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How to maintain your focus

MAINTAIN YOUR FOCUSHow to maintain your focus

Your emotional state affects your focus.

You can call your emotional focus an emotional state and even a behaviour as it is something you do.

What happens is that what you see, hear, feel and say to yourself is filtered and becomes your reality. That then creates an emotional state which then creates your behaviour.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I discuss how to maintain your focus and consider how your emotional state affects your behaviour and hence impacts on your focus.  Watch the video and let me know what you think.

If you want a focused behaviour then you need a good emotional state, you need positivity rather than negativity.  In a previous blog  we talked about how to get rid of your negative feelings and experiences, limiting beliefs  and behaviours so that you can become positive.

I was talking with someone recently, who has done a significant amount of work with me, and because he didn’t have much sleep the night before he was in a physiological state that also created an emotional state that was a bit negative.  So, he was feeling a bit stuck, had some doubts and he wasn’t taking all the action that he needed to.

After talking it through he realised that he was taking a huge amount of action to get a significant goal however he just needed a few systems around it. As we talked, his emotional state changed to positive so we anchored that emotional state and he can now go through the day feeling positive.

In order to maintain your focus you need a positive emotional state. It comes from your physiology, your reality and from removing all the things in the past that we discussed in the previous blog.

So if you are having trouble maintaining your emotional state to be positive then get in touch it’s quite easy to sort out using Time Line Therapy and some other NLP techniques

If you are a coach or someone who wants to learn these techniques then I do four NLP practitioner courses a year and I also train up to ‘Trainers training’ so that you can train other people to do these things.

If you are interested just book an appointment and we can have a chat about how I can help whether its for you personally or for you to work with other people.

Until next week,

Dr Bridget

 

How your motivation helps you focus

MotivationHow your motivation helps you focus

In order to focus, you need some sort of motivation.

Our motivations are either ‘towards’ what we want or they are ‘away’ from what we don’t want.

In this week’s Prescription for Success I explain how ‘away’ and ‘towards’ motivations influence us and help us to focus. Are your motivations ‘away from’ or ‘towards’?  Watch the video and let me know what you think.

If you’ve had some things happen to you in the past that are particularly upsetting or have given you negative emotions – anger, sadness, fear, hurt or guilt, or you’ve developed some really powerful negative beliefs, these can stop you from focusing on your motivations.

What happens is you become attracted to these negatives and you get stuck in the past so you’re motivated by the things you don’t want to happen. Your past is driving you to the future but it’s s still there.

Alternatively, when you’re focused on your future and what you really want in your future then it’s really easy to move forward.

‘Away’ and ‘towards’ motivations are really key to focus.

You can get rid of the ‘away’ from motivations by doing something like Timeline Therapy or any other NLP techniques that deal with emotions and values. Then your values will become clean, and uncluttered by the past and you’ll be able to move forward into the future.  You will be totally focused then on your future and enjoying the present taking the action you need. That’s what I do in Breakthrough Therapy and also what I teach on NLP courses.

So if you’re interested in this or if you feel like you’re not really heading towards the motivations you want and you’re stuck in the past and finding it difficult to focus then get in touch as I can sort that out for you really quickly.

Until next week,

Dr Bridget

 

Where to put your focus

focusWhere to put your focus

I recently worked with quite a few clients who were putting their focus in a place where they didn’t want to. They wanted to put their focus in the ‘now’ or in the future rather than in the past however, they were focusing on the past.

Quite often these people have a really nice life and they are doing really well but they have just created a story for themselves about how much better their life would be if their past was different.

In the week’s Prescription for Success I share with you how you can change your focus from the past to the future so that you can live the life you want and enjoy the now. Watch the video and let me know what you think.

I tidy up the past because the programming from the past puts beliefs, decisions and negative emotions, that might be limiting, into your head.  To go for the future and what you really want then you’ve got to tidy up the past. So in order to tidy up the past so that you can create a future and do what you really want to do or even just be in the now, I use a process called  Time Line Therapy. It doesn’t take very long, just a few hours and is done in the context of a consultation in an intensive coaching session over a period of a couple of days.

The past becomes no longer relevant and you can just move on and enjoy the now and go for the joy in life. If that’s what you are looking for and you just want to ‘tidy up’ the past then just get in touch  I do a free 30 minute consultation and we can get it sorted for you really quickly.

Until next week,

Dr Bridget – Focusing on the now!

What Do You Keep in Your Brain’s Filing Cabinet?

filing cabinetWhat is in YOUR brain filing cabinet?  Is it useful or not?

The memories that we have stored in our brain filing cabinet can be things that our unconscious mind is not aware of – for example, your birth or your first steps.

However you also store memories like:

  • your first day of school,
  • leaving school,
  • first relationships,
  • marriage,
  • partnerships,
  • children,
  • new jobs

These are the standard things that most of us think of as being in our filing cabinet.

But, what if you keep negative memories and feelings in your brain filing cabinet?  In this week’s video I explain what happens with these negative memories, how they can hold you back and how you can overcome them to live the life you want.

What negative memories do you keep in your brain filing cabinet?

When I speak with many of my clients they notice that up until the age 3-5 there was no doubt. Then something happened and they experienced doubt.  Maybe it was the first time they doubted their parents, who up to that point were thought of as the perfect, all knowing people- their role models. Suddenly, something occurs and they are left wondering can they trust their parents.

There are lots of memories like the first time:

  • you lost a loved one,
  • you felt rejected,
  • you felt you “failed,”
  • you labeled yourself in any sort of way

If you are carrying these things around in your filing cabinet then what you tend to do is chain them together.  So if you are doubting then this can become chained to other feelings like rejection or failure and you continue to do through life.

It would be really useful if you could just cut that feeling of doubt from the other feelings and move on –  start again from where you are now. If you don’t do this, then when something happens you will keep getting pulled back, almost like a bungee cord to those first feelings in the filing cabinet.  If we can stop this happening then life becomes much easier.

Neuro Linguistic Programming and Time Line Therapy (R)  is a great tool to help disconnect that cord enabling you to go forward with a fresh start.

It’s one of the reasons I do what I do, as it is such an effective and quick process.

So if there is anything that you are keeping in your filing cabinet that you can’t get rid of then just give me a call and we can resolve it really quickly for you.  You can then live the life you want and run the business or have the career you want.

Keeping the filing cabinet for more useful and positive memories. You can book an appointment here   or my phone number is 07973 635102.

See you next week

Dr Bridget – Helping  you to remove negative files!

I’m now booking for my NLP practitioner starting in November – If you’d like to learn more about this fascinating subject and get skills for life, here’s a link. The dates are 5-8th November and 26-29th November 2021 – a total of 8 days. In a retreat type of venue with peacocks!!!!

How do I allow myself to be happy?

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How do I allow myself to be happy?

It’s a question a lot of people often ask themselves. It sort of implies that they not allowing themselves to be happy.  It’s a really interesting question as it’s almost like there is a decision that they’ve made, or other people have made that they can’t allow themselves to be happy.

In this week’s video I share with you the story of a client whose main problem was that they couldn’t allow themselves to be happy, be spontaneous and have fun.   Listen to the video about their story and how we worked together to help them overcome this problem.

“How can I allow myself to be happy, spontaneous and have fun? “

This was the question my client asked.

There was something stopping them all the time and when we went back to the root cause, it was from their unconscious mind. When they were a teenager they were surrounded by people who didn’t listen to them and, as a direct result, they didn’t say what they thought, in order not to upset people. It was an impossibility for them to tell people how hurt they felt about what was going on and they said they  bottled up their feelings.

When I asked my client – what does that mean? What sort of bottle is that and where is it?  They said it was a sort of grey bottle in their chest which was full of hurt, confusion and sadness.  Of course,  that has a consequence for yourself, your physiology, for your future and just being happy and was a problem that needed to be dealt with.

We did some Time Line Therapy which get’s rid of limiting decisions like

  • ‘It’s not ok for me to be myself’,’
  • ‘It’s not ok for me to say how feel,’ or
  • ‘I’ve got to keep the peace.’

It also helps get rid of negative emotions like anger, sadness, fear, hurt and guilt.   All this was going on in their unconscious mind and, following Time Line Therapy, all this was gone. The bottle had gone and they couldn’t find the feelings anymore.

That’s brilliant and it’s the reason I do what I do. It could take years of counselling to get to this point but with Time Line Therapy the thoughts and emotions that are limiting you, go really quickly.

So, I’d like to ask  you

  • Do you have any feelings that you bottle up and where have they come from?
  • Can you picture that bottle inside you and what are the feelings that are inside it?
  • What affect is that having on you?

Some of the learnings that my client had was to surround themselves with people who actually listen to them and to have self belief and self worth. It didn’t take very long to do that – less than two hours.

So maybe you’ve got some feelings that you are bottling up and you can’t let those feelings out?  If you haven’t got the people around you that you can talk to, the bottle may stay full and then it is going to have consequences.

If that’s going on for you, I’d really like you to give me a shout so that we can get rid of that bottle and negative emotions and beliefs. Then you will be safer, happier and you can allow yourself to do whatever you want to do.

If you’d like some help with this then book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access that free half hour with me or you can book it on the above link.

Enjoy seeing how you can empty any negative thoughts and emotions in your bottle, and see you next week.

Dr Bridget – emptying people’s bottles

If you’d like to learn more techniques to get rid of limiting decisions and  and negative emotions  I have a couple of  spaces left on my next NLP Practitioner course which runs over two lots of 4 days. 30/7/21-2/8/21 plus 20-23/8/21 – click here for further information

 

Reasons to Avoid Negativity

Reasons to Avoid Negativity

Avoid Negativity

Get Excited

For a change I thought I’d base this blog on a typical client’s challenge. This person is one of many who come and see me in order to move on in their life and get “success” – whatever that means to them. This client thought that they were positive but they weren’t getting success and when we went into the details, actually they had a lot of negativity from  things in the past which they had suppressed. So they were telling themselves that they were positive and ignoring the little voice inside that said – “yes – but…..”

They were bored and procrastinating due to a fear which we uncovered and then removed.

There had been trauma with relationships, bullying and other incidents which had led to them self sabotaging and not effectively running a business which meant a lot to them. Their values (motivators) were all about moving away from what they didn’t want rather than towards what they didn’t want. Their top value was peace when we elicited them and this was because they didn’t want conflict. The second one was Self – Belief which was because they felt not good enough and was avoiding that thought.

Watch the video below to get some more insights and I’ll give you access to a free tool below to discover your values so that you can reflect on yours.

So this person’s limiting beliefs were:

  • I’m not good enough
  • I won’t be respected
  • I can’t do what I want
  • Life would be worse if I am successful

And they got stuck- not surprisingly.

So we removed all of the beliefs, plus some associated ones, using NLP and Time Line Therapy and my Breakthrough process and they became very excited by life!

If you have things that are keeping you from going for what you want, book a free appointment and let’s get you excited as well.

Here is a tool to elicit your values.

Important : You can get even more tools by joining my STRETCH  on-line mastermind group for Business Success – check it out here. Its a rapidly growing and empowering group with great feedback. It’s half price until the end of January 2019.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – Getting You Excited