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Is Your Head in the Shed?

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Is Your Head in the Shed?

I said to someone the other day “My head’s in the shed!”

I don’t know if this is a UK expression but we certainly hear a lot of this statement in Wales.

When we say, “My head is in the shed,” what do we mean?

It’s an interesting metaphor and in this week’s Prescription for Success I discuss what we mean by this statement and how we can help ourselves. Watch the video and let me know what you think.

“My head is in the shed!” – What do we mean by this statement?

Do we mean that we are confused, that we are stressed, disorientated or overwhelmed?  There is no real answer because when we say it we have our own reasons for saying it.

If your head is in the shed then it’s separate from the rest of you and you feel that you need to look for it as it’s important to you.

You may consider the reasons why your head is in the shed.

For me, I think it was because I was a little overwhelmed and had a lot going on for me.  So I went to stopped and considered what the problem was and what I needed to do to deal with the overwhelm and gave someone a ring for some help.

If your ‘head is in the shed’ then look for the reasons and ask for help if you are not able to get your head out of the shed because being in the shed isn’t the best place, is it?

If you need some help with this then get in touch with me because we can get this sorted easily so that you can move forward with you head in the right place

Dr Bridget – with my head in the right place.

P.S. I’m running an NLP course in February/March 2022 – a great way to get to know yourself and increase your confidence in working with others. Here’s a link to the course information where you can also download a brochure for dates and prices.

Comfort Zones – Are they Good or Bad?

Comfort Zones Is it good to be stuck in our ‘Comfort Zones?’

It’s common to hear in the business world, “I really need to get out of my comfort zone, I’m aspiring towards my goals and to get there I need to get out of my comfort zone.”

Recently I was way out of mine and I noticed something very interesting.

I had employed someone to set up some systems and admin for me and then out of the blue that person left and handed all the work back to me. At the time I thought, “I could learn to do this, maybe I could manage this by myself.”  In all honesty I probably could have done it but I didn’t consider the extra work from a time perspective. Suddenly, my work balance went completely Kaput!

People have different ‘brick walls’ where you can see the end result and you just can’t get there. I found that I couldn’t cope and I became uncomfortable, I was completely out of my comfort zone.  So what I did was I returned to where I felt comfortable, and I thought “phew, blimey that’s better.”

Watch this week’s video to find more about the benefits of being in your comfort zones.

It’s hard for people to see at times that being in your comfort zone is not a bad thing. It is okay to be comfortable. When you’re in your comfort zone you are more self aware and it’s easier to know what’s going on inside your head. You know what to expect and you can recognise your capabilities in a stress free environment.

I’m all for people reaching their full potential and expanding and growing, but if you want success you don’t have to throw yourself completely out of your comfort zone.

You can do it gradually, increase the difficulty slowly and when it becomes too much too soon, just slowly take a step back, do things differently or even repeat things. Find out what works for you at your own pace it’s a gradual process there is no need to rush.

Sometimes you can have goals and aspirations that are reachable, but if you rush in you can get stuck. Take your time on your journey, plan your route to suit you!

If you are currently stuck get in touch and you can talk to me about comfort zones and how past decisions have helped form your comfort zone. I can also help you to gradually leave your zone at your own pace.

Until next week

Dr Bridget- helping  you to lead a life where you grow at the pace that suits you and that you are happy with.

P.S I’m booking people into my next Certified NLP Practitioner  course in July/August.

Click here to find out more and download a brochure

How To Resolve Internal Conflict

Internal Conflict is Exhausting

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part of me…

Internal conflict is common and can be disabling. If you have that internal chatter where part of you believes something and part of you believes something else, then its very difficult to resolve this at a conscious level. Its like having a battle going on in your head and causes stress, worry anxiety, indecision and sleepless nights. It can be disabling and gives  the feeling of being stuck.  Watch the video and think about whether you have this sort of conflict going on in your head.

 

Examples of this sort of conflict are:-

  • Part of me believes I’m good enough and part of me doesn’t – doesn’t take action
  • Sometimes I  believe I can be myself and sometimes I believe I can’t – lack of confidence
  • Part of me wants to say yes and part of me wants to say no – difficulty with boundaries
  • Sometimes I think its worth it and sometimes I don’t – common in business

Often people will feel as though they have one voice on one shoulder and another voice on the other and can point them out and even name them.

These conflicts are called parts in NLP and are created by significant emotional events. Either big events or lots of little ones. The part has a boundary around it and exists as an entity with it’s own values and beliefs and appearance.It thinks that it is in charge and is usually there to protect the person. It has a positive intention which is in conflict with its behaviour. For instance, if a part is causing anxiety it will be about protection. The protection will be to keep us safe. Safe will be so that we can be peaceful. Peaceful in order to live our life to the full. So anxiety is created for the  purpose of living our life to the full which doesn’t make sense. Once the part realises that there are many ways to keep us safe and live our life to the full, the boundary disappears and the part disappears much to peoples relief.

This is a process that often is best resolved with an NLP Master Practitioner and trainer such as myself at an unconscious level. Just get in touch to resolve this very quickly and get rid of that conflict.

This will mean that you are calm, are making decisions easily and effectively and are living your life to the full.

If you are a coach  that works with people who are struggling with conflicting beliefs, then have a think about how you deal with this at the moment and realise that this is an unconscious problem which comes from significant emotional events and have a look at my NLP Practitioner courses. Learning to get rid of parts will change your clients’ lives for ever. And your own.

Until next week,

Dr Bridget – making you whole again

 

 

 

 

Do You Really Need Stress to Motivate yourself?

Do you Really Need Stress to Motivate yourself?

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Change your motivators

I’ve done a lot of personal development over the last 10 years and therefore don’t tend to do stress very often. In fact, I’m not really sure how to define it. I looked it up the other day and it said that it’s the body’s response to perceived danger or pressure. So adrenaline and other hormones get released and you get symptoms from this – anxiety, overwhelm, not sleeping and “stuckness” being some of them.

Here’s the thing – everyone’s got a different model for it!

I hear people say,

  • “I’m really stressed, the TV’s playing up”
  • “I’ve lost my job, so I’m looking forward to the opportunities to change direction”
  • “I need stress to get me moving – to motivate me” Really????

Watch the video to find out how people think they need this for motivation,  and how to use other things to motivate yourself.

Is this you?

You’re motivated by the thing that  you don’t want. You  are facing “stress” and saying to yourself – I really don’t want that! If I focus on what I don’t want, I’ll get what I do want! – It doesnt really make sense , does it? The solution is to move towards  what you do want –  goals and what’s important to you you? Then the stress becomes  irrelevant because your goals and your values are more important?

Apart from the effect on the body of the hormones that affect all of your cells, it’s not a comfortable place to be in.

So turn yourself around and face the possibilities and the goals and motivate yourself by doing that.

NLP is an amazing way to change what you are motivated by and to  get rid of negatives very quickly.

If you’re having problems doing that, then get in touch by clicking here and we can have a chat to resolve this.

Time Line Therapy (R)  is an amazing way to get motivation and to get rid of negatives and only takes a couple of hours. It’s the reason that I’m working – life changing for people.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – helping you face positives

 

2 Ways that People Deal with Stress

People deal with stress in very different ways

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How we deal with Stress

Hello –  you may have noticed through your life that people deal with stress in different ways. If you’ve been following me for a while you’ll know that there are many filters that we use to create what is real for us at an unconscious level. The one that we are talking about today is called Metaprograms. One of these – there are 18 –  is how we respond to stress.

The 1st way is in a logical way – a thinking and logical way of dealing with what’s going on. They are able to look at the event from the outside. This is how I tend to respond and maybe that’s because of my childhood or because of having been a GP dealing with emergencies or maybe because, as an NLP Master Trainerand Coach, I look for patterns rather than stories.

Others deal with stress in an emotional way and think that everythings overwhelming which is very different – They are “in the event”.

The responses is context dependent- I’ve noticed that I can get quite emotional in a situation that I have taken personally.

Watch the video and then reflect on how you deal with stress below:

So, are you someone who takes a logical approach to stress or someone that is emotional when they are stressed?

Do you know people who respond in a different way and wonder why?

Who would you find it most useful to be with in a crisis?

Let me know and if you want to know more about how different people are, then think about coming n an NLP Practitioner course – here’s the link to have a look.

If you are stressed by anything at the moment, get in touch as I will do a free session with you to find out how you respond, whether it works for you and what the root cause is for you reaction style.

 Until next week-

Dr Bridget – destressing your life

 

An Effective Way to Deal with Anxiety

Anxiety can be disabling and cause you to get stuck

I’ve had quite a lot of phone calls recently from people who are feeling anxious. Sometimes they are on medication and have tried many ways to reduce the anxiety but it doesn’t seem to be doing the trick.

While it may be controversial to many who think that it is a medical condition and can’t be solved simply, I believe that it is easy to solve in many cases. After all, my experience as a GP versus how I help people now says that this is the case for many! Tad James, the founder of the American Board of NLP, says:

“Anxiety is a sign that the unconscious mind is not really focusing on what it really wants”

People with anxiety often have reasons or excuses as to why they can’t do what they really want and therefore become anxious. People also “label themselves” as anxious people and this doesn’t help as they then live their life expecting to be anxious. And they find it difficult to make decisions.

What if everyone could design their future by letting go of unhelpful and limiting things from the past and become happy??

Now there’s a thought!

Well that’s what I can help with, so watch the video below and click here to download the pdf of my book which discusses how to set goals and create your future. It’s called Mindset for Business Success and equally applies to Mindset for Life Success.

If you think that the anxiety in your life, or someone who you know, is causing you, or them, to be stuck and unhappy, click here to schedule a  free 30 minute telephone consultation so I can help.

After all, we only have one life and I want to help you live it!

Until next time, keep happy,

Dr. Bridget

Don’t stress it!

stress-blogStress is extremely common. It can have physical and psychological effects which generally ‘bring you down’.

Life can be stressful. Whether it’s work, family or money worries, we all have a lot going on in our lives, so it’s no surprise we feel burnt out from time to time. But stress is not good for our emotional state.

Generally, people don’t take measures to reduce stress.  And whilst you can’t stop stress completely, you can learn how to notice the signs and help yourself overcome it. Here are my top tips:

  1. Deep breaths

If you are feeling completely overwhelmed, being able to take your mind out of the situation even for a few minutes can help you relax and gain clarity. When we are anxious or stressed our breathing becomes quick and shallow. Give your breathing your full attention, concentrating on each breath in and out. Take your time to breath in deeply for a count of 7, hold and breath out for a count of 11. Repeat this process until you feel more calm.

  1. Be kind to yourself

Sometimes we are our own worst enemy. Our inner voices can be mean and hurtful. It’s important to recognise this and ensure you are positively reinforcing yourself and how you feel. Treat yourself with kindness, negative thoughts are extremely unhelpful and can do more damage. Tell yourself you’re in control and you’re able to deal with the situation!

  1. Don’t allow yourself to become a victim

Things happen that are out of our control, but by asking “why me?” or “what have I done to deserve this?” only places yourself as a victim. This increases stress and suggests you are unable to change the situation. Instead, recognise this negative thing has happened but tell yourself you are able to turn it around and change it.

  1. Say ‘No’

Not wanting to say no to people is very common. A lot of people have a problem with it as they don’t want to upset someone or let them down. But sometimes you have to put yourself before others. It is impossible to please everyone and trying to do so is a fast track to stress. By saying ‘no’ you are not being selfish, you are just looking after yourself and your mental health. Be honest with people and they will understand.

If you are struggling with stress and feeling unhappy, contact me and I’ll help you overcome your anxiety and emotional state, allowing you to find happiness and at peace with yourself. Click here to book a FREE consultation or call me on: 07973 635102