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Does Labelling Yourself Affect Your Results?

Labelling yourself – does it help?

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What’s your Label?

Labelling is needed to cope with the vast amount of information that we have coming into our senses. If we don’t label things, we don’t know how to deal with them or what sort of behaviour we need to do to go with the label. However it sometimes is unhelpful to label things or yourself – as this blog will show you.

I was recently working with someone who had some challenges with his mindset for success, relating to things that has happened to him previously in his life. We had got rid of his negative emotions and he was doing well. However, what we hadn’t dealt with was that his dad was a hard worker and my client had labelled himself as a type A personality. Hard working, striving, life imbalance and tendency to over-react sort of sums up the characteristics of an A type personality.

So he determinedly  labelled himself as an A person and therefore his behaviour went with that and eventually he hit a brick wall and spent 6 weeks in bed. It was very upsetting to hear about it, for his wife, his kids and his associates.

When we talked it became obvious that he was having a big conflict. Part of him thought he was an A type personality and  part of him wanted to be a B type personality – much more laid back and relaxed. This conflict got bigger and bigger and he eventuallly hit that brick wall. Watch the video where I talk about this conflict

As we explored the conflict, he realised that he could acually do both and that the purpose of the brick wall was to protect him while he sorted out the conflict.

Using an NLP technique called Parts Integration which gets rid of the conflict, he has now rediscovered his mojo and is enjoying his business and a balanced life.

I’d like to ask you:

Have you labelled yourself as anything unhelpful?

If so, have a careful think about it and either relabel yourself give me a ring if you are struggling with internal conflict.

Until next week, have a balance in your life!

Dr Bridget

Adversity

Adversity – Does it stop you?

How do you react when adversity comes along?

Does it stop you?

Adversity

Adversity

One of the themes of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) focuses on whether you are getting results or giving yourselves reasons why you can’t do whatever it is.

I find there are so many people who come and see me, wanting to get unstuck, or get more success or happiness, that have a huge amounts of reasons and excuses why they can’t. Adversity can happen and it’s how you deal with it that matters – its about resilience.  A minor example is when I wanted to do the videos today, it was going to rain and be cloudy. And I feel as though I have a cold coming on. So I got my wellies and my umbrella and told my unconscious mind that it it wasn’t convenient to be unwell. I know what my goals are and part of them is spreading the word and supporting people to get unstuck and because of that, the videoing was going to happen no matter what.

Watch the video (sorry about the expression) and then ask yourself the questions underneath.

  • Do you have goals?
  • Do you have reasons or excuses why adversity gets in the way?
  • Are you resilient?
  • Whats stopping you – big things or small things?

If you know what they are and you can’t do anything about them consciously,  book a free session here so that we can clear the reasons and excuses and head you for your goals!  

Coming on an NLP course will help you to get rid of the reasons and excuses and become resilient, as well as giving you some amazing communication and resilience skills for your self and others. One of my Master Practitioner trainees has just landed a 7 book contract and has the opportunity to run retreats abroad in the next year! And a year ago she was unwell and not focusing on her future at all. It’s totally amazing watching her fly!

Express an interest in coming on a course here.

Until next week, set your goals and overcome the reasons and excuses!

Dr Bridget

Are You in the Waiting Room?

Are you in the Waiting Room?

I was in the doctors surgery the other day and it took me back to my GP days where people did a lot of waiting. They used to wait to have their symptoms diagnosed, wait for prescriptions and drugs and then wait for blood results. And sometimes they’d get fed up and take some sort of action, whether that was to knock on the doctors door or speak to a receptionist or to leave feeling frustrated. And it occurred to me that there are a lot of people that I know who are just waiting for something- clients, potential clients, people in business , people in relationships or careers. Could you be one of them?

So people wait for:

  • The right time
  • The right mindset
  • Inspiration
  • The right support
  • And many other things

And here’s the thing, if this applies to you, then what you are waiting for is in charge of you and your results, rather than you being in charge of your results. An interesting thought, don’t you think?

Have a watch of the video where I talk about this and get in touch if you need any help.

So I always ask people who feel stuck or are waiting:

  • Are you prepared to take action?
  • Are you prepared to let go of all the reasons and excuses that are stopping you from getting what you really want?
  • How long have you been stopping  yourself from achieving what you want in your life, business, career?
  • What is it costing you to keep waiting? in money terms and in emotions?

The thing is, it doesn’t take long to let go of any limitations to your progress when you work with me- in fact it can happen in as little as a day.

If you want to understand yourself and the obstacles that you are putting in your way, get in touch with me and we can start that journey.

So are YOU prepared to stop waiting?

If so then get in touch with me. I can help you get out of the waiting room and into the getting results room very quickly!

Until next week

Dr Bridget

 

 

Enjoy

How to Enjoy Every Minute of Your Life

Enjoy

Enjoy every minute

Hello! I really enjoy doing weekly prescriptions for you – its about me enjoying every minute of my life and helping you to do the same. After all, we only have One Life and if you’re not enjoying yours, I am here to help you sort that out ( if you are committed to making a change of course- its amazing how many people know they need to make a change and don’t take any action).

To me, enjoyment is about alignment and this blog is about enabling you to make changes where you need to. Robert Dilts has given us a model to help make these changes which is called neurological levels. The basis of this is that you can make changes at any level in order to enjoy our life or sort out challenges and this video explains more. have a watch and then think about what you would like to change – big changes or small changes for a purpose. I talk more about the levels below the video so watch it and listen to me talking about the levels for you and myself.

 


The levels are:

  • Environment
  • Behaviour
  • Skills and Knowledge
  • Values and beliefs
  • Identity
  • Purpose

Environment Can you make any changes in your environment? If you do did, how would that affect your life? I have an ongoing tidying challenge which I’m working on as we speak. Unfortunately, one of my clients has just told me that that a high IQ is related to being untidy. (There goes that excuse then). Could you move furnotire, surround yourslef with different people or get yourself a space to reflect and think?

Behaviour Are you behaving in a way that enables you to enjoy yourself?. If not, how can you change that behaviour? Remember that Einstein’s definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results!

Skills and Knowledge What skills do you have that you are not using? What skills do you need to learn to help you to enjoy your life?

Values and beliefs Are you living in line with whats important to you? Do you have empowering beliefs about yourself? A lot of my clients don’t feel good enough or worthy and this is affecting their enjoyment of life. If that’s you – let’s have a chat because it is easily changed.

Identity Who are you? Who do other people think you are? Are you happy with your identity and does it help you to enjoy every minute of your life?

Purpose This is a really big question! What do you feel that  you are on the planet to do? My purpose if to enjoy every minute of my life. When I think about that, a picture of me in my red car with the roof down driving along with great music playing pops into my mind. How about you? What are you here to do and what symbol pops into your mind? A client recently has had a medieval knight pop into his mind-  as he sees himself as on a journey , helping others and being respected and respecting others- a great image and purpose!

The thing is, once you know what your purpose is, you can align yourself to it and it then becomes easier to make the changes so that you enjoy every minute of  your life. If you feel as though you can’t make changes, get in touch for a free 1/2 hour chat. I help people with individual coaching and also with NLP training – a great personal development opportunity.

Until next week-  Make sure you enjoy every moment!

Dr Bridget

When it all gets too much!

Is it All Too Much?

Recently a client was due to meet me and didn’t turn up (unusual) and it turned out that she had fallen asleep-her brain had just given up because there was just too much in her head. The issue was that she had too much in her head.

She had done some amazing work in breakthrough coaching with me and on NLP courses and was “transitioning” to doing what she really wanted to do. And of course there was still a mortgage to pay, bills to pay and holidays to take. It was all buzzing round in here head and it all got too much.

Watch the video to listen to what we talked about and the read about the tips I gave her underneath the video.

Make sure you have watched the video to get the tips in more detail.

Tip 1
Think about the bigger purpose of what you are doing and just check that your actions still tick your purpose

Tip 2
Do a brain dump to get things out of your head – write down absolutely everything that you have to do in any part of your life. Don’t judge the list -it may run to 3-4 pages. You can then start to group and prioritise

Tip 3
Get into peripheral vision -there is an explanation of how to do that on the video
It cuts down your negative chatter and you feel calm

Tip 4
Step out of your body and “watch yourself -like a fly on the wall” you’ll be amazed at much information you’ll get about what you are doing. It’s a dissociated state and therefore any negative emotions will disappear

If it’s all too much for you then book a free appointment to talk to me and become calm and focused on what you want in your life, business, career. Because you are worth it and I’d like to support you in your journey.

Here’s a  link to the Work With Me page and my next NLP course is 19-22nd October 2018 plus 9-12th November 2018. A truly life changing course with 2 spaces left!

Catch up next week

Dr Bridget