Relationships- understanding the challenges
I looked at my husband and considered what he had just said. For an instance I was annoyed and then my NLP learning flipped in and I laughed. Because I was totally committed to this relationship and so what if he wanted to discuss the details of the holiday we were about to go on. It was actually quite reasonable. So I laughed and started to plan this blog.
Its amazing. when you think about it, how we manage to live or work with others because we are all so different. We all have different “models of the world”. Watch the video below where I talk about the things that can be different for people within a relationship.
The way that we are “wired” to react is so important and if we understand each other and have a total commitment to making the relationship work, then we stand a much better chance of feeling happy and content and can be interested in our differences instead of frustrated.
I’ve put a link to my cauliflower video here (also known as How we Get Results) so that you can understand what makes us all different and really get to grips with what is needed to change in you in order to improve any of your relationships.
We all have different memories and experiences which we have hooked positives and negatives on to. We have also been bought up by different people, different teachers and different people in our social sphere and we take on our values from them. And they can be very different. So imagine one person has values of adventure and one has values of safety and security? Maybe there might be a clash if we don’t understand that?
We also have different beliefs depending on how previous relationships have been – empowering or limiting.
And we have different metaprogrammes which are very deep seated and may make us think as though we are on a different page. There are 18 different metaprogrammes and we aren’t really aware of theses consciously. An example I use is whether you are big picture or detailed. I’m big picture which is why my husband being detailed can be frustrating ( or very useful).
If you’d like to chat about a relationship that you have which is not working for you and you’d like to change, then get in touch via my contact page. Also you can book onto my next NLP training which will make a huge difference to your understanding of the differences between people.
Until next week, happy relating!