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Anxiety

That Old Problem of Anxiety

How to get rid of Anxiety

Anxiety

Anxiety Treatment

Anxiety means different things to different people – I don’t think I’ve met anyone who has never had anxiety and I occasionally do it myself. What is really apparent is that it can be disabling and unpleasant and stops us  being who we want to be, doing what we want to do and having what we want to have. The symptoms range from paralysis, insomnia, and has many repercussions in peoples lives, relationships, work or business.

When I was a GP, I used to refer people to have counselling, CBT or give them medication. Since using Neuro Linguistic Progrqmming instead, many more people have been helped in a much quicker way.

Tad James, the founder of the American Board of NLP, says that anxiety is often a symptom that our unconscious mind isn’t really focusing on what we really want to do. And because of this, it behaves in a random and undirected fashion which is uncomfortable and can be destructive

Watch the video below and I’ll give you tips below it:


In some ways, the analogy of a capain – our conscious mind, and his crew – our unconscious mind, can be used. If the captain is clear about what needs to happen, the crew will follow orders. If the captain is not clear, the crew will not know what to do and create feelings of anxiety and some random behaviour.

So, things that will help are;

Goal setting to include:

  • Who you want to be
  • What you want to do
  • What you want to have
  • By when

Taking action:

  • Towards the goal
  • To set boundaries
  • To get positive supportive people in your life
  • For yourself, not others

Notice triggers  and remember them:

  • What makes you anxious
  • What keeps you calm

Then I think that getting rid of the root cause of fear and putting goals into the future, which people are then confident to take action towards, will solve the vast majority of anxiety.

I use a process called Time Line Therapy which gets rid of major negative emotions and any limiting beliefs very quickly- in fact, it’s the reason that I am coaching rather than retiring. The major negative emotions are Anger, Sadness, Fear, Hurt and Guilt.

If you, or anyone you know, wants to get rid of their anxiety so that it becomes an old problem, then get in touch. I either work with people in a Breakthrough Coaching process to solve this problem over 2 days with follow up support, or help them by giving them the skills to learn the techniques in my NLP training. Also, watch this video if you are interested in the training  or fill in the contact form to speak to me about it.

Remember that you only have One Life and living a calm, happy and fulfilled one is my aim for  you.

Till next week

Dr Bridget – solving your anxieties

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Wobbles

5 Ways to Stop Wobbles

Hands up – Who has Wobbles?

Wobbles

Wobbles

I certainly have them and so do my clients.

In fact, I’d go as far as saying that probably everyone has them!

I’ve started going to the gym recently – a part of my self care – and I overdid the 1st machine and I got off and couldn’t walk – It was actually quite scary. I had this vision of me being carted off to hospital and I felt quite panicky. I think it was because one of my friends had been quite stressed and had retired and had then had a stroke 2 days later – I think I wondered whether the same thing had happened to me.

And  in our life, our relationships, our work or our business, the same sort of feeling can happen and its very uncomfortable.

Listen to the 5 things that you can do when you are having a wobble in the video below:

1. Notice when you have a wobble so that you can start to understand why and to recognise the triggers and patterns that are appearing.

2. Understand your comfort zones –  We all have them. The way that we have been brought up by our parents, teachers and other people who surround us give us that thermostat beyond which we can’t go. Or at least find it uncomfortable to go beyond. The way to overcome the thermostat is to expand our comfort zones so that we feel more comfortable with our thermostat. We are in control of it.

3. Find out and work with your values. For my business, mine are Determination, Self-care, Fun and Making a difference. I have wobbles when I’m not working with these values so I keep them in my conscious mind all the time. Click here to get a values exercise and find out what yours are.

4. Set some compelling goals. Not setting goals means that you are more likely to have wobbles because your U/C  mind doesn’t know what you are doing and you can get anxious as a result.

5. Look at who surrounds you – are they mainly mood hoovers or definite suporters. If you are surrounded by people that drain your energy, you will lose confidence and definitely wobble. Find some true supporters who you can talk to about anything.

If you know where you want to go and what you want to do and your unconscious mind is throwing up all sorts of reasons for not taking the action – usually manifested as negative  internal chatter and the feeling of wobbling, then take some action. If you are still stuck or uncomfortable, then get in touch so that we can sort this out together. Remember that you only have one life and I’d love to help you live it to the full!

Until next week,

Dr Bridget – unwobbling people across the world.

Sysytem

Where are you in the Molehill System?

Have I lost the plot? Mole hills?

Sysytem

Mole hill

OK- so I’m known for being a bit different and even odd (nicely odd) at times! I was filming some prescriptions for success in my garden recently and noticed there were lots of mole hills – which is slightly frustrating as I thought they had moved over to the park on the other side of the river. Anyway, I like to take opportunities to film something a bit different and it got me thinking – “What is the purpose of a mole hill?” So I looked it up and apparently, moles have a system of tunnels, which I guess I already knew, and  the reason for making a  mole hill is that when it rains, all of the moles’ food (worms and such like) goes to the surface and they end up having to also come to the surface in order to survive. Thats really interesting and has made me more tolerant of the mole hills. And I thought – maybe this could be looked at as a metaphor for ourselves.

Maybe, we can bury ourselves underground and feel safe and secure but sometimes we need to poke our head up above  our comfort system in order to survive and thrive. I wonder if moles feel uncomfortable doing this? I have a cat who has bought moles into the house and can be seen sitting by a mole hill listening intently for any movement.

Have a watch of my video below and ask yourself the questions underneath.

Ok – so not my best video but it does raise some questions:

  • Should I stay subscribed to this web site? Thats not a serious question by the way- of course you will – lots of new things coming soon!
  • Where are you at your most comfortable – in your tunnel system or poking your head out of your comfortable place in order to survive?
  • Do you have a system that you function best in or do you need to find one where you can stay comfortable and survive and thrive?

If you would like a chat to me, either to tell me that was a bit weird or to get some help in surviving and thriving, click here

I also have 2 places left on my NLP Practitioner Course in January – find out more here – it gives you a system to grow and become totally excellent rather than getting stuck in tunnels

Until next week, happy digging

Dr Bridget