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How to Understand Your Emotions

Emotional state

Understanding your emotions

There are several models in psychology and NLP about understanding your emotions but the one I want us to focus on this week is a two dimensional model. This model is really useful because if you can understand and grade your emotions, you’ll then realise what you need to do to change your emotions and this really is empowering.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I’m going to unpack this two-dimensional model for you and explain how being aware of your emotions can benefit you. Watch the video and work through the different examples below as this is an interesting way of looking at it and awareness is key.

 

The two dimensional model takes account of:

  1. Valence – which is attractiveness, whether something is good or bad, positive or negative, it’s the subjective attractiveness of the emotion.
  2. Arousal – which refers to whether you are energetic or lethargic, wakeful or sleepy

Valence, is that subjective feeling. For example just because something is good or bad it doesn’t mean it is good or bad for you or for someone else.

Similarly, with arousal if you have negative feelings such as fear or anger they may appear negative but they actually could be really motivating for you.  Alternatively, you may have what are considered as positive feelings like relaxed or calm but these might potentially be preventing you from taking action.

So let’s consider this in a little more detail looking at the different combinations of Arousal and Valence

High Valence and High Arousal    Examples are Astonished, Excited, Delighted, Happy, Pleased

High Valence and Low Arousal     Examples are Content, Serene, Calm, Relaxed

Low Valence and High Arousal    Examples are Annoyed, Afraid, Angry, Frustrated

Low Valence and Low Arousal     Examples are Miserable, Depressed, Bored, Tired

Two dimensional Model of Emotion

Maybe if you knew which  you were doing at any one time, you could choose to do a different combination?

If you find that you are not managing your emotions then please get in touch here or give me a call on 07973 635102   –  I’m a “chief unsticker” and sometimes these negatives get in our way,  I can help you to manage your emotions, no matter where they have come from  so that you can live the life you want and have the business you want.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – On an emotional roll!

Anchoring Positive Emotions

Anchoring Positive Emotions

How to anchor positive emotions

Anchoring is when we apply a stimulus at the height of an emotion so that the two things become neurologically linked.  We can use this to anchor positive emotions or to get rid of negative emotions.

If you think about it, if we’ve got positive emotions and we can use them at will, then life becomes very interesting and we can use these emotions to move forward and stay positive.   On the flip side if you’ve anchored to negative emotions such as distress, sadness or disappointment from your past then you’re not going to be able to move forward.

There’s lots of reasons for getting positive emotions anchored and I teach how to do this on my NLP Practitioner course, and you can do it yourself.

In this week’s video I teach you the NLP technique to anchor positive emotions. Watch the video and try it for yourself.

Firstly you’ll need to decide on positive emotion you would like to anchor.

As an example, I’ve just been on a business retreat and I could do with some calm. So I thought I might anchor some calm on my knuckles. Follow the process in the video and use the script below to try it for yourself.

Firstly we say to ourselves..

Can you remember a time when you were totally calm?”   (Substitute calm with the positive emotion you want to anchor)

As you remember that time

go back to that time now…..go right back, float down into your body and see what you saw, hear what you heard and really feel those feelings of being totally calm   (As soon as you feel the positive emotion put your finger on your knuckle and as soon as it starts to disappear again take your finger off.)

I then repeat the process several times thinking of different times when I felt totally calm.

When I think about wanting to be calm I can then press the same knuckle and that calmness washes over me because it’s been neurologically linked to the stimulus of pressing my knuckle. This means that anytime I need some calm I just press my knuckle and the calmness comes over me.

So have a think what emotion you would like to have, maybe it’s excitement, determination or focus and use the highlighted script above and have a go.

If you’d like some help with this then get in touch book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access that free half hour with me or you can book it on the above link.

Enjoy the experimenting and see you next week.

Dr Bridget – clearing your negatives

If you’d like to learn more techniques to anchor positive emotions and get rid of negative emotions  I have a couple of  spaces left on my next NLP Practitioner course which runs over two lots of 4 days. 30/7/21-2/8/21 plus 20-23/8/21 – click here for further information