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5 Principles for Success

Principles for Success

Principles for Success

Success Principles

I’m guessing – a bit of a mind read- that you may have your own principles for success and I’m wondering if they are the same as mine or not? Do let me know.

Have a watch of the video and then think about what you could or want to work on OR  congratulate yourself on a Great Job!

Each principle of success is one that I review every week and take some action on:

  • Know our outcome – so get a goal that you are motivated by , that is something that  you can start and keep going on your own and find a way of remembering that every day.
  • Take action – I recently did a review of “The Sausage Machine” in my closed FB group called One Step Closer . (Courtesy of Richard Wilkins – the Minister of Inspiration). Here’s the link to join. Its based on the premise that if you want a beef sausage, you have to put the right ingredients in – i.e. beef . A lot of people spend their time waiting for something to happen and don’t take the right action to create the sausage.  If you have limiting beliefs about your self or others, then it becomes difficult to create what you want by taking action.
  • Having sensory acuity – this is where you notice small changes in your physiology or other’s physiology. An example of that would be flushing or drooping your shoulders or a change in the size of other’s pupils or their skin tone. I expect you’ve had times when something has happened and you notice a change in yourself. Notice these changes and ask  yourself what they could mean. For yourself, its relatively easy to find the cause. In others, it may be a mind read. For example, flushing of the skin can be embarrassment or excitement or a hot flush. Unless we ask, we won’t know. I feel a blog coming on that goes into this in more depth.
  • Behavioural flexibility – this is one of the presuppositions of NLP – The person who has the most flexibility is in charge of of the system. So if we are heading for our goals and we notice, through monitoring our results or noticing small changes in our physiology, that we are off track, then change what you are doing.
  • Operating from an excellent psychological and physiological base –I am currently working on having excellence in my physiology – increasing my fitness and reducing my weight. I feel as though I have a good psychological base, however my resilience can fluctuate and when it does, I look at the reasons for this and take some action.

Are you doing all of these?

Is there anything that you  need to work on?

Can I help?

If your internal chatter or negative beliefs are getting in the way, fill in the form here to talk to me

Dr Bridget – Helping you to be successful

 

Reasons to Avoid Negativity

Reasons to Avoid Negativity

Avoid Negativity

Get Excited

For a change I thought I’d base this blog on a typical client’s challenge. This person is one of many who come and see me in order to move on in their life and get “success” – whatever that means to them. This client thought that they were positive but they weren’t getting success and when we went into the details, actually they had a lot of negativity from  things in the past which they had suppressed. So they were telling themselves that they were positive and ignoring the little voice inside that said – “yes – but…..”

They were bored and procrastinating due to a fear which we uncovered and then removed.

There had been trauma with relationships, bullying and other incidents which had led to them self sabotaging and not effectively running a business which meant a lot to them. Their values (motivators) were all about moving away from what they didn’t want rather than towards what they didn’t want. Their top value was peace when we elicited them and this was because they didn’t want conflict. The second one was Self – Belief which was because they felt not good enough and was avoiding that thought.

Watch the video below to get some more insights and I’ll give you access to a free tool below to discover your values so that you can reflect on yours.

So this person’s limiting beliefs were:

  • I’m not good enough
  • I won’t be respected
  • I can’t do what I want
  • Life would be worse if I am successful

And they got stuck- not surprisingly.

So we removed all of the beliefs, plus some associated ones, using NLP and Time Line Therapy and my Breakthrough process and they became very excited by life!

If you have things that are keeping you from going for what you want, book a free appointment and let’s get you excited as well.

Here is a tool to elicit your values.

Important : You can get even more tools by joining my STRETCH  on-line mastermind group for Business Success – check it out here. Its a rapidly growing and empowering group with great feedback. It’s half price until the end of January 2019.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – Getting You Excited

 

An Effective Way to Deal with Anxiety

Anxiety can be disabling and cause you to get stuck

I’ve had quite a lot of phone calls recently from people who are feeling anxious. Sometimes they are on medication and have tried many ways to reduce the anxiety but it doesn’t seem to be doing the trick.

While it may be controversial to many who think that it is a medical condition and can’t be solved simply, I believe that it is easy to solve in many cases. After all, my experience as a GP versus how I help people now says that this is the case for many! Tad James, the founder of the American Board of NLP, says:

“Anxiety is a sign that the unconscious mind is not really focusing on what it really wants”

People with anxiety often have reasons or excuses as to why they can’t do what they really want and therefore become anxious. People also “label themselves” as anxious people and this doesn’t help as they then live their life expecting to be anxious. And they find it difficult to make decisions.

What if everyone could design their future by letting go of unhelpful and limiting things from the past and become happy??

Now there’s a thought!

Well that’s what I can help with, so watch the video below and click here to download the pdf of my book which discusses how to set goals and create your future. It’s called Mindset for Business Success and equally applies to Mindset for Life Success.

If you think that the anxiety in your life, or someone who you know, is causing you, or them, to be stuck and unhappy, click here to schedule a  free 30 minute telephone consultation so I can help.

After all, we only have one life and I want to help you live it!

Until next time, keep happy,

Dr. Bridget

How Your Health and Your Results are Affected by the Way you Think

Your Health and Therefore Your Results are Affected by the way That You Think!

Health relates to thinking

Thoughts affect cells

I don’t know if  you’ve been aware of this – its SO important! To have great health which directly affects your results, means that you need to think and feel in a way that enables this. Your reality, which is created by you from the vast amount of information coming into your brain, gives you an emotional state which affects all of your cells in your body. I expect you’ve known people who have felt sad or frightened or guilty by events in their life and they end up by becoming ill. Cancer, High Blood Pressure, Infertility, Depression, and many other “illnesses” – caused by how we think.

All of our cells have all of our memories within them and we switch our genetic information on and off with how we think in general.

Watch the video below and have a think about whether your thinking , feeling and physiology are aligned to create the best results for you or not?


Find out more about this by watching the video explanation of how information becomes thoughts, feelings and affects your physiology and therefore your results. Its known in my circles as my cauliflower video and you can see it here.

I’ve recently worked with quite a lot of people who have results created by their physiology and I’ve even helped someone to get pregnant and have a healthy baby!

We all know that mindset is fundamental to creating and working with illness and getting great results and success, so if you think that you are creating illness or poor results, let me know. Ring me on 07973 635102 or 01656 347027 or fill in a form here to talk to me.

Until next week, create some great thoughts!

Dr Bridget

 

How to stop those last minute panics

Last Minute Panics

Panics

Last Minute Panics

You know the scenario- you’ve had some time to get a task done and have put it off. It’s nearly the deadline and you haven’t really got time to do the task now and you get anxious.  You realise that you could have taken control over  your thoughts and actions at a much earlier stage. Does that sound familiar? And there are other consequences of not getting things done:-

Missing out on getting clients or achieving targets. Feeling rushed and out of control. Doubt creeps in about your abilities. You feel frustrated. You wonder if its all worth it. You don’t enjoy the rest of your life.

Watch the video  below where I give you a couple of quick tips to change this scenario.

 

  • The first tip is to timetable your task into your diary – Every time you get a task to do, particularly when  you know it’s important and that its the sort of thing you’ve put off in the past, get you diary out and put the task into the diary. If its a big task, chunk it down into individual components and put those into your diary. It’s amazing – you will suddenly realise that there are no longer last minute panics. It’ also another way to make sure that you have the capacity to undertake the task or whether you need to make choices.
  • Tip number two is to notice when you put something off when you know you need to do it there and then. There’s that internal chatter that you could start to notice.  So it will probably go something like this “I need to do this task, I’ve got time to do it later,I don’t really want to do it now- Ive got other things that I want to do.” Then you don’t do the task and at some stage in the future, you regret that decision and start to get those last minute panics.

Did you know that all of your behaviour is driven by strategies in your head? If we notice our internal chatter in our head,  you can change it. So, if you are sitting there, reading this blog and thinking that you could make some changes, book onto my NLP Practitioner course or access a complimentary session to have a chat about any un-useful internal chatter that you have.

Happy and organised thoughts are great! Let’s get some more of them!

Until next week

Dr Bridget

 

 

 

Do You Have a Fixed or a Growth Mindset?

Do you have a Fixed Mindset or a Growth Mindset?

Growth MIndset

Fixed or Growth Mindset?

I’ve been reading Carole Dweck’s book called “Mindset – the new psychology of success” recently and it has prompted me to look at my own mindset and develop a simple tool to decide which I have – A Fixed or a Growth Mindset – and  I would love to share it with you.

The trigger for this – I was in Sri Lanka a month or so ago and was feeling envious of some back packers that were passing by when our guide said to me “You are too old to go back packing! “ I felt defensive about it at the time and before I knew where I was, I had gathered my friends and colleagues to prove him wrong – At the time I thought this was a growth mindset, but when I sat and thought about it, it was more of a fixed mindset- an instinctive “he’s wrong and I’m right” reaction.

I realise what I need to do now is to reflect, ask advice, read books about older people going back packing and decide what I want to do. I’m still looking for people to join me though!!!!!!

Watch the video below, and look at the tool that I’ve developed as a result of thinking about it, you too can reflect and decide where you are and whether you are happy with your mindset, whether it is a fixed or a growth mindset or somewhere in between! Fixed or Growth Mindset

Here is the tool that I have developed –Fixed or Growth Mindset  

Put a mark in between the two statements  and be honest. Some of mine were closer to the left hand side – the fixed mindset- (WHAT?????) and I have some homework to do going forward. I’ll pop my thoughts in my journal and share with you as well.

Sharing some of your reflections will help others in the spirit of that Growth Mindset!

Until next week, Happy Reflecting!

Dr Bridget

 

P.S. I’m developing some resources to share with people who would like to join my on-line community and I want to be sure I’m heading in the right direction and that the content I create is useful to YOU. 

If you’re a business owner, could you please take 5 minutes to tell me what stands in your way?

 

What I need to know is this:

 

“When it comes to taking consistent action to move forward in your business, what’s the single biggest challenge, frustration or problem you’ve been struggling with?”

 

Please click here to tell me. 

 

 

How to Get Things Out of Your Head

How to Get Things Out of Your Head

Getting things out of your head

Decluttering

You might have heard me talk about how I got “stuck” in the kitchen?. It was when there was so much going on in my head that there was no room for anything else- let alone a decision about what to do first!!! I recently talked to Jo Bendle at JoBendle.com. She was someone I’ve worked with for a while and was one of my first NLP Training clients. She’s now an amazing business person who travels the world, which is her passion, at the same time as helping people reach their goals by being productive and organised.

The tool that she gave me is called a “brain dump” and it is extremely effective and something I am doing weekly now. Listen to the video and take an hour to do this brain dump. It really helps to prioritise and get the important things done!!

So get a couple of pieces of paper and a pen, clear your diary , turn your phone and computer off and make a list of absolutely everything that you have to do. Absolutely everything that is in your head.  In detail! Keep your “sorting head” out of the way until you have put absolutely everything down. Brainstorm, put anything that comes into your head down and enjoy taking the time for yourself !!

Then, when you have everything down, your head will feel much clearer and you will feel calmer – honestly!

You will then be able to sort and prioritise and come up with your most important actions for the month, the week and the day.

I’m really interested to see how it goes for you – leave me some comments

Until next week, enjoy getting everything out of your head!

Dr Bridget

 

Understanding Relationships and Their Complexity

 Relationships – Understanding how they work

Relationships are interesting

I don’t understand

It’s nearly Valentines Day in the UK and there will be people who are happy in their romantic relationships, people who aren’t and people who don’t have one at all.

However, these are not the only relationships that we have. There are those at work, in our family, our friends or people we meet briefly. And understanding these can make the difference between happiness and unhappiness because some relationships “work well” and others “don’t work well”.

Watch the video below to understand some of this and get in touch with me if you are struggling with relationships with other people. The differences that are at a level outside of our conscious awareness have the ability to challenge that happiness and the video describes the reason for it.

Here’s the thing – Everyone is different!

We all have different memories and experiences throughout our life which affect our feelings about relationships. And we often have negative anchors which keep dragging us back to previous relationships.

We all have different values for our life, our work and our relationships, so our drivers or motivators are different to other peoples.

We have different beliefs and these will be different for different people. And of course, our beliefs are right and other peoples’ are wrong ???

And we have different Meta Programmes. These are very unconscious and are the reason for feeling as though we are “on a different page” to someone else. Download the PDF about them here Meta Programmes and then watch the video again. The PDF is fun to do with another person and that will give you a lot of insights about the realtionship that you have with them and greater understanding of them.

If you understand how you work differently to people that you want a relationship with, you can adapt your behaviour or at least have a laugh about it!

Until next week, happy relating and give me a ring if you want help with how you relate to someone. 07973 635102 or 01656 347027 or fill in the form here.

Dr Bridget – Giving you Prescriptions for Success

 

One Effective Way to Deal with Anxiety

Anxiety can be disabling and cause you to get stuck

Let go of Anxiety

Planning helps anxiety

I’ve had quite a lot of phone calls recently from people who are feeling anxious. Sometimes they are on medication and have tried many ways to reduce the anxiety but it doesn’t seem to be doing the trick.

While it may be controversial to many who think that it is a medical condition and can’t be solved simply, I believe that it is easy to solve in many cases. After all, my experience as a GP versus how I help people now says that this is the case for many! Tad James, the founder of the American Board of NLP, says:

“Anxiety is a sign that the unconscious mind is not really focusing on what it really wants”

People with anxiety often have reasons or excuses as to why they can’t do what they really want and therefore become anxious. People also “label themselves” as anxious people and this doesn’t help as they then live their life expecting to be anxious. And they find it difficult to make decisions.

What if everyone could design their future by letting go of unhelpful and limiting things from the past and become happy??

Now there’s a thought!

Well that’s what I can help with, so watch the video below and click here to download the pdf of my book which discusses how to set goals and create your future. It’s called Mindset for Business Success and equally applies to Mindset for Life Success.

If you think that the anxiety in your life, or someone who you know, is causing you, or them, to be stuck and unhappy, click here to get in touch and organise a free consultation so I can help.

After all, we only have one life and I want to help you live it!

Until next time, keep happy,

Dr. Bridget

How to Resist Temptation – Raising your Awareness

Can you resist temptation?

Resisting Temptation

How to resist temptation

Our behaviour is generally driven by our unconscious mind and the strategies it has in place which are set off by different triggers. Sometimes these triggers can be something we see, hear or say to ourselves.

One of my vices is biscuits – I usually feel a strong temptation to eat them after seeing a biscuit. It can be at home or in a shop or in someone else’s hand, even on TV! Another is wine – this is usually triggered by looking at a clock, as in my unconscious mind it is connected to relaxing at the end of the day.

Whilst the odd glass of wine or biscuit isn’t going to kill me – if it gets to a point where I can’t resist the temptation, it could become dangerous to my health and wellbeing. To avoid this it is important to work out what triggers the temptations, unless we work this out, we will keep doing it.

It is also important to make a note of the path temptation takes. The feeling of wanting something starts off at a low intensity after it is first triggered, and it then builds up to high. It is at this point that we most desire the thing we want, and it is at this point we need to remind ourselves to resist, as after a few minutes the intensity of our temptation will begin to die down again. Temptation is a bit like a bell curve, it goes up, but will come back down.

Knowing this shape will help you be able to consciously change your behaviour and take control. Knowing your trigger gives you the ability to notice the urge before it is at it’s most intense, allowing you to prepare to resist long enough until the urge disappears. Watch the video below and practice resisting an urge until it disappears.

If you want to know more about formal techniques for changing yours or other people’s unconscious strategies – click here to look at my NLP courses – we work on a variety of ways to interrupt patterns and change behaviour, which are very useful.

If you are practising this technique, let me know if you are having problems and we can talk about it – 01656 347 027 or 07973 635102 or click here to book a FREE consultation.

Until next week- happy resisting!

Dr. Bridget

What Do You Do When the Going Gets Tough?

What Do You Do When the Going Gets Tough?

Tough decisions

Go for what you want!

It’s a personal story today. A year or so ago I had to very sadly have an 11/12-month-old Bull Terrier puppy called Thud put down. He unfortunately had a kidney disease and in the end just stopped eating and drinking, so it was the only thing we could do for him, and it was a tough time!

It has taken quite a bit of courage for me to even think about getting another one.  I had a lot of worries going around my head, such as; “Is it ok with my husband to get another puppy?”, “Should I get an older dog?”, “What will the cat think?” (although she was always in charge of Thud!) and “Could I cope with another loss if the worst happened again?”

In the end, it got to a point where I was just feeling sad and not getting anything done, so I asked myself: “How important is it to you to have another puppy Bridget?” And the answer was – very important!

It was at this point that I had an inkling to look on Gum Tree to see what puppies were nearby, and guess what! There was a litter of Bull Terrier puppies about 20 miles away. I rang up that day and found out they had 2 left. I went to visit and put a deposit down that day!

Watch the video below and you’ll see the end results of me pushing through this tough time, and memory of the negative past events, and deciding what was important to me. Then answer the question below!

I guess the question that I’d like you to think about today is “What do you do when the going gets tough?”

Do you procrastinate? Ask friends? Have sleepless nights? Or other unhelpful things? Or do you ask yourself “Is this important to me”? And then just push through and get what you want?

Here’s an important thing to remember whenever you are faced with a tough decision –  Often, just before a break through, the going does get tough!

Let me know if you have broken through a major hurdle in the comments below please so that others can get inspired!

If you are struggling to make a decision or can’t find the courage to push through, click here to contact me and we can start the process of getting you what you want – big or small!

As you know, we only have one life!! And I want to help you live it!

Until next week,

Dr Bridget

Crossroads. Don’t be cross, be excited!

forking-road-839830_640A crossroads is about change. It is a time to choose between two different options which seemingly cannot co-exist. Do we want to go one way or the other? Continue down the path we are on or decide on something different? Read more