Tag Archive for: NLP techniques

Communication: The 4MAT Process

Solving Overwhelm Using An NLP Technique Called Chunking Up

Solving Overwhelm Using An NLP Technique

The Meaning of Your Communication.

The Basis of all NLP techniques.

What are you missing in your box?

What’s in Your Box?

Can We Think of NLP as a Black box?

How NLP can help you in your business.

NLP Techniques No.1 – Association and Dissociation

How to deal with indecisiveness

How to deal with indecisiveness in order to be successful

How to deal with Indecisiveness In Order to Be Successful

To be successful in your business, life or relationships it’s really useful to have an element of decisiveness. Sometimes people get caught up in being indecisive and that means they have no clear direction or thought processes.  They have the “Shall I,” Shan’t I,” “Will I,” Won’t I,” conflict that goes on in their heads.

They know that if they want to get rid of anxiety and reach their goals, then they have to be decisive.

With this in mind, in this week’s Prescription for Success I’m going to talk a little bit about ‘parts’, which is an NLP term. If you find yourself being indecisive, watch the video and learn about this NLP technique to help.

What are ‘parts’ in NLP?

A ‘part’ refers to  parts of the unconscious mind that cause conflict.  So, sometimes I believe in myself but sometimes I don’t believe in myself, or part of me thinks I’m good enough and part of me thinks I’m not good enough.

The causes of parts in the unconscious mind are significant emotional events. They may be adverse childhood experiences or they may be significant events or traumas from later on in your life.  When these events happen then sometimes it’s just a little wobble or sometimes it can create limiting beliefs or limiting decisions.

If the rate of change of a particular emotional process is quite fast or significant in terms of the actual strength of that emotion then it can cause parts, phobias and sometimes multiple personalities.

A part is in conflict with another part, and the theory behind resolving parts is that they were once whole and can become whole again by reintegrating the parts. Then looking to see what the parts have as a positive intention, realising that both parts have the same highest positive intention and reintegrating them using an NLP technique.

I teach people how to do this on my NLP Courses and I also do a lot of work with people who have conflict and want to have some coaching and/or to do a breakthrough process with me.

If you’ve got conflict and if you are indecisive then there will be a root cause behind that. Get in touch because I do a free half hour call  where we can find out what’s going on and then resolve it. You then won’t have that conflict anymore and you can just get on with your life and feel happy.

Until Next Week

Dr Bridget – being decisive

 

What triggers unwanted behaviours?

Triggers unwanted behaviours

What triggers are there for unwanted behaviours?

Triggers are what set a sequence of behaviour off and also the sequence of things that happen in your mind at an unconscious level to lead to an outcome.

There are so many unwanted behaviours including procrastination, doubting yourself, withdrawing from people, being irritable and argumentative, drinking alcohol, binge eating, comfort eating the list is endless.

People’s unwanted behaviour will be personal to them. So what is an unwanted behaviour for one person may not be unwanted for another person.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I discuss the triggers for unwanted behaviours and  give you some tips from an NLP perspective on how you can change these behaviours.

NLP Strategies

Every behaviour has what we call a strategy in NLP where there is a trigger.  The trigger will be something that you see, something that you hear or something that you say to yourself which will set of a sequences of things in your brain that will lead to a specific behaviour.

For example

I used to have a behaviour where I’d see the clock at 6pm and I’d look at the fridge and say to myself it’s time for a glass of wine and I’d go and have a glass of wine. So, that’s a sequence of events that I used to do.

It is possible to interrupt these sequence of events and get a different sequence of events and hence a different behaviour. If you are interested in learning more about this from a coaching or professional level or would like to know more for yourself then we cover NLP strategies on my NLP courses. 

The other thing about unwanted behaviours which is really interesting is that every behaviour has a positive intention and has a purpose. People don’t do behaviours for reason there is always a purpose for them therefore every behaviour has a positive intention for the person who is doing it.

If you think about any triggers for unwanted behaviour that you might have then you’ll start to notice those triggers at a conscious level and you could start to change those.

You could also ask yourself what are you getting out of the behaviour?  It might to seem obvious to start with, when I ask people this they can’t often identify the intention of a behaviour but quite often it’s about protection.

For example

If you were to withdraw from a discussion you are probably doing that to protect yourself in some way and this would give you some sort of security and that security might give you happiness and the happiness might give you the ability to live your life to the full.

From a NLP perspective we call this chunking up and by doing this you get to the real positive intention for the behaviour so what you might get out of it then what else you might get out of it.  Then you can ask yourself what might you want to do instead?

This is all about awareness raising so once you know the trigger and the purpose for that behaviour and what you’d rather do instead then at a conscious level you actually make some changes.

If you can’t make those changes then just get in touch I do a free half hour where we can explore what is going on and at an unconscious level we can change things really quickly.

So if you’ve been doing something for a long time and you don’t want to do it then get in touch. If you want to learn how to do it with other people then come on an NLP Course. 

Until Next Week

Dr Bridget