time so that we can remember it as and when needed. My NLP courses teach you many more techniques.

My greatest planning times are when I meet up with a friend and colleague in a cafe or park and sit there with post its, pens and a large piece of paper. I get loads done and it feels really good. I can remember those times really easily and when I recall them, I fell clam and motivated and achieve the planning.

Here is the “script” to say to yourself to do the same.

“Can you remember a time, a specific time, when you were really feeling motivated by planning? As you remember that time, go back to that time, float down into your body, see what you saw, hear what you heard and really feel those feelings of being totally motivated about planning.”

And just remember those feelings by making a fist or doing a power pose or something similar.

I’m off to sit in my garden now to plan my next blogs, felling really motivated

Until next week:

Dr Bridget – planning just for you!

 

 

 

The Art of Dissociation- Managing your Emotions

The Art of Dissociation

Dissociation

Different perspective

Hello – Sometimes being stuck in positive emotions is great – in fact we encourage it on courses when we anchor positive emotions. However, being stuck in negative emotions can be really uncomfortable and can cause constant negative chatter , inability to sleep and can have a profound effect on  your life and ability to lead your life.

In these scenarios, before you get some help to deal with the emotions, it can be helpful to dissociate so that you get a different perspective on the events that you are thinking about.

Have a watch of the video and learn the difference between association and dissociation and the usefulness of each and learn how to dissociate from uncomfortable and unhelpful emotions.

When you are in NLP terms associated you are

  • Looking through your own eyes
  • Hearing through your own ears
  • Feeling the emotions fully

And when you are dissociated you are

  • Looking at yourself
  • Hearing what  you are saying from outside of your self
  • Noticing the emotions rather than feeling them
  • Can learn from the event as you are looking from outside

We use dissociation in a perceptual positions exercise on courses and people find this really helpful.

So if you can step outside of yourself in these uncomfortable times, you can learn from the situation and feel more comfortable. and then associate back into your body. In fact, all NLP Techniques are based on the following pattern:

  • Associate into the problem
  • Dissociate from the problem
  • Gather learnings and resources  while outside the problem and then
  • Associate back into the problem with new learnings and resources

If you are struggling to dissociate and resolve your issues, get in touch so that we can get rid of the negative thoughts and emotions together so that you don’t have to dissociate.

N.B. Also, some people spend all of their time dissociated, often due to traumatic events. This is also unhelpful and can be a response to anxiety and other mental health conditions. I can also help you with these so get in touch if you have these symptoms that last a length of time.

If you’d like to know more about NLP, here is the link to my training courses page.

I’d love to have a chat with you about coming on one.

Until next week,

Dr Bridget – giving you tools to help.