What do we mean when we say ‘I’m only human!
‘I’m only human!’ It’s a brilliant song by Rag & Bone Man – I really like it. But what does it mean?
It’s the sort of thing we say when we feel we are not perfect and we are justifying some sort of behaviour.
So I thought I’d look up a little bit more about perfection. Apparently 30% of the population really want to be 100% perfect. 87% of gifted humans, whatever ‘gifted humans’ means, do perfection really well. The people who are looking for perfection are looking for an ideal relationship, and ideal mate. They want to be flawless and have a great body. They want to do their business perfectly.
However, what we don’t see is that they are struggling underneath to get this perfection. They are just aspiring to it.
Sometimes striving to be perfect can be a blessing because it lifts your mood and it helps you to achieve things but generally I think it is a painful trap.
Watch this week’s video to find more about the affects of striving to be perfect
I get quite a lot of clients coming to me who perhaps have been brought up to aspire to perfection by their parents.
I always remember one client coming to see me and she used to get 97% in her exams when she was young. Her parents used to say what happened to the 3%? She was then constantly trying to be perfect for the rest of her life and it just wasn’t working. She got caught in that painful trap.
It’s almost like their self worth is dependent on that perfectionism.
If you know someone who does this or you do it yourself, ask yourself when did you decide everything has to be perfect. Who decides what perfect is anyway. What’s perfect for one person may not be perfect for another.
So, I just want to ask you can we simply accept that everyone is different. That you are worthy, that it’s ok to be you and to tell people that you are going to be you, and it’s ok to surround yourself with people that don’t expect you to be perfect all the time.
So – ditch the perfectionism. Know that you are only human and if you need some help in doing that then get in touch because I do breakthroughs with people where we just get rid of that perfection and you can be you, doing whatever you want to do in life.
Until next week
Dr Bridget- helping you to lead a life where you are yourself and happy with that.
P.S I’m booking people into my next Certified NLP Practitioner course in July/August.