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Anxiety

That Old Problem of Anxiety

How to get rid of Anxiety

Anxiety

Anxiety Treatment

Anxiety means different things to different people – I don’t think I’ve met anyone who has never had anxiety and I occasionally do it myself. What is really apparent is that it can be disabling and unpleasant and stops us  being who we want to be, doing what we want to do and having what we want to have. The symptoms range from paralysis, insomnia, and has many repercussions in peoples lives, relationships, work or business.

When I was a GP, I used to refer people to have counselling, CBT or give them medication. Since using Neuro Linguistic Progrqmming instead, many more people have been helped in a much quicker way.

Tad James, the founder of the American Board of NLP, says that anxiety is often a symptom that our unconscious mind isn’t really focusing on what we really want to do. And because of this, it behaves in a random and undirected fashion which is uncomfortable and can be destructive

Watch the video below and I’ll give you tips below it:


In some ways, the analogy of a capain – our conscious mind, and his crew – our unconscious mind, can be used. If the captain is clear about what needs to happen, the crew will follow orders. If the captain is not clear, the crew will not know what to do and create feelings of anxiety and some random behaviour.

So, things that will help are;

Goal setting to include:

  • Who you want to be
  • What you want to do
  • What you want to have
  • By when

Taking action:

  • Towards the goal
  • To set boundaries
  • To get positive supportive people in your life
  • For yourself, not others

Notice triggers  and remember them:

  • What makes you anxious
  • What keeps you calm

Then I think that getting rid of the root cause of fear and putting goals into the future, which people are then confident to take action towards, will solve the vast majority of anxiety.

I use a process called Time Line Therapy which gets rid of major negative emotions and any limiting beliefs very quickly- in fact, it’s the reason that I am coaching rather than retiring. The major negative emotions are Anger, Sadness, Fear, Hurt and Guilt.

If you, or anyone you know, wants to get rid of their anxiety so that it becomes an old problem, then get in touch. I either work with people in a Breakthrough Coaching process to solve this problem over 2 days with follow up support, or help them by giving them the skills to learn the techniques in my NLP training. Also, watch this video if you are interested in the training  or fill in the contact form to speak to me about it.

Remember that you only have One Life and living a calm, happy and fulfilled one is my aim for  you.

Till next week

Dr Bridget – solving your anxieties

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Environment

How Your Environment Affects your Reality

Environment

Chaos or not?

Hello!

I’m known for being slightly disorganised, although not as much as in the picture. And for some reason I allow my environment to be less than useful and don’t do anything about it. This means that my results could be improved if I made a change. Does this apply to you as well, or are you fully in control of your environment?

Robert Dilts – a well known NLP Master Trainer, had a series of tools that allowed us to say at what level change is needed in order to get the results that we want. Environment is one of those levels and it can be about what is around you or the people that are around you. Its a pretty empowering level to make changes at – well it would certainly be empowering for me to change at this level. This is because my behaviour around my environment doesn’t fit with my knowledge and skills, my values and beliefs, or my identity or purpose.  I’m out of line!

Have a watch of the video below and then read further on to see if  you need to change your environment at all.

A positive environment  is different for everyone- it can be chaotic and disorganised and people will be very happy in it or it can be minimalist and they can be unhappy. It also includes the people around you.

My values for my business (click here if you want to work yours out) are determination, self care, fun and making a difference and the disorganisation that I have around me is not helpful in any way. I have people around me that are supportive and positive which is a very helpful environment in that sense.

Have a think about your surroundings and work out if they fit with who you are, what’s important to you  and will get you the results that you want. If not, then do something about it!

I’m happy to have a chat about it if you don’t know how to change your results, so click here to make an appointment or send me a message.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – helping you reflect on your environment.

 

 

 

Uni-tasking

The Importance of Uni-Tasking

The Importance of Uni-tasking

Uni-taskingHere are my thoughts on multi-tasking versus uni-tasking for your reflection. I work with a lot of people in business who think that multi-tasking is a skill and I am going to disagree as you will find out.

This morning, I had many things to do:

I did little bits of many things and  got overwhelmed and stuck – literally. “That’s no good for a Chief Unsticker” I thought, so I took a step back, got my planner out and made a list. Watch the video to find out what else I did.


Having decided what I needed to do and checked that all of my actions were getting me towards my goals, I started with a technique called the Pomodora  Technique. It’s come from cooking Italian tomatoes and the main points about it are that:

  • You do one thing at a time
  • Turn off distractions and set a timer
  • You do it for 20 minutes and then have a 2 minute break
  • You repeat this for 3 cycles and then have a longer break – say 1/2 hour

Then you repeat it.

I get loads done while I’m doing this – in fact I’m using it to write this blog!

Give it a go and if you find yourself becoming Overwhelmed and Stuck get in touch to have a chat with me – I do a free session for half an hour to find out what the problem is and work out what help you need.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – turning off overwhelm

P.S if you’d like to join my STRETCH mastermind group, let me know – my next intake is in March for 5 people only

 

 

behaviour

People Aren’t their Behaviour

People aren’t their behaviour

behaviour

Behaviours

This is so important for our relationships with people in our life and also for our relationship with ourself. It is so easy to look at someone’s behaviour and judge them or fall out with them without truly understanding what is going on for that person. It also applies to ourself as well – maybe we’ve behaved in a way that is unusual for us and we think ” I need to change that!”

Reasons for behaving in ways that cause judgement of others or concerns about our own behaviour are many. Here are just two of them:

  1. People can be in a highly emotionally charged state when they are hungry or thirsty or tired or in pain. This then makes their reality different to when they are calm and considered. So they may become very angry or sad or frightened much more easily in this state and any slight trigger will cause them to behave in a way we are not used to
  2. The way people’s thoughts and feelings have been wired by events in the past, their values or their beliefs. Decisions are made which become beliefs and cause a reality to exist that has consequences for people’s behaviours or their results.

I was talking to a client the other day who had a mistrust of people which he had decided as a result of a painful event in the past. This became something that he “looked out for” and which was having serious consequences.

The crunch point came when he was in a networking meeting with a friend and his friend said something. It took him right back to the original event where he had made the decision that he couldn’t trust people. The result was that he completely lost the plot and also lost his friend and the respect of other people in the room.

So he arrived in my office and asked for help. It was easy to sort out with a breakthrough process using Time Line Therapy (R).  And he recovered his friends and collegaues and started to trust people again very quickly.

So the things to learn from this are:

  1. People aren’t their behaviours- behaviours are not people’s identity
  2. People have different models of the world and are doing the best they can with their available resources.
  3. Judging people by their behaviours is unhelpful and can cause misunderstandings
  4. If you have a behaviour that you don’t like, get some help from me to manage your emotional states or change your wiring. It doesn’t take long.
  5. Watching people’s behaviours becomes interesting if you lose the judgement
  6. Working with Dr Bridget, either 1:1 or by taking an NLP Training, enables you to be in charge of your life

Until next week

Dr Bridget – finding people’s behaviours interesting

The Benefits of Consistency

Consistency Gives You that Slight Edge

Consistency

Consistency

Hi

I’m sure you have already experienced the benefits of being consistent? And very likely been inconsistent and become frustrated with yourself?
Ive been becoming more consistent this year and this means that I notice when I’m not – things like forgetting to drink water or exercise every day.
And a couple of things have reminded me of the benefits recently:
  1. I started to read “The Slight Edge” by Jeff Olson again. It’s a brilliant book which is about finding the actions that are small but, if applied consistently, will creat you the results that you want. It has an amazing story about 2 frogs – have a watch of the video to find out more
  2. I went to a Client attraction summit and realised that I just needed to do certain things consistently to grow my client base and reach my goals going forward.
And I’ve made some decisions about my health and fitness and also about my business. Both of which will enable me to help more people and have more fun.
Have a watch of the video below:

I therefore wanted to encourage you to become more consistent. Work out what small actions will give you what you want in your life and then do them. You are probably nearly there when you give up, so just keep going and you will get there – much like the frog!
If there’s anything stopping you or getting in your way, let me know and we can have a talk about it and find out what help is needed to achieve your goals and dreams.
Keep on keeping on and see you next week
Dr Bridget -consistently being on your side!