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Story

How people around you have helped create your story

Story

Generations

Recently I’ve written for Psychologies Magazine about  a theme that’s close to my heart – “Rewriting your Story”. It was in the June 2018 issue in the dossier section if you want to find it. I’ve also been doing some Face Book lives for them which has been welcomed by readers and watchers.

Rewriting your story is about  how your values and beliefs create your story- that chatter that you have in your head that leads to your behaviour and your actions. And then starting to rewrite it, if it is not working for you.

People also have an influence on this and this can be from generations ago. If you think about it, maybe your Gran or Grandad and the story they had, may have an impact on you. Sometimes they are involved directly in bringing you up  or have influenced your parents. I have a lot of clients who’s parents have adopted behaviours and attitudes from their parents – remember the “Children should be seen and not heard”  beliefs from a couple of generations ago. Also, your parents may have had a challenging upbringing which has directly affected the way they brought you up.

Or maybe you have had generations of love and support and then find yourself in a relationship where people put less value on family and support?

Of course, other people around you today contribute to you story- your peers, colleagues, friends, clients.

Watch the video below and then ask yourself the questions below it:

Ask yourself these questions:

  • Are you happy with your “story”?
  • Who has influenced who you are today?
  • Are you happy with that story?
  • If not, can you move on?

Get in touch with me here or give me a ring on 07973 635102 if not.

You can also book an appointment here. 

If you have a story that doesn’t help you, there are plenty of ways that I can help and that will start with a  session to talk about what is going on for you and how I can help.

Until next week, happy re-writing!

Dr Bridget

 

Leader

Are you a Leader? Would you like to be one?

Do you think of yourself as a leader?

Leader

Are you a Leader

I was recently asked to sponsor “The Inspiring Leadership” award at a local networking event (Zokit)and found myself thinking about what an  inspiring leader is. All of the people who applied were great leaders in my mind and I soon started to think about what they all had in common. I narrowed it down to 3 things.

Watch the video and then see if you agree.

Then ask yourself whether

You are a leader?

Whether you want to be one?

Do you need any help?


So the 3 things that these people had in common were:

  1. They were passionate about their Values – whether that was freedom of thought or being a great mum or allowing their staff to be leaders themselves. There was one lady who was leading a movement to get news seen in a different way.
  2. They had worked on their limitations on their journey to get to where they were and were therefore calm and consistent  despite all obstacles
  3. They were a Role Model – whether that was for their staff or clients or their children and family- they were respected and people were inspired by them

In fact the person that I chose was nominated by  their staff and had no idea that they had been nominated until I spoke to them.

If you’d like to be a leader, then leading starts with yourself. If you want to be Passionate, Calm and seen as a Role Model, then it starts with your mindset.

If you feel as though you have some work to do then please get in touch as people that work with me very quickly develop that mindset.

Coming on a Certified NLP Practitioner course will change your life and that of others and you will be an inspiration to others. Get in touch and look at the testimonials here

Also doing some 1:1 coaching with me so that you have a completely clear head and can achieve whatever you want to achieve is life-changing.

I’m here, to support you to become the person that you want to be and I look forward to your comments on whether you are a leader for yourself or others and how I can help.

Until next week – take care

Dr Bridget

 

Base

Is your base solid or wobbly?

Your Base- it is Solid or Wobbly?

Base

A great base

I recently want on a course about business growth and it was in this amazing building which has been mentioned in the doomsday book. It burned down and was rebuilt in the 1860s and is now an amazingly beautiful and grand building. And  I’d like to use this building as an example of something that has stood the test of time and although partially destroyed, has been rebuilt in the same style and is breathtakingly grand. I think of it as an analogy for us and our growth. When we were born, we got our base from our parents, our teachers and things that happened around us which gave us our core values. We then look towards role models and then towards our peers as we grow and develop our own style. However the core values are still there and even though things happen to us and we get burned or knocked down, the original structure is still there. This is our base which consists of our core values and our beliefs which have supported us throughout life. If we forget these and grow without remembering our solid base, we are more likely to fall down or destroy ourselves. We also need a growth plan – how we add to the base structure to keep growing and I have talked a lot in my blogs about the way that we want to be when we have grown- the outcomes that we want. Watch the video and have a think about what sort of base you have – is it useful or not?


If you are thinking that your core structure has been a bit wobbly and may need a bit of repairing in order for you to grow as you want and reach your full potential, let me know and book an appointment to talk to me by clicking here.

Have a look around my web site and check out my courses and my 1:1 coaching which will solidify and enhance the solidity of the structure you need to grow and become excellent in all areas of your life.

Until next week, keep on building and growing

Dr Bridget

Habits

How to Change Rubbish Habits

How to Change our Rubbish Habits

IHabits know that I have many habits that affect my health, wealth and happiness and, until I discovered NLP and my unconscious mind, I didn’t know how to change them. I also see a lot of clients who have habits that are not useful and I help them to change what they do. Examples of habits that are not useful- well at least in my  mind- are smoking, drinking alcohol to excess, eating in an uncontrolled way, avoiding things that keep us organised and so on and so on..  In fact, any behaviour that you wish you didn’t do on a regular basis.

All of our behaviour is driven by our unconscious  mind , so in order to change a behaviour or habit, we need to unpick what is happening at that level, and find the trigger for it. Watch the video below and then read about the question that enables us to unpick the habit and therefore start to change it.

For every habit, there is a trigger that starts the process/behaviour that we either want or don’t want. We can find out this trigger by asking the question

“How do you know it’s time to …….(the behaviour/habit)…..?

Is it something that you see, something that you hear, or something that you say to yourself?”

So an example that I do:

I walk from my log cabin to my house and I look at the clock, I see its  6 o’clock, I say to myself “it would be great to have a glass of wine” and I open the fridge and pour myself a glass of wine.

So the trigger is looking at the clock. The behaviour that follows once I’ve seen it’s at least 6 o’clock  is to walk to the fridge and open the fridge and pour a glass of wine.

I could decide to look at the clock and see it’s 6 o’clock and then pour a glass of water and go for a walk instead.

What would work for you?

So think about one habit that you would like to change, find the trigger and then change what happens after the trigger. If you want some help with this or you think that the behaviour is too ingrained, get in touch with me to get help.

You could also learn how to change other people’s behaviours by coming to an NLP Practitioner course. Click here for more details and testimonials.

In the meantime, please comment on what you want to change below and how you are getting on with unpicking the habit

Until next week-  Be healthy, wealthy and happy!

Dr Bridget

Team

What makes a great team?

What makes a great team?

Team

Team work

As you go about your life on a day to day basis and you look around, you will realise that you have more than one team around you. These  may be in your business, in your career, in your social life or  your leisure activities. Sometimes these will work well for you and sometimes they won’t. And often, it’s a gut feeling that tells you whether it does or not.

The definition of a team is “at least 2 or more members who get together with a common purpose to reach a goal and solve problems”.

Perhaps ask yourself – how do you know what makes a good team for you?

Sometimes its about having complimentary skills – for instance, I’m not a detail person so I have those to help me, which is helpful. In other instances it’s about making sure that the team feels right for you.

It also links with my ABCD tool which makes sure that you have positive committed support around you.

Watch the video below and have a reflect about whether you need to change your team or celebrate the fact that  you are pulling in the same direction.

Sometimes we have people around us who don’t have that same purpose and just feels wrong. We often ignore our gut instinct and carry on regardless, often with disastrous results. So have a think, watch my ABCD video and either relax because you have the right people, or change the people around you. Remember that you are the sum of the 5 people around you.

If you’d like to talk about your team to someone who is independent and interested in you doing the best you can in your business or life,contact me for a free consultation.

See you next week!

Dr Bridget