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4 Steps to Increase Your Consciousness

Increase your consciousness

How to Increase Your Consciousness

This is something that I’ve becoming increasingly aware of especially during the pandemic where I’ve had time to become more aware of my thought processes and what’s going on around me.

It really does feel good to have an increased consciousness – in this week’s Prescription for Success I give you 4 steps to increase your consciousness –  watch the video and try the steps for yourself.

 

A definition of consciousness is an individual’s state of awareness of their environment, their thoughts, their feelings or their sensations.  This is a bit of a broad statement but there are people who are not aware of this. They just do what they do on a day to day basis and they don’t think about what’s going on in their head or their body. However, if you have a high state of consciousness then you can start to change your reality and the world.

4 steps to increase your consciousness

  1. Awaken – which is about pausing, being quiet and noticing what’s going on in your surroundings and in your body.
  2. Mindfully – to live mindfully which is about paying attention to things that happen. It’s about having a purpose for noticing things, being present having no judgements and taking no action.
  3. Intention – so set an intention of who you want to be rather than what you are going to do.
  4. Acting Consciously – when you act consciously you have that intention to make a positive impact and do your best for the world rather than just yourself.

So if you want to increase your consciousness try these four steps.

If you find anything that is getting in the way and is stopping you taking these steps or you have  beliefs or values that make this quite difficult then get in touch with me  and we can sort this out so that you can make more difference to the world and yourself.

So that’s me – living consciously

Dr Bridget

P.S. I’m running an NLP course in November from the 5-8th plus 26-29th – a great way to get to know yourself and increase your confidence in working with others. Here’s a link to the course information where you can also download a brochure for dates and prices.

 

 

 

 

 

Eye Patterns

eye patterns

What are Eye Accessing Cues or Eye Patterns?

The technique of Eye Accessing Cues, often called Eye Patterns, is about how people access information within their neurology and representational systems.

This may be in terms of:

  • visual,
  •  auditory,
  • kinaesthetic – feelings
  • or auditory digital which is about sorting, filing and processes

In this week’s video I talk about the basics of eye patterns which is really useful because if we can informally elicit what people are doing in their thinking. This gives us so much more information about them. This can be really helpful in areas such as sales, understanding people and also helpful when working with clients. Watch the video and try it out for yourself

What are eye accessing patterns?

Eye accessing patterns are how you move your eyes as you access the systems that you think with.

We talk about six eye accessing cues and in this blog, I’m going to talk about someone who is “normally organised”. Indeed most people in the UK are what is know as “normally organised” in terms of their eye accessing cues.  If you fall into the group known as “reverse organised” then it is just the reverse of what I’m going to share with you.

As you look at the person- important

  1. If people are visually recalling (VR) something that has happened in the past they will move their eyes upwards to the right.
  2. If people are auditory recalling (AR) something that has happened in the past they will move their eyes sideways and to the right.
  3.  If people are thinking about a question they have just been asked or they are doing a comparison or list or thinking about some other criteria, then they will look down to the right which is known as Auditory Digital (Ad).
  4. If people are visually creating an image in their mind (VC) then they will will look up and to the left.
  5. If people are creating how something may sound (AC) then they will look to the left.
  6. If people are feeling something, either emotionally or  externally, then this is known as Kinaesthetic (K) and they will look down to the left.

A good way to practice using eye accessing cues is to just watch people on the tv and see if you can work out their eye patterns.  Then look at the people around you and who you are talking to and see if you can tell how they are thinking – whether they are

  • visually recalling,
  • auditory recalling,
  • processing information,
  • visually creating an image
  • auditory creating how something will sound
  • or feeling something

This is just the basics of eye accessing cues, if you are interested in this and want to have more information then why not come on one of my courses where you can develop this skill further and use it whether it is in sales, relationships or understanding people.

I’m running an NLP course in November from the 5-8th plus 26-29th – a great way to learn and develop NLP techniques and increase your confidence in working with others. Here’s a link to the course information where you can also download a brochure for future dates and prices.

I also do a free 30 minute session. If you would like to have a chat with me about getting “unstuck” and developing your mindset for success using NLP techniques get in touch here.

So that’s me – keeping my eye on you!

Dr Bridget 

 

 

 

 

 

What Makes You Fascinating?

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What makes you fascinating?

In a recent networking event, I was chatting with someone new and at the end of the 10 minute conversation he said to me, “That was the most fascinating conversation I’ve had for some time.”

I thought WOW! That’s amazing. I find my world fascinating and other people fascinating. I was happy with this statement as I thought I was showing my passion for what I do.

In this week’s prescription for success I discuss what makes us fascinating and how this can benefit us. Watch the video and ask yourself the questions below.

Why is it useful for people to find you fascinating?

It may result in people wanting to engage more, work with you more and connect with you more. On the other hand, maybe they won’t want to be with you and really that’s fine because you are being yourself and you are fascinated with yourself.  You’ll find that people will either say “Who do you think you are?” or they will want to know more.

Some people may feel that ‘being fascinating,’ might set up a lot of negative chatter in their head such as

  • I don’t think I’m good enough to be fascinating.
  • Who am I to think I’m fascinating?
  • No one else thinks I’m fascinating.

During the conversation in the networking event, we discussed why I left being a GP and how I felt that I was just scratching the surface in terms of mental health and helping people. I also found that I had lots of idea that others didn’t agree with. So I left and now I’m doing my NLP work and I’m in charge of my life.

We also talked about people on the autistic spectrum and having the skills to help with communication and also remove trauma.

We then moved on to eye patterns and how you access information in your brain, which I’m going to talk about in next week’s blog.

I was just being myself and being passionate about what I do and he said that he’d never discussed these things before and was fascinated.

Here is the question:

Is it ok for you to think you are fascinating? 

Because you are, everyone is!

You can use this to show others your passion and then if they want to connect with you they will and it may lead to more clients.

If you have any problems about thinking that you are ‘fascinating’ maybe you don’t believe in yourself or feel it’s not ok to show that part of yourself the just get in touch with me  because it may be holding you back in life and business.

I do a free 30 minute session and also teach people on courses helping them to be the person they want to be.

So that’s me

Dr Bridget – I’m fascinated with you and I’d love to have a chat with you!

P.S. I’m running an NLP course in November from the 5-8th plus 26-29th – a great way to get to know yourself and increase your confidence in working with others. Here’s a link to the course information where you can also download a brochure for dates and prices.

 

 

 

 

 

Reasons for Being Authentic in Business and life

being authentic

Reasons for being authentic in business and life

Showing up as you, showing your journey, who you are and where you want to go is really important in life and in business.

In this week’s prescription for success I look at the reasons for and the importance of being authentic whether that’s in life, business or relationships.

When we are authentic and people around us learn about our life, business and even relationships this  will either resonate with them or put them off.   Here’s the thing – if people are put off – you wouldn’t want to be anything other than yourself would you?

So if those around you want to interact with you in whatever way, and you are authentic and vulnerable then actually that is quite attractive to a lot of people. And if it’s not then they are just not the right people for you.

Furthermore, if you are authentic and being yourself then you will stand out and people will be attracted to you which has got to be good for business- do you think?

Both in life and business being authentic also allows you to share your experience. You’ll be able to tell people you’ve been there and you’ve overcome things can be really helpful for others.  It’s not useful to fake it because firstly it will be evident, and secondly you’re not helping anyone by putting on a front.

So if you have limiting beliefs such as:

  • “I can’t be myself,”
  • “I’m not good enough,”
  • “I’m a bit of an imposter?”

OR

If you can’t show up as yourself, you can’t be successful and there are things holding you back or you worry about what other people think then get in touch with me as we can sort this out very quickly.

So enjoy being you and I’ll see you next week

Dr Bridget – Just being myself!

Why cutting out the garbage is useful

Cut out the garbage

Why cutting out the garbage is useful

This week is a bit of a personal one, I’m not very good at tidying and currently I’m about to get help from Katie Killoran to deal with this.

If everything is piled up together then you can’t distinguish between what is needed and what isn’t.  You find that you don’t have any focus, you can’t make a plan and it’s much more difficult to make decisions. Moreover, if your garbage is mixed up with all the important things you need, then life is definitely more challenging.

In this week’s prescription for success I look at how cutting out the garbage in our lives can be useful. Watch the video and follow the tips below.

The definition of garbage is basically rubbish or waste. So then, garbage could be paperwork, things around the home, people or even advice. Indeed there are all sorts of things that can we label as either waste or resources.

The things that need tidying we generally place into piles whether that is a physical pile or a mental pile. We often need help to sort these out and identify what parts are waste and what are needed and then throw the garbage away and keep what is useful.

It’s really good to have a system that:

  1. Identifies what is garbage and then avoids it.  For example you may have people around you that drain your energy or you may have lots of advice from other people that isn’t particularly helpful.
  2.  Identifies what is useful which you need to keep. You will have a gut feeling for what is useful or not. For example only keep the paper you need and find a place to keep it, also for the people around you that are not helpful remove them and get people who have your values and support you.

Cutting out the garbage is a bit of a metaphor for life. If you can’t get rid of your rubbish or are having difficulty sorting out the rubbish and what is useful resources then get in touch. I do a free half hour session so that you can get to know me and we can discuss your needs.

I also run NLP courses (click on the link) that can give you the skills to sort the garbage and cut out what’s not needed.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – Helping you tidy up your life!

How to Understand Your Emotions

Emotional state

Understanding your emotions

There are several models in psychology and NLP about understanding your emotions but the one I want us to focus on this week is a two dimensional model. This model is really useful because if you can understand and grade your emotions, you’ll then realise what you need to do to change your emotions and this really is empowering.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I’m going to unpack this two-dimensional model for you and explain how being aware of your emotions can benefit you. Watch the video and work through the different examples below as this is an interesting way of looking at it and awareness is key.

 

The two dimensional model takes account of:

  1. Valence – which is attractiveness, whether something is good or bad, positive or negative, it’s the subjective attractiveness of the emotion.
  2. Arousal – which refers to whether you are energetic or lethargic, wakeful or sleepy

Valence, is that subjective feeling. For example just because something is good or bad it doesn’t mean it is good or bad for you or for someone else.

Similarly, with arousal if you have negative feelings such as fear or anger they may appear negative but they actually could be really motivating for you.  Alternatively, you may have what are considered as positive feelings like relaxed or calm but these might potentially be preventing you from taking action.

So let’s consider this in a little more detail looking at the different combinations of Arousal and Valence

High Valence and High Arousal    Examples are Astonished, Excited, Delighted, Happy, Pleased

High Valence and Low Arousal     Examples are Content, Serene, Calm, Relaxed

Low Valence and High Arousal    Examples are Annoyed, Afraid, Angry, Frustrated

Low Valence and Low Arousal     Examples are Miserable, Depressed, Bored, Tired

Two dimensional Model of Emotion

Maybe if you knew which  you were doing at any one time, you could choose to do a different combination?

If you find that you are not managing your emotions then please get in touch here or give me a call on 07973 635102   –  I’m a “chief unsticker” and sometimes these negatives get in our way,  I can help you to manage your emotions, no matter where they have come from  so that you can live the life you want and have the business you want.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – On an emotional roll!

Why hope matters

Hope matters

Why does hope matter?

When I first came across this concept about ‘Why hope matters’ in an article I was reading, I was a little unsure about it.  The reason for my uncertainty was that I think that using words like ‘try’, ‘maybe’, ‘wish’ or ‘hope’,  isn’t very positive or effective. This is because our unconscious mind thinks ‘it might not happen’ or ‘it doesn’t really matter’.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I share with you some really interesting insights into ‘why hope matters’  when it comes to creating your future reality.  Watch the video and consider below your attitude and stance when it comes to ‘hope’.

Someone who is hopeful is someone who is radically realistic.

I can never decide whether I’m a ‘glass half empty’ or a ‘glass half full’ type of person. I think of myself as being really positive but I do also consider what the obstacles might be and then mitigate against them.  In the article it  actually stated that someone who is hopeful looks at obstacles and makes plans to get around them. Whew – that’s a relief!

It’s also reassuring that leaders inspire hope in both themselves and others and it gives them their purpose.

Ask yourself:

Are you a ‘High Hoper’?

‘High hopers’ take action, they withstand discomfort or pain, they are equipped for diversity. Hope gives us drive and is goal directed.

There are three things that ‘High Hopers’ have:

  1. Destination – they have highly developed goals.
  2. Route – they know how they are going to get to their goals.
  3. Means of Transport – they know how they are going to do it,  how they are going achieve their goals.

Whereas “Low Hopers’ tend to generalise about their destination so they may know where they are going but are unclear about it . They may have an idea about how they are going to get there but are vague about their actions.

So I want to ask you which would you rather be – a ‘High Hoper’ – ‘Low Hoper’ or maybe somewhere in the middle.

Think about whether you are:

  • clear about your destination;
  • clear about your route;
  • and clear about the means of transport.

If you are not clear about any of these and your really want to be a ‘High Hoper’ and a high achiever then get in touch or give me a call on  07973 635102 as there are lots of things that can get in your way and I’m really skilled in getting rid of those for you.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – Hoping you get in touch!

How to Plan Using NLP Techniques

Planning using NLP Techniques

Plan

Plan with NLP

Hello. Last week I did a video talking about your personal exit strategy for Covid, and as I was doing it, I had this thought. “Some of you , including myself in this, may be having challenges planning during this uncertain time.” And the thought started me wondering where planning “sits” within NLP.

Here is a link to a video which explains how we get results and  of course, planning sits everywhere within this Communication Model. It is of course a behaviour, but behaviours come from how we filter the information coming into our head.

Watch the video and then reflect on your planning and learn a new technique:

If we put aside Covid and any other challenges that maybe going on in your  world, and plan for what we really want to happen, things have a way of coming true. It involves getting a great emotional state that is connected to planning. This creates us a reality which creates a behaviour that is about great planning.

of course, exercising, eating a healthy diet and keeping hydrated also help. As does having great support around you.

This technique, called Anchoring, involves thinking about a time when we planned really well and taking ourselves back to that time so that we can remember it as and when needed. My NLP courses teach you many more techniques.

My greatest planning times are when I meet up with a friend and colleague in a cafe or park and sit there with post its, pens and a large piece of paper. I get loads done and it feels really good. I can remember those times really easily and when I recall them, I fell clam and motivated and achieve the planning.

Here is the “script” to say to yourself to do the same.

“Can you remember a time, a specific time, when you were really feeling motivated by planning? As you remember that time, go back to that time, float down into your body, see what you saw, hear what you heard and really feel those feelings of being totally motivated about planning.”

And just remember those feelings by making a fist or doing a power pose or something similar.

I’m off to sit in my garden now to plan my next blogs, felling really motivated

Until next week:

Dr Bridget – planning just for you!

 

 

 

What is your Personal Covid Lockdown Exit Strategy?

Personal Exit Strategy

Exit StrategyHello – I’ve been attempting to keep inspired during Covid Lockdown by working out topics for my Mastermind STRETCH such as working out spaces for me to work in. Mugs to take to those spaces and, more recently, music to play in those spaces. And I’ve dared to start to think about when lockdown finishes – whether that is gradual or not. And I’ve found it useful to think about what I’m going to do then and not do. Watch the video and then think about making your own personal version of your exit strategy.

So I AM going to:

  • Connect and hug
  • Walk run and  jump, no matter how silly it looks
  • Be present
  • Be myself and show up
  • Be creative

I may even get to film videos in unusual spaces which I haven’t seen for over a year – like the beach or the tops of hills or maybe other people’s gardens. May even take a week off as there will be people to see and things to do.

And I’m NOT going to

  • Stay in
  • Get overwhelmed
  • Sit on my bum
  • Do and not reflect
  • Lose myself

Have you managed to retain a sense of self? I’ve just been keeping on doing things without thinking about who I am and whether I’m happy with that and I certainly haven’t been doing much exercise – hence the sitting on my bum point.

I’m sure there must be more so I’ll  continue reflecting. And of course, if I do the things I want to do, my reality will be great, my emotional state will be great and I’ll like what I’m doing and the results I will get.

How about you – what would you like to do and not do once restrictions ease?

Let me know.

If you’re struggling in ANY way or simply want some help with your personal lockdown exit strategy, contact me – I’d love life to be great for you going forward.

Dr Bridget

Keeping going together

How to Get Rid of Emotions after Trauma – PTSD

Getting Rid of Emotions after Trauma

Resolving PTSD

Hello

PTSDMost people have heard of PTSD and know that removing the symptoms that go with this diagnosis can be challenging. I’m not a fan of using the term PTSD as it implies that this is a mental health disorder, when in fact it is something that gives symptoms that can be easily removed. I remember when I was a GP, I worried about how to help those with this diagnosis. There is also a new label called Complex PTSD and I still remember a client telling me that they had been told they’d have the symptoms for life. I get cross about this because most people that I work with have had some form of trauma that affects their life and it only takes a few hours  to resolve this.

I have set up a Community Interest Company to work with people who have  had trauma and we are treating people who have had a variety of traumas in their life, whether this is acute or over time. The success  rate is 90-95% and takes less than 6 hours.

Watch the video and then look at the symptoms below. Perhaps you or someone you know have these symptoms and we can help you. Contact us here

Symptoms of PTSD include:

  • Nightmares, flashbacks and difficulty sleeping
  • Avoidance of triggers – people, places, scenarios
  • Physical symptoms such as sweating or shaking
  • Re-experiencing the event as though it is real now
  • Changes in mood

These symptoms can start after the event and last for many years.

Causes include many events which often involve experiencing near death for yourself or death /near death for other people. Also risk of or actual serious injury for self or other people.

The reason that people continue to have symptoms is due to the impairment of moving the memories from the fight and flight centre- the amygdala- to an area of the brain which deals with other types of memories. RTM changes the structure of the memories so that the emotions are separated from the memories and the event has moved into the past rather than being experienced as if now.

Please tell us if you know of people who have symptoms like this as we can help very quickly

See you next week

Dr Bridget

 

 

 

 

– helping you to rewire your thinking

Recognising the Causes of Conflict

What Causes Conflict?

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Get Rid of Conflict

Hello – Are you experiencing any conflicts in your thinking, where you find it difficult to make decisions, affecting your emotional state and leading to behaviour that’s not you?

Or maybe you have colleagues and friends who have been wondering why they are feeling confused and can’t do what they want to do.

Covid and many other traumatic events have led to trauma, loneliness, isolation and these things can create conflict in our thinking – in our neurology.

Watch the video to find out the causes and get in touch if you are experiencing conflict as it is easy to help you re program your thinking  to resolve this. NLP is a content free way of resolving patterns of thinking  so that you can feel completely clear about your life.

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Here’s a summary:

Whether due to Covid  or other events in your life, significant emotional events lead to conflict which has the ability to create changes in our neurology and programming.

  • Parts – where part of us believes one thing and part of us believes another. Or sometimes we believe one thing and sometimes we believe another. Its exhausting and affects our ability to make decisions.
  • Values changes – maybe things such as security and health have become more important and these conflict with values that you used to have
  • Beliefs – maybe we have adopted beliefs that limit us or maybe empower us? How resilient are you?

The techniques in NLP can remove conflict really easily, realigning your memories, values and beliefs with your goals so there is NO CONFLICT. And in a very comfortable way.

The ways that I help people to resolve these challenges are by 1:1 coaching, Breakthrough Coaching and NLP Training, where you also learn how to use these skills yourself.

Get in touch to find out how you can resolve conflict right now.

Until next week,

Dr Bridget – making you whole again.

 

 

How to Manage your Emotional State

 

How to Manage you Emotional State

Emotional state

Manage your Emotions

Hello – If you want to live your life to the full in a positive and resilient way, getting the success that you want and deserve, then managing your emotional state is key. As we’ve experienced over the last year, life sometimes happens around us in an unwanted manner and we can either become really negative or we can choose how to respond emotionally. We can also transmit a great emotional state to others which helps us in business and in our relationships and life in general.

As we know, our emotional state is created by our unconscious mind and therefore, we need to work at that level to  make changes. watch the video and then read some of my tips below it.

The way that we filter the information that comes into our senses uses our memories and experiences, our values or motivators and our beliefs. Also the language that we use to label our experiences and our metaprograms. These filters and the way that we use generalising, deleting and distorting create a reality  for us. This then leads to an emotional state. The second way that we create our emotional state is from our physiology. If we  go for a walk or a swim or do star jumps, for example, then our emotional state changes. If we sit hunched up, then we get different emotions. The third way that our emotional state is affected is by a feedback loop from our behaviour and our results. This feeds into our filters and so the loop goes on. So the main tip that I have for you is to get rid of any negative patterns that cause behaviours and get you results you don’t want.

Here are three other tips I have for changing a negative emotional state.

  1.  If you become aware of negativity , then look upwards. it’s difficult to feel negative when you do that.
  2. Use your peripheral vision – this is described in the video. It stops your negative chatter
  3. Step out of your reality. Look at yourself like a fly on the wall would and observe what you are doing and take lessons from that perspective.

All of these are very effective, and if you want to learn more techniques then get in touch. Sometimes we feel stuck and unable to change- if this is you, then we can change that very quickly.

Time Line therapy (R) gets rid of all of the negative emotional states and leaves you free to live your life in the way that you want to.

You can also learn these techniques by coming on an NLP course. Everyone that comes on a course leaves with positivity and a passion for living their life to the full as well as having skills to help others do just that.

Until next week-

Dr Bridget – removing negatives from your life.

 

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