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The Importance of Uni-Tasking

The Importance of Uni-tasking

Uni-taskingHere are my thoughts on multi-tasking versus uni-tasking for your reflection. I work with a lot of people in business who think that multi-tasking is a skill and I am going to disagree as you will find out.

This morning, I had many things to do:

I did little bits of many things and  got overwhelmed and stuck – literally. “That’s no good for a Chief Unsticker” I thought, so I took a step back, got my planner out and made a list. Watch the video to find out what else I did.


Having decided what I needed to do and checked that all of my actions were getting me towards my goals, I started with a technique called the Pomodora  Technique. It’s come from cooking Italian tomatoes and the main points about it are that:

  • You do one thing at a time
  • Turn off distractions and set a timer
  • You do it for 20 minutes and then have a 2 minute break
  • You repeat this for 3 cycles and then have a longer break – say 1/2 hour

Then you repeat it.

I get loads done while I’m doing this – in fact I’m using it to write this blog!

Give it a go and if you find yourself becoming Overwhelmed and Stuck get in touch to have a chat with me – I do a free session for half an hour to find out what the problem is and work out what help you need.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – turning off overwhelm

P.S if you’d like to join my STRETCH mastermind group, let me know – my next intake is in March for 5 people only

 

 

behaviour

People Aren’t their Behaviour

People aren’t their behaviour

behaviour

Behaviours

This is so important for our relationships with people in our life and also for our relationship with ourself. It is so easy to look at someone’s behaviour and judge them or fall out with them without truly understanding what is going on for that person. It also applies to ourself as well – maybe we’ve behaved in a way that is unusual for us and we think ” I need to change that!”

Reasons for behaving in ways that cause judgement of others or concerns about our own behaviour are many. Here are just two of them:

  1. People can be in a highly emotionally charged state when they are hungry or thirsty or tired or in pain. This then makes their reality different to when they are calm and considered. So they may become very angry or sad or frightened much more easily in this state and any slight trigger will cause them to behave in a way we are not used to
  2. The way people’s thoughts and feelings have been wired by events in the past, their values or their beliefs. Decisions are made which become beliefs and cause a reality to exist that has consequences for people’s behaviours or their results.

I was talking to a client the other day who had a mistrust of people which he had decided as a result of a painful event in the past. This became something that he “looked out for” and which was having serious consequences.

The crunch point came when he was in a networking meeting with a friend and his friend said something. It took him right back to the original event where he had made the decision that he couldn’t trust people. The result was that he completely lost the plot and also lost his friend and the respect of other people in the room.

So he arrived in my office and asked for help. It was easy to sort out with a breakthrough process using Time Line Therapy (R).  And he recovered his friends and collegaues and started to trust people again very quickly.

So the things to learn from this are:

  1. People aren’t their behaviours- behaviours are not people’s identity
  2. People have different models of the world and are doing the best they can with their available resources.
  3. Judging people by their behaviours is unhelpful and can cause misunderstandings
  4. If you have a behaviour that you don’t like, get some help from me to manage your emotional states or change your wiring. It doesn’t take long.
  5. Watching people’s behaviours becomes interesting if you lose the judgement
  6. Working with Dr Bridget, either 1:1 or by taking an NLP Training, enables you to be in charge of your life

Until next week

Dr Bridget – finding people’s behaviours interesting

Avoid Negativity

Reasons to Avoid Negativity

Reasons to Avoid Negativity

Avoid Negativity

Get Excited

For a change I thought I’d base this blog on a typical client’s challenge. This person is one of many who come and see me in order to move on in their life and get “success” – whatever that means to them. This client thought that they were positive but they weren’t getting success and when we went into the details, actually they had a lot of negativity from  things in the past which they had suppressed. So they were telling themselves that they were positive and ignoring the little voice inside that said – “yes – but…..”

They were bored and procrastinating due to a fear which we uncovered and then removed.

There had been trauma with relationships, bullying and other incidents which had led to them self sabotaging and not effectively running a business which meant a lot to them. Their values (motivators) were all about moving away from what they didn’t want rather than towards what they didn’t want. Their top value was peace when we elicited them and this was because they didn’t want conflict. The second one was Self – Belief which was because they felt not good enough and was avoiding that thought.

Watch the video below to get some more insights and I’ll give you access to a free tool below to discover your values so that you can reflect on yours.

So this person’s limiting beliefs were:

  • I’m not good enough
  • I won’t be respected
  • I can’t do what I want
  • Life would be worse if I am successful

And they got stuck- not surprisingly.

So we removed all of the beliefs, plus some associated ones, using NLP and Time Line Therapy and my Breakthrough process and they became very excited by life!

If you have things that are keeping you from going for what you want, book a free appointment and let’s get you excited as well.

Here is a tool to elicit your values.

Important : You can get even more tools by joining my STRETCH  on-line mastermind group for Business Success – check it out here. Its a rapidly growing and empowering group with great feedback. It’s half price until the end of January 2019.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – Getting You Excited

 

Reflection

How to Reflect at This Time of the Year

Reflection at This Time of the Year

Reflection

Reflection

I am conscious that festive times can be a tough time for some people, so get in touch if this is you. ( I mean that).

However, its also a great time to celebrate, reflect and get ready for a new phase starting in the New year. I refrained from singing this year but you can see last years song here if you really want to – take a deep breath 1st!

I’m going to meet relatives today and then head off to see my family tomorrow. I’m also planning my on-line group for the New Year. Its called STRETCH and is about Personal Growth for Business Success. Let me know if you want details- the web page is about to be published.

It is also time when you can reflect in the quiet periods between now and the New year so I thought it would be useful to give you a framework to do that. Watch the video and then look at the questions below.


Here are the questions:

  • What have you learned this year?
    • About yourself
    • About others
    • About the various parts of your life – health career, relationships and so on
  • What are you going to celebrate this year?
    • What went really well?
    • What can you be grateful for?
  • What are you going to change going forward?
    • About yourself?
    • About  your relationships with others?
    • About your plans?

I have learned that I can do things on my own although I like to work with others, that I am resilient and can put boundaries in place when my values are not met

I’m celebrating a big growth in my business and the people that I have trained and have helped to reach their full potential.

Next year I will be growing my training and coaching business and surrounding myself with fun and people who I have fun with. I will also be practicing self care which will take many forms – I feel a future blog coming on!

Let me know what you have learned, will celebrate and will change.

I’ve got some really interesting questions for you in the next blog so have a rest, do some reflection and I’ll catch up with  you next week.

Dr Bridget – reflecting on 2018

P.S If you want to work with me next year, Id be delighted and thrilled. here are the links to find out more:

NLP training

Breakthrough Coaching

On- line mastermind group STRETCH – Personal Growth for Business Success – leave me a message from the contact page

The Benefits of Consistency

Consistency Gives You that Slight Edge

Consistency

Consistency

Hi

I’m sure you have already experienced the benefits of being consistent? And very likely been inconsistent and become frustrated with yourself?
Ive been becoming more consistent this year and this means that I notice when I’m not – things like forgetting to drink water or exercise every day.
And a couple of things have reminded me of the benefits recently:
  1. I started to read “The Slight Edge” by Jeff Olson again. It’s a brilliant book which is about finding the actions that are small but, if applied consistently, will creat you the results that you want. It has an amazing story about 2 frogs – have a watch of the video to find out more
  2. I went to a Client attraction summit and realised that I just needed to do certain things consistently to grow my client base and reach my goals going forward.
And I’ve made some decisions about my health and fitness and also about my business. Both of which will enable me to help more people and have more fun.
Have a watch of the video below:

I therefore wanted to encourage you to become more consistent. Work out what small actions will give you what you want in your life and then do them. You are probably nearly there when you give up, so just keep going and you will get there – much like the frog!
If there’s anything stopping you or getting in your way, let me know and we can have a talk about it and find out what help is needed to achieve your goals and dreams.
Keep on keeping on and see you next week
Dr Bridget -consistently being on your side!