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Anxiety

That Old Problem of Anxiety

How to get rid of Anxiety

Anxiety

Anxiety Treatment

Anxiety means different things to different people – I don’t think I’ve met anyone who has never had anxiety and I occasionally do it myself. What is really apparent is that it can be disabling and unpleasant and stops us  being who we want to be, doing what we want to do and having what we want to have. The symptoms range from paralysis, insomnia, and has many repercussions in peoples lives, relationships, work or business.

When I was a GP, I used to refer people to have counselling, CBT or give them medication. Since using Neuro Linguistic Progrqmming instead, many more people have been helped in a much quicker way.

Tad James, the founder of the American Board of NLP, says that anxiety is often a symptom that our unconscious mind isn’t really focusing on what we really want to do. And because of this, it behaves in a random and undirected fashion which is uncomfortable and can be destructive

Watch the video below and I’ll give you tips below it:


In some ways, the analogy of a capain – our conscious mind, and his crew – our unconscious mind, can be used. If the captain is clear about what needs to happen, the crew will follow orders. If the captain is not clear, the crew will not know what to do and create feelings of anxiety and some random behaviour.

So, things that will help are;

Goal setting to include:

  • Who you want to be
  • What you want to do
  • What you want to have
  • By when

Taking action:

  • Towards the goal
  • To set boundaries
  • To get positive supportive people in your life
  • For yourself, not others

Notice triggers  and remember them:

  • What makes you anxious
  • What keeps you calm

Then I think that getting rid of the root cause of fear and putting goals into the future, which people are then confident to take action towards, will solve the vast majority of anxiety.

I use a process called Time Line Therapy which gets rid of major negative emotions and any limiting beliefs very quickly- in fact, it’s the reason that I am coaching rather than retiring. The major negative emotions are Anger, Sadness, Fear, Hurt and Guilt.

If you, or anyone you know, wants to get rid of their anxiety so that it becomes an old problem, then get in touch. I either work with people in a Breakthrough Coaching process to solve this problem over 2 days with follow up support, or help them by giving them the skills to learn the techniques in my NLP training. Also, watch this video if you are interested in the training  or fill in the contact form to speak to me about it.

Remember that you only have One Life and living a calm, happy and fulfilled one is my aim for  you.

Till next week

Dr Bridget – solving your anxieties

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Boundaries

The Importance of Keeping Boundaries

Boundaries are important for success

Boundaries

Keeping your boundaries

Hello – today I’m going to talk about boundaries.

They are the things that either keep you small, that keep you where you are, or enable you to become empowered and leading the life that you want. Many people that I talk to are clients that have made some big leaps towards their goals and are feeling happy and are doing the actions needed to stay fulfilled and living their life to the full. However, if they don’t sort out and keep their boundaries following the work that we do, then they can stop progressing and even go backwards.

And people who are stuck or feeling as though they are getting in their own way have often got people, their environment or even the media affecting their thinking and creating blocks to progress.

The sort of boundary that I’m talking about is something that, if crossed,  lowers your emotional state, stops you from taking action towards what you want and can create conflict in your mind. It’s something (virtual) that you put around you to prevent these things from happening. Have a watch of the video below and then reflect on your own boundaries

The questions that I have for you are:

  • Do you feel as though you are moving towards what you want in your life?
  • If not, are there people or things that are stopping you from doing that?
  • Do you know what these things are?
  • What actions do you need to take to keep these boundaries?

Here are some thoughts about actions that you can take:

Positive people – make sure that you either don’t interact with negative people or give them some feedback so that they change their behaviour. Sometimes we don’t tell people how we feel and therefore they have no idea that we are upset or in doubt. Find some really awesome support.

Positive environment – If your environment is not positive- your office, your home, your other environments that you regularly use- then make some changes and see how that affects your behaviours. You’ll know if that is the case.

Positive beliefs and values – If you have negative beliefs, then they will cause you to feel low and not take action. If you can’t get rid of these, let me know and I can help you change them to empowering beliefs.

Positive mindset –  This consists of useful values, empowering beliefs, having positive memories, having great strategies and behaviours and , of course, keeping your boundaries.

You can work with me to get that positive mindset by contacting me and having an initial free chat where we can discuss where you want to be and what might be stopping you. I will then tell you how I can help  you.

Also NLP Practitioner training is a great way of learning those skills to keep great boundaries and you will have lots of supportive people to work with as well. Click here to find out about our next course.

Till next week

Dr Bridget- keeping you moving

Wobbles

5 Ways to Stop Wobbles

Hands up – Who has Wobbles?

Wobbles

Wobbles

I certainly have them and so do my clients.

In fact, I’d go as far as saying that probably everyone has them!

I’ve started going to the gym recently – a part of my self care – and I overdid the 1st machine and I got off and couldn’t walk – It was actually quite scary. I had this vision of me being carted off to hospital and I felt quite panicky. I think it was because one of my friends had been quite stressed and had retired and had then had a stroke 2 days later – I think I wondered whether the same thing had happened to me.

And  in our life, our relationships, our work or our business, the same sort of feeling can happen and its very uncomfortable.

Listen to the 5 things that you can do when you are having a wobble in the video below:

1. Notice when you have a wobble so that you can start to understand why and to recognise the triggers and patterns that are appearing.

2. Understand your comfort zones –  We all have them. The way that we have been brought up by our parents, teachers and other people who surround us give us that thermostat beyond which we can’t go. Or at least find it uncomfortable to go beyond. The way to overcome the thermostat is to expand our comfort zones so that we feel more comfortable with our thermostat. We are in control of it.

3. Find out and work with your values. For my business, mine are Determination, Self-care, Fun and Making a difference. I have wobbles when I’m not working with these values so I keep them in my conscious mind all the time. Click here to get a values exercise and find out what yours are.

4. Set some compelling goals. Not setting goals means that you are more likely to have wobbles because your U/C  mind doesn’t know what you are doing and you can get anxious as a result.

5. Look at who surrounds you – are they mainly mood hoovers or definite suporters. If you are surrounded by people that drain your energy, you will lose confidence and definitely wobble. Find some true supporters who you can talk to about anything.

If you know where you want to go and what you want to do and your unconscious mind is throwing up all sorts of reasons for not taking the action – usually manifested as negative  internal chatter and the feeling of wobbling, then take some action. If you are still stuck or uncomfortable, then get in touch so that we can sort this out together. Remember that you only have one life and I’d love to help you live it to the full!

Until next week,

Dr Bridget – unwobbling people across the world.

Environment

How Your Environment Affects your Reality

Environment

Chaos or not?

Hello!

I’m known for being slightly disorganised, although not as much as in the picture. And for some reason I allow my environment to be less than useful and don’t do anything about it. This means that my results could be improved if I made a change. Does this apply to you as well, or are you fully in control of your environment?

Robert Dilts – a well known NLP Master Trainer, had a series of tools that allowed us to say at what level change is needed in order to get the results that we want. Environment is one of those levels and it can be about what is around you or the people that are around you. Its a pretty empowering level to make changes at – well it would certainly be empowering for me to change at this level. This is because my behaviour around my environment doesn’t fit with my knowledge and skills, my values and beliefs, or my identity or purpose.  I’m out of line!

Have a watch of the video below and then read further on to see if  you need to change your environment at all.

A positive environment  is different for everyone- it can be chaotic and disorganised and people will be very happy in it or it can be minimalist and they can be unhappy. It also includes the people around you.

My values for my business (click here if you want to work yours out) are determination, self care, fun and making a difference and the disorganisation that I have around me is not helpful in any way. I have people around me that are supportive and positive which is a very helpful environment in that sense.

Have a think about your surroundings and work out if they fit with who you are, what’s important to you  and will get you the results that you want. If not, then do something about it!

I’m happy to have a chat about it if you don’t know how to change your results, so click here to make an appointment or send me a message.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – helping you reflect on your environment.

 

 

 

Uni-tasking

The Importance of Uni-Tasking

The Importance of Uni-tasking

Uni-taskingHere are my thoughts on multi-tasking versus uni-tasking for your reflection. I work with a lot of people in business who think that multi-tasking is a skill and I am going to disagree as you will find out.

This morning, I had many things to do:

I did little bits of many things and  got overwhelmed and stuck – literally. “That’s no good for a Chief Unsticker” I thought, so I took a step back, got my planner out and made a list. Watch the video to find out what else I did.


Having decided what I needed to do and checked that all of my actions were getting me towards my goals, I started with a technique called the Pomodora  Technique. It’s come from cooking Italian tomatoes and the main points about it are that:

  • You do one thing at a time
  • Turn off distractions and set a timer
  • You do it for 20 minutes and then have a 2 minute break
  • You repeat this for 3 cycles and then have a longer break – say 1/2 hour

Then you repeat it.

I get loads done while I’m doing this – in fact I’m using it to write this blog!

Give it a go and if you find yourself becoming Overwhelmed and Stuck get in touch to have a chat with me – I do a free session for half an hour to find out what the problem is and work out what help you need.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – turning off overwhelm

P.S if you’d like to join my STRETCH mastermind group, let me know – my next intake is in March for 5 people only