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When is the Best Time to Work Effectively?

When is the Best Time to Work

Work Efficiently

Work Effectively

You know how it feels, when you don’t have the energy to do the work you really need to do, and think – I wish I’d done that this morning. When you are trying to keep your eyes open in the middle of the afternoon?

Daniel Pink- the American Author and speech writer  for Al Gore, tells us that our brains are fairly hard wired for when we have the energy to do focused work and when it is time to do creative work. Also that, if we understand that, our productivity doubles. Eighty percent of us are larks and work efficiently in the morning, he says – here is the article.

Watch the video and then have a think about how you use your time to do which sort of work:

When do you feel most energised?

My focus and productivity is best in the morning

It’s worse in the evening – get me to six o’clock and I’m nearly asleep.

Daniel Pink says if you you want to do things where its important not to be distracted, do it in the morning – examples are in the video and  include surgical operations.

 To work effectively, easy and creative tasks are best done in the early afternoon. Your brain will fill in the gaps apparently when  you sit there and reflect and become creative.

If you have to focus and take action at a time when you are less focused, stand up and change your physiology – if you remember, changing our physiology changes our emotional state which changes our reality.

Get your peak state at the end of the day – your brain will make sure that you will have a good day the next day.

Have a think and fill  your calendar with things that are  most appropriate for the time of day and try not to do surgical operations  in the early afternoon.

Let me know how your ability to work effectively changes as you fit your diary to the work that you need to do.

Also, if you are struggling with energy and motivation , get in touch. There may be reasons that are causing this , that are not to do with the time of day.

Until next week

Dr Bridget, Doing Work to Inspire  you.

How to Make Sure You Get your Goals – Part 1

How to Make Sure You Get your Goals – Part 1

How to Make sure

Automatic Pilot

We all have destinations that we want to go to – especially now lock down is easing! Goals for our business, a new business , a different business maybe?

Or maybe something in our life – experiences, challenges, places to go, people to meet, jobs to get?

Here’s the thing – most people just dream about these goals and hope or try to get them. They don’t know that there is a specific method to  make sure that you get them. This is part 1 of how to make sure you get them.

Its the equivalent of flying to a destination on automatic pilot where you know you are going to get there – or a bit of trial and error on manual and a lot of just hoping.

IN 1981, George T Doran introduced the concept of SMART goals as a way to enable the management in organisations to write their goals. This has been improved using the NLP Compelling Outcome Model which uses the brains sensory preferences to make goals really compelling.

Watch the video below and then read the steps below to put the goal into your unconscious mind.

Let’s start by adding to the old SMART model to make it really compelling

S = Specific and Simple

Specific in terms of putting specific details down. How much money, what does your new relationship partner look like, how many people are in your team and so on. Also specific in terms of what you can see, hear, feel and say to your self.

M= Measurable and Meaningful

Knowing where you are now and where you are going and how you will measure your progress and know when you get there. Also making it something that you really really want – that has meaning in your life

A = Achievable and All of your Life

The goal or outcome needs to be something that you can achieve, once you have removed all of the obstacles in your way ( if there are any). It also needs to be a rounded and all of your life goal. What’s happening with your family, your friends, your work, your health and fitness, your leisure time and so on.

R = Realistic and Ecological

Make sure that your goal is realistic – I know that you all know whether your goal is realistic – whether you can have a turnover of x or y, or that you will have a career rise, or meet the love of your life.

Its magic wand thinking that you know is possible.

Ecological means that you have checked that it is  OK in your world. Sometimes people set goals that they really don’t want and know that they don’t want but still set them – that’s a no no for goals.

T = Timed and Towards

The time that you are going to get the goal is important. Your unconscious mind  needs to have this as an automatic pilot concept. The goal also needs to be what you want rather than what you don’t want. An example of this would be – “I am setting up a Community Interest Company” rather than “I don’t want to just keep my current company” A toward goal rather than an away from goal.

Once you have written down your goal – it should be a good page of writing – then ask yourself:

“When I think of this (the goal) do I have a  picture?

A representation of the goal should pop into your head. When I think of my C.I.C. , I see a picture of people chatting in my newly installed training and coaching room in my garden  and its really sunny and everyone is happy.

Once you have that picture, make it really compelling by adjusting the colours, the focus and the brightness. Make sure that you are looking through your own eyes rather than at yourself in the picture. Turn any sounds up or down and turn up the positive feelings that are attached to the picture. When you have done all of that, then count to 3 and click your fingers to seal that picture in.

Then whenever you think of that goal or outcome the picture will pop back in and your unconscious mind will help you to achieve it – that automatic pilot.

Have fun creating that goal that you really want and let me know if you are having any doubts – I do a free session to explore any obstacles that  you are putting in your way.

Further information on setting goals or outcomes in this way is available in my course – Mindset for Business Success – which can be found here and is on offer at the moment

Check out PART 2 of How to Make Sure You Get your Goals

Until next week,

Dr Bridget – flying you wherever you want to go.

 

 

A Christmas Message and Review of Your Year

A tool to review your year (and a Christmas song)

Happy Christmas – and Nadolig Llawen – That’s Welsh

Review of the Year

Review of the Year

I want to thank all of you who have been clients or have watched my videos over the last year! It’s been fun! And whatever you are doing over the next 2 weeks, make the most of it!

Today I have an offer for you and a tool to review your  year. The basis of the tool is using neurological levels (a Robert Dilts tool) It is also based on what went well and what went less well

Watch the video and then work through the levels and think about what action you would like to take to make next year even better!

Click on this link to get the review tool Review of the year

LEVELS

  • Environment – what’s surrounding you – things and people. Do you need to change your environment?
  • Behaviour – what so you want do more of and less of?
  • Capabilities and skills – what have you used that worked well and what have you forgotten about or need to refine?
  • Values – what motivates you and are you “ticking” your values?  Here’s a link to elicit your values from a chapter in my book. Make sure that you are ticking your values rather than those of other people
  • Beliefs – are your beliefs empowering or limiting – what can you do to make sure they are empowering for next year?
  • Identity – who are you – are you showing up as yourself or not?
  • Purpose – what are you on the planet for – do you know? My purpose is to enjoy every minute of my life and that’s whay I work with you all as I enjoy it and it’s making a huge difference to both mine and others’s life.

Offer – If you are struggling I will do a one hour coaching session with you to talk about your review of the year – go to my contact page and fill in the form or book an appointment.

I hope you enjoyed the song on the video – thats me being me! It seemed appropriate as I’m the Chief Unsticker.

If you are stuck or know someone who is stuck get in touch so that next year is totally what you want it to be.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – helping  you review your potential

 

 

How to Improve Remembering – top tips

Top Tips for Remembering

rememberingWe are learning every hour, every day, every conversation and I suspect that we don’t practice remembering the things that are useful to remember.

Life goes on and there are so many opportunities to learn. Sometimes we read things on-line, hard copy books, kindle books and we also listen to audios and watch things on social media. And we have many conversations. And we all learn in different ways. Watch the video below and then decide if you are going to follow my tip to remember effectively.

Ebbinghaus in 1885 published his forgetting curve hypothesis. He said that memory is not durable and that we forget things we learn in as little as an hour and, certainly by a day we’ve lost over 50% of these things. He also talks about how to keep your memory strong so that we can retain it for longer. I was running a mastermind group on this very topic last week and we concluded that learning material is so readily available to us on-line that maybe we make less effort to retain what we read or listen to.

We all committed to writing down the main 3 things that we learn every time we read or listen to something or have a conversation with someone.

If we did that then, we would increase the amount of time that we remembered things.

TIP – Write down 3 important things that you have learned after every reading, listening or conversation.  Go back over what you have learned, that is important to you to retain, at the end of every day, or whatever time scale is practical to you.

Dr Bridget- remembering myself to you!

See you next week

P.S you can access a free session with me to have a conversation and find out how I can help you

 

Understanding People Pleasing

People Pleasing

People pleasing doesnt work

Be yourself

This is a really important symptom that I come across regularly on courses and with my one to one clients. They come to me because they realise that that they are not being themselves and that has lots of consequences for them as you will find out when you watch  the video below:

Let’s face it – it is nice to be liked and to be kind and nice to people, isn’t it? However, if it stops you getting your goals and feeling as though you can’t be yourself, then that is a problem. It usually comes from a desire to be liked and included which is often very strong. People want to be in a community and to be respected and liked. They want to belong.

I often find that there are root causes in people’s past that cause people to overdo people pleasing – Do any of the below apply to you or someone you know?

  • Not being listened to when you were growing up
  • Having to hide due to circumstances around you
  • Being bullied
  • A feeling of having to keep the peace when growing up – perhaps your parents arguing or drinking
  • A feeling of guilt if  your parents marriages folded – did I do enough- was it my fault- I didn’t try hard enough
  • Being criticised or not praised during your life
  • And many other events

All the negative emotions that come from incidents above have an impact. As we know, our unconscious mind is there to protect us and we carry on people pleasing as a result. It leads to a feeling of worthlessness, confusion and hurt and these feelings stop us from reaching our full potential, being who we want to be, doing what we want to do and having what we want to have.

It can be a difficult habit to break unless you get help from someone like myself. The wiring that causes us to people please, to our detriment, can be reversed very quickly with Time Line therapy (R)

What can we do about this?

  1. Put your own oxygen mask on – you can’t help others unless you help yourself!
  2. Notice when you are people pleasing and the impact that it has on you and your feelings, actions and your goals
  3. Remind yourself that there are root causes for this – you may know what they are or you may not but there will always be one- a decision that you made at some stage in your life that you have to keep people happy.
  4. Decide to be happy and to be yourself
  5. Surround yourself with people who will support you

If you find  you can’t resolve this and you want to resolve this, then get in touch with me to take advantage of a free call.

My NLP Training courses and my one to one coaching will solve this problem and others like it for you and you can then live the life that you want to live – after all, we only have one life.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – Helping you put your own oxygen mask on

 

Be happy, be yourself, If not give me a call

Role Models – A Different Perspective

Role Models – A Different Perspective

Role Model

Role Model

I was recently running an NLP Master Practitioner course and we were talking about modelling – this is where NLP has come from – Modelling excellence. Its a key part of the course. Click here for more information about NLP courses

We do a project on my Master Practitioner course  where we model a skill that someone has, by eliciting that person’s values, beliefs and strategies and then installing these in ourself – a much quicker way of effecting change than being taught.

Unusually, people on the course were struggling with who to have as a Role Model and I had to agree – I don’t  really have one myself (apart from Princess Di). I spent some time wondering who I respected enough to want to change to become like them.

And then I had a light bulb moment – I thought that perhaps I could become my own Role Model and become one for other people. It led to a consideration of what qualities I would like to have that other people and myself might respect- have a watch of the video and then answer the questions below it for yourself.

The qualities that I’d like to improve or develop in myself are:

  • Having an interest in people and things- doing pretty well with this
  • Making a difference to people- definitely something that’s key for me and I am doing that
  • Being myself, which includes making sure I “tick” my values, keep my boundaries, as and the same time, be flexible to enable other people’s models of the world- I’m mainly doing this
  • Taking action and being determined- doing this most of the time
  • Self care – important in my journey through this life and something that I’ve been working on this year

Next year, I want to improve my capability to ask for help – I think this is part of self-care and not something that comes easily to me. It would make a huge difference to my life and a behaviour that I encourage in my clients – so I’m committing to do that. It will make me a better Role Model

Questions for you:

  • What qualities would you look for in yourself, to be your own and others’ Role Model?
  • What would you change to get these (if anything) ?
  • Is it OK to be a Role Model for yourself and others?

Once you have decided whether you need to change anything, post in the comments, and as always, let me know here if you need to talk through anything.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – being the best Role Model I can be.

 

Adversity – Does it stop you?

How do you react when adversity comes along?

Does it stop you?

Adversity

Adversity

One of the themes of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) focuses on whether you are getting results or giving yourselves reasons why you can’t do whatever it is.

I find there are so many people who come and see me, wanting to get unstuck, or get more success or happiness, that have a huge amounts of reasons and excuses why they can’t. Adversity can happen and it’s how you deal with it that matters – its about resilience.  A minor example is when I wanted to do the videos today, it was going to rain and be cloudy. And I feel as though I have a cold coming on. So I got my wellies and my umbrella and told my unconscious mind that it it wasn’t convenient to be unwell. I know what my goals are and part of them is spreading the word and supporting people to get unstuck and because of that, the videoing was going to happen no matter what.

Watch the video (sorry about the expression) and then ask yourself the questions underneath.

  • Do you have goals?
  • Do you have reasons or excuses why adversity gets in the way?
  • Are you resilient?
  • Whats stopping you – big things or small things?

If you know what they are and you can’t do anything about them consciously,  book a free session here so that we can clear the reasons and excuses and head you for your goals!  

Coming on an NLP course will help you to get rid of the reasons and excuses and become resilient, as well as giving you some amazing communication and resilience skills for your self and others. One of my Master Practitioner trainees has just landed a 7 book contract and has the opportunity to run retreats abroad in the next year! And a year ago she was unwell and not focusing on her future at all. It’s totally amazing watching her fly!

Express an interest in coming on a course here.

Until next week, set your goals and overcome the reasons and excuses!

Dr Bridget

Are You in the Waiting Room?

Are you in the Waiting Room?

I was in the doctors surgery the other day and it took me back to my GP days where people did a lot of waiting. They used to wait to have their symptoms diagnosed, wait for prescriptions and drugs and then wait for blood results. And sometimes they’d get fed up and take some sort of action, whether that was to knock on the doctors door or speak to a receptionist or to leave feeling frustrated. And it occurred to me that there are a lot of people that I know who are just waiting for something- clients, potential clients, people in business , people in relationships or careers. Could you be one of them?

So people wait for:

  • The right time
  • The right mindset
  • Inspiration
  • The right support
  • And many other things

And here’s the thing, if this applies to you, then what you are waiting for is in charge of you and your results, rather than you being in charge of your results. An interesting thought, don’t you think?

Have a watch of the video where I talk about this and get in touch if you need any help.

So I always ask people who feel stuck or are waiting:

  • Are you prepared to take action?
  • Are you prepared to let go of all the reasons and excuses that are stopping you from getting what you really want?
  • How long have you been stopping  yourself from achieving what you want in your life, business, career?
  • What is it costing you to keep waiting? in money terms and in emotions?

The thing is, it doesn’t take long to let go of any limitations to your progress when you work with me- in fact it can happen in as little as a day.

If you want to understand yourself and the obstacles that you are putting in your way, get in touch with me and we can start that journey.

So are YOU prepared to stop waiting?

If so then get in touch with me. I can help you get out of the waiting room and into the getting results room very quickly!

Until next week

Dr Bridget

 

 

An Effective Way to Deal with Anxiety

Anxiety can be disabling and cause you to get stuck

I’ve had quite a lot of phone calls recently from people who are feeling anxious. Sometimes they are on medication and have tried many ways to reduce the anxiety but it doesn’t seem to be doing the trick.

While it may be controversial to many who think that it is a medical condition and can’t be solved simply, I believe that it is easy to solve in many cases. After all, my experience as a GP versus how I help people now says that this is the case for many! Tad James, the founder of the American Board of NLP, says:

“Anxiety is a sign that the unconscious mind is not really focusing on what it really wants”

People with anxiety often have reasons or excuses as to why they can’t do what they really want and therefore become anxious. People also “label themselves” as anxious people and this doesn’t help as they then live their life expecting to be anxious. And they find it difficult to make decisions.

What if everyone could design their future by letting go of unhelpful and limiting things from the past and become happy??

Now there’s a thought!

Well that’s what I can help with, so watch the video below and click here to download the pdf of my book which discusses how to set goals and create your future. It’s called Mindset for Business Success and equally applies to Mindset for Life Success.

If you think that the anxiety in your life, or someone who you know, is causing you, or them, to be stuck and unhappy, click here to schedule a  free 30 minute telephone consultation so I can help.

After all, we only have one life and I want to help you live it!

Until next time, keep happy,

Dr. Bridget

When it all gets too much!

Is it All Too Much?

Recently a client was due to meet me and didn’t turn up (unusual) and it turned out that she had fallen asleep-her brain had just given up because there was just too much in her head. The issue was that she had too much in her head.

She had done some amazing work in breakthrough coaching with me and on NLP courses and was “transitioning” to doing what she really wanted to do. And of course there was still a mortgage to pay, bills to pay and holidays to take. It was all buzzing round in here head and it all got too much.

Watch the video to listen to what we talked about and the read about the tips I gave her underneath the video.

Make sure you have watched the video to get the tips in more detail.

Tip 1
Think about the bigger purpose of what you are doing and just check that your actions still tick your purpose

Tip 2
Do a brain dump to get things out of your head – write down absolutely everything that you have to do in any part of your life. Don’t judge the list -it may run to 3-4 pages. You can then start to group and prioritise

Tip 3
Get into peripheral vision -there is an explanation of how to do that on the video
It cuts down your negative chatter and you feel calm

Tip 4
Step out of your body and “watch yourself -like a fly on the wall” you’ll be amazed at much information you’ll get about what you are doing. It’s a dissociated state and therefore any negative emotions will disappear

If it’s all too much for you then book a free appointment to talk to me and become calm and focused on what you want in your life, business, career. Because you are worth it and I’d like to support you in your journey.

Here’s a  link to the Work With Me page and my next NLP course is 19-22nd October 2018 plus 9-12th November 2018. A truly life changing course with 2 spaces left!

Catch up next week

Dr Bridget

How to get Positive People into Your Life

Positive People

Hi everyone – let me ask you some questions:

  • Are you sitting there thinking that you are too busy to meet up with positive people who would support you in your life, business or career?
  • Do you have people surrounding you that are mood hoovers and drag your mood down?
  • Are you making excuses to avoid going out  and getting that support which would help you to be positive, motivated and full of energy?

This is what I think –  I could be sitting doing my business, writing blogs, seeing clients or people that are interested in me supporting them and, as a result, forget to interact with positive people.  I don’t in general have people who lower my mood around me as I have taken action to either change them to positive support or removed them from my life – sounds a bit harsh doesn’t it – but its part of keeping myself in a good space. Here’s a link to my ABCD tool coaching video which helps you to “sort” the people around you.

Watch this video and then take any action that you need to to.

So what is your gut feeling about your positive support? Do you need more or do you have the right people around you?

If you need more, who would they be? Get a piece of paper and start to make a list. Watch the ABCD coaching video on my Mindset for Success course. You can test people out to see if they are truly supportive or not.

Make a list of what you want to talk to people about and run past them and also what you can do for them.

If you need any positive support and would like to interact with me on a regular basis book an appointment to talk to me and also join my closed FB group called One Step Closer by clicking here.

It makes all the difference!

Until next week, go find and find those people and let me know how you are doing.

And if you want more tools to support you to get success, then find out more about my Mindset for Success course which gives you so much more and is till at an introductory price.

Dr Bridget

Creating Time for your Future

Creating Time for Your Future

Creating Time

Creating Time

The results were amazing – there was a slight issue that needed to be tackled though and it was a fairly obvious one to me.

So my client was fully focused on increasing his business turn over by 10 fold after getting all of the negatives out of his head with a breakthrough intensive coaching session with me. It was obvious what was happening as he  was very tired as well as very busy (and well on his way to his target). When I started asking him specifics about the progress, it turned out that he had not taken time out to evaluate, plan and congratulate himself on a regular basis. He didn’t really know how much business he had brought in the previous week and how many new clients he had or even worked out a plan for the next week. And he couldn’t look after himself as well as he wanted because he was so busy. And this busyness, and the solution, applies to people wanting to be successful in a career, in a relationship and in life in general. Watch the video below and let me know what happens when you start to do this yourself.

Here’s my suggestion:
Work out when you can take an hour out of being busy in the week, on a regular basis, to get clarity and plan

  • Put it on your diary right now!
  • Get clarity about your goal
  • Decide what you are going to measure
  • Produce a plan for the next week and work out how you will monitor that
  • Think about your progress towards your goal
  • Treat yourself if you have done what you said you were going to do – something meaningful

Let me know how it goes and the insights that you have from doing this

If you are struggling, book a slot with me to talk about it – it may be what you’ve needed all along.

My Facebook closed group, called One Step Closer is also a place where you can discuss these issues with people who may be experiencing similar challenges.

See you next week

Dr Bridget